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Location: Riding Crackhead. | hoofs_in_motion - 2014-05-20 3:17 PM Thankfully I was able to have my grandmother pick her up from his mom. So my grandma has my daughter right now. But his mom showed up at my office about 10 minutes ago, and screamed at me. I just spoke with my attorney and she suggested I file an extension on the PFA for protection from her on my end.
His mom sounds like a Fruit Loop. I'm glad you called the lawyer. |
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Location: East Texas | Make an incident report with the local police dept. for when she picked her up from the daycare and when she come to your work place and caused a disturbance by screaming at you. You do not have to press charges just have a report on hand. You will need a paper trail for court and keep a diary with all witnesses names and information for future use. If its reported with the police then when you have to go to court in the future it will not just be your word against hers. I promise the apple did not fall far from the tree when it pertains to her and her son. BE CAREFUL! |
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Location: Cap'n Joan Rotgut.....alberta | that would be the last time any of his family had contact.....i have no pity for stupid ppl...........
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| BrownieBites - 2014-05-20 3:44 PM
Make an incident report with the local police dept. for when she picked her up from the daycare and when she come to your work place and caused a disturbance by screaming at you. You do not have to press charges just have a report on hand. You will need a paper trail for court and keep a diary with all witnesses names and information for future use. If its reported with the police then when you have to go to court in the future it will not just be your word against hers. I promise the apple did not fall far from the tree when it pertains to her and her son. BE CAREFUL!
This is sound advice. Take it from a police officer who has gone thru my own custody battle. |
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Location: Kansas | BrownieBites - 2014-05-20 3:44 PM Make an incident report with the local police dept. for when she picked her up from the daycare and when she come to your work place and caused a disturbance by screaming at you. You do not have to press charges just have a report on hand. You will need a paper trail for court and keep a diary with all witnesses names and information for future use. If its reported with the police then when you have to go to court in the future it will not just be your word against hers. I promise the apple did not fall far from the tree when it pertains to her and her son. BE CAREFUL!
I think I'm going to have too. Today is my best friends birthday...and she had the guts to walk into the store she works at and scream at her.....then she walked the block up to my office to scream at me. I've been civil with her and allowed her to have my daughter when she would ask for her...and I never gave her any grief. I didn't ask for this, I want to make sure my child is safe. |
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Location: PNW | She sounds like a fruitcake. And I'd bet she is allowing the father to see your daughter.
I'd be flipping my schmidt on HER AND THE DAYCARE. It doesn't matter if she's on the list or not, they should never release your child to ANYONE without confirmed parental consent.
And then I'd be filing a report with the police.
Good luck lady, and keep that precious girl of yours safe! Hugs! That situation sucks. |
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Location: East Texas | In Texas, you can file for grandparents' rights, but the grandparent has to prove that it would be a detriment to the child if the child was not allowed to see them. Sounds like you have lots of reasons for a judge to feel that the grandmother IS a detriment!!
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | hoofs_in_motion - 2014-05-20 2:16 PM Southtxponygirl - 2014-05-20 2:13 PM Is she back home with you now? Oh that would have made me very up set too, Hugs 
I just don't know what to do. The new daycare provider has been made aware, and this is the last week for my daughter to be in the currently daycare. She goes to the new facility next tuesday.
That daycare should HAVE NOT let this women take your baby befor they had called and talked to you first if there was no list of who could be picking her up. They have your work number I'm sure, so they should have called you first to double check.
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Location: oklahoma | I'd talk to the daycare of course and take your attorney's advice and only want to add that gma is probably letting daddy see your daughter. Now she's scared that she's losing control so she's yelling at you. My parting words would be, " see you in court." They'd take me in front of a judge before I handed her over for any sort of visitation. You've gone above and beyond considering what your ex has done to you both. |
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| Just a few things working in law enforcement....
You cannot just "put things on record." You have to actually file a complaint and get a case number. Meaning speak with an officer. (too many people think they can just call and put it on "record." - no such thing)
When you go to court, get a custody agreement and have an attorney go through it with a fine tooth comb.
