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| I want to add to PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE think long and hard about who you put in charge of making decisions on your behalf. My MIL passed two weeks ago and was in really bad shape for several months prior to her death. The sister in law was her power of attorney over her health and was not able to refuse testing. MIL has CHF, COPD, diabetes, and renal failure. When she went to the hospital about a month prior to death they wanted to do MIR, CT, USG on heart and kidneys, EEG, GGT, and a long list of other tear. Not one single test was going to tell us anything new. I did step in and suggest we not put her through all the trauma of being moved for test multiple times a day. The brothers also felt like what the Drs said was the law having someone who was thinking clear helped her comfort during her last few days.
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Location: That part of Texas | cavlier - 2015-06-14 8:15 PM I want to add to PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE think long and hard about who you put in charge of making decