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| I'm really not angry.. I'm really worried about the cost and sick over the damage. The mare is notorious for being a dink at the trailer but she's never gone so far as to kick the crap out of it. I know my friend feels bad. We are texting about it but theres been no offer to help pay... Guess its just another lesson learned and there will be no more tying at my trailer. |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | MNcanchaser7 - 2015-04-04 1:55 PM I'm really not angry.. I'm really worried about the cost and sick over the damage. The mare is notorious for being a dink at the trailer but she's never gone so far as to kick the crap out of it. I know my friend feels bad. We are texting about it but theres been no offer to help pay... Guess its just another lesson learned and there will be no more tying at my trailer.
Did you haul her horse are did she just tie at your trailer? My friends horse was a booger on the inside but pretty good once he was tied out.
Yept I would tell her to tie somewhere else too, when my trailer got all banged up I was sick about it, but horses will be horses.  |
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | IMO, I would not consider her much of a friend if she didn't offer to help pay for it..........and she would be walking to the next barrel race because I would NEVER haul that horse again. |
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| Southtxponygirl - 2015-04-04 2:02 PM
MNcanchaser7 - 2015-04-04 1:55 PM I'm really not angry.. I'm really worried about the cost and sick over the damage. The mare is notorious for being a dink at the trailer but she's never gone so far as to kick the crap out of it. I know my friend feels bad. We are texting about it but theres been no offer to help pay... Guess its just another lesson learned and there will be no more tying at my trailer.
Did you haul her horse are did she just tie at your trailer? My friends horse was a booger on the inside but pretty good once he was tied out.
Yept I would tell her to tie somewhere else too, when my trailer got all banged up I was sick about it, but horses will be horses.
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | MNcanchaser7 - 2015-04-04 2:20 PM Southtxponygirl - 2015-04-04 2:02 PM MNcanchaser7 - 2015-04-04 1:55 PM I'm really not angry.. I'm really worried about the cost and sick over the damage. The mare is notorious for being a dink at the trailer but she's never gone so far as to kick the crap out of it. I know my friend feels bad. We are texting about it but theres been no offer to help pay... Guess its just another lesson learned and there will be no more tying at my trailer. Did you haul her horse are did she just tie at your trailer? My friends horse was a booger on the inside but pretty good once he was tied out.
Yept I would tell her to tie somewhere else too, when my trailer got all banged up I was sick about it, but horses will be horses. I hauled her
Yept I dont think I would be hauling this horse anymore either.  |
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| Southtxponygirl - 2015-04-04 2:26 PM
MNcanchaser7 - 2015-04-04 2:20 PM Southtxponygirl - 2015-04-04 2:02 PM MNcanchaser7 - 2015-04-04 1:55 PM I'm really not angry.. I'm really worried about the cost and sick over the damage. The mare is notorious for being a dink at the trailer but she's never gone so far as to kick the crap out of it. I know my friend feels bad. We are texting about it but theres been no offer to help pay... Guess its just another lesson learned and there will be no more tying at my trailer. Did you haul her horse are did she just tie at your trailer? My friends horse was a booger on the inside but pretty good once he was tied out.
Yept I would tell her to tie somewhere else too, when my trailer got all banged up I was sick about it, but horses will be horses. I hauled her
Thanks for the I've dreamt of this trailer for years and I'm so OCD when it comes to maintaining my equipment, it just makes me so sad! |
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Location: Southeast Louisiana | She probably can't afford it, since it sounds like she doesn't have her own trailer and had to ride with you. It's hard for someone in that situation to say "I want to pay for the repairs, but I just don't have the money." Some people aren't good at that type of thing. And, if that's the case, I might just tell her I'm going to get it fixed and not to worry about it. Either way, I'd politely let her know how much the repair costs. She might offer to pay, she might not. I would let her know how much it cost you the next time she wants to go somewhere. I wouldn't haul her horse again. |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | MNcanchaser7 - 2015-04-04 2:28 PM Southtxponygirl - 2015-04-04 2:26 PM MNcanchaser7 - 2015-04-04 2:20 PM Southtxponygirl - 2015-04-04 2:02 PM MNcanchaser7 - 2015-04-04 1:55 PM I'm really not angry.. I'm really worried about the cost and sick over the damage. The mare is notorious for being a dink at the trailer but she's never gone so far as to kick the crap out of it. I know my friend feels bad. We are texting about it but theres been no offer to help pay... Guess its just another lesson learned and there will be no more tying at my trailer. Did you haul her horse are did she just tie at your trailer? My friends horse was a booger on the inside but pretty good once he was tied out.
Yept I would tell her to tie somewhere else too, when my trailer got all banged up I was sick about it, but horses will be horses. I hauled her Thanks for the I've dreamt of this trailer for years and I'm so OCD when it comes to maintaining my equipment, it just makes me so sad!
