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| Agree with trying to find jeans that fit well and don't sit too low. Ebay is great for finding the older style jeans. I'm trying to sell a 15 1/2 inch saddle and realized it might be much harder to sell because far more want the smaller sizes than the larger ones, I never thought it might be an issue. Well past menopause, older and more arthritic make it a lot harder to lose weight, especially when you've tended towards being heavier all your life. I don't find it effecting my riding what so ever, balance and skill is still the same; however, my horse might think differently. I don't obsess over it though, there is too much to life to enjoy without worrying about it. |
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Location: the high desert | I quit riding all together because I felt I was to heavy to ride. Now that I have lost a good amount of weight I'm starting to ride again but I will not go ride out in public. Horse people are so incredibly rude and all they look at is your size. They don't even care that your horse is more than equipped for you and that you and the tack are under the 20% "rule", no no your fat so you must be to heavy for your horse and you are a horrible person. So I don't know when I will ever ride around the public as I still have a good amount of weight to loose. I really want to start taking my mare to time onlys but I won't be doing that any time soon. |
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Location: East Tennessee but who knows?! | Iwish - 2015-01-31 10:36 AM I quit riding all together because I felt I was to heavy to ride. Now that I have lost a good amount of weight I'm starting to ride again but I will not go ride out in public. Horse people are so incredibly rude and all they look at is your size. They don't even care that your horse is more than equipped for you and that you and the tack are under the 20% "rule", no no your fat so you must be to heavy for your horse and you are a horrible person. So I don't know when I will ever ride around the public as I still have a good amount of weight to loose. I really want to start taking my mare to time onlys but I won't be doing that any time soon.
And that is EXACTLY why I'm doing this.
Everyone that's interested in giving me feedback, input, doing an interview please do. This is not something that's limited to just a few people -- I'll take as much input and as many interviews as I can get.
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Location: East Tennessee but who knows?! | 4Horse - 2015-01-31 10:28 AM Agree with trying to find jeans that fit well and don't sit too low. Ebay is great for finding the older style jeans. I'm trying to sell a 15 1/2 inch saddle and realized it might be much harder to sell because far more want the smaller sizes than the larger ones, I never thought it might be an issue. Well past menopause, older and more arthritic make it a lot harder to lose weight, especially when you've tended towards being heavier all your life. I don't find it effecting my riding what so ever, balance and skill is still the same; however, my horse might think differently. I don't obsess over it though, there is too much to life to enjoy without worrying about it.
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Location: East Tennessee but who knows?! | oija - 2015-01-31 9:21 AM I too am plus size according to that definition, though I'm actually less plus size as I've dropped from a 16/18 in the last year to a 12/14. Sounds like you have plenty of people answering questions which is great. I'm interested to see the article. Just to add, you might also try a poll just to give you some survey numbers to add a little more interesting stuff to your article. :)
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Location: Montana | The smallest I have been is 12/14 and the largest I have been is 19/20. On my mare I know I am hindering her somewhat with my weight. She is a 2D horse with some that's lighter than 200 lbs. I have to say and not being conseded I have noticed, that the girls that are looking down at me are the ones me and my girl are out running. We have moved up from the 4d into the middle of the 3d and every time we run we improve no matter what my weight is. I would personally love to see a heavier girl 200+ to make it to the NFR and kick butt. |
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Location: WV | Rolling J - 2015-01-30 1:07 PM
I have to say, I have almost stopped riding all together and my weight is a HUGE factor in it all. I feel so off balance on a horse anymore and my reflexs are awful. I only wish I was a size 12 but I also felt VERY comfortable riding at that size and was my size for many, many years. It has been the last two years that I have really put on the weight and I am the heaviest I have ever been. I have lost almost all my confience.
I acknowledge that I am at a crossroads with horses. I want/need to buy a new horse this spring but I have to start with my weight first. I don't want to ever judge what weight someone feels comfortful with but I know first hand how much weight affects one's skills. That is me in the avatar in 2007- size 12- LOVED, LOVED riding then! would have NEVER of thought at that time, I would be thinking about walking away (ok now that I am tearing up...)
I did join a gym yesterday with FRIENDS to help keep me motived so I hope I can come back on here by summer with some postive news :)
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Location: WV | Iwish - 2015-01-31 11:36 AM
I quit riding all together because I felt I was to heavy to ride. Now that I have lost a good amount of weight I'm starting to ride again but I will not go ride out in public. Horse people are so incredibly rude and all they look at is your size. They don't even care that your horse is more than equipped for you and that you and the tack are under the 20% "rule", no no your fat so you must be to heavy for your horse and you are a horrible person. So I don't know when I will ever ride around the public as I still have a good amount of weight to loose. I really want to start taking my mare to time onlys but I won't be doing that any time soon.
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Location: on my horse | My butt has grown quite a few sizes in the last few years but I don't know if I'm plus sized or not, depends on the jeans but I still feel like I can ride well enough.
