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Location: Southeast Louisiana | runs4fun - 2014-11-24 4:02 PM
It's absolutely none of your business.  Stay out of it.  Especially given that they are FB friends which means she is privy to the same info that you are and by "confronting" either of them you would be meddling where you've not been asked to nor have any right to.  "You were curious so you and looked at his FB....you didn't want to confront them" etc. etc.  What the heck? Who are you to check up on him, her or be concerned one way or the other except for the fact that you are being nosey and putting your nose in where it doesn't belong. I appreciate the fact that you may be concerned for your friend but I also wonder if maybe you don't have enough going on in your own life which might be the true cause of you being overly concerned about someone  else's???Â
I agree with this.
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Location: ND | Stay out of it....BUT I'd bet money that he simply forgot to change his status. I know lots of people who are in a relationship but their status says single, or they're single & it still says they're with someone....it's not everybody's top priority to change what they have on FB.
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Location: Louisiana | SaraJean - 2014-11-24 6:07 PM Stay out of it....BUT I'd bet money that he simply forgot to change his status. I know lots of people who are in a relationship but their status says single, or they're single & it still says they're with someone....it's not everybody's top priority to change what they have on FB.
Just saying... Both people have to aprove the status to be "in a relationship" on FB. So, if he just forgot, then so did the girl that it says he's in a relationship with. If the girl were to change hers, his would default to simply "in a relationship" without a name attached. When my fiance deactivated his FB account, my status still says engaged, but it doesn't say to whom.
That being said, I agree with everyone saying to stay out of it... Nothing good ever comes from FB stalking :)
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Location: Texas | runs4fun - 2014-11-24 4:02 PM It's absolutely none of your business. Stay out of it. Especially given that they are FB friends which means she is privy to the same info that you are and by "confronting" either of them you would be meddling where you've not been asked to nor have any right to. "You were curious so you and looked at his FB....you didn't want to confront them" etc. etc. What the heck? Who are you to check up on him, her or be concerned one way or the other except for the fact that you are being nosey and putting your nose in where it doesn't belong. I appreciate the fact that you may be concerned for your friend but I also wonder if maybe you don't have enough going on in your own life which might be the true cause of you being overly concerned about someone else's???
I really don't appreciate you using that tone on MY post when I was simply trying to decide what the right thing to do is. It's none of YOUR business how I know anyways. He is at my apartment every single night, I think I have the right to know what's going on or to be friends with him on facebook.
And I know they are still together, my only concern was that I know this girl is gonna be heartbroken and I think she will be embarrassed when she finds out, BUT I know it is not my place to say anything, I just felt bad for her. |
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Location: Somewhere between S@%&# stirrer and Saint | outrundaizy - 2014-11-24 2:29 PM So my roommate has a boyfriend or atleast that's what me and the other roommates thought(there's 4 of us). The boy is over everyday and night, they spend the night together almost every night, very affectionate in front of us aswell, not like they are trying to hide anything. I went to go see if they were "facebook official" because I was curious and if they weren't I didn't want to make it awkward bu confronting them. When I looked at his facebook he is in a relationship with another girl. Everyone here goes home on the weekend and I know they never go home together. So I am assuming that's when he see's this other girl? I really have no clue but now I just feel so bad for his girlfriend since he pretty much has 2 girlfriends. He's been with the other girl almost a year and my roommate about 2 months. I just have no clue if I should even think about getting involved or if I should confront someone? And then who do I confront?? I've never even been in a slightly similar situation so I have no clue what's right or wrong.
Don't do anything or he may file false Stalking charges against you! Hahahahahahah
Been there done that LOL
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Location: Loma Linda, CA | I know other people are saying stay out of it, but as someone who was blindsided by a cheating ex I appreciated when someone finally stepped up and told me about his cheating ways.
Seriously, had no idea. He was sneaky about it and met up with girls/women while I was at work, or he was at work and would meet them during his lunches. He used a google voice number and a separate email (not that I had access to his phone or computer anyways, but he covered all his bases).
I only found out about his methods later when he finally came clean in his weird attempt to get me back (he has issues with being alone or broken up with I guess lol).
Although, he now has a baby mama and is cheating on her. I won't tell her just because it really isn't my place and I doubt she'd believe me anyways. |
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Location: N Texas | TwistedK - 2014-11-24 2:34 PM
take a picture of him with your room mate making out and post it to his facebook
eta.... I'm kidding... I'd stay out of it.
I kind of like this idea...friend him on FB then tag him in a pic of them together with a caption that says "My roommate and her new boyfriend <3!" 
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Location: Arkansas | outrundaizy - 2014-11-24 10:15 PM runs4fun - 2014-11-24 4:02 PM It's absolutely none of your business. Stay out of it. Especially given that they are FB friends which means she is privy to the same info that you are and by "confronting" either of them you would be meddling where you've not been asked to nor have any right to. "You were curious so you and looked at his FB....you didn't want to confront them" etc. etc. What the heck? Who are you to check up on him, her or be concerned one way or the other except for the fact that you are being nosey and putting your nose in where it doesn't belong. I appreciate the fact that you may be concerned for your friend but I also wonder if maybe you don't have enough going on in your own life which might be the true cause of you being overly concerned about someone else's??? I really don't appreciate you using that tone on MY post when I was simply trying to decide what the right thing to do is. It's none of YOUR business how I know anyways. He is at my apartment every single night, I think I have the right to know what's going on or to be friends with him on facebook.
And I know they are still together, my only concern was that I know this girl is gonna be heartbroken and I think she will be embarrassed when she finds out, BUT I know it is not my place to say anything, I just felt bad for her.
If you don't like the tone, asking for advice ,then don't come on the internet looking for validation to meddle. |
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Location: Texas | I would leave it alone. if its out there on FB its out there on FB... she can see it herself.
If I was personally involved with someone who had a relationship status like that I would ask them about it as soon as I saw it..because I don't cheat. But, you never know what the deal is. Facebook is weird and causes problems.
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Location: Texas | Lobo - 2014-11-25 11:21 AM outrundaizy - 2014-11-24 10:15 PM runs4fun - 2014-11-24 4:02 PM It's absolutely none of your business. Stay out of it. Especially given that they are FB friends which means she is privy to the same info that you are and by "confronting" either of them you would be meddling where you've not been asked to nor have any right to. "You were curious so you and looked at his FB....you didn't want to confront them" etc. etc. What the heck? Who are you to check up on him, her or be concerned one way or the other except for the fact that you are being nosey and putting your nose in where it doesn't belong. I appreciate the fact that you may be concerned for your friend but I also wonder if maybe you don't have enough going on in your own life which might be the true cause of you being overly concerned about someone else's??? I really don't appreciate you using that tone on MY post when I was simply trying to decide what the right thing to do is. It's none of YOUR business how I know anyways. He is at my apartment every single night, I think I have the right to know what's going on or to be friends with him on facebook.
And I know they are still together, my only concern was that I know this girl is gonna be heartbroken and I think she will be embarrassed when she finds out, BUT I know it is not my place to say anything, I just felt bad for her.
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | Lobo - 2014-11-25 11:21 AM outrundaizy - 2014-11-24 10:15 PM runs4fun - 2014-11-24 4:02 PM It's absolutely none of your business. Stay out of it. Especially given that they are FB friends which means she is privy to the same info that you are and by "confronting" either of them you would be meddling where you've not been asked to nor have any right to. "You were curious so you and looked at his FB....you didn't want to confront them" etc. etc. What the heck? Who are you to check up on him, her or be concerned one way or the other except for the fact that you are being nosey and putting your nose in where it doesn't belong. I appreciate the fact that you may be concerned for your friend but I also wonder if maybe you don't have enough going on in your own life which might be the true cause of you being overly concerned about someone else's??? I really don't appreciate you using that tone on MY post when I was simply trying to decide what the right thing to do is. It's none of YOUR business how I know anyways. He is at my apartment every single night, I think I have the right to know what's going on or to be friends with him on facebook.
And I know they are still together, my only concern was that I know this girl is gonna be heartbroken and I think she will be embarrassed when she finds out, BUT I know it is not my place to say anything, I just felt bad for her.
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| outrundaizy - 2014-11-25 1:32 PM
Lobo - 2014-11-25 11:21 AM outrundaizy - 2014-11-24 10:15 PM runs4fun - 2014-11-24 4:02 PM It's absolutely none of your business.  Stay out of it.  Especially given that they are FB friends which means she is privy to the same info that you are and by "confronting" either of them you would be meddling where you've not been asked to nor have any right to.  "You were curious so you and looked at his FB....you didn't want to confront them" etc. etc.  What the heck? Who are you to check up on him, her or be concerned one way or the other except for the fact that you are being nosey and putting your nose in where it doesn't belong. I appreciate the fact that you may be concerned for your friend but I also wonder if maybe you don't have enough going on in your own life which might be the true cause of you being overly concerned about someone  else's??? I really don't appreciate you using that tone on MY post when I was simply trying to decide what the right thing to do is. It's none of YOUR business how I know anyways. He is at my apartment every single night, I think I have the right to know what's going on or to be friends with him on facebook. Â
And I know they are still together, my only concern was that I know this girl is gonna be heartbroken and I think she will be embarrassed when she finds out, BUT I know it is not my place to say anything, I just felt bad for her.
I am sticking up for outrundaizy on this one!
You can put your so called "opinion" out there without being rude. This post sounded extremely defensive-so much so I thought to myself, is this the friend posting and is upset? Opinions and tact can exist in the same post.
And I will be the the odd one out here. I would confront my roommate. Someone being a little offended wouldn't keep me from holding some accountability. If I pay rent and I have to live with this girl-it is my business. It can be done tactfully also. Say you are actually concerned for this girl and the girl he might be dating back home. Plus-my parents were divorced because of my dad's cheating. So many of my mom's friends knew and kept it hush hush because it wasn't any of there business. They cost my mom years of extra heartache. I also dated a cheater and his friends-that were "my" friends knew. Would have appreciated the heads up!
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Location: Texas | Blueridgedreaming - 2014-11-25 2:42 PM outrundaizy - 2014-11-25 1:32 PM Lobo - 2014-11-25 11:21 AM outrundaizy - 2014-11-24 10:15 PM runs4fun - 2014-11-24 4:02 PM It's absolutely none of your business. Stay out of it. Especially given that they are FB friends which means she is privy to the same info that you are and by "confronting" either of them you would be meddling where you've not been asked to nor have any right to. "You were curious so you and looked at his FB....you didn't want to confront them" etc. etc. What the heck? Who are you to check up on him, her or be concerned one way or the other except for the fact that you are being nosey and putting your nose in where it doesn't belong. I appreciate the fact that you may be concerned for your friend but I also wonder if maybe you don't have enough going on in your own life which might be the true cause of you being overly concerned about someone else's??? I really don't appreciate you using that tone on MY post when I was simply trying to decide what the right thing to do is. It's none of YOUR business how I know anyways. He is at my apartment every single night, I think I have the right to know what's going on or to be friends with him on facebook.
And I know they are still together, my only concern was that I know this girl is gonna be heartbroken and I think she will be embarrassed when she finds out, BUT I know it is not my place to say anything, I just felt bad for her. I am sticking up for outrundaizy on this one! You can put your so called "opinion" out there without being rude. This post sounded extremely defensive-so much so I thought to myself, is this the friend posting and is upset? Opinions and tact can exist in the same post. And I will be the the odd one out here. I would confront my roommate. Someone being a little offended wouldn't keep me from holding some accountability. If I pay rent and I have to live with this girl-it is my business. It can be done tactfully also. Say you are actually concerned for this girl and the girl he might be dating back home. Plus-my parents were divorced because of my dad's cheating. So many of my mom's friends knew and kept it hush hush because it wasn't any of there business. They cost my mom years of extra heartache. I also dated a cheater and his friends-that were "my" friends knew. Would have appreciated the heads up!
Thank you... I have NO problem what so ever with people expressing your opinions, but if you cannot do it without being rude then don't press submit. There is a big difference between being rude and having a difference of opinions.
And thank you for sharing your story.. I still don't think I will say anything. I may ask my roommate if they are "official"(roommate & boy) that way she isn't heartbroken aswell. Unless I'm confronted first I think I will just keep on keepin' on. |
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| runs4fun - 2014-11-24 3:02 PM
It's absolutely none of your business.  Stay out of it.  Especially given that they are FB friends which means she is privy to the same info that you are and by "confronting" either of them you would be meddling where you've not been asked to nor have any right to.  "You were curious so you and looked at his FB....you didn't want to confront them" etc. etc.  What the heck? Who are you to check up on him, her or be concerned one way or the other except for the fact that you are being nosey and putting your nose in where it doesn't belong. I appreciate the fact that you may be concerned for your friend but I also wonder if maybe you don't have enough going on in your own life which might be the true cause of you being overly concerned about someone  else's???Â
Not gona lie, id totaly creep this guys FB if I was the OP (meaning this man i dont really know was spending a ton of time and over nights in MY house) |
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