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Location: ohio-in my own little world with pretty ponies :) | I grew up with my dad dipping so it didn't bother me when I met my boyfriend who also dips. I wish he would quit for his health but it wouldn't be a deal breaker for me. Smoking would be though...I can't stand smoking. |
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Location: Where the pavement ends and the West begins Utah | If he chews long enough the chances of getting lip cancer is very good and it also stretches the lip to give him the ugly bulge. Hope he dont swallow as it also hardens the arteries. Seen it happen
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| My husband does, honistly dont care. He does not have spit cups or anything lying around. He flushes it down the toilet when he's done, i never see it in his teeth never taste it ever.
Acatualy the only reason i know he does it is i throw empty cans away as he still like a 12 year old little boy hides them in his shirt drawer ... i dont get that habit i guess lol
Its not cheep around here, but neither are my horses ha! Everybody's got a guilty pleasure thats his. |
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| My fiance used to chew before I met him. Thank god he quit because it would be a deal breaker for me. Disgusting habit, number one and number two, what if I end up wanting to spend my life with him and he develops mouth cancer? Nooo thank you. |
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Location: on my horse | I guess I'm either not very picky or not very health conscious lol I dated a chewer for a long time lived with him for almost a year before we dated (just good friends) shared drinks etc. and it never bothered me, he wasn't exactly a "clean" chewer either you definitely knew when he had his lip packed but I figured that sharing a drink and occasionally swallowing a "chunk" probably wouldn't kill me and he was a great guy. We're still good friends actually  |
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Location: home for the winter...what a dumb idea | Huge deal breaker for me....my dad chews and it is gross......could never date or marry a guy that chewed....my SO started chewing that beaver mint chew crap when he was up all night plowing snow....just as bad ...only up side was he never had bad breath.... |
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Location: North of the 49th Parallel | I'm pretty sure close to every guy I've dated has chewed. Doesn't bother me at all. One of my ex's did smoke some and that bothered me a little bit but he never smelled like smoke so I never said anything. |
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| Hubby was a 2 pack a day smoker when I met him. He gave away his last cigarette and quit cold turkey sometime before we got married. I never asked him to and he didn't tell me until years later that he quit mostly because he knew that I didn't care for it. At the time he said it had become too much of a habit. He continued to dip which didn't bother me as much as long as he cleaned his own spittoons. He didn't so spit in to a paper cup (lined with Kleenex or napkin to prevent spillage) or pop bottle. I second the warning to make sure you know which bottle or can of soda is yours! NOTHING is grosser than taking a swig spit! (makes me gag as I type).
Mostly he would dip while driving (an OTR truck driver) or while outside working. He maybe used a can a week and would end up throwing out half of that because it dried out. Kissing him was never an issue if you don't try a soul kiss when he has a dip in!
I never asked him to quit either habit. I worried about his health but figured it was HIS call. He has since quit dipping (about a year ago) as he was getting heartburn and dipping wasn't worth the discomfort.
As bad habits go, it is one I can live with as long as he is clean about it. |
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Location: Kentucky | My husband chewed for 16 years. He chewed when we first met. He finally quit after his Dad (who also chewed) got throat cancer. He has been tobacco free for 4 years. He wants to start back up again because he gained quite a bit of weight when he stopped, but after he quit, there is no going back. I love the life of no spit bottles in my house and car! Plus he smells better. I swear that tobacco smell oozed from his pores, it was disgusting. |
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Location: Phoenix | My boyfriend chews and smokes--But in moderation. He usually chews while playing his video games late at night and he's very good about brushing his teeth before he kisses me and he hides his chew containers. He only smokes 1-2 cigarettes a day, sometimes not at all. It's a habit he picked up when he started working his computer engineer job--everyone takes a smoke break. Again, he brushes his teeth and smokes outside so I never smell it. I always said I'd never date a smoker but it doesn't bother me anymore.
