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Location: Bennett, CO | Does anyone else feel like as they get older- horses get put on the back burner because you are trying to be too responsible?
Keeping the house clean- the landscaping and cleaning the barn (and of course of work and kiddo duties) all come before the fun part of actually using my horses
As a 20 something- riding came first and I got to the other stuff as time allowed.
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Location: Central Texas | I'm 25, just listed both horses for sale because they are sitting doing nothing on a round bale. I'm heart broken. But, my current job, has had me traveling the last two weeks and its only getting busier. Just praying I can find good homes for them and get my life figured out. Maybe later on down the road I can get another. | |
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| I have told my husband the reason I’m hauling like I am now is because we want kids and I know life will change - I don’t want to regret not going now. I have a lot of friends with kids who also go so I know it is possible, but I’m hedging my bets.
As for other responsibilities, I think I hit the husband jackpot on that one. Neither one of us is a clean freak, so a little dust in the house doesn’t bother us as long as we have clean underwear and coffee cups. We might be going through a pile of laundry on the kitchen table and pulling the coffee cups out of the dishwasher...but it works. He helps keep the laundry moving and when I ask he’ll sweep or unload the dishwasher. During the week I’m the one who comes home and gets horses rode and he’s the one who jumps in the skid steer and cleans runs or mows the lawn.
We’re putting in more landscaping when we add on to the house next spring and I already told him it’s going to be a few easy, hardy plants and mostly rocks and rusty metal that doesn’t require my attention! | |
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| A long time ago, on a topic somewhat similar to this, a BB commented that happiness as an adult is that leaky window/faucet/roof/whatever being fixed. As a (then) teen, that seemed like a crappy outlook on life. Is that all being an adult is?! I don't want to live on this planet anymore!!!1
Now, as an adult and homeowner, I strongly agree. 
I don't think you're alone. When I was in 4-H, I was all about that horsey life. When I quit horses for college, I thought, "Well, I can get back into after I get a job and get settled." Well, guess what...I don't have the time or money; at least not enough to have both sweet adulting goals AND horsey goals. My desire went out the window with that and I'm pretty much content with a trip to spectate at a local show or Congress. | |
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Go Get Em!
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Location: OH. IO | ADULTING IS HARD:((( | |
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Meanest Teacher!!!
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Location: sunny california | I started adulting shortly after 18. I gave up horses and raised kids went to college and started a career. although I had a horse through many of those years; it was never a competitive one. I finally realized that the stress of working and not having any fun was stripping me of my health and was killing me. I have a great set up, but a nice competitive horse without career ending physical limitations still eludes me. I can't even get time enough to look for one. I am trying to get my health and strength back and my weight under control, then i will get more serious about horse shopping. I keep looking and if one comes along that is not just someone else's cull, I will buy even though I am not quite ready to compete yet. I was faced with the decision to shop for a started barrel horse and spend a ton or buy some prospects and see which one I get along with best.
I feel like I am waiting for retirement to start my life...uggg... | |
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 A Somebody to Everybody
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Oh heck theres adults that still dont behave like adults, they still go on like they are teens, putting their fun time befor children, wife/husband, bills.
Editing this because I dont want anyone else taking what I said the wrong way.. I am talking about married adults that dont make their husband/wife, children top priority, sorry if I offened the singles on here. 
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Gettin Jiggy Wit It
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| Southtxponygirl - 2018-08-12 4:31 PM
Oh heck theres adults that still dont behave like adults, they still go on like they are teens, putting their fun time befor children, wife/husband, bills.
you only live once. Horses are my priority and I don't really want kids... Maybe one. My fiance knows this and this is how I choose to live my life. It's honestly a choice. If you choose a college away where you can't take horses, a job that requires you to travel, marry a husband that doesn't support horses or have kids and just stop riding/ competing... it's a choice. Money obviously is they biggest drive but if you really want something you do find away to keep it in your life even just a little. Maybe it makes me a bad person to say that because I didn't choose that path but horses are what drive me and with out them I'd seriously be lost. Like I said you only live one life... One time. | |
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A Somebody to Everybody
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | WetSaddleBlankets - 2018-08-12 5:11 PM Southtxponygirl - 2018-08-12 4:31 PM Oh heck theres adults that still dont behave like adults, they still go on like they are teens, putting their fun time befor children, wife/husband, bills. you only live once. Horses are my priority and I don't really want kids... Maybe one. My fiance knows this and this is how I choose to live my life. It's honestly a choice. If you choose a college away where you can't take horses, a job that requires you to travel, marry a husband that doesn't support horses or have kids and just stop riding/ competing... it's a choice. Money obviously is they biggest drive but if you really want something you do find away to keep it in your life even just a little. Maybe it makes me a bad person to say that because I didn't choose that path but horses are what drive me and with out them I'd seriously be lost. Like I said you only live one life... One time.
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| WetSaddleBlankets - 2018-08-12 5:11 PM
you only live once. Horses are my priority and I don't really want kids... Maybe one. My fiance knows this and this is how I choose to live my life. It's honestly a choice. If you choose a college away where you can't take horses, a job that requires you to travel, marry a husband that doesn't support horses or have kids and just stop riding/ competing... it's a choice. Money obviously is they biggest drive but if you really want something you do find away to keep it in your life even just a little. Maybe it makes me a bad person to say that because I didn't choose that path but horses are what drive me and with out them I'd seriously be lost. Like I said you only live one life... One time.
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A Somebody to Everybody
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | jake16 - 2018-08-12 4:10 PM ADULTING IS HARD:(((
That is so true when you have responsibilitys being an adult, lol.. | |
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 My Heart Be Happy
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Location: Arkansas | Southtxponygirl - 2018-08-12 5:34 PM
WetSaddleBlankets - 2018-08-12 5:11 PM Southtxponygirl - 2018-08-12 4:31 PM Oh heck theres adults that still dont behave like adults, they still go on like they are teens, putting their fun time befor children, wife/husband, bills. you only live once. Horses are my priority and I don't really want kids... Maybe one. My fiance knows this and this is how I choose to live my life. It's honestly a choice. If you choose a college away where you can't take horses, a job that requires you to travel, marry a husband that doesn't support horses or have kids and just stop riding/ competing... it's a choice. Money obviously is they biggest drive but if you really want something you do find away to keep it in your life even just a little. Maybe it makes me a bad person to say that because I didn't choose that path but horses are what drive me and with out them I'd seriously be lost. Like I said you only live one life... One time.
Yep, I see it all the times, folks with children (multiple usually), that act no different than they did when they were 18 or 19. And seem offended by the notion that their life should change because "of that kid". Disgraceful | |
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A Somebody to Everybody
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Chandler's Mom - 2018-08-12 9:08 PM Southtxponygirl - 2018-08-12 5:34 PM WetSaddleBlankets - 2018-08-12 5:11 PM Southtxponygirl - 2018-08-12 4:31 PM Oh heck theres adults that still dont behave like adults, they still go on like they are teens, putting their fun time befor children, wife/husband, bills. you only live once. Horses are my priority and I don't really want kids... Maybe one. My fiance knows this and this is how I choose to live my life. It's honestly a choice. If you choose a college away where you can't take horses, a job that requires you to travel, marry a husband that doesn't support horses or have kids and just stop riding/ competing... it's a choice. Money obviously is they biggest drive but if you really want something you do find away to keep it in your life even just a little. Maybe it makes me a bad person to say that because I didn't choose that path but horses are what drive me and with out them I'd seriously be lost. Like I said you only live one life... One time. Yep, I see it all the times, folks with children (multiple usually ), that act no different than they did when they were 18 or 19. And seem offended by the notion that their life should change because "of that kid". Disgraceful
I have seen this to offten too.. | |
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Gettin Jiggy Wit It
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| Chandler's Mom - 2018-08-12 9:08 PM
Southtxponygirl - 2018-08-12 5:34 PM
WetSaddleBlankets - 2018-08-12 5:11 PM Southtxponygirl - 2018-08-12 4:31 PM Oh heck theres adults that still dont behave like adults, they still go on like they are teens, putting their fun time befor children, wife/husband, bills. you only live once. Horses are my priority and I don't really want kids... Maybe one. My fiance knows this and this is how I choose to live my life. It's honestly a choice. If you choose a college away where you can't take horses, a job that requires you to travel, marry a husband that doesn't support horses or have kids and just stop riding/ competing... it's a choice. Money obviously is they biggest drive but if you really want something you do find away to keep it in your life even just a little. Maybe it makes me a bad person to say that because I didn't choose that path but horses are what drive me and with out them I'd seriously be lost. Like I said you only live one life... One time.
Yep, I see it all the times, folks with children (multiple usually ), that act no different than they did when they were 18 or 19. And seem offended by the notion that their life should change because "of that kid". Disgraceful
Kids should be your priority if you them but by no means does it mean you should neglect your time for you. Drop all your passions in life and get lost just because you have kids. To many people have kids and lose themselves. Then when the kids are gone they don't know who they are anymore. Even with children, horses can be a big part of your life... That was my point. It's a choice you make as a Person. Kids should not be a death sentence to your other joys on life. | |
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My Heart Be Happy
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Location: Arkansas | WetSaddleBlankets - 2018-08-12 9:42 PM
Chandler's Mom - 2018-08-12 9:08 PM
Southtxponygirl - 2018-08-12 5:34 PM
WetSaddleBlankets - 2018-08-12 5:11 PM Southtxponygirl - 2018-08-12 4:31 PM Oh heck theres adults that still dont behave like adults, they still go on like they are teens, putting their fun time befor children, wife/husband, bills. you only live once. Horses are my priority and I don't really want kids... Maybe one. My fiance knows this and this is how I choose to live my life. It's honestly a choice. If you choose a college away where you can't take horses, a job that requires you to travel, marry a husband that doesn't support horses or have kids and just stop riding/ competing... it's a choice. Money obviously is they biggest drive but if you really want something you do find away to keep it in your life even just a little. Maybe it makes me a bad person to say that because I didn't choose that path but horses are what drive me and with out them I'd seriously be lost. Like I said you only live one life... One time.
