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Location: Kentucky | notwhouthink - 2015-01-05 10:42 PM Luvmyebstang - 2015-01-05 6:57 PM I have moved on! I have learned from him. Don't pay for a date if a dumbass can't lol. He's an idiot ass. On a another side not....what do you all think about a guy a few years younger interested in you?? Anyone have a bf or husband few years younger? I've always gone older because of maturity and time in life we are at in 20's. Last a hole was 22 and I tried younger and that went bad... I think you need to quit acting so desperate. Just because someone looks at you, or says hello, or opens a door for you does NOT automatically mean they are your next "one and only". By reading some of your prior posts, and even this one, I think you lack self confidence, and are very clingy. Guys pick up on that very quickly, and RUN as fast as they can. It seems like its hard for you to take the hint when they arent interested.
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Location: Driving, Grooming, or Saddling for a Kid! | notwhouthink - 2015-01-05 8:42 PM Luvmyebstang - 2015-01-05 6:57 PM I have moved on! I have learned from him. Don't pay for a date if a dumbass can't lol. He's an idiot ass. On a another side not....what do you all think about a guy a few years younger interested in you?? Anyone have a bf or husband few years younger? I've always gone older because of maturity and time in life we are at in 20's. Last a hole was 22 and I tried younger and that went bad... I think you need to quit acting so desperate. Just because someone looks at you, or says hello, or opens a door for you does NOT automatically mean they are your next "one and only". By reading some of your prior posts, and even this one, I think you lack self confidence, and are very clingy. Guys pick up on that very quickly, and RUN as fast as they can. It seems like its hard for you to take the hint when they arent interested.
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | LRQHS - 2015-01-06 7:33 AM Luvmyebstang - 2015-01-06 4:51 AM I'm not desperate by any means. I've just run into some bad guys and trying to find the good ones. I'm ready to settle down and have a family...doesn't make me desperate. I have a lot of confidence ....I'm a redhead lol so it's in my blood, so please don't act like you know me by saying I lack it or am clingy. I'm very independent, own a business I started, and know what I want. I don't give attention to every guy interested in me. I'm picky and always have been. What's wrong with an independent woman ready to settle down and knows what she wants and goes for it?! Your posts say differently and we are trying to help you.
From what I read, the problem is you and you need to address you before you look for another boyfriend. You act needy and clingy in your posts here. You obsess over little things like chew, $20, etc. Being independent in other areas of your life does not make you independent when it comes to dating. Kudos for having a business and working. What I see from all of your previous posts and this one is that you blame every man for it not working. At some point, you need to realize that it may not be the guys fault, it may be yours.
I would suggest for you to stop "looking for a guy." Go to a book store and find you some self help relationship books. Fix your neediness for a "husband, boyfriend, family." Don't see stars everytime a man looks at you. Learn to love yourself. Be happy and work on yourself. Until you work on yourself, I don't see you finding anyone. You're looking for a fairy tale and this isn't Fantasy Land.
None of this is meant to sound harsh. I'm trying to help you from what I have read on all of your posts. If I'm wrong, I apologize and good luck....because you're going to need it.
^^^^ THIS........Nobody is trying to sound harsh but if most of us are "picking up" on certain patterns of behavior from your posts .... then it sure doesn't take a guy very long to see it and run...... |
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Location: In The Snow, AZ | NJJ - 2015-01-06 8:03 AM LRQHS - 2015-01-06 7:33 AM Luvmyebstang - 2015-01-06 4:51 AM I'm not desperate by any means. I've just run into some bad guys and trying to find the good ones. I'm ready to settle down and have a family...doesn't make me desperate. I have a lot of confidence ....I'm a redhead lol so it's in my blood, so please don't act like you know me by saying I lack it or am clingy. I'm very independent, own a business I started, and know what I want. I don't give attention to every guy interested in me. I'm picky and always have been. What's wrong with an independent woman ready to settle down and knows what she wants and goes for it?! Your posts say differently and we are trying to help you.
From what I read, the problem is you and you need to address you before you look for another boyfriend. You act needy and clingy in your posts here. You obsess over little things like chew, $20, etc. Being independent in other areas of your life does not make you independent when it comes to dating. Kudos for having a business and working. What I see from all of your previous posts and this one is that you blame every man for it not working. At some point, you need to realize that it may not be the guys fault, it may be yours.
I would suggest for you to stop "looking for a guy." Go to a book store and find you some self help relationship books. Fix your neediness for a "husband, boyfriend, family." Don't see stars everytime a man looks at you. Learn to love yourself. Be happy and work on yourself. Until you work on yourself, I don't see you finding anyone. You're looking for a fairy tale and this isn't Fantasy Land.
None of this is meant to sound harsh. I'm trying to help you from what I have read on all of your posts. If I'm wrong, I apologize and good luck....because you're going to need it.
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Location: Oregon | Well clingy etc are just not me! Sorry if it comes off that way but that's just not me. Talk to my friends and family that know me well. I asked for positive advice, not a rude beat down on someone because your life is crappy. I'm not needy one bit! I am independent when it comes to guys too, not just my business and such. I had many guys asking for my number but I've turned many away. I don't see stars with every guy that looks at me...trust me! I've just been ready for awhile to settle down. Everyone has issues and flaws to work on but I'm not in need of some books to read up lol. Why do people always assume it's not the guys it's you....I've just had bad luck finding the bad guys. That happens to a lot of women! I'm not perfect and no one is. And I hate clingy men and chew is not just nothing to
worry about it can kill you! I mean Ya it's bad habit and he could've bren a great guy and I wouldn't care but he wasn't. I mean yes we all have things to work on but I'm not some desperate clingy little girl...
