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Location: Arizona | Do you have horse friends that you hang out with and travel with? Are they single or married? If married, do their spouses let them go with you for a weekend without any problems? I have a friend that we go out on trails rides all the time. We are both older, and have been married to our spouses over 15yrs. I asked her let's plan a weekend ride trip, sounds great.....her husband will not let her go, we can only do a day trip. What the heck?? I just don't get it! Has anyone else ever dealt with this??? Good grief. My husband lets me go, he goes to Mexico a lot to ride his dirt bike, who cares..go have fun! |
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Location: Do I hear Banjos? | wont LET her go....whooo boy...that's now how a relationship should work. Wouldn't fly with me anyway. But...I'm super fortunate in that my husband rides also...so we go camp and ride with friends together. If he couldn't go...he'd have no issue with my going. |
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Location: Missouri | I mean, my husband would be a little irked that I left him with two young kids over the weekend, but he would get over it and ask his mommy to help him. LOL. He doesn't ride so he would in no way be interested in going and would probably much rather me do a weekend trail ride with a friend than dragging him into it.
The whole won't LET her go seems odd to me. I mean, I would definitely discuss with my husband before going out of town for anything but as long as I take one of our kids or arrange for someone to come by to watch ours for a few hours so he can still cut wood/do chores/etc, he really doesn't care what I do. |
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Location: Arizona | MOGirl07 - 2019-01-22 11:35 AM
I mean, my husband would be a little irked that I left him with two young kids over the weekend, but he would get over it and ask his mommy to help him. LOL. He doesn't ride so he would in no way be interested in going and would probably much rather me do a weekend trail ride with a friend than dragging him into it.
The whole won't LET her go seems odd to me. I mean, I would definitely discuss with my husband before going out of town for anything but as long as I take one of our kids or arrange for someone to come by to watch ours for a few hours so he can still cut wood/do chores/etc, he really doesn't care what I do.
I totally understand the response if they had young kids, she's older than I am (over 50) no young kids at home at all...married 18yrs insane. I thought yeah I finally have a friend that likes to trail ride, camp, etc....I can't believe this is an issue with her husband. We are all great friends and do a lot of things together the 4 of us, why would he not let her go. Good grief. It has made me a little mad as I had planned us a great ride weekend...ugh! |
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Location: Texas | I used to be married, until he tried to tell me what I was and was not going to do.  |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | rodeomom3 - 2019-01-22 2:09 PM Maybe she is using him as an excuse to say no to camping overnight.
I was thinking the same thing.. |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | BarrelRacing4Christ - 2019-01-22 8:06 PM I used to be married, until he tried to tell me what I was and was not going to do.
I remember how heart broke you were when you two got divorced, was really hard on you..  |
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Location: Texas | Southtxponygirl - 2019-01-22 6:34 PM
BarrelRacing4Christ - 2019-01-22 8:06 PM I used to be married, until he tried to tell me what I was and was not going to do.
It was really hard at the time, but I'm so much happier now and in a much better place in life. Thank you for being there for me! Meant the world to me. |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | BarrelRacing4Christ - 2019-01-22 8:37 PM Southtxponygirl - 2019-01-22 6:34 PM BarrelRacing4Christ - 2019-01-22 8:06 PM I used to be married, until he tried to tell me what I was and was not going to do. It was really hard at the time, but I'm so much happier now and in a much better place in life. Thank you for being there for me! Meant the world to me.
Always hugs for you, and love the new picture of you and you're two beautiful kido's, they are getting so big, I bet they are so proud of their mommy..  |
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Location: Arkansas | Southtxponygirl - 2019-01-22 8:43 PM
BarrelRacing4Christ - 2019-01-22 8:37 PM Southtxponygirl - 2019-01-22 6:34 PM BarrelRacing4Christ - 2019-01-22 8:06 PM I used to be married, until he tried to tell me what I was and was not going to do. It was really hard at the time, but I'm so much happier now and in a much better place in life. Thank you for being there for me! Meant the world to me.
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Location: CTX | We have horsey friends that we go to races with all the time. Most of the time it's a day race, so DH comes along to video, but if I go to a 3-day weekend he is the one feeding. So he won't stay the night. But will try to come and hang out at least 1 day.
I know I have a unicorn for a husband, but the "he won't let her" would make the hairs in the back of my neck stand up.... unless of course it is an excuse like someone mentioned... but why would she not be honest about it?
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Location: Missouri | LIVE2RUN - 2019-01-22 1:52 PM
MOGirl07 - 2019-01-22 11:35 AM
I mean, my husband would be a little irked that I left him with two young kids over the weekend, but he would get over it and ask his mommy to help him. LOL. He doesn't ride so he would in no way be interested in going and would probably much rather me do a weekend trail ride with a friend than dragging him into it.
