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Location: Wonderful Wyoming | We do. My husband is really hard to buy for. He doesn't really have any hobbies, is just a workaholic and I don't have a clue what he needs for his business. If it is needed, he buys it. He on the other hand keeps an eye out for what I have been eyeing in catalogs or stores we go to (usually horse or house stuff) and surprises me. |
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Location: London Ontario | Preaching to the Choir, My Birthday is Dec 2 so I have now made a tradition with myself to go shopping at the mall for myself on my Birthday. between Christmas on the way, people having exam blah blah blah, it just never works out to be all that fun.
The SO plays the same cards, I don't know if he just doesn't care or what? And the worst part is, he's the biggest baby about Christmas!!! He even has to take gravol on Christmas eve to fall asleep.
Last year my stocking stuffers consisted of Potpourri from the dollar store, and a Candle with Jesus on it.... and we aren't religious at all. I on the other hand am done my xmas shopping by Dec 1.
This year he is getting a leveling kit, a bunch of hunting accessories and a new snowmobile helmet.
Every year I lay out a xmas list with sizes, colors, links etc. Literally spell it out for him!!!
For me its just something I think I have to get used to. One of these years however I will be getting him the same last minute junk he gets me just to show him how it feels. I don't want to sound bratty and I would love something sentimental and what not but it just kinda rubs your heart in the dirt a little when he doesn't put any effort in. |
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| If we have money my husband is great about buying but Christmas time never seems to be when we have money and this year we had had no work since haying season ended so there will be no gifts. We always buy our daughter something she really wants and that is good enough ! As soon as work fires back up I can go back to hauling to races and that is what I have been waiting for . |
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 The Original Cyber Bartender
Location: Washington | For the women who have husbands who pull the BS card about not shopping or knowing what to get you, I would suggest that you go out and shop for yourself, and I mean go big. Wrap it all up and hide it, Christmas eve after he has gone to bed put your presents under the tree. Watch his face as you open them screaming with joy over the gifts he's not sure how they got there....until the bill arrives. I promise the bill will make him go shopping for you next Christmas.  |
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 Hawty & Nawty
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| luluwhit - 2014-11-15 8:17 AM Mr Whit is the bomb when it comes to getting me good stuff at christmas. While i have never resorted to the gas station gifts for him i have lacked a few times in the years we have been married..... playing the im the best gift you ever got card doesnt sit well... lesson learned... LOL
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Location: London Ontario | fatchance - 2014-11-14 11:29 AM
For the women who have husbands who pull the BS card about not shopping or knowing what to get you, I would suggest that you go out and shop for yourself, and I mean go big. Wrap it all up and hide it, Christmas eve after he has gone to bed put your presents under the tree. Watch his face as you open them screaming with joy over the gifts he's not sure how they got there....until the bill arrives. I promise the bill will make him go shopping for you next Christmas.
How funny!!!! I should!!!! |
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Hawty & Nawty
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| MC1993 - 2014-11-15 8:23 AM Preaching to the Choir, My Birthday is Dec 2 so I have now made a tradition with myself to go shopping at the mall for myself on my Birthday. between Christmas on the way, people having exam blah blah blah, it just never works out to be all that fun. The SO plays the same cards, I don't know if he just doesn't care or what? And the worst part is, he's the biggest baby about Christmas!!! He even has to take gravol on Christmas eve to fall asleep. Last year my stocking stuffers consisted of Potpourri from the dollar store, and a Candle with Jesus on it.... and we aren't religious at all. I on the other hand am done my xmas shopping by Dec 1. This year he is getting a leveling kit, a bunch of hunting accessories and a new snowmobile helmet. Every year I lay out a xmas list with sizes, colors, links etc. Literally spell it out for him!!! For me its just something I think I have to get used to. One of these years however I will be getting him the same last minute junk he gets me just to show him how it feels. I don't want to sound bratty and I would love something sentimental and what not but it just kinda rubs your heart in the dirt a little when he doesn't put any effort in.
You made me a laugh and cry. He must feel totally helpless about what to buy. Maybe we need to start a website where men can log on and ask for advice. They seem so clueless! |
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Hawty & Nawty
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| fatchance - 2014-11-15 8:29 AM For the women who have husbands who pull the BS card about not shopping or knowing what to get you, I would suggest that you go out and shop for yourself, and I mean go big. Wrap it all up and hide it, Christmas eve after he has gone to bed put your presents under the tree. Watch his face as you open them screaming with joy over the gifts he's not sure how they got there....until the bill arrives. I promise the bill will make him go shopping for you next Christmas.
Pure brilliance. |
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Location: In The Snow, AZ | RidenFly - 2014-11-14 8:41 AM fatchance - 2014-11-15 8:29 AM For the women who have husbands who pull the BS card about not shopping or knowing what to get you, I would suggest that you go out and shop for yourself, and I mean go big. Wrap it all up and hide it, Christmas eve after he has gone to bed put your presents under the tree. Watch his face as you open them screaming with joy over the gifts he's not sure how they got there....until the bill arrives. I promise the bill will make him go shopping for you next Christmas.
