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Location: Texas | an ex boyfriend told me that. and no i wasn't brave enough to break up with him, he broke up with me, but i was smart enough to not take him back.
I was also told "lots of kids want to be baseball players when they grow up" in reference to me wanting to haul harder on the pro circuit. and he wonders why i didnt take him back. |
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| casualdust07 - 2015-03-19 10:53 PMan ex boyfriend told me that. and no i wasn't brave enough to break up with him, he broke up with me, but i was smart enough to not take him back.I was also told "lots of kids want to be baseball players when they grow up" in reference to me wanting to haul harder on the pro circuit. and he wonders why i didnt take him back. I really don't get it. What is the "more adult" hobby of choice nowadays? I get looks and snarky remarks for my interest in geeky things (horses rarely). What do people do that is so much more grown up? If I like it, am a functional member of society, and am not hurting you, why do you feel the need to put my hobby down? I've seen that type of behavior on this site too.
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | When I was looking for a new farrier after I moved up here to Seguin from the Valley, I was using this older guy that took forever to shoe just one horse, he keep telling me I was a little long in the tooth to be barrel racing, EXCUSE ME I wanted to punch him but I didnt and I was only 44 at the time, used him one more time till I found the farrier I now have that I have been using the last 10 years. |
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Location: Texas | Just Plain Lucky - 2015-03-19 10:02 PM
casualdust07 - 2015-03-19 10:53 PMan ex boyfriend told me that. and no i wasn't brave enough to break up with him, he broke up with me, but i was smart enough to not take him back.I was also told "lots of kids want to be baseball players when they grow up" in reference to me wanting to haul harder on the pro circuit. and he wonders why i didnt take him back. I really don't get it. What is the "more adult" hobby of choice nowadays? I get looks and snarky remarks for my interest in geeky things (horses rarely). What do people do that is so much more grown up? If I like it, am a functional member of society, and am not hurting you, why do you feel the need to put my hobby down? I've seen that type of behavior on this site too.
he sure changed his tune and tried to say he was supportive of the barrel racing and horses and would never ask me to quit.. and that he encouraged me to get to run as much as i can with school. I call a big old BS on that one.. Does he think I'm a moron?? How about the time he said "if you want to haul across the country this summer trying to make the NFR I won't be here waiting for you" why did I stay with him for two years after that? good lord have mercy. Everyone says they want to make the NFR and then real life happens and most of us never get to realize that dream. Had he just encouraged it, it would have passed on it's own because of my circumstances with school... but no, just crush them while you're at it. |
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| casualdust07 - 2015-03-19 11:24 PM Just Plain Lucky - 2015-03-19 10:02 PM casualdust07 - 2015-03-19 10:53 PMan ex boyfriend told me that. and no i wasn't brave enough to break up with him, he broke up with me, but i was smart enough to not take him back.I was also told "lots of kids want to be baseball players when they grow up" in reference to me wanting to haul harder on the pro circuit. and he wonders why i didnt take him back. I really don't get it. What is the "more adult" hobby of choice nowadays? I get looks and snarky remarks for my interest in geeky things (horses rarely). What do people do that is so much more grown up? If I like it, am a functional member of society, and am not hurting you, why do you feel the need to put my hobby down? I've seen that type of behavior on this site too. he sure changed his tune and tried to say he was supportive of the barrel racing and horses and would never ask me to quit.. and that he encouraged me to get to run as much as i can with school. I call a big old BS on that one.. Does he think I'm a moron?? How about the time he said "if you want to haul across the country this summer trying to make the NFR I won't be here waiting for you" why did I stay with him for two years after that? good lord have mercy. Everyone says they want to make the NFR and then real life happens and most of us never get to realize that dream. Had he just encouraged it, it would have passed on it's own because of my circumstances with school... but no, just crush them while you're at it.
That's awful. I hope that you don't still allow his negativity to affect you, because you've got the talent (both as a rider and in horseflesh) to prove his dumb ass wrong. |
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Location: North Dakota | Oh man this gets me fired up. I will NEVER give up horses. The idea that riding is only for little girls is effing BS. Nobody will come between me and the horses and if they try to they will be removed from my life. I spent a year without horses before and was moody, grumpy, emotionally unstable, and just downright hated life. I need horses like I need food and water. They are a part of me like my heart and my blood. They are not a pleasant hobby to be picked up as we please, they are a lifestyle and an addiction that a blessed few of us are born into. They are what make life worth living. I don't expect everyone to understand that, but I demand that they respect that. The people that can't accept that are probably jealous because they don't have such a strong passion. Quite frankly, I pity those people.
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| Southtxponygirl - 2015-03-19 10:05 PM
When I was looking for a new farrier after I moved up here to Seguin from the Valley, I was using this older guy that took forever to shoe just one horse, he keep telling me I was a little long in the tooth to be barrel racing, EXCUSE ME I wanted to punch him but I didnt and I was only 44 at the time, used him one more time till I found the farrier I now have that I have been using the last 10 years.
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Location: oklahoma | pinx05 - 2015-03-19 10:50 AM Just say "Oh I'm sorry I didn't hear you... I was busy minding my own business." lol
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| I'm so glad to know that I'm not the only one that has to put up with this stuff!!
I don't have big dreams of becoming a champion I gave that up long ago... Now I just go to have fun and run a couple jackpots a month! that's it! and even if I did get out of barrel racing... There is no way you could get rid of my horses... I would the most hateful person around for sure!!!
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Location: Oklahoma & Texas | I'm glad I'm not the only one who hears stuff like this.. I'm 36 and while not a spring chicken anymore definitely not past the point of doing what I love... my husband is not a horse person and he has learned not to make the comments lol.. considering we breed and raise barrel horses and I am also running barrels more and more again.. I had a period of time where I lessened up the amt of time i was devoting to the horses - I focused on my career and work and being a wife.. but now it has come full circle and I have the money and the time to do what I love and nothing is getting in my way. While its true - that without the horses i'd certainly have a lot more money in my savings account - i dont see how that is comparable to living my dreams.. Would i rather die with a full bank account or a full life.. I look at people who are not involved with horses, or not involved w/any real hobby or passion - and i wonder how boring it must be to go to work every day and go home and watch tv and thats it.. Working with horses has so many benefits - physically it keeps you in shape and out moving around, it gives you goals and things to work towards, it gives you stress relief and peace.. it can be a tough sport - barrel racing - we all know the up's and down's of it - but the time spent getting to that barrel race with all the preparation and training and the time spent there with your friends is never time wasted. I say barrel race until you can't anymore.. until phyiscally you can't sit on a horse (i'm thinking like 95 lol) .. at that point im going to get a cart and learn to drive one lol.. |
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Location: Texas | Just Plain Lucky - 2015-03-19 10:34 PM
casualdust07 - 2015-03-19 11:24 PM Just Plain Lucky - 2015-03-19 10:02 PM casualdust07 - 2015-03-19 10:53 PMan ex boyfriend told me that. and no i wasn't brave enough to break up with him, he broke up with me, but i was smart enough to not take him back.I was also told "lots of kids want to be baseball players when they grow up" in reference to me wanting to haul harder on the pro circuit. and he wonders why i didnt take him back. I really don't get it. What is the "more adult" hobby of choice nowadays? I get looks and snarky remarks for my interest in geeky things (horses rarely). What do people do that is so much more grown up? If I like it, am a functional member of society, and am not hurting you, why do you feel the need to put my hobby down? I've seen that type of behavior on this site too. he sure changed his tune and tried to say he was supportive of the barrel racing and horses and would never ask me to quit.. and that he encouraged me to get to run as much as i can with school. I call a big old BS on that one.. Does he think I'm a moron?? How about the time he said "if you want to haul across the country this summer trying to make the NFR I won't be here waiting for you" why did I stay with him for two years after that? good lord have mercy. Everyone says they want to make the NFR and then real life happens and most of us never get to realize that dream. Had he just encouraged it, it would have passed on it's own because of my circumstances with school... but no, just crush them while you're at it.
I don't.. I'm just really hesitant to meet anybody else in fear they might do the same thing.. It's hard to explain to someone you have this huge part of your life and horses and financial burden LOL. How do you explain, if you marry me, you get at least 4 horses and all that goes with it... haha.
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Location: Back in MT BABY!!! | casualdust07 - 2015-03-20 8:30 AM Just Plain Lucky - 2015-03-19 10:34 PM casualdust07 - 2015-03-19 11:24 PM Just Plain Lucky - 2015-03-19 10:02 PM casualdust07 - 2015-03-19 10:53 PMan ex boyfriend told me that. and no i wasn't brave enough to break up with him, he broke up with me, but i was smart enough to not take him back.I was also told "lots of kids want to be baseball players when they grow up" in reference to me wanting to haul harder on the pro circuit. and he wonders why i didnt take him back. I really don't get it. What is the "more adult" hobby of choice nowadays? I get looks and snarky remarks for my interest in geeky things (horses rarely). What do people do that is so much more grown up? If I like it, am a functional member of society, and am not hurting you, why do you feel the need to put my hobby down? I've seen that type of behavior on this site too. he sure changed his tune and tried to say he was supportive of the barrel racing and horses and would never ask me to quit.. and that he encouraged me to get to run as much as i can with school. I call a big old BS on that one.. Does he think I'm a moron?? How about the time he said "if you want to haul across the country this summer trying to make the NFR I won't be here waiting for you" why did I stay with him for two years after that? good lord have mercy. Everyone says they want to make the NFR and then real life happens and most of us never get to realize that dream. Had he just encouraged it, it would have passed on it's own because of my circumstances with school... but no, just crush them while you're at it. I don't.. I'm just really hesitant to meet anybody else in fear they might do the same thing.. It's hard to explain to someone you have this huge part of your life and horses and financial burden LOL. How do you explain, if you marry me, you get at least 4 horses and all that goes with it... haha. So I may just enjoy being alone for a while!!
