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| Im just curious as to what the rules or understanding is in your home. Do you do all of the cooking/cleaning? How much is your spouse responsible for, or your children? Are others in the home expected to clean up after themselves? If they make a mess are they expected to clean it up? Does anyone else load the dish washer other than yourself? Give me the run down.. |
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| Well, I might as well live alone for all my husband does. He'll help with laundry, vaccuuming, and drying dishes if I get after him.
I don't have kids and the dogs aren't much help. lol
I do the chores as I see fit. The dishes and laundry might collect for a couple days. If he complains I tell him to do it. I know there will some on here that will landblast me for letting him get away with it, but it's easier to do it myself than yell and scream and argue about it. He helps more when he knows I have meetings or other things to do, but barrel races don't count. lol |
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Location: South Georgia | My husband and I are both OCD. We have no children, just dogs. We clean up after ourselves and/or clean something up as we see a need for it to be done. He usually washes and folds/hangs all of our laundry. I do it when I am home and can help. We split the dishwasher duty. We both hate unloading it. He takes the trash out usually. He always puts the bin by the road on trash day, but I get home before him, so I walk them back up to the house. I usually clean the floors and vacuum, although we have a Botvac Neato that vacuums all floors three times a week on its own. We just kind of do things when we notice them and take care of it. He has a thing for the bed needing to be made before he leaves for work, so he does that. I have a thing for countertops needing to be spotless and item-free. I even stand on an angle so I can see the shine on the granite so I can tell if it needs wiped with cleaner. We are crazy people, but our house is always spotless. We can be ready for guests at any moment. I like that.
We do have a housekeeper that comes in once every other MONTH to do deep cleaning: baseboards, wipe all the mouldings, clean fan blades, dust blinds, mop wood floors, scrub tub, windex windows, all that jazz...
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Location: on the fine line between insanity and geniusness | This year I have been the one to do everything since I quit my job to stay home with Brody. I do ask that dishes make it to the sink and laundry to the hamper- but everything else is on me! Ricky does take care of everything outside, heck that’s the job I want!!! With a one year old in the house, it seems all that I do is clean! My biggest rule that I make EVERYONE follow is not wearing shoes inside the house. I work and sweep constantly to keep the floors clean because ANYTHING Brody picks up goes in his mouth, so I’m pretty anal about dirty boots staying at the door! My husband is pretty good to help when he’s home, but with him penning cows for a living- the fall is our busiest time of year. It will be interesting to see how the dynamics change once I start school in January, my house may just be a wreck for a year! |
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| I don’t work so I do all the housework. On holidays etc. my husband helps clean up. When first married I used to work evenings and weekends when he could keep the kids (too broke for any money to be going to a babysitter). On the weekends he would do laundry, clean and have dinner on the table. I have always considered if both spouses work both help, if one is at home, then most household chores fall to that one. |
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Location: southeast Texas | My 2 cents, if both work, house hold chores not getting done to one or the others satisfaction, pay someone to come in and get it done.
On someone's death bed what are you going to remember, a clean house or the memories y'all made....... |
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| Interesting topic! :)
Married 7 years - no kids, just dogs and horses.
I do 95% of all the house work - he will help (load the dishwasher, throw in a load of clothes once in awhile) and I WILL HEAR about it - like It was the biggest accomplishment ever. LOL. however we do have a monthly cleaning lady because it is afforadable and just keeps things from getting too far gone if we are busy.
I do 98% of the laundry and he wears enough clothes for 3 ppl I swear.
He takes care of mowing, snow removal, mouse traps, gutters, putting bales out for my horses, etc.
Can't complain too much! I've never mowed the lawn at our home. haha. |
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| I do it all... inside and outside chores. Im.a stay at home mom, my husband will help out a little on the weekends. I will recruit my daughter when I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed though and she's pretty good about doing it right. I prefer to do everything because I'm very particular on how I like things done.. it's kind of a curse lol! |
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Location: on the fine line between insanity and geniusness | star1218 - 2017-12-14 9:47 AM
Interesting topic! :)
Married 7Â years - no kids, just dogs and horses.
I do 95% of all the house work - he will help (load the dishwasher, throw in a load of clothes once in awhile) and I WILL HEAR about it - like It was the biggest accomplishment ever. LOL. however we do have a monthly cleaning lady because it is afforadable and just keeps things from getting too far gone if we are busy.
