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Location: in the middle of backwoods iowa | There is a tax credit for adopting- for 2013 it is a max of $12,970. |
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | cyount2009 - 2013-12-12 4:58 PM It's terrible what it costs to adopt! A friend of mine's sister, who is a wonderful parent, had the money, applied and was denied. Her husband is in the military and they move from country to county, CPS said their home life was not stable enough. They ended up adopting a beautiful little girl from China and a few years later the same adoption agency contacted them about a little boy who was born with a defect and was surrendered by the same family. They adopted him as well. Maybe check out foreign adoption?
It's an idea, but we have already been informed that state adoption (older kids already in foster care) would definitey be an option for us no matter how many times the military PCSs us. |
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Location: Never in one place long | missroselee - 2013-12-12 3:25 PM
Why it costs $23,000 plus to adopt a child in America?
I can't tell you but all i know is it is WRONG!!! there should be some cost to show you're commited but that is absolutely RIDICUOUS! Especially with ALL the kids that need homes... do you mean for a baby or every child??? I thought older kids were "free" |
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Location: Never in one place long | hoofs_in_motion - 2013-12-12 3:34 PM
No idea......a girl I went to high school with recently adopted because she was told she couldn't have children after trying for so many years.....finally finished the adoption process, only to find out 6 months later that she was pregnant!!!!
HAPPENS ALL the TIME! I guess the stress to get pregnant goes away and bam you're pregnant!  |
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | DLV - 2013-12-12 5:01 PM missroselee - 2013-12-12 3:25 PM Why it costs $23,000 plus to adopt a child in America? I can't tell you but all i know is it is WRONG!!! there should be some cost to show you're commited but that is absolutely RIDICUOUS! Especially with ALL the kids that need homes... do you mean for a baby or every child??? I thought older kids were "free"
Just private infant adoption. I do believe the costs for older children through the state level is very minimal. I just emailed the lady we spoke with a few months ago to restart the process. |
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Location: where ever my L/Q trl is parked | I have a friend that just adopted a little girl - the baby was a premie but doing good. She went to one of the best adoption agency in Tx took them over a year to adopt- anyway she said they base the cost on the new parents to be on their salary. Her little girl cost her $46,000 that included all cost.
That's a good college education....... |
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Location: Phoenix | My aunt has adopted 6 kids through foster/adoption.
Thats all I can offer. Worked for her that many times.....and they aren't rich by any means. All the kids help out with their rodeo act and she has the biggest heart. |
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| Aqhaczy - 2013-12-12 6:03 PM
That's a good college education.......
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Location: MI | I know a really great private lawyer, and she charged around $10,000 2ish years ago. Awesome lady, great family. However, she doesn't find available kiddos (although I'm sure that she would have some ideas).
My sister tried to adopt through the legal system a few years ago, but was heartbroken with potential adoptions 2 or 3 times and they stopped. My sister-in-law is going to start fostering in late Dec/Jan, they have gone through the classes. I think fostering is awesome, would LOVE to foster special needs kids, but I know that my husband would very quickly get outraged with the politics. I know a lot of foster care parents, it's a tough job, the system is far from perfect. |
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | hammer_time - 2013-12-12 9:27 PM My aunt has adopted 6 kids through foster/adoption.
Thats all I can offer. Worked for her that many times.....and they aren't rich by any means. All the kids help out with their rodeo act and she has the biggest heart.
I think if we go the adoption route, we will trudge through the state system with older children. There seem to be lines of people willing to spend the money on an infant and it seems like nobody wants to take the chance on an older child. Those kids deserve a chance too.......They didn't do anything to deserve the situations they are in..... |
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Location: Oregon | Considering the price of barrel horses, I think adopting a kid is pretty reasonable. My nephew and his wife got a brand new baby boy last year - it was amazing. |
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | crapshooter - 2013-12-12 10:29 PM
Considering the price of barrel horses, I think adopting a kid is pretty reasonable. My nephew and his wife got a brand new baby boy last year - it was amazing.
I'm not sure i would compare buying a barrel horse to adopting a child......
I'm not saying in any ways it's not worth it. Kids are priceless. No matter how you look at it. It's just surprising to me that it costs that much..... |
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Location: Phoenix | missroselee - 2013-12-12 7:20 PM hammer_time - 2013-12-12 9:27 PM My aunt has adopted 6 kids through foster/adoption.
Thats all I can offer. Worked for her that many times.....and they aren't rich by any means. All the kids help out with their rodeo act and she has the biggest heart. I think if we go the adoption route, we will trudge through the state system with older children. There seem to be lines of people willing to spend the money on an infant and it seems like nobody wants to take the chance on an older child. Those kids deserve a chance too.......They didn't do anything to deserve the situations they are in.....
I feel like that would be the most rewarding. Especially since you have horses. These kids blossom around horses. Which is why I want to start a barn/camp with horses for troubled youth amd delinquents. |
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | hammer_time - 2013-12-12 10:42 PM missroselee - 2013-12-12 7:20 PM hammer_time - 2013-12-12 9:27 PM My aunt has adopted 6 kids through foster/adoption.
Thats all I can offer. Worked for her that many times.....and they aren't rich by any means. All the kids help out with their rodeo act and she has the biggest heart. I think if we go the adoption route, we will trudge through the state system with older children. There seem to be lines of people willing to spend the money on an infant and it seems like nobody wants to take the chance on an older child. Those kids deserve a chance too.......They didn't do anything to deserve the situations they are in.....
That would be awesome! If we can't adopt, I want to find a way to connect with kids in need. |
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Location: California | It is a lot .
My parents adopted me as a newborn back in 1985 and when it was all said and done it was about $65k , aside from the uncertainty , stress and headaches the process caused!
After that they had my brother through In Vitro Fertilization...now THAT was a lot of money. |
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Location: Home....Smiling M Farms | That's why so many people adopt out of the country. It's still expensive but not nearly as bad as in the US. Sad as it is. |
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Location: Oregon | missroselee - 2013-12-12 7:41 PM crapshooter - 2013-12-12 10:29 PM Considering the price of barrel horses, I think adopting a kid is pretty reasonable. My nephew and his wife got a brand new baby boy last year - it was amazing. I'm not sure i would compare buying a barrel horse to adopting a child...... I'm not saying in any ways it's not worth it. Kids are priceless. No matter how you look at it. It's just surprising to me that it costs that much.....
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| missroselee - 2013-12-12 9:20 PM hammer_time - 2013-12-12 9:27 PM My aunt has adopted 6 kids through foster/adoption.
Thats all I can offer. Worked for her that many times.....and they aren't rich by any means. All the kids help out with their rodeo act and she has the biggest heart. I think if we go the adoption route, we will trudge through the state system with older children. There seem to be lines of people willing to spend the money on an infant and it seems like nobody wants to take the chance on an older child. Those kids deserve a chance too.......They didn't do anything to deserve the situations they are in.....
You know what? I think I love you - this is THE sweetest thing I think I've ever read! Something will work out for you, I'm sure of that. |
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Location: The birthplace of Honest Abe | If you foster first then adopt the child usually the state pays all the costs. My husband and I have been looking into it for a few yrs now since we have no children. We were looking into an older child also. I really dont want an infant or toddler LOL.
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Location: Oklahoma | The best article I ever read was about a lady and her husband who adopted a troubled pre teen. They had horses and she said the horses turned the boy's life around.
I think you and Josh would make such a positive impact in any child's life. Dallas and I have talked about adopting a special needs child in the future. I can't wait to meet you tonight! |
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