Yep, I see it all the times, folks with children (multiple usually ), that act no different than they did when they were 18 or 19. And seem offended by the notion that their life should change because "of that kid". Disgraceful Kids should be your priority if you them but by no means does it mean you should neglect your time for you. Drop all your passions in life and get lost just because you have kids. To many people have kids and lose themselves. Then when the kids are gone they don't know who they are anymore. Even with children, horses can be a big part of your life... That was my point. It's a choice you make as a Person. Kids should not be a death sentence to your other joys on life.
I'm talking about people who make a decision to get married and have children. Or keep having more children in spite of the very apparent fact that LITTLE ONES CHANGE YOUR LIFE. My son is my passion, my life, my everything. Do I adore my horses and give them the best? Absolutely, but Chandler is my number one joy and priority in life. Bar none. Again, I made this decision, and I realize not everyone feels like I do. I'm definitely not condemning you or your decision by any means. On the contrary, everyone should be so clear on their priorities. | |
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| I'm realizing that life is a whirlwind, and as soon as I slow down for one thing, another picks me back up and tosses me around before spitting me out. For about twenty years, I was all about horses and rodeo and never dreamed that I wouldn't be out there competing every weekend. Now I am counting down the days until my foals are old enough to be started, but I know once we start having kids I will be watching my horses run from the sidelines.
Responsibilities and priorities change, and accepting this fact to keep your life in order is paramount. The ones who resist change and are inflexible to life's curve balls find themselves lagging behind, clinging to the past instead of striding forward, excited for the next step.
Speaking of cleaning house, sorry to hijack the thread, but how many of you BBs on here have a housekeeper? We are contemplating having a reputable, local housekeeper come in and deep clean every month or two, as those arduous chores are not high on our list since we have so many other things to accomplish throughout our days, and I despise deep cleaning. | |
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Location: Arkansas | madredepeanut - 2018-08-12 10:27 PM
I'm realizing that life is a whirlwind, and as soon as I slow down for one thing, another picks me back up and tosses me around before spitting me out. For about twenty years, I was all about horses and rodeo and never dreamed that I wouldn't be out there competing every weekend. Now I am counting down the days until my foals are old enough to be started, but I know once we start having kids I will be watching my horses run from the sidelines.
Responsibilities and priorities change, and accepting this fact to keep your life in order is paramount. The ones who resist change and are inflexible to life's curve balls find themselves lagging behind, clinging to the past instead of striding forward, excited for the next step.
Speaking of cleaning house, sorry to hijack the thread, but how many of you BBs on here have a housekeeper? We are contemplating having a reputable, local housekeeper come in and deep clean every month or two, as those arduous chores are not high on our list since we have so many other things to accomplish throughout our days, and I despise deep cleaning.
Kinda like Max said, thank goodness Sean and I both don't mind a little hay or dog hair on the floor!!! I do have a housekeeper once a week; she's been with my family since I was in elementary school, so as she gets older, she maybe doesn't do as much as she used to! But it's completely worth it to me to not have to do house work when I do get home from office, fish farm, barn, etc!!!
Go for it L!!!! | |
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| Chandler's Mom - 2018-08-12 8:45 PM
madredepeanut - 2018-08-12 10:27 PM
I'm realizing that life is a whirlwind, and as soon as I slow down for one thing, another picks me back up and tosses me around before spitting me out. For about twenty years, I was all about horses and rodeo and never dreamed that I wouldn't be out there competing every weekend. Now I am counting down the days until my foals are old enough to be started, but I know once we start having kids I will be watching my horses run from the sidelines.
Responsibilities and priorities change, and accepting this fact to keep your life in order is paramount. The ones who resist change and are inflexible to life's curve balls find themselves lagging behind, clinging to the past instead of striding forward, excited for the next step.
Speaking of cleaning house, sorry to hijack the thread, but how many of you BBs on here have a housekeeper? We are contemplating having a reputable, local housekeeper come in and deep clean every month or two, as those arduous chores are not high on our list since we have so many other things to accomplish throughout our days, and I despise deep cleaning.
Kinda like Max said, thank goodness Sean and I both don't mind a little hay or dog hair on the floor!!! I do have a housekeeper once a week; she's been with my family since I was in elementary school, so as she gets older, she maybe doesn't do as much as she used to! But it's completely worth it to me to not have to do house work when I do get home from office, fish farm, barn, etc!!!
