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Location: In the land of peanuts and cotton | I got engaged today on my 25th birthday!!!!! How long did everyone wait before actually getting married? And most importantly one of my best friends got killed in a car wreck 9 years ago. I've keep very close to her mother and that's who I go with to all the barrel races. I want her mother to be part of it some how. I don't know that I want her as a brides maid because I want her to sit on the front row next to my mother. But I don't know what I want. I am going to invite her to get dressed with me. Anyone else have any ideas?
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 My Heart Be Happy
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Location: Arkansas | Congratulations!!!! Beautiful ring 
Chris and I got married on the 5th anniversary of our first date. I'm not sure why we waited that long tho!
I'm sure others will have good ideas on what to do to include your friend's mother; I'm not sure about that. (Have her go dress shopping with you and sit with your momma, like you said, as well as be included as family at the bridal showers and parties. . . .)
Again, wishes for nothing but happiness and love. . . . |
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Location: Texas | Congrats! I recently got engaged as well, I think we're waiting until Fall of 2018 to get married. That's so sweet of you to keep your best friend's mother involved. Could you make her like a day of coordinator to allow things to go smoothly and allow her to be involved? |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Awwwee Congrats to you, what a pretty ring, did he pick it out or did you help him? Andy and I got married 6 months after we got engaged. So knew each other about 7 to 8 months all together. And 37 years later we're still at it.. |
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Location: In the land of peanuts and cotton | Southtxponygirl - 2017-08-06 10:06 PM
Awwwee Congrats to you, what a pretty ring, did he pick it out or did you help him? Andy and I got married 6 months after we got engaged. So knew each other about 7 to 8 months all together. And 37 years later we're still at it..
He did it mostly by him self. I'm friends with the girl that works at the jewelry store and she showed him my Pinterest. |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | TessBelle - 2017-08-06 10:08 PM
Southtxponygirl - 2017-08-06 10:06 PM
Awwwee Congrats to you, what a pretty ring, did he pick it out or did you help him? Andy and I got married 6 months after we got engaged. So knew each other about 7 to 8 months all together. And 37 years later we're still at it..
He did it mostly by him self. I'm friends with the girl that works at the jewelry store and she showed him my Pinterest.
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Location: Aubrey, Texas | Congratulations! And best wishes for a happy life together!!! |
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Location: California | Congratulations!! My husband and I got married 10 months after getting engaged. Partly because we got engaged in the winter and I love fall weddings, and partly because we new we were going to sell my house and buy a bigger house together, but the housing market was only getting more expensive so we had to jump on a house, and I can't imagine trying to close on a house and a wedding in the same time frame! Very sorry to read about your friend. You could have her mother come in after yours and your so-to-be mother in law, seating her in the front row with them, symbolizing her importance.
Marrying my husband is the best decision I ever made. No, it is not rainbows and sunshine everyday, but a good marriage is worth the work! |
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| Congratulations!! What a happy and exciting time. We met, got engaged and married within 5 months, a little quick to day the least but 30 years later he still makes me laugh every day and is what makes my heart skip a beat. My observations in planning weddings is the simpler and quicker -within a few months off engagement -seem to be the less stressful. I have seen so many stressful, crazy expensive weddings, so many details to tend to that it seemed to take some of the joy out of the day. It is very sweet to include your friends mother, could the preacher say a few words about her, how she is family to you?
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Location: Ohio girl moved to PA | CONGRATS !!!! |
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Location: SW MO | Congrads Wishing you a happily ever after |
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| Congrats!!!
We got engaged about 11 months of dating, and we were married just over a year later - we started dating in May although neither of us remembers the exact date we became "official". We were married May 13th of this year.
The date was mostly because it was the only one available at the venue we wanted lol!
As for your friends mother - thats so very sweet of you! I have seen in other weddings prior to the ceremony a lighting of candles for grandparents if they are no longer living with a small picture display near the alter - perhaps a similar candle lighting for your friend by her mother? |
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Location: Texas | Congratulations! Your ring is beautiful. My husband and I dated for about 6 or 7 months before we got engaged and we married about two months after that. |
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Location: The best kept secret in TX | TessBelle - 2017-08-06 9:20 PM I got engaged today on my 25th birthday!!!!! How long did everyone wait before actually getting married? And most importantly one of my best friends got killed in a car wreck 9 years ago. I've keep very close to her mother and that's who I go with to all the barrel races. I want her mother to be part of it some how. I don't know that I want her as a brides maid because I want her to sit on the front row next to my mother. But I don't know what I want. I am going to invite her to get dressed with me. Anyone else have any ideas?