Perfection. |
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 Firecracker Dog Lover
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| Yes we do - mostly things we can use. Him - Carhartt shirts, Wrangler jeans, stuff like that. And Santa may just drop a bottle of Pendleton in his stocking too but nothing huge. My husband is a last minute shopper and for him that translates into it doesn't matter how much it costs just to get him out of the store! But he's done pretty well over the years - though early on I got things like a .22 rifle (which I sold after a few years to buy a saddle pad), and 'lovely' pistol - which I still have. :) |
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I just read the headlines
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| We have started a new tradition. We don't give big gifts just something for under the tree. Instead we treat ourselves to Vegas during the NFR. He has a stressful job and it makes me so happy to see his childish delight when we leave for the airport to go to Vegas. It's his big de-stress time. He is excited already about going. |
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 Lady Di
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Location: Oklahoma | We just give each other money and we buy what we want. Otherwise, it's that old cycle of buying/taking back/exchanging. lol |
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 Shelter Dog Lover
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| We used to in our younger years. We were always broke, had 4 kids so the emphasis was on them but we bought something for each other, usually things we needed. He is a very good gift giver, very thoughtful. Now sometimes my husband shops for me and sometimes he doesn't if I have been buying a lot for myself. Last Christmas I did not get any gifts- had just bought our new place. He surprised with an I Pad 2 years ago. I just had a birthday and since I bought 2 Caldwells, a TR3 drag and a new horse in the last 6 months I was good with no gifts for my BD and Christmas :). We are both pretty low maintenace, probably because we are able to buy what we want throughout the year. We are building a new house so a pretty nice gift for both of us. I will still buy for him, he works so hard, buys me what ever I want with in reason so I want him to have everything- of course he has to pay for it.
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| ~BINGO~ - 2014-11-14 10:56 AM
RidenFly - 2014-11-14 8:41 AM fatchance - 2014-11-15 8:29 AM For the women who have husbands who pull the BS card about not shopping or knowing what to get you, I would suggest that you go out and shop for yourself, and I mean go big. Wrap it all up and hide it, Christmas eve after he has gone to bed put your presents under the tree. Watch his face as you open them screaming with joy over the gifts he's not sure how they got there....until the bill arrives. I promise the bill will make him go shopping for you next Christmas. Perfection.
I SO SHOULD DO THIS!!!!! LMAO!!! |
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 No Name Nancy
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Location: never in the right place | My husband does pretty good, except for stocking stuffers, I get pens, staples, push pins etc . No I do not work from home. . He is very hard to buy for because he gets what he wants during the year. I usually end up getting jeans, sweaters and flannel shirts for him and try and get 1 bigger gift, but this year I am at a loss. |
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 Party Girl
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Location: Buffalo, Wyoming | My SO and I do exchange gifts. Except for last year, he was starting a new business so I didn't get anything. This year he better make up for it big time by putting a rock on my finger....
He is usually really good about getting me great gifts. He made up for Christmas last year by getting me a great birthday present. His only downfall is he can't wait until the day of to give anything so it is a surprise so I always end up getting my presents a couple of days in advance if not sooner. |
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Firecracker Dog Lover
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| Sometimes you just have to TELL them. Men are not mind readers. My SIL gets upset every year because my BIL doesn't get her anything "personal" or she thinks he takes the easy way out (like a giant basket of stuff from Bath and Body works). One year for Christmas he got her a bug guard for her pickup and she was livid. And if he asks what she wants she says nothing because "he ought to know." Screw that - I make a list and give it to him, he cannot read my mind and this way he has many items to choose from, from a $2 roll of vet wrap to items I'll never, ever get. :) And it makes it fun for both of us. My SIL I have decided would rather be a grinch. |
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 I Prefer to Live in Fantasy Land
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Location: In the Hills of Texas | We don't buy stuff for each other and we really don't do Christmas. I'm a Bah Hum Bug and really don't like this time of year at all. I can't wait for Jan. 2nd. |
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 I Don't Brag
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| WE gave up on the gift thing.....hubby sucked at it. He made Scrooge look like a Christmas Elf! Our anniversary is in late October and his bad mood would start weeks before that and get increasingly worse until Christmas. Then Christmas morning he was all sunshine and tinsel, Grrrrrrr!!!!
Any Christmas shopping done by him was done on Christmas Eve, enabled by his mother, when she was still alive. Many of any gift I received was purchased in a truck stop, TSC would have been a welcome step up. It took me awhile until I figured the pattern out. When I did I gave him a pass as all of this crap has made me dread Christmas and have become a bit Scroogy myself.
SO I have pretty much given him a pass on gift giving, exchanging it for a less stressed, less moody husband. Also appreciate the fact that I have pretty much anything I and all of my furbabies need. He never hesitated to tell me to go ahead with expensive, risky colic surgery on two different occasions (one turned out happy, the other not), I'll take that over Christmas, birthday and anniversary gifts any day! I have also asked him if he would be OK with me donating money to a critter or person in need, of which I have found a couple here on the board. THAT makes me happy, gifts not so much.
Last Christmas he wasn't too happy with me when I presented him with a wrapped gift Christmas morning. It was a huge collage of all of he and his pickup horses in action. Turned out really cool and he forgave me.....I think.....
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Location: Deep in the heart of Texas. | Don't feel bad this past year i was forgotten on our anniversary and didn't receive anything for my birthday and last Christmas his family bought him and my daughter something but i got for gotten about .
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