Go for it L!!!!
We don't mind either, but we probably don't mind a little *too* much... 
I completely agree with you D, it is so nice coming home to a clean house, and especially one less thing to worry about on a hectic day! I'm slowly convincing Jake by telling him about EVERYONE I know that has a housekeeper, there's no more subtle hints here | |
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Gettin Jiggy Wit It
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| Chandler's Mom - 2018-08-12 10:00 PM
WetSaddleBlankets - 2018-08-12 9:42 PM
Chandler's Mom - 2018-08-12 9:08 PM
Southtxponygirl - 2018-08-12 5:34 PM
WetSaddleBlankets - 2018-08-12 5:11 PM Southtxponygirl - 2018-08-12 4:31 PM Oh heck theres adults that still dont behave like adults, they still go on like they are teens, putting their fun time befor children, wife/husband, bills. you only live once. Horses are my priority and I don't really want kids... Maybe one. My fiance knows this and this is how I choose to live my life. It's honestly a choice. If you choose a college away where you can't take horses, a job that requires you to travel, marry a husband that doesn't support horses or have kids and just stop riding/ competing... it's a choice. Money obviously is they biggest drive but if you really want something you do find away to keep it in your life even just a little. Maybe it makes me a bad person to say that because I didn't choose that path but horses are what drive me and with out them I'd seriously be lost. Like I said you only live one life... One time.
Yep, I see it all the times, folks with children (multiple usually ), that act no different than they did when they were 18 or 19. And seem offended by the notion that their life should change because "of that kid". Disgraceful Kids should be your priority if you them but by no means does it mean you should neglect your time for you. Drop all your passions in life and get lost just because you have kids. To many people have kids and lose themselves. Then when the kids are gone they don't know who they are anymore. Even with children, horses can be a big part of your life... That was my point. It's a choice you make as a Person. Kids should not be a death sentence to your other joys on life.
I'm talking about people who make a decision to get married and have children. Or keep having more children in spite of the very apparent fact that LITTLE ONES CHANGE YOUR LIFE. My son is my passion, my life, my everything. Do I adore my horses and give them the best? Absolutely, but Chandler is my number one joy and priority in life. Bar none. Again, I made this decision, and I realize not everyone feels like I do. I'm definitely not condemning you or your decision by any means. On the contrary, everyone should be so clear on their priorities.
nothing in no way wrong with your choice and its great you have your priorities in line with having children. But that isn't what I was getting at either. I meant we have a choice for what we make time for and how we spend it. If it's something you want... horses or whatever and you really want it in your life then you will make the time. Just like the career we choose. No way was I choosing a career that would effect my barrel racing by traveling for work or working where I couldn't have time to compete. I wanted a career that would compliment my lifestyle.... Because work is not my life. | |
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My Heart Be Happy
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Location: Arkansas | madredepeanut - 2018-08-12 10:54 PM
Chandler's Mom - 2018-08-12 8:45 PM
madredepeanut - 2018-08-12 10:27 PM
I'm realizing that life is a whirlwind, and as soon as I slow down for one thing, another picks me back up and tosses me around before spitting me out. For about twenty years, I was all about horses and rodeo and never dreamed that I wouldn't be out there competing every weekend. Now I am counting down the days until my foals are old enough to be started, but I know once we start having kids I will be watching my horses run from the sidelines.
Responsibilities and priorities change, and accepting this fact to keep your life in order is paramount. The ones who resist change and are inflexible to life's curve balls find themselves lagging behind, clinging to the past instead of striding forward, excited for the next step.
Speaking of cleaning house, sorry to hijack the thread, but how many of you BBs on here have a housekeeper? We are contemplating having a reputable, local housekeeper come in and deep clean every month or two, as those arduous chores are not high on our list since we have so many other things to accomplish throughout our days, and I despise deep cleaning.
Kinda like Max said, thank goodness Sean and I both don't mind a little hay or dog hair on the floor!!! I do have a housekeeper once a week; she's been with my family since I was in elementary school, so as she gets older, she maybe doesn't do as much as she used to! But it's completely worth it to me to not have to do house work when I do get home from office, fish farm, barn, etc!!!
Go for it L!!!!
We don't mind either, but we probably don't mind a little *too* much...
I completely agree with you D, it is so nice coming home to a clean house, and especially one less thing to worry about on a hectic day! I'm slowly convincing Jake by telling him about EVERYONE I know that has a housekeeper, there's no more subtle hints here
Thank goodness, I'll now come out of the closet and raise my hand to say I care WAY too little about the dust and hay on my floor 
My momma says she gets hives in my house---I'm not nasty, just keep in mind this is a woman who will get a toothbrush after baseboards or crown moulding!!! | |
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