I do 98% of the laundry and he wears enough clothes for 3 ppl I swear.Â
He takes care of mowing, snow removal, mouse traps, gutters, putting bales out for my horses, etc.Â
Can't complain too much! I've never mowed the lawn at our home. haha. Â
This made me laugh at its accuracy! My husband is the same way!! Lawd he wants a sticker on his chart for swapping the laundry from the washer to the dryer, but when it’s all said and done 90% of the clothes are his!! I don’t understand how he goes through that many sets of clothes in a day?!? |
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Location: MN | Ive been pretty blessed with a man that loves to cook so I do most of the cleaning of the kitchen, but I would still say its about half and half. I go into OCD spells every once in a while where I like the sinks to be empty all of the time but that maybe lasts a few days and then I need a break from dishes ha! So then he takes over. I do most of the laundry. The task we both HATE. But he does wash all of his own workout clothes (thank goodness). We have a cleaner come every 3 weeks or so to do some deep cleaning and dusting to save us some time. Plus, it is super nice to come home to a clean, fresh smelling home. I take care of the horses, he takes care of the dogs. Its pretty split around our house I feel like. Were both young, no kids, 2 dogs, 2 horses and I think we make a pretty great team!  |
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Location: East Texas | First it is not my house or her house, it is our house. Since we have been married (14yrs), I have worked about 70hrs a week for most of the year. So that left her to do most of the household chores. This year I have moved to more normal hours, and I do more, but she still get the majority of it done. Plus my daughter is getting old enough to help out. We do not really have any set rules. If it needs done, then we do it. We see the trash is full...we take it out. We all take laundry to the laundry room or it does not get washed. My daughter has even started to do the laundry when she sees it needs done. Now that could be because grandma spoils her and will stop by and do her laundry for her so she feels guilty and helps with ours. lol As far as outside work, it is mostly the same. We all split up what ever needs to be done. My wife likes doing outdoor chores more than inside chores.
Like someone said earlier. Pay someone if it causes and argument. We have someone come by once a week and they help tremendously. My wife also works and is now putting in as many hours as I do so it has been a life saver, well, at least an argument saver. None of us mind helping, but it seems like there are not enough hrs to get every thing done. |
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Location: Louisiana | No "rules", we just get done what needs to get done LOL.
Outside, I handle feeding the horses while he feeds dogs, pigs, and cows. I do help him put hay out bc it's sooo much easier with 2 people to get through gates and such.
Inside, he does all of his laundry, I do the rest. Dishes, ah dishes...I HATE dishes, but I do most of them reluctantly. We both cook, but I make more of a mess at it...he says I try to use every single utensil while making a recipe LOL. I do the vacuuming, sweeping, mopping. I do all that stuff, but he is actually a much neater person than I am, so most of the time I'm cleaning MY mess haha.
Only real "rules" are no shoes on the carpet, which means they come off at the door, and the dog stays in her kennel if we're not inside. I think it's split pretty even...I do more inside and he does more outside, and we both do some of each. |
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| We pretty well split the load but I try to do the majority of the laundry and the cleaning because he takes care of more of the bills because he makes more than I do. We don't have any kids so I don't know anything about that, but my other half and I split the household chores pretty even. |
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Location: California | I started to respond to this and it made me realize a little more than I wanted to... I do 100% of the cleaning. He will do a load of laundry once in awhile of his own clothes if I am gone for a day or two. I make the bed, do 100% of the cooking, grocery shopping, and clean up after. He leaves his dishes and beer cans out and clothes in piles around the house. He will put big bales out when we feed those or feed if I am gone but if I am home I feed the horses typically. The catch is I work more than he does. He doesn't have a day job. Trades cattle and works rodeos during the seasons but winter and week days he is off. I work personal and outside horses every day that I am home, work for a trainer a couple days a week and work the sale barn once a week. This was a depressing post LOL. But it'll make some ladies appreciate their men  |
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| Ashley Lynn - 2017-12-14 10:06 AM
star1218 - 2017-12-14 9:47 AM
Interesting topic! :)
Married 7Â years - no kids, just dogs and horses.
I do 95% of all the house work - he will help (load the dishwasher, throw in a load of clothes once in awhile) and I WILL HEAR about it - like It was the biggest accomplishment ever. LOL. however we do have a monthly cleaning lady because it is afforadable and just keeps things from getting too far gone if we are busy.
I do 98% of the laundry and he wears enough clothes for 3 ppl I swear.Â
He takes care of mowing, snow removal, mouse traps, gutters, putting bales out for my horses, etc.Â
Can't complain too much! I've never mowed the lawn at our home. haha. Â
This made me laugh at its accuracy! My husband is the same way!! Lawd he wants a sticker on his chart for swapping the laundry from the washer to the dryer, but when it’s all said and done 90% of the clothes are his!! I don’t understand how he goes through that many sets of clothes in a day?!?
