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Location: PNW | RocketPilot - 2014-07-15 1:07 PM
I received a hs graduation invitation post marked July 7th for a June 6th graduation from a great niece that I see maybe every other year. I am trying to decide if it even deserves a response.Â
Just send a card - no cash or check.
In her defense.... About a month after I graduated high school I found about ten invites under the seat of my car that must've fallen next to the center console. Because they were all for family, I still mailed them for the sake of preventing hurt feelings and just in case they wanted a keepsake. Lol |
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Location: Riding Crackhead. | My son graduated from HS in May and sent out thank you notes. He had to write them himself and I addressed the envelopes. He had a generic thank you for thinking of me type note that he wrote out but there were a few people such as my mom, my brothers and some cousins that IMO went above and beyond in what they gave him and he wrote them each a short personal note. I had to laugh at my brothers wedding this past weekend because my son heard a lot of...."thank you for the nice thank you note!" |
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| In the past year, I've sent one very generous check for a graduation gift, three very nice wedding gifts and 1 baby shower gift as well as putting out the $100 for the baby shower cake. I have received, in return, 0 thank you notes. I don't have a problem with not receiving an actual note in the regular mail. I do, however, have a problem with not getting a FB message or an email in place of a note....of which, I have also received 0 but I did get a verbal thank you for the baby shower gift/cake.
Edited by runs4fun 2014-07-15 2:18 PM
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| Kids aren't as good at this.. they think a on the phone thank you is good enough... NOT mine.. I made them write out thank you's.. Although Dustin was getting ready to go to basic training and it did take him longer than 7 weeks I think by the time he was done the last of them took 3 months. |
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Location: Where ever there's sunshine! | A hand written "thank you" is never out of style. They're classy. Those that think they're out dated are either too young to be able to appreciate anything hand written of too lazy to do it. I still write them and love receiving them! |
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Location: So. California | Recently, I sent out 3 graduation cards with a little something inside. I received 2 thank you cards back. The first thank you card I received back was from a grand-niece that I didn't think I would get anything back from. That was a huge surprise as I wasn't expecting anything back from her and her note was so darn sweet!
If I'm giving something from my heart, I don't expect anything back. That is not the reason I am giving the gift. I am acknowledging THEIR accomplishment and happy to do so. 
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Location: In The Land of Cotton | A written thank you note is never out of style. People just don't teach their children anymore because it is easier to phone and text. Mine were taught to write thank you's and I expect my children to teach their children. |
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Location: where ever my L/Q trl is parked | It doesn't matter what we as the older generation think. The younger people I'm thinking , those born from 1990 don't really know such things cause their parents didn't either. I believe if you receive a gift a thank you card needs to be sent in return. I sent wedding gifts to sister's that had weddings within 2 months of each other. Got one cell phone thank you and the second girl took 4 months which was a card, but the she didn't even sign it. Someone told me that now per wedding ettiquette, the couple has a year to send out thank you cards. I don't agree at all, by that time they could be divorced. 
I'm amazed what the young 20's something don't know or have any idea....like when drying clothes you should alway clean the lint trap or at least look to see if it needed to be clean.... helps keep down fires. 
Edited by Aqhaczy 2014-07-15 3:29 PM
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Location: Phoenix | I work in the lost and found department at work and we found a kids Nintendo DS. When he and his family came to pick it up, he brought us pizzas and a handwritten thank you card. I couldn't help but think "GOOD parenting!" It made my day. |
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| Aqhaczy - 2014-07-15 4:27 PM
It doesn't matter what we as the older generation think.  The younger people I'm thinking , those born from 1990 don't really know such things cause their parents didn't either. I believe if you receive a gift a thank you card needs to be sent in return.   I sent wedding gifts to sister's that had weddings within 2 months of each other. Got one cell phone thank you and the second girl took 4 months which was a card, but the she didn't even sign it. Someone told me that now per wedding ettiquette, the couple has a year to send out thank you cards.  I don't agree at all, by that time they could be divorced.  I'm amazed what the young 20's something don't know or have any idea....like when drying clothes you should alway clean the lint trap or at least look to see if it needed to be clean.... helps keep down fires.
 HA! Well, at least I can clean a lint trap. I can understand forgetting occasionally, but not doing it at all? UghI don't think that thank you cards are out of style. I tried to personalize my thank you cards after my graduation party. I kept a careful record of what everyone gave me amount wise, wrote not only the notes but the addresses too, and tried to personalize as best I could all while my mother was breathing down my neck ready to murder me for getting them out late. It's hard to personalize when you don't even know half of the people that came. Then after all of that, I found out that a few people didn't even get theirs. Needless to say I'm still traumatized. LOL |
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| I sent out thank you cards for our wedding within a month or so, but later found out that several people never received them (if I found out they didn't, I resent one!), but it makes me worry that there are people out there that didn't get one and think I'm tacky or inconsiderate for not sending thank you notes. |
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Location: Florida.. | cheryl makofka - 2014-07-15 12:00 PM I believe if you are giving something or donating something and expect something in return (the thank you) then you are doing it for the wrong reason. Even if I donate prizes to a barrel race, I don't expect anything in return, last year I donated peewee prizes never received a thank you card, but I seen on Facebook, it was acknowledged. I was happier to see the smiles on the peewees faces.
it is proper etiquette though to respond with a thank you note for weddings, baby showers or graduations..or a thank you messege..something to acknowledge you got it and appreciate the gesture..