Add this Grandma to your protection order. Advise your daycare of situation and tell them to call law enforcement with any suspicious activity. Also get documentation.
Print all text messages and keep a detailed journal of any and all incidents. You will need this for court.
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| No advice, but hugs to you. Sounds like you are taking the high road in a bad situation. Keep your daughter close, this must be very confusing for her, and hang in there. |
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Location: Iowa | Hugs to you. It's never easy. Best advise that I have is to not add any verbal ammunition to her. You need to file the extension on the order to include her not to see her grandaughter for now until she can be civil.
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| Any security video cameras at your friends job or your job you could get copies of grandma screaming to give to your attorney and judge??
NO phone conversations to any of them ... period ... you know they will be recording anything you say ... just do not answer your phone and let them do voice mail or texts and keep a daily diary .... AGAIN ... NO CONVERSATIONS OF ANY KIND and beware if old friend shows up to find out what you are doing as their mole to keep them posted ..
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Location: Kansas | to add insult to injury....... She called the sheriff and had a sheriff come to the house to do a "welfare or well ess" check on my daughter. Of course the officer was mad because he knows me and knows how well I care for my child.......more or less that it was a bogus claim and she was wasting his time. She asked for a call back.......so he called her back and was not nice to her. I'm calling the court house today to file a pfa against her |
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | Ughhh....I'm so sorry you're going through all this. Many hugs. I'd break her knee caps if she took my child without my permission.......don't do that.......that's just what I would do. |
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Location: Texas | hoofs_in_motion - 2014-05-20 2:14 PM KylaKris - 2014-05-20 2:13 PM I have had 2 different day cares the last couple of years and both have me list who is allowed to pick up my child. If you never filled anything out or gave them written permission, you day care is at fault for letting her go. She has a hand written note with his mother's name on the list to be allowed to pick her up. That is my fault for not even thinking of giving her a new list of who isn't to pick her up.
The PFA was recently filed
So there IS a list a daycare and your ex's MIL is on it?
I wouldn't be pointing fingers at the daycare. Looks like they followed protocol. |
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Location: Kansas | bocephus's mama - 2014-05-21 7:32 AM hoofs_in_motion - 2014-05-20 2:14 PM KylaKris - 2014-05-20 2:13 PM I have had 2 different day cares the last couple of years and both have me list who is allowed to pick up my child. If you never filled anything out or gave them written permission, you day care is at fault for letting her go. She has a hand written note with his mother's name on the list to be allowed to pick her up. That is my fault for not even thinking of giving her a new list of who isn't to pick her up.
The PFA was recently filed
I wouldn't be pointing fingers at the daycare. Looks like they followed protocol.
Yes I understand, and I did speak with my attorney about that. She starts a new daycare next tuesday and the grandmother's name will be on the "do not pick up" list. |
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| hoofs_in_motion - 2014-05-21 6:49 AM
to add insult to injury....... She called the sheriff and had a sheriff come to the house to do a "welfare or well ess" check on my daughter. Of course the officer was mad because he knows me and knows how well I care for my child.......more or less that it was a bogus claim and she was wasting his time. She asked for a call back.......so he called her back and was not nice to her. I'm calling the court house today to file a pfa against her
Where you work, was there any witnesses? If so have them meet with your lawyer and give a statement, if they cannot meet with your lawyer, have them write down recollection of events, date and sign it have them mail it to your lawyer.
Have your friend do the same, and if there are any witnesses see if she can get them to do the same.
This way you have not been in contact with the statement and might stand up in court better then you hand delivering the statement to you lawyer.
Good luck and prayers for a calm/positive resolution |
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Location: Wonderful Wyoming | After reading all this especially that she had the wellness check done on you, I would send a letter (from your lawyer) explaing that she has crossed the line and you are DONE! A nut case like this could mess around until she finds something and have that baby taken from you. Children are taken all the time from good parents over some BS charge while others are neglected and Child Services allow the truly needy cases to slide through the cracks. |
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