Everyone comes with baggage...your baggage just has 4 legs :)
You come with far less baggage then I do I have 10 head that I'm riding/training etc. As long as I am able to ride and financially support my horses I have no plans on giving them up. I work so I can enjoy what I do if it ever gets to the point where I can't enjoy my horses I won't be keeping the job that I have...it's WAY to high stress! |
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Location: Montana | Some of my family (namely my now 93 yr old grandmother) have told me that I need to give up the horses and start having kids because m not getting any younger! I told her well right now my horses are my kids, I have to feed them and clean up after them, deal with their tantrums, and I still receive unconditional love. Hubby knows how much horses mean to me, he asked me the other day to take a year off and breed my mare and have a kid ourselves. He knows how much I want a baby out of her. Now we just have to figure out who we are going to breed to next year. :-) |
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| casualdust07 - 2015-03-20 10:30 AM Just Plain Lucky - 2015-03-19 10:34 PM casualdust07 - 2015-03-19 11:24 PM Just Plain Lucky - 2015-03-19 10:02 PM casualdust07 - 2015-03-19 10:53 PMan ex boyfriend told me that. and no i wasn't brave enough to break up with him, he broke up with me, but i was smart enough to not take him back.I was also told "lots of kids want to be baseball players when they grow up" in reference to me wanting to haul harder on the pro circuit. and he wonders why i didnt take him back. I really don't get it. What is the "more adult" hobby of choice nowadays? I get looks and snarky remarks for my interest in geeky things (horses rarely). What do people do that is so much more grown up? If I like it, am a functional member of society, and am not hurting you, why do you feel the need to put my hobby down? I've seen that type of behavior on this site too. he sure changed his tune and tried to say he was supportive of the barrel racing and horses and would never ask me to quit.. and that he encouraged me to get to run as much as i can with school. I call a big old BS on that one.. Does he think I'm a moron?? How about the time he said "if you want to haul across the country this summer trying to make the NFR I won't be here waiting for you" why did I stay with him for two years after that? good lord have mercy. Everyone says they want to make the NFR and then real life happens and most of us never get to realize that dream. Had he just encouraged it, it would have passed on it's own because of my circumstances with school... but no, just crush them while you're at it. I don't.. I'm just really hesitant to meet anybody else in fear they might do the same thing.. It's hard to explain to someone you have this huge part of your life and horses and financial burden LOL. How do you explain, if you marry me, you get at least 4 horses and all that goes with it... haha. So I may just enjoy being alone for a while!!
I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I have never been in a relationship, and honestly don't plan to be in one for some time. I've had a few "almosts" and "maybes", but they took themselves out of the running when they were dismissive of my interests (among other things). Strangely, that dismissiveness is a reoccurring theme.
I think it's perfectly find to have different hobbies; that's life. I would not, however, ever call my SO's hobby "stupid, childish, or meaningless" no matter what it happened to be. If it makes him happy and he's still a functioning member of society, I don't have a problem with it. We all deal with the stress of day-to-day life - what's the point of being rude to eachother when we all find different ways to blow off steam?
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Location: Texas | There's a few husband and wife teams at the barrel races I really look up to. I can find that someday I'm sure! maybe, ha.
Add on top of that I'll be a vet with horrible hours...
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| casualdust07 - 2015-03-20 11:24 AM There's a few husband and wife teams at the barrel races I really look up to. I can find that someday I'm sure! maybe, ha. Add on top of that I'll be a vet with horrible hours... independent woman problems!
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Location: In the Hills of Texas | I had someone tell me they thought I was too old to Barrel Race and this is where my user name came from. Never Too Old.
The kicker, I was competitive back then..LOL
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Location: where ever my L/Q trl is parked | I'll be 65 this year...I finally gave up barrels in January... I had a great mare, but 2 reason I quit...
one- I got tired of donating, even though we both tried very hard
second- I became afraid of the speed...I would freeze up sometimes and when we finished the run I would cry cause I was so scared running. I decided it was not fair to my mare and to me. And it wasn't worth the stress before the run. Stress one of the main causes of cancer!
I remember when I was in my early 40's watching other ladies much older than me barely loping thru the pattern cause they were afraid, even though they wouldn't admit it. I would think I hope that would never happen to me- well it did. I believe it's a mental thing and I tried very hard to get by it. I know this doesn't happen to every one but..... guess it wasn't in my blood like some.
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