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Location: North Dakota | BleuIdGrl - 2014-07-15 2:36 PM A hand written "thank you" is never out of style. They're classy. Those that think they're out dated are either too young to be able to appreciate anything hand written of too lazy to do it. I still write them and love receiving them!
I'm both. 
Just kidding, sort of. I mean, I was forced to write many as a child by my mother, but I've never recieved one and couldn't care less if I ever do. I think I've written maybe one as an adult. A verbal thank you, text message, whatever is fine by me. Maybe it's generational, but I just don't see the big deal. |
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Location: Southeast Louisiana | I think maybe saying Thank You is a thing of the past for much of the younger generation. Whenever any event is coming up, we get specific instructions on what we are to buy for them. At the very least, money is expected. When the younger kids open cards nowadays, they look for the money and toss them aside without even reading them if there is nothing inside. Wouldn't surprise me if they took out the money and never bothered to see who it was from.
I recently had two showers. The first was a surprise and I have almost no addresses for those who attended. I haven't been on my feet enough to thank them in person, but I fully intend to. (So, if any of you are reading this... THANK YOU!!) For the second, I had a complete list of names and addresses and did send out Thank You cards. I tried to really put a personal message and some feeling into every one, too. I really was touched at everyone's efforts. I tried to tell everyone how much I genuinely appreciated what they did because I got one once from my cousin's new wife and it said, "Thanks for the clock, we will enjoy telling time on it." I got the feeling they didn't really like it, since I saw it in my Aunt's house after that. Her reply did make me laugh, though. |
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Location: Southwest Minnesota | My daughter graduated this spring...we have not gotten Thank-you's done yet but are still planning on doing them. She has had a crazy, busy summer with a 2 week trip to Africa, working nearly full-time, showing horses, and doing 4-h projects. Her last day of work is this saturday and she leaves for college 8/23. So, sometime between those two dates we will have them complete! We are slow but I still think they are very important to do. Better late than never I guess. |
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Location: Willows, CA | We were a sponsor for the Sherry Cervi Youth Championship. You would be amazed at the number of thank you notes we got from those kids. Most were clearly from the kids themselves and are wonderful. They are learning young. |
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| I'm still a believer in Thank You notes. When I won awards I always tried to get thank yous out as quick as I could. When I was an awards director I would send Thank You's to each donor just so in case the person who received the award didn't. I wanted the donor to know they were appreciated so when I asked the next year they would be eager to donate.
My daughter shows at our County Youth Fair each year and has sold something in the auction the last three years. It is a requirement for the kids to write thank yous to whoever buys their animal or project, whoever puts add-ons and to the buckle donors if they win one before they receive their auction check. We've been cheating the last couple of years. I take pictures of her with her auction item, print it on my computer with a personalized note printed on the picture and send that to them. I think the people and businesses enjoy getting those because I've seen them hanging up behind their counters. |
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Location: Stuck in a cubicle having tropical thoughts | When I got married a couple years ago, it took me about 2ish months to get all my Thank you Notes sent.
That being said, my in-laws and grandparents think Thank you notes are the most important thing in the world.
For me, I personally HATE to receive a thank you note in the mail. But that is the environmental hippie in me. I think handwritten thank you cards and envenlopes are a waste to the environment. More often than not, those thank you notes end up in a landfill.
Hubby and I went to a couples baby shower last year. We received an eInvite, RSVP'd via email and got our eThankYou. I LOVED it. Makes it way easier, quicker and organized for the folks having the baby and on the receiving end I didn't have to wonder what to do with an extra piece of paper and envenlope.
I'm having my first baby shower in a couple weeks. I'm already being yelled at by people 60 and over about how we have to hurry and get thank you's out before the baby arrives. Hubby and I are in our 30s. He will write the ones for his side because his mom thinks she the queen of england and he does it to shut her up.
I have also been handed little scrolls and a party favor while leaving a 'shower' party that said thank you for attending and thank you for the gift. They were handed out by the door. Might be less personable, but makes it way less work for the person the party is thrown for.
I do think it's a generation gap at this point. I don't even notice if I don't receive a thank you.
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| Frodo - 2014-07-15 11:36 AM Wedding gift and graduation in the past couple of months......no thank you notes. I expect them.
I do too! If I can take the time (and money) to shop for a gift or card and money, the recipient can take the time to fill out a thank you note! Good grief - what happened to MANNERS??? |
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Location: Midwest | barlracr429 - 2014-07-15 9:48 PM I don't even notice if I don't receive a thank you.
Same here.... I honestly read them and throw it away if I do get one.
When I give a gift to someone, I don't expect anything in return. Giving them the gift is enough reward for me :)
Life is too short for me to become upset over not recieving a little card in the mail. |
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