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| In light of a recent video of a young barrel racer circulating has caused me to ask myself as a parent...at what age should we allow our kids to have social media accounts? I feel that most children are WAYY too immature to responsibly use these applications. I feel like I will probably get my daughter one of those phones that only allow her to call or text with designated people. No social media until I feel she is mature enough. Such a different time we are living in these days.
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Location: SW MO | I just was wondering the same thing. I am so glad I didn't have social media when I was younger |
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Location: Oklahoma | Mine got Musicly (sp) at 10, then Istagram/Snapchat at 11. I made her a FB recently too, so I could tag her in certain pics. I do have all her passwords and monitor the accounts on a regular basis. She is a pretty mature kid, and is still scared of me. LOL
Kids don't act like that on social media unless they act like that in real life. Mine has a friend I have banned her from becuase she screamed at me in a public setting after being told it was time to go. I don't play the disrespect at all. The "coach/mom" voice comes out right quick.
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Location: Fort Worth / Springtown | I have not seen the circulating video that you are talking about.....but I used to teach children's church and some of my Sunday kids were sending me friend requests at 12 years old. I haven't checked in a while, but FB did used to state that you must be 14 to have a page. Those kids, in my opinion, were exposed to way to much on FB. I shared a pic of a foal caught in the halter and it died - it was with an article about the dangers of leaving a halter (it was nylon) on a foal. I'm not sure if I want a 12 -14 old audience on some of the educational things I share, even. |
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| Ok, I am being very nosy now but what was the video about?
A couple of years ago we had a situation happening at our school with videos being posted by ELEMENTARY students that were VERY INAPPROPRIATE. That blew my mind! The bottom line is the lack of parenting nowadays. Social media has become the playground of our youth, and a very dangerous one for what I can see everyday at work. |
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Location: Illinois | I saw this video last night. I'm not a parent, but if I was my kids wouldn't be having social media until teenagers. I'd allow them to have a talk/text cell phone, as that may come in handy while they're riding or out with friends. I got my first flip phone at 16, and chose on my own to not have social media until college. I respect any parents decision to give their kids phones, but I do believe those devices need to come with strict warnings. I don't feel kids are mature enough to handle it most of the time, and end up in situations like we saw with this video. They need to know the potential impact of the things they post. This girl's barrel racing future was essentially just flushed down the toilet for many years to come and I honestly hope her parents took her horses away from her until the time being too. When I was young & in trouble that was my punishment, my parents knew that would kill me more than just being grounded. I think parents just need to put some more emphasis on how this affects their future if they are going to allow social media. And when things like this happen, bye bye instagram/facebook/etc. Most of us survived just fine without that stuff as a kid, they won't die without it. |
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| I let my daughter have a Facebook and Instagram. That's all. I watch her FB and her dad keeps an eye on instagram since I dont use that. Shes 14. I think it depends on the child. |
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| Mzbradford - 2018-11-13 9:55 AM I just was wondering the same thing. I am so glad I didn't have social media when I was younger
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| love2ridepre - 2018-11-13 10:09 AM
Ok, I am being very nosy now but what was the video about?
A couple of years ago we had a situation happening at our school with videos being posted by ELEMENTARY students that were VERY INAPPROPRIATE. That blew my mind! The bottom line is the lack of parenting nowadays. Social media has become the playground of our youth, and a very dangerous one for what I can see everyday at work.
I'm curious about the video being talked about as well! |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | I'm so glad that I grew up in a time that there was no cell phones no Facebook/social media.. But the cell phones would have come in handy at times thou. I still dont have a fancy cell phone just a flip phone and NO Facebook.  |
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Location: LouLouVille, OK | I think it's a parents call on their own child.
But you have to be a parent first... from the posts here... parenting done right... from that video.. total parent failure... but... if you allow your children to disrespect you... you can't expect them to respect anything.... |
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| love2ridepre - 2018-11-13 10:09 AM Ok, I am being very nosy now but what was the video about? A couple of years ago we had a situation happening at our school with videos being posted by ELEMENTARY students that were VERY INAPPROPRIATE. That blew my mind! The bottom line is the lack of parenting nowadays. Social media has become the playground of our youth, and a very dangerous one for what I can see everyday at work. A very decorated 10 year old barrel racer had gone live on instagram and was arguing (having cuss matches) with other girls who were commenting. Cursing, name calling, body shaming and threats to fight among other things.
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| cindyt - 2018-11-13 10:19 AM
I think it's a parents call on their own child.
But you have to be a parent first... from the posts here... parenting done right... from that video.. total parent failure... but... if you allow your children to disrespect you... you can't expect them to respect anything....
A while back before I let my kid have fb she was allowed on snapchat.. I didnt know any better about that snap chat stuff and thought it was pretty innocent. Well I get a phone call from her principal saying my daughter was involved in some bullying type stuff that got screen shot on snap chat and brought to school. I was LIVID . She lost her phone for almost a year and is still not allowed on snap chat. I never found out what exactly was said or done or who it was, my daughter claimed she was innocent but I didnt care. She knows if i ever get another phone call about anything negative on social media, shes done! |
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Location: Southeastern Idaho | Speaking as a high school teacher, I wouldn't let my child have a social media account that I wasn't prepared to monitor. Studies are coming out now that are showing social media is contributing to depression and anxiety in our youth. I personally agree whole heartedly with these studies. I get anxiety from my social media accounts, I can't imagine what a 10 year old would go through. The number of students in my classes that are currently in counseling for depression and anxiety is bananas. You would be shocked, I certainly am. My kids would also check in their phones to me at night, and those phones would be in my bedroom out of reach. I have experienced what happens when you allow those phones to go into bedrooms to be used all night long without supervision. |
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Location: Kansas | clover girl - 2018-11-13 8:57 AM Mine got Musicly (sp) at 10, then Istagram/Snapchat at 11. I made her a FB recently too, so I could tag her in certain pics. I do have all her passwords and monitor the accounts on a regular basis. She is a pretty mature kid, and is still scared of me. LOL
Kids don't act like that on social media unless they act like that in real life. Mine has a friend I have banned her from becuase she screamed at me in a public setting after being told it was time to go. I don't play the disrespect at all. The "coach/mom" voice comes out right quick.
