I know this might not exactly be the most proper place to discuss this issue that, for some reason, most people don't want to talk about. I have no where else to go though. I don't exactly have a lot of friends and family doesn't get it. 
Back story: my husband and I have been trying for over 2 years to have a baby. We've been to different doctors and done different tests with no real answers as to why. They can't find anything "wrong" with either one of us other than I do have pretty large ovarian cysts at times but they come and go. My favorite dr told me a few weeks ago that some times a woman just can't get pregnant and there's no rhym or reason for it. They just can't. I'm having a hard time understanding that. I'm like maybe there's another test or another drug or another anything that we haven't done. We chose from the beginning to go as far as we could without Invetro. We both agree that we didn't want to do that because in a way we feel like that would be us playing god. Maybe that's not true. I don't know but that's how we feel at this point. My husband says if god doesn't want us to have our own baby then he is fine with that. It doesn't bother him near as much as it does me or if it does he doesn't show it. I'm trying hard to come to terms with it but I can't. I feel broken. Like there is something is wrong with me. We are private pkeple and we have tried so hard to keep everything to our selves. The only people that know are my parents and my sister. It rips my heart out every time someone asks when we're going to have a baby. I want to scream. Scream that they don't know just how bad we want one but can't. My grandmother asks me all the time when we're going to have one. I haven't told her yet because I don't want her worrying about me. It's getting to where I don't know what to say. I want to be rude. I want them to feel my heart ache but I understnad they don't know what we're going through. I have a big family and it seems it's always someone wanting to know when we're having a baby. I literally don't know how to reply anymore. I love holidays and get togethers but I dread thanksgiving in a few weeks because I know that's something I'll be asked a lot. My husband tries to talk to me when I having a hard time and I'm grateful for that but at the same time I don't think he quite "gets" how I'm feeling. TMI maybe but I'm to the point now that all the thinking and stressing is starting to affect my cycle which is going to make things even harder. I don't know where to go, who to talk to or anything. We live in a rural area so there isn't any sort of support groups or anything of that sort that I can go to. I just know BHW has a huge forum of mostly women and maybe someone else knows what I'm going through. I feel alone but I know surely I can't be the only one. 

perhaps you have PCOS?If so,it may be the reason you are not getting pregnant.METFORMIN(medicine)can help tremendously.If you don't have good doctors,simply tell them them to prescribe it.I will also PM you,so check your messages.HUGS TO YOU

they did the blood test for PCOS at the beginning. The one dr I was seeing at the time said that was the problem but that my levels weren't high enough that she thought it needed treating. Fast forward and I mentioned it to my new dr who we love so much more and specializes in fertility issues. He looked at the results and he said if he really wanted to he could say I had PCOS but that my levels were just border line. He said he could be completely wrong but he didn't believe that was the cause of our issues. I go back to see him in a few weeks and I'm going to ask for the test to be ran again. 

Do you have any symptoms of gluten intolerance? 

I'm assuming they would prescribe metformin as those diagnosed with pcos are at risk for developing diabetes.....however, im not sure how it could potentially help with infertility? Maybe it does, but I've just never heard that

perhaps they would also dose Clomid at the same time.

yes. Probably close to 10 years ago.  I started having some stomach issues and they did some test and found out I had became lactose intolerant and gluten intolerance. I haven't brought it up the my current dr. I didn't know it could have something to do with it. 

Ah okay, I'm not an OB nurse so that side of things always has me stumped. Good to know, I learn things daily

I'm not a nurse either,lol,but we dealt with this in our immediate family,actually the metformin was prescribed alone,it was a very emotional rollercoaster,but all turned out great:) Just wanted to give a possible idea

Just want to wish the OP the best of luck and sending up prayers. . . 

I know of two women who were able to get pregnant after they cleaned up what they were eating. One went dairy free also, not sure what worked but it's worth a shot and cheaper than fertility treatments.  Hugs to you and your hubby, I'm sure it's hard dealing with everyone elses expectations on top of everything else.

Ditto!!! 

First off, sorry to hear all of this........it can be hearbreaking, but maybe there is a reason, one never knows is the problem.........But I will say this, why not adopt?  There are so many out there that no one seems to "want" and they just keep having them (it really disgusts me).  And me just being honest, I would not want to bring another child into the world we seem to live in today (and yes I have a teen).  This world is almost heartless anymore and no one seems to have any values, it is terrible.  But adopting a child would be my suggestion.

I have read stories about women going lactose free and getting pregnant:)

I just want to send you a big HUG

Have they evaluated your husband yet? 

we're in the process. Alabama requires parenting classes. They only offer the classes twice a year. The next session is in January. Once we finish those(there's 6) we do the home study then get put on the list and have to wait to be called with one. 

First of all, my heart aches for you and I will pray for you.

I don't believe invitro is playing God (Just like I don't think cloning is playing God but I don't necessarily believe we have a need for it either ha). I don't believe he would've given us the knowledge to use these resources if he didn't want us using them. I truly believe he uses circumstances to draw us closer to Him. I am also glad you are looking into adoption because that is maybe what he is saying to you - that you would make fabulous parents to a child even if it is not a biological child and you would be the absolute best blessing in their lives. Cling onto God and trust he is putting you down the path that is best for you. 

As far as answering your pushy relatives (whom of course mean well), I would just tell them "In Gods timing" - I feel if someone told me that I would connect the dots and understand they are probably trying but just havent gotten pregnant yet and back off. This way you don't have to go into detail about the struggle you've been having. 

Hang in there. It "only" took me 6 months to get pregnant with my second kiddo and the last few unsuccessful months were definitely scary and the thoughts and emotions that were consuming me were heartbreaking, and that was only a few months of trying. I wholeheartedly feel for you. 

First off, my heart goes out to you & your husband. I so understand as I couldn't have kids either, but ya know, I am ok with that. God intended me to be a mom to the animals. I truely believe that. But I wanted to mention, adoption is a wonderful thing. My birth mother had to put me up for adoption & it was the best thing ever that she did for me. I was adopted at birth. I had the best parents ever. I am so blessed. There are children that would love to have you & your husband as their parents. After 40 years of searching, I did find my birth mother. I had 1 main reason for wanting to find her, besides wanting medical history, etc. I wanted to say, Thank You for loving me enough to let me go. And yes, I told her that & she was grateful. God Bless you & your husband with any choice that you both make. Whatever the choice, it will be right for you both. 

Just have to give you a hug