The whole won't LET her go seems odd to me. I mean, I would definitely discuss with my husband before going out of town for anything but as long as I take one of our kids or arrange for someone to come by to watch ours for a few hours so he can still cut wood/do chores/etc, he really doesn't care what I do.
I totally understand the response if they had young kids, she's older than I am (over 50 ) no young kids at home at all...married 18yrs insane. I thought yeah I finally have a friend that likes to trail ride, camp, etc....I can't believe this is an issue with her husband. We are all great friends and do a lot of things together the 4 of us, why would he not let her go. Good grief. It has made me a little mad as I had planned us a great ride weekend...ugh!
I'm sorry your ride isnt panning out. :(
That seems so off that you all are great friends, all 4 of you, and he still doesn't want her to go.  |
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Location: Arizona | rodeomom3 - 2019-01-22 1:09 PM
Maybe she is using him as an excuse to say no to camping overnight.
Well we were both making the plans, talking about where we would be staying etc... |
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Location: Arizona | BarrelRacing4Christ - 2019-01-22 7:06 PM
I used to be married, until he tried to tell me what I was and was not going to do.
So was I once...never again!! |
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Location: Arizona | MOGirl07 - 2019-01-23 10:06 AM
LIVE2RUN - 2019-01-22 1:52 PM
MOGirl07 - 2019-01-22 11:35 AM
I mean, my husband would be a little irked that I left him with two young kids over the weekend, but he would get over it and ask his mommy to help him. LOL. He doesn't ride so he would in no way be interested in going and would probably much rather me do a weekend trail ride with a friend than dragging him into it.
The whole won't LET her go seems odd to me. I mean, I would definitely discuss with my husband before going out of town for anything but as long as I take one of our kids or arrange for someone to come by to watch ours for a few hours so he can still cut wood/do chores/etc, he really doesn't care what I do.
I totally understand the response if they had young kids, she's older than I am (over 50 ) no young kids at home at all...married 18yrs insane. I thought yeah I finally have a friend that likes to trail ride, camp, etc....I can't believe this is an issue with her husband. We are all great friends and do a lot of things together the 4 of us, why would he not let her go. Good grief. It has made me a little mad as I had planned us a great ride weekend...ugh!
I'm sorry your ride isnt panning out. : (
That seems so off that you all are great friends, all 4 of you, and he still doesn't want her to go.
Exactly. We have been friends for years but recently just started trail riding together, we are even neighbors. She has mentioned to me on some of our rides that they tend to have "jealousy" fights...like he's asking her "who are you texting", etc...things like that. I know they got into a huge fight claiming the other one has cheated...but good grief, this is just riding with horses and she will be with me..what the heck.   |
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Location: N Texas | My husband might not be comfortable with it (he would just be worried about me, it's not a control or trust thing), but he sure as sh!t isn't going to stop me if it's something I want to do. It goes both ways, he knows he can go on guys' weekend trips whenever he wants and I never gripe about it or tell him no. He's free to do what he wants. We don't have kids so it's not a big deal. I've never understood the couples where the wife won't let her husband go out with the guys...I assume it's either trust issues, or heaven forbid she has to figure out what to do with herself when he's not there entertaining her 24/7  |
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Location: N Texas | LIVE2RUN - 2019-01-22 1:52 PM
MOGirl07 - 2019-01-22 11:35 AM
I mean, my husband would be a little irked that I left him with two young kids over the weekend, but he would get over it and ask his mommy to help him. LOL. He doesn't ride so he would in no way be interested in going and would probably much rather me do a weekend trail ride with a friend than dragging him into it.
The whole won't LET her go seems odd to me. I mean, I would definitely discuss with my husband before going out of town for anything but as long as I take one of our kids or arrange for someone to come by to watch ours for a few hours so he can still cut wood/do chores/etc, he really doesn't care what I do.
I totally understand the response if they had young kids, she's older than I am (over 50 ) no young kids at home at all...married 18yrs insane. I thought yeah I finally have a friend that likes to trail ride, camp, etc....I can't believe this is an issue with her husband. We are all great friends and do a lot of things together the 4 of us, why would he not let her go. Good grief. It has made me a little mad as I had planned us a great ride weekend...ugh!
Could be that he's worried about something happening...since ya know, women can't take care of themselves |
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Location: Georgia | I am recently married and my best friend has been married for almost 2 years. We are both in our late 20s and both married to non-horsey husbands. I think sometimes they question whether or not we HAVE to go to barrel races or do horsey things but I can tell you one thing for sure...neither one of them will ever tell us that we CAN'T go somewhere together. I can not even imagine those words coming out of my husbands mouth. There would be a real sh*tstorm that followed LOL. I agree that maybe she is using him as an excuse if she just doesnt feel like going. If that not the case, then I feel real bad for her. |
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