Sorry to break it to you, but this is not true at all. I'm a middle school teacher, so I spend 8+ hours with 11-14 year olds all day. You end up hearing some shocking things about some of the nicest, most respectful kids. For example, an A student who is involved in her church and a sweet girl, getting caught bullying other girls over Instagram or Snapchat because it's not the same to them as real life. Or another girl sending nudes. Or the few prior students I let add me on social media because they are "good" kids, dropping the f-bomb left and right, or posting a picture of them acting innapropriately with their gf/bf.  |
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Location: Southeastern Idaho | HarlanLivesOn - 2018-11-13 9:28 AM
clover girl - 2018-11-13 8:57 AM Mine got Musicly (sp) at 10, then Istagram/Snapchat at 11. I made her a FB recently too, so I could tag her in certain pics. I do have all her passwords and monitor the accounts on a regular basis. She is a pretty mature kid, and is still scared of me. LOL
Kids don't act like that on social media unless they act like that in real life. Mine has a friend I have banned her from becuase she screamed at me in a public setting after being told it was time to go. I don't play the disrespect at all. The "coach/mom" voice comes out right quick.
Sorry to break it to you, but this is not true at all. I'm a middle school teacher, so I spend 8+ hours with 11-14 year olds all day. You end up hearing some shocking things about some of the nicest, most respectful kids. For example, an A student who is involved in her church and a sweet girl, getting caught bullying other girls over Instagram or Snapchat because it's not the same to them as real life. Or another girl sending nudes. Or the few prior students I let add me on social media because they are "good" kids, dropping the f-bomb left and right, or posting a picture of them acting innapropriately with their gf/bf.
AMEN! I couldn't agree more. Parents and students say things online that they would never say to your face or even on the phone. |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | scwebster - 2018-11-13 10:20 AM love2ridepre - 2018-11-13 10:09 AM Ok, I am being very nosy now but what was the video about? A couple of years ago we had a situation happening at our school with videos being posted by ELEMENTARY students that were VERY INAPPROPRIATE. That blew my mind! The bottom line is the lack of parenting nowadays. Social media has become the playground of our youth, and a very dangerous one for what I can see everyday at work. A very decorated 10 year old barrel racer had gone live on instagram and was arguing (having cuss matches) with other girls who were commenting. Cursing, name calling, body shaming and threats to fight among other things.
That is so sad that this was once a cute kid that turn into a little hateful monster for all to see..  You heard about this kind of stuff all the time now. |
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Location: LouLouVille, OK | luvropin - 2018-11-13 10:32 AM HarlanLivesOn - 2018-11-13 9:28 AM clover girl - 2018-11-13 8:57 AM Mine got Musicly (sp) at 10, then Istagram/Snapchat at 11. I made her a FB recently too, so I could tag her in certain pics. I do have all her passwords and monitor the accounts on a regular basis. She is a pretty mature kid, and is still scared of me. LOL
Kids don't act like that on social media unless they act like that in real life. Mine has a friend I have banned her from becuase she screamed at me in a public setting after being told it was time to go. I don't play the disrespect at all. The "coach/mom" voice comes out right quick.
Sorry to break it to you, but this is not true at all. I'm a middle school teacher, so I spend 8+ hours with 11-14 year olds all day. You end up hearing some shocking things about some of the nicest, most respectful kids. For example, an A student who is involved in her church and a sweet girl, getting caught bullying other girls over Instagram or Snapchat because it's not the same to them as real life. Or another girl sending nudes. Or the few prior students I let add me on social media because they are "good" kids, dropping the f-bomb left and right, or posting a picture of them acting innapropriately with their gf/bf. AMEN! I couldn't agree more. Parents and students say things online that they would never say to your face or even on the phone.
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| luvropin - 2018-11-13 10:32 AM
HarlanLivesOn - 2018-11-13 9:28 AM
clover girl - 2018-11-13 8:57 AM Mine got Musicly (sp) at 10, then Istagram/Snapchat at 11. I made her a FB recently too, so I could tag her in certain pics. I do have all her passwords and monitor the accounts on a regular basis. She is a pretty mature kid, and is still scared of me. LOL
Kids don't act like that on social media unless they act like that in real life. Mine has a friend I have banned her from becuase she screamed at me in a public setting after being told it was time to go. I don't play the disrespect at all. The "coach/mom" voice comes out right quick.
Sorry to break it to you, but this is not true at all. I'm a middle school teacher, so I spend 8+ hours with 11-14 year olds all day. You end up hearing some shocking things about some of the nicest, most respectful kids. For example, an A student who is involved in her church and a sweet girl, getting caught bullying other girls over Instagram or Snapchat because it's not the same to them as real life. Or another girl sending nudes. Or the few prior students I let add me on social media because they are "good" kids, dropping the f-bomb left and right, or posting a picture of them acting innapropriately with their gf/bf.
AMEN! I couldn't agree more. Parents and students say things online that they would never say to your face or even on the phone.
I totally agree! As a high school teacher too and I have seen some of my students and PARENTS act in ways that I would never in a million year would have expect them to online! |
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| Does anyone have a link to the video ? The first time I saw her doing an interview, I sure didn't get a warm fuzzy feeling :( |
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