Oh I'm the same way with my trucks, trailers,tack, so I really do understand how you feel about your trailer, is it the slick skin on the outside of your trailer? |
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Location: The edge of no where | Is it worth your friendship? I get that you worked your ass off for the trailer, I've done the same for my stuff. I guess something like this just goes with the territory of hauling horses to me, I'd let it go. |
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Location: PNW | Nita - 2015-04-04 12:28 PM
She probably can't afford it, since it sounds like she doesn't have her own trailer and had to ride with you. It's hard for someone in that situation to say "I want to pay for the repairs, but I just don't have the money." Some people aren't good at that type of thing. And, if that's the case, I might just tell her I'm going to get it fixed and not to worry about it. Either way, I'd politely let her know how much the repair costs. She might offer to pay, she might not. I would let her know how much it cost you the next time she wants to go somewhere. I wouldn't haul her horse again.
This would be my first assumption also. Gauge your friend's financial situation.
If it would be a hardship for her, I would just let it go and bite the bullet to get it fixed and not haul that particular horse again.
If she CAN afford it and is just not offering to pay - I would go get a quote and call her with "So, I got the quote from _________. It is going to cost _________ to fix it. Would it be easier for you to just pay the shop directly or reimburse me?" |
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | MS2011 - 2015-04-04 2:37 PM Is it worth your friendship? I get that you worked your ass off for the trailer, I've done the same for my stuff. I guess something like this just goes with the territory of hauling horses to me, I'd let it go. What friendship??? a REAL friend would, at least, make an offer to help pay.....a "user" just goes along for the ride.......Additionally, if she can afford to have and feed horses and pay entry fees, she can pay something to fix the trailer.......
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Location: Heart of Texas | Trust me it could be worse! I had a girls horse kick MY HORSE in the trailer on the way home and lame him up. He was out for the rest of the season (3 months). I shoulda known better as this mare already kicked a dent in the rear door prior. So count your blessings it wasn't one of your horses and DON'T EVER OFFER A RIDE TO HER AGAIN. Tell her your trailer was bad enough but you can't risk hurting one of your horses too. Lesson hard learned for me. |
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Location: Kansas | She should be offering to pay, but your trailer insurance should cover it except for your deductable |
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| Do you have insurance on your trailer? File on it, don't haul anyone again. If you don't have insurance, get it. If you have a wreck your truck insurance will not cover damages to your trailer. |
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Location: South Central Florida | I feel bad for both of you. I would not have the money to pay to fix it. With that said, my daughters horse had a weird thing several years ago...turned out to be EPM, but basically woke up one day and after 3 years of never a problem, went crazy in the trailer and tore the back wall rubber up, and dented the metal inside the trailer. Got it fixed, fluke...weird what ever, but did it again and kicked the back door off the aluminum trailer and tore the rubber up and split the metal under the rubber and sliced her leg open. We doped her up and patched things and hauled her home that way...others offerred to haul her home for us but I was terrified...I said what would I do if she did that to someone elses trailer??? It was 2 years after treating and doing well before I was comfortable letting her in someone elses trailer again.
If it happened today, I would probably offer but it would have to be in payments.
Other way around...I would probably fix it myself and let it go. I don't like confrontation and I know when people feel bad. I also have a rule...I will give you about anything I can, stuff...money...time BUT I don't "lend" anything I can not afford to lose. I won't lose a special person, good friend, family member because the can't pay me back or fix something.
I would be crying if I were either one of you... becaue I remember when my trailer first got torn up and it was MY OWN horse :)
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I would get an estimate to fix. Give it to her and talk to her about it and well you are going to find out how good of a friend she is....... |
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Location: Phoenix | Ok if MY horse kicked someone else's trailer (especially on the shiny/non-horse part) I would be apolgizing profusely and offering to pay what I could afford. I hate confrontation so I wish you luck in sorting this out. |
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Location: North Central Iowa Land of white frozen grass | I would not fix it till I was ready to trade it off. Why fix it more than once. Its a horse trailer-use it. You could get it fixed and then your horse could do the same thing. |
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| It is dented on the white long wall, not on the shiny portion. She can absolutely afford the repairs, but it's not worth our friendship to twist her arm into paying for it... I guess it is what it is.  |
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Location: Arkansas | MNcanchaser7 - 2015-04-04 1:30 PM
It's a "new to me" featherlite 4 horse that I worked my ass off for. It's my "step up" from a steel two horse bumper pull and it was in basically brand new condition when I bought it. The dents are on the outside of the trailer along the white long wall. It was dark when it happened but she did see the dents... I just sent her the pics but theres not really been any offer to pay and I feel awkward asking as it will be an expensive repair. Its not a trailer I plan on keeping forever and would someday like to trade it in and get a better living quarters and it seriously devalues the trailer....
Even tho it might be expensive, it happened because of her horse. Yes there will be dents and dings and normal wear and tear, but I'd make her aware of the cost at least. If my horse did something like that I'd be writing a check. |
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