Has anyone had a partner talk negatively about their hobby (horses) in particular? As in saying you love your horse more than me, you go see your horse 7 days a week and you don't need to because you board him..etc. 

Has anyone been with someone like this before?

Sounds like he does not support your passsion of horses and I would re-evaluate if he is the right person for you.

Whoever you are with should be SUPPORTIVE and UNDERSTADNGIN of your hobbies - not jealous of them.

My husband and I have been married for 10 years but have been together for 17  years. He has never questioned anything with the horses. Nor have I questioned his hunting. We support each other's hobbies wholeheartedly.

I have left at least two dudes in my past to follow horses. I know it might be extreme but horses are that important to me and that much a part of me.

And the worst opponent I ever had with the horses was my mother. In our last conversation ever she was still, "When are you going to give up those stupid horses?" I was 55 years old when she passed, had wanted a horse 'forever' at age 5 when I first got one. No Mom, it's not a passing phase. And thank you for such a positive last conversation. 

You have to decide how important horses are to you. There was a time in my life that I did not have the funding required to own and keep a horse. As soon as that changed I bought another and have never looked back. My hubb did not know I was a 'horse person' when we met and it was a long adjustment with and for him. I would have left years ago and started out alone again if he wouldn't have been able to adjust. Now he is involved with each birth and goes to day shows with me often. I still go to multi-day shows alone, but that's a good thing. We both need some alone time!

If your boyfriend is actively opposed to your horse/s then first I would try to involve him. If he has -0- interest then I would have a heart to heart talk with him. But before either, make sure you know how important they are and what, if any, concessions you are willing to make. 

It's pretty common, I think. It says a lot about the guy's insecurities. 

We've been together almost a year. The first couple months, he was great with my horse. Very very active with him. Helped put on his blankets, bought him treats, he still does buy him treats, he bought me a magnawave machine for him. So he was extremely active in the beginning. he doesn't complain every day. It's just been here and there he mentions that I don't have to go to the barn every day because he is now at a full board facility. I told him that regardless if it's for board care or not, I still very much enjoy seeing him every day. Whether it's just brushing him or lunging him or riding. I've wanted a horse, my whole life, and I've had him for years now.  I love him more than anything, and I don't want to not go see him because someone might get upset. This horse is truly my heart horse. He absolutely loves to see me every day. I don't spend hours and hours at the barn. I am self-employed, and sometimes I do get home around 7 o'clock at night  After I finish up with my horse. It just seems to be a problem with him a little more lately. Making comments like they take care of him and Blanket him, so I don't have to go see him every day. Well, I know that, I guess he truly just doesn't understand that I like to go. I love to go see him.  He still buys him treats, but he just says he doesn't want to stand around in a cold barn. Most of the time he's on his phone while at the barn with me. When he's there, I feel like I have to rush. He says he just wants to go home and relax. I told him that he doesn't have to go to the barn with me every day. But he says that he wants me home to relax with him.  he will occasionally help me put on one of his blankets when he's there, and he gives him a tree, but other than that he isn't as excited as he was when I first met him and in the first couple months. I don't really talk about my horse much to him anymore. I haven't barrel race at all this year because I can't afford it right now. But he is still very much in great shape, well loved, and I ride at least four days a week. I think the thing that makes me frustrated is that on our first day I made it extremely, loud and clear that I will always go see my horse seven days a week. Even if it's just a quick brush and a couple treats. That it's just not negotiable. And he said no problem. It was OK for a couple months, now, he just seems irritated to go to the barn. Which puts me in a stressed out mood.  I can just tell he's not happy at the barn. Complaining that it's cold, I get it, just standing there watching me do stuff probably isn't fun. But I just feel rushed when he is there lately. I'm not really sure what to do. I told him the other night that , I enjoy my horse very much and I enjoy seeing him and spending some time with him every day. 

DUMP HIS ASS! Life is too short to spend time on a guy like that.

FIRST ..... You are past the "honeymoon stage" of dating .... that time when a man will say or do anything to get you to love them......... It is now time for you to say ...... "I AM WOMAN ...HEAR ME ROAR" .... You only need these two rules .....

1. If he wants to stay in your life, he needs to know that horses are YOUR life!
2. He needs to know that you will not stand for any more "whining" about your time with your horse....the horse was there before him and will be there after him .... if needed

If he doesn't agree to those rules ......show him the door ..... because HIS RESENTMENT and B*TCHING will only get worse!