What I want to say is all of you women who feel criticized or judged or ashamed or embarrassed to ride in public because you feel too big or people make comments or look down on you... TELL THEM ALL TO GO TO HELL it hurts my heart to read your posts about missing out on things because you feel this way. If you can, get up to them and tell them what you really think about them and go out and enjoy your horse! I wish I lived closer to some of you because I would tell them to go to hell for you if I could.  tell them to kiss off 
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| Here in E TX, we are one big happy family. We all try to get along. There are several gals that run that are queen sized that you better watch because they WILL take that 1D money home. I guess we are all so happy to have a barrel race to go to that we are just paying attention to what we are doing instead of worrying about what someone looks like or how they ride. We usually have at least 4 barrel races a week that are less than 60 miles away. Usually there are the same fat riders and skinny riders there every time. People who run down others have very low self esteem and that is how they feel better about themselves. That includes rudeness.
I might add that when I was at a clinc at Joseys I told my trainer that all the chubby gals had on their trophy buckles and this fat gal was gonna wear hers.
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| Is it much of an issue with heavier men that ride? Plenty of professional Cowboys are on the heavier side, they're out there competing, do they get shamed? I doubt it. Why are women always held to higher beauty standards? |
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| Iwish - 2015-01-31 10:36 AM
I quit riding all together because I felt I was to heavy to ride. Now that I have lost a good amount of weight I'm starting to ride again but I will not go ride out in public. Horse people are so incredibly rude and all they look at is your size. They don't even care that your horse is more than equipped for you and that you and the tack are under the 20% "rule", no no your fat so you must be to heavy for your horse and you are a horrible person. So I don't know when I will ever ride around the public as I still have a good amount of weight to loose. I really want to start taking my mare to time onlys but I won't be doing that any time soon.
I am quoting you as this is the last one I read that pertains to my question/statement
Where I love and barrel race, I have never seen or heard of someone being talked badly about or criticized about their weight, to their face or behind their back.
I do hear a lot of people criticizing their self their weight, their balance, their run, as female we are our own worst critique.
So my questions are
do these people actually criticize your weight to your face
Are you hearing the info second hand
Are you noticing glances/stares (the possibility is they could be looking at the horse, the tack, etc)
Have you heard nothing of the sort but in your mind they are talking about you all the time?
No one has to answer, but reflect back to your experiences and answer these questions to yourself.
Also if this is only happening at play days, maybe a change of venue/event is in order to break the cycle.
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| i see a lot of FAT GUT OVERHANG Football players.
but if you want to lose u can it is hard though unless steriod lyrica things like that.
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Location: NC | I could care less what others think of me. I only want to lose weight to ease the burden on my steed. Not to fit someone's idea of what I should be.
I was a 7. Then i had my first kid. Went up to around 10. Then I was a 12 when I had been out of the Marines for awhile. Ballooned up to 16 after my second and the day we brought her home I found out my mom had stage 4 Cancer. Few months later I lost my Pap. Then a few months after that I lost my mom. So weight loss has been the last thing on my mind. Depression can make you want to do nothing but sit in the house and lay around. I've tried to get motivated to get out and ride. I haven't been riding long and I run in the 7D but that's ok. I enjoy it. I have a good time. I get frustrated and disappointed but that's part of the game.
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Location: In the Hills of Texas | When I quit smoking I gained a lot of weight and I went and bought a bigger horse. I have found age with extra weight is the killer..LOL |
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Location: In my own world | I'm a size 18. Want to cry every time I see video of myself. But I am working on it. Send me a pm! |
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Location: NC | Anyone up for a double chin action shot club? LOL I'm not even super mega huge but I always have the ugliest faces in my action shots. It's like I'm destined to be hideous. LOL |
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| I am a size 12. I have never been discriminated against for my size, although one of my students one day poked my stomach and asked if I was pregnant!!!!!!! LOL
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Location: Dubach, LA | hlynn - 2015-01-31 6:06 PM Anyone up for a double chin action shot club? LOL I'm not even super mega huge but I always have the ugliest faces in my action shots. It's like I'm destined to be hideous. LOL
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Location: OH. IO | redmansmyman11 - 2015-01-31 1:01 PM
My butt has grown quite a few sizes in the last few years but I don't know if I'm plus sized or not, depends on the jeans but I still feel like I can ride well enough.
What I want to say is all of you women who feel criticized or judged or ashamed or embarrassed to ride in public because you feel too big or people make comments or look down on you... TELL THEM ALL TO GO TO HELL it hurts my heart to read your posts about missing out on things because you feel this way. If you can, get up to them and tell them what you really think about them and go out and enjoy your horse! I wish I lived closer to some of you because I would tell them to go to hell for you if I could. tell them to kiss off
Two thumbs up!!! This sounds like something Laramie would say to people...I laughed out loud and thought of her too.Shes giving you a thumbs up from Heaven. |
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