If you met me in person you would think I'm 38 with my maturity level.
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | Luvmyebstang - 2015-01-06 12:32 PM Well clingy etc are just not me! Sorry if it comes off that way but that's just not me. Talk to my friends and family that know me well. I asked for positive advice, not a rude beat down on someone because your life is crappy. I'm not needy one bit! I am independent when it comes to guys too, not just my business and such. I had many guys asking for my number but I've turned many away. I don't see stars wuth every guy that looks at me...trust me! I've just been ready for awhile to settle down. Everyone has issues and flaws to work on but I'm not in need of some books to read up lol. Why do people always assume it's not the guys it's you....I've just had bad luck finding the bad guys. That happens to a lot of women! I'm not perfect and no one is. And I hate clingy men. I mean yes we all have things to work on but I'm Not some desperate clingy little girl... If you met me in person you would think I'm 38 with my maturity level.
My life isn't crappy at all. No one is trying to beat you down. We are trying to help you. Sorry no one is saying what you want to hear. I'd have no problem saying it was the guy's fault if I saw it that way, but it doesn't come across that way in any of your posts....not one. At some point, you will have to step back and evaluate yourself. Good luck to you. We all wish you the best. |
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Location: Oregon | This case it was him! He's super immature, only 22, and a big partier. He was a jerk to me...you weren't there.
I have things to work on, as do you, but in this case I was not the problem. He's a d bag hands down |
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Location: Kentucky | Luvmyebstang - 2015-01-06 1:39 PM This case it was him! He's super immature, only 22, and a big partier. He was a jerk to me...you weren't there. I have things to work on, as do you, but in this case I was not the problem. He's a d bag hands down I think if you are looking for opinions/advice you shouldn't be attacking those trying to help you. LRQHS gave you some sound, sane, good advice. She wasn't attacking in any way.
Take a step back, breathe, and think about what you post before you click submit. A lot of these gals on here have lived and learned a lot of experiences and it's hard to see someone going down the same path, so they give up some pretty strong warnings. I would read each post carefully, ease up on the aggression, and put down your defenses.
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Location: Oregon | Everyone has been thru experiences, I get that. There's no aggression here...you must be getting confused with the redhead side lol. I'm all good! I'm not going down some aweful path... |
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Location: In The Land of Cotton | Luvmyebstang - 2015-01-06 1:39 PM This case it was him! He's super immature, only 22, and a big partier. He was a jerk to me...you weren't there. I have things to work on, as do you, but in this case I was not the problem. He's a d bag hands down I have just now read some of this - if you are not the immature one - why all the language? D bag to me is immature language, the way you type is immature - hell, this whole thread is.
And, I bet you haven't learned a thing or took any of the good advice given.
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Location: Oregon | It's called being a redhead! I speak my word, don't hold back. Sorry if you don't get redheads. We are strong willed and very straight forward and call it how we see it. And yes I have learned a few things but some is just nonsense
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Location: Kentucky | Luvmyebstang - 2015-01-06 1:48 PM It's called being a redhead! I speak my word, don't hold back. Sorry if you don't get redheads. We are strong willed and very straight forward and call it how we see it.
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | Luvmyebstang - 2015-01-06 12:39 PM This case it was him! He's super immature, only 22, and a big partier. He was a jerk to me...you weren't there. I have things to work on, as do you, but in this case I was not the problem. He's a d bag hands down
MERCY.......dial it back a little........My first instinct was to post WHATEVER ! ! !
in this case, probably he was immature.....I think most here are referring to ALL of your threads over time. Most of us have been around the block a time or two and pick up on things........I hate it when people ask for opinions and then get p*thy when they get ones that they don't like. I wish you the best of luck .... |
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Location: Oregon | Obviously you don't understand a redhead and yes it's in my blood. I'm firey and say it how it is. My personality comes from that.. |
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Location: In The Land of Cotton | Luvmyebstang - 2015-01-06 1:48 PM It's called being a redhead! I speak my word, don't hold back. Sorry if you don't get redheads. We are strong willed and very straight forward and call it how we see it. And yes I have learned a few things but some is just nonsense
****, someone tell her I am a real red head. |
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| I'm sorry but the color of your hair doesn't dictate your personality, not trying to be rude but you seem to use that as an excuse or reason for your very forward and defensive tendencies. I'm a blonde but I don't go around saying I'm using it as a reason if I'm forgetful or unintelligent.
And just another piece of advice, don't be in such a hurry to settle down, take your time and really find the right person, but don't be in such a big search to find him and for things to happen, life doesn't always work that way. |
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Location: Oregon | Lol!
Yes being a redhead does tell your personality! We are very firey, strong willed, very opinionated, spontaneous etc! We are not like blondes or brunettes. We are a different breed and it has everything to do with that redheaded personality! Only a redhead would understand, others are clueless.
Look up redhead personalities and traits!
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Location: In Ky following Barrel Races & Walker hounds. | Luvmyebstang - 2015-01-06 12:57 PM
Lol!
Yes being a redhead does tell your personality! We are very firey, strong willed, very opinionated, spontaneous etc! We are not like blondes or brunettes. We are a different breed and it has everything to do with that redheaded personality! Only a redhead would understand, others are clueless.
Look up redhead personalities and traits!
Im redheaded... I don't blame my actions on my hair color... you have mentioned your hair color now 5 times, and nobody is buying that excuse. |
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