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Location: Alberta | My husband chews, but he knows not to try and kiss unless his mouth is empty....the spit bottles are the grossest and he gets crap for them if he leaves them around......the cost up here of a tin is $26 YES that's beyond stupid!!!! |
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Location: Oregon | Well he said he hasn't smoked in about a week now and I didn't tell him to stop. I just said smoking is a def deal breaker and I can't be around it anyways because it bothers my asthma and it's nasty smelling! He actually told me today that he stood by a guy at work that was smoking and said he had to walk away cuz the guy reeked of smoke and he could smell it now, how nasty it was. I said its your choice but I can't do a smoker. The chew he knows would probably bother me and again I told him its your life and up to you, only you can make a decision. I said guys won't change unless HE wants too. He said well I want to pursue a relationship hopefully with you so I stopped smoking and working on keeping them away but chewing will be hard as I've done it for years...(since he was 12).
I just don't know cuz like I said never been around one or dated one....
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Location: Kansas | Visions of brown spit dribbling down the ole chin.
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Location: Illinois | My husband chews. He has done it since he played baseball in high school. He quit when we got together because I told him if I was going to quit smoking he was going to quit chewing. Over the years we have both gone back and forth. It doesn't really bother me that he chews except for the health part. I don't ever notice it in his teeth or anything. He mainly does it driving to and from work. |
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Location: Kansas | It never has bothered me.....unless they leave their spit bottles all over the place. And i also think it's nasty when it gets in their teeth...I will not kiss someone who has chew in their teeth LOL! |
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Location: Cap'n Joan Rotgut.....alberta | my so chews, has for years and its not my place to tell him to stop....... he doesn't spit so no bottles laying around.....................to each his or her own.................
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Location: Texas | I think it's best to have an opinion about it before dating. That way you don't go into it thinking they'll change for you.
Chewing and smoking were deal breakers for me. I picked up enough spit cups from my roommate's friends to make me say "Heck no" to dating someone who did it. Not only that, when those cups spilled, etc., OMG talk about gross.
We have friends who do and are discreet about it. But it was a deal breaker for me. That was one of the first things I found out about my hubby when we were dating. Since I knew how I felt, I could move on before feelings were involved. |
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| ~BINGO~ - 2014-12-21 2:00 AM
My hubbs chews.... So do I. My teeth are clean, white and all in tact. Never had a cavity. Never lost a tooth. Never let it sit in my teeth. But yes, I chew. Gross? Ya. Unhealthy. Yep. But you would never know I chewed. So judge me.
I dip the pouches. A friend gave me one about 4 years ago and I have done it off and on since now. Most people don't realize I dip and I am ok with that. I usually do it when I am driving home from work. Its an hour drive one way for me. My husband was a smoker. We married in april of 13. He promised me he would stop. After 39 years I knew it would be difficult for him. In February of this year I bought him an E-cig and he hasn't smoked a real cigarette since then. I am SO proud of him. He says some days the urge to smoke is bad but he likes being able to smell and taste things now. |
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Location: MD | trying to change him before you all are even dating, regardless if it's for his health or not, is a terrible idea. obviously you don't like him THAT much that you're letting the fact that he dips interfere with him as an individual. get over that issue or move on. That's not a great foundation for your relationship IMO |
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Location: SE Louisiana | Jazz's Girl - 2014-12-22 10:13 AM
~BINGO~ - 2014-12-21 2:00 AM
My hubbs chews.... So do I. My teeth are clean, white and all in tact. Never had a cavity. Never lost a tooth. Never let it sit in my teeth. But yes, I chew. Gross? Ya. Unhealthy. Yep. But you would never know I chewed. So judge me.
I dip the pouches. A friend gave me one about 4 years ago and I have done it off and on since now. Most people don't realize I dip and I am ok with that. I usually do it when I am driving home from work. Its an hour drive one way for me. My husband was a smoker. We married in april of 13. He promised me he would stop. After 39 years I knew it would be difficult for him. In February of this year I bought him an E-cig and he hasn't smoked a real cigarette since then. I am SO proud of him. He says some days the urge to smoke is bad but he likes being able to smell and taste things now.
I've tried the Snus before. I've been thinking about switching to those to get away from smoking. They work well to kill the urge to light up. |
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