How exciting! We got engaged around July and go married in December. Mainly because the venue we wanted was wayyy cheaper in December since half of the venue is outside. It's Texas so it was still around 60 degrees on the 22nd when we got married.
I have a similar situation. Only the friend is still alive. Her Mother hold a very special place in my heart as well. I had her sit with the Family in the front. She helped my mom decorate, plan, and even stepped in to serve cake when someone called in sick. She helped take everything down the next day as well.
I got her a framed print of me and her daughter together as kids and then together in my dress and her dress (she got married the same year) and we put the quote from Rory Gilmore on it. It reads: " My mother never gave me any idea that I couldn’t do whatever I wanted to do or be whomever I wanted to be. She filled our house with love and fun and books and music...... As she guided me through these incredible eighteen years, I don’t know if she ever realized that the person I most wanted to be was her...” T
hat was the most meaningful thing I could have ever done for her. When we got our hearts broken, she was there with junk food and Gilmore Girls Night to help us see things clearly. When we got into fights, were having a tough time at work or in college, she was there to help smooth things over. And when we ran from our problems she was there to help us face them. When my own mother and I were fighting, she was the bridge to bring us back together again.
My point being: Find something that would mean so much to her and do it. Whether it be including her, a gift, a speech. Find something she will cherish.
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Location: North Dakota | Congratulations! Waiting a year between getting engaged and married is more than enough time. That's what we're doing. We have 5 weeks to go. Word of warning though, if you have ANY indication that either your family or his will be at all controlling or cause issues, elope. Just get the heck out of there. Wedding planning is tedious and sucks as it is, having to deal with rude, obnoxious inlaws that are constantly up in your business will make it absolutely unbearable. My fiance's parents have ruined any excitement I have for the day and have caused a lot of fighting between me and my fiance and so much unnecessary stress. It's just not worth it. You couldn't pay me to go through this BS again. Sorry, that was a bit of a rant, but I feel the need to warn people. It's great to get married but people can really mess up the experience. |
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Location: In the land of peanuts and cotton | Thank you to everyone!!!! I originally wanted December but my dad owns a seasonal business that is only open 2 months so closing for a few days could really hurt his profit plus I help him run it. So I think we have settled on February. |
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| Congratulations! We got engaged during the winter, February, and planned our wedding for early summer, June, of that same year. We knew we wanted a small wedding, even though we have large extended families. We only invited our parents and siblings, and my cousin and his family (who are the parents of my godson). All in all, it was about 18 people, including the officiant, photographer, my husband and me, and the guests. It was the best day ever! Keeping it small meant we could do exactly what we wanted, and we had separate receptions/get togethers for both our families at a later date.
I think that is wonderful to include your best friend's mother, would you want her to do a reading of some sort? Or just be there and be able to enjoy the day being near you and your mother?
One thing I would not skimp on is a photographer! We hired a photographer that was local to my hometown, and he came with phenomenal reviews. We had such a great time and he enjoyed the day as much as we did, and the pictures are a great reminder of how special and wonderful the day was.
My brother had a HUGE wedding (almost 400 people), and I am so thankful we did not go that route. I can understand why people would, and why they wouldn't- and for us, having the small, intimate wedding was perfect.
Also- I rode up to the ceremony site on my college goat horse and it was glorious. Absolutely include your ponies if you can!!
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Location: Arkansas | madredepeanut - 2017-08-21 8:46 PM
Congratulations! We got engaged during the winter, February, and planned our wedding for early summer, June, of that same year. We knew we wanted a small wedding, even though we have large extended families. We only invited our parents and siblings, and my cousin and his family (who are the parents of my godson). All in all, it was about 18 people, including the officiant, photographer, my husband and me, and the guests. It was the best day ever! Keeping it small meant we could do exactly what we wanted, and we had separate receptions/get togethers for both our families at a later date.
I think that is wonderful to include your best friend's mother, would you want her to do a reading of some sort? Or just be there and be able to enjoy the day being near you and your mother?
One thing I would not skimp on is a photographer! We hired a photographer that was local to my hometown, and he came with phenomenal reviews. We had such a great time and he enjoyed the day as much as we did, and the pictures are a great reminder of how special and wonderful the day was.
My brother had a HUGE wedding (almost 400 people), and I am so thankful we did not go that route. I can understand why people would, and why they wouldn't- and for us, having the small, intimate wedding was perfect.
Also- I rode up to the ceremony site on my college goat horse and it was glorious. Absolutely include your ponies if you can!!
CONGRATS AGAIN!!
I would like pictures of you on your bridal steed |
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