It will only get worse, not better.  Better to cut your losses now and send him to the curb.  Sounds like he is jealous of the horses and wants all your time to be spent with him, Narcissist?

True narcissist. Gaslights me, puts all the blame on me. Can't take responsibility for any of his actions. Doesn't want anyone to treat him like he treats others. Yeah, I could go on forever. I have tried leaving multiple times before, and then he verbally harasses me over text all hours of the day and night for weeks on end, because I am too scared to block him. Trying to leave this time again, just scared.

Sounds like you need a new boyfriend.  

In all seriousness, he sounds like a complete narcissist.  I was married to one and believe me when I tell you they start small and work their way up in regards to tearing you down.  They will have you unsure which way is up or down before you even know it. 

Run while you still can.

This REALLY concerns me ...... WHY? Are you afraid that he will harm you or your horse? IF so ..... do this immediately .....

Cut ALL ties with him

Document any and everything that he says or does (save texts)

Tell the boarding stable he is NOT allowed near your horse

Block his number

Confide in family or close friends regarding him and his actions and IF he threatens ANY kind of harm.....REPORT HIM TO THE POLICE!!!!

Didn't you go through this with your ex husband as well?or am I confusing you with someone else?

My narcissistic husband died 20 years ago.  I have been out with about 3 different men since then.  Geez Louise!  Too needy, too self centered.  I am so much better off by myself. Everything that I have is paid for.  I go do what I want to do, when I want to.  So nice not to have to answer to someone.  If I need to go somewhere with someone, I have male and female friends I can go with.  I raise my own horses so I have things that they require.  My husband did not want me riding horses because I might get hurt and not be able to fix his supper so I ride regularly now.  I have ridden since I was a small child so that is not something new.  Decide what your priorities are and go from there.  Do you ask him not to follow his interests?  

I am so sorry that you are going through this!  A good friend of mine just went through it as well.  She was with him for around a year and things just got worse by the day.  It reached the physical stage and even after that it still took her some time to get up the strength and courage to get rid of him.  Narcissist are great at knowing when to turn on the charm to try and get you to forget all the bad things, stand your ground for your sake!  We all tried to get her to get rid of him but ultimately it had to be on her timing.  He is still texting and harrassing her but she did finally block him and is arming herself just in case (yes, he is that scary/crazy).

Please get a restraining order, block his calls/text and surround yourself with friends for support.  If you live alone maybe you should consider having someone move in  you for awhile.

If you don't get rid of him you are setting yourself up for a very miserable life and you deserve better!!

Prayers

I think you have been "ghosted" ...... 

No not ghosted, but thank you. Busy with my grandfather passing away, work and animal care. Yes. My ex husband was the same way. 
think twice before you think I ghosted her. 

SORRY .... but it happens SO many times here on BHW ....sorry to hear about your grandfather! NOW ..... if your ex was the same, you REALLY need to re-think your requirements for a good match! Make a list of your requirements for a boy friend and check the list ....dump anyone who doesn't meet or excede your criteria! 

This ^^^^^    Move on. 

You have been given some great feedback. The only thing I would add is what I did after repeatedly making poor choices about men I allowed in my life was....took a year off from relationships, got into therapy to find out why I thought I deserved these losers and not someone to be in a HEALTHY relationship with. Once I got healthier, I not only no longer attracted the losers as much but could spot them a mile away. 

That was a long time ago. Been married now 36 years to a wonderful man that loves me enough to allow me to be me and persue what I love even though he is not into horses at all. I give him the same room and we encourage each other. Is our relationship perfect? No, but it works, its caring, loving and he's my very best friend.

You deserve that too!!!!!!

Get out now.  He's going to get worse, not better.  He is jealous and pretty soon 'not every day' will turn into once or twice a month is enough.  Then, well you're not doing anything with him you need to sell him. 
I had one guy who rode and had horses but was so jealous of my ability he made all kinds of snarky comments that made me doubt myself.  Then I had one like yours, jealous to the bone of the horses.  Ditched them both.  Been married to the man who supports me and my dreams and loves our horses and puts hours of time into helping me care for them and seeing that they have all they need.  Don't settle.  Run, he's going to make you miserable