LOL!!!
Do you live where it's cold? Lord Mercy - the other day he peeled off IN ONE SOLID UNIT no less than under armour, a t shirt, a long sleeve t shirt and a sweat shirt.
I was like NEWP. I wont wash that until it's been pulled apart dude.
In all seriousness, it's pretty balanced around our place. <3 |
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| My hubby takes care of the horses and yard. Most of the inside work is left to me. He leaves stuff out and I come behind him all the time picking up after him. He does like to cook thank gosh cause I am not an avid cook. I clean up after he cooks. If I cook, I still clean up. He doesnt realize that we have a dish washer. He just parks his dishes next to the sink most times with the left over food still on it. He piles his clothes up next to the laundry bin in the bathroom. I gripped about it the first couple of years but I kind of gave up on it. He will do a load of his laundry if he is running short, but if there are clean clothes in the dryer they get thrown in a basket for me to find. I have all but banished him from the landry room. We grocery shop together mostly. He takes out/hauls off the trash. I work full time and have a side gig. We both pay bills but he pays for more than I do. Hes a dang good man, I just dont have him fully house broke yet.
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Location: Not Where I Want to Be | scwebster - 2017-12-14 12:43 PM My hubby takes care of the horses and yard. Most of the inside work is left to me. He leaves stuff out and I come behind him all the time picking up after him. He does like to cook thank gosh cause I am not an avid cook. I clean up after he cooks. If I cook, I still clean up. He doesnt realize that we have a dish washer. He just parks his dishes next to the sink most times with the left over food still on it. He piles his clothes up next to the laundry bin in the bathroom. I gripped about it the first couple of years but I kind of gave up on it. He will do a load of his laundry of he is running short, but if there are clean clothes in the dryer they get thrown in a basket for me to find. I have all but banished him from the landry room. We grocery shop together mostly. I work full time and have a side gig. We both pay bills but he pays for more than I do. In a perfect world he would pick up after himself without me having to. Hes a dang good man, I just dont have him fully house broke yet.
He doesn't respect you.
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Location: OH. IO | I do it all lol.my husband is spoiled and I envy him as well.He lives everyday like there won't be another.if he's not hunting he's fishing.Yes he workseveryday but has ALOT of time for his hobbies.I mow because I love it.i take care of of pony and donkey because I wanted them.I do housework cause im OCD and he can't do it good enough lol.However,we are remodeling right now and he is doing the work.When my momma was alive she absolutely loved him.While I was cleaning he was helping the kids with homework or taking them fishing or hunting.Mom always said,they are only at home for so long,get all the time you can now,the laundry will still be there lol.I HONESTLY WISH I WAS MORE LIKE HIM,no one will ever be able to say he didn't live his life to the fullest because he lives everyday like it's his last:) |
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Location: MN | star1218 - 2017-12-14 11:14 AM Ashley Lynn - 2017-12-14 10:06 AM star1218 - 2017-12-14 9:47 AM Interesting topic! :)
Married 7 years - no kids, just dogs and horses.
I do 95% of all the house work - he will help (load the dishwasher, throw in a load of clothes once in awhile) and I WILL HEAR about it - like It was the biggest accomplishment ever. LOL. however we do have a monthly cleaning lady because it is afforadable and just keeps things from getting too far gone if we are busy.
I do 98% of the laundry and he wears enough clothes for 3 ppl I swear.
He takes care of mowing, snow removal, mouse traps, gutters, putting bales out for my horses, etc.
Can't complain too much! I've never mowed the lawn at our home. haha. This made me laugh at its accuracy! My husband is the same way!! Lawd he wants a sticker on his chart for swapping the laundry from the washer to the dryer, but when it’s all said and done 90% of the clothes are his!! I don’t understand how he goes through that many sets of clothes in a day?!? LOL!!! Do you live where it's cold? Lord Mercy - the other day he peeled off IN ONE SOLID UNIT no less than under armour, a t shirt, a long sleeve t shirt and a sweat shirt. I was like NEWP. I wont wash that until it's been pulled apart dude. In all seriousness, it's pretty balanced around our place. <3
SAME HERE!! I ask him everytime I do the laudry, where the HECK does it all come from?! Because he claims he wears his pants 2 times before he throws them in the hamper.....but the pants to days ratio doesnt add up. Ever lol. They appear out of mid-air. I always have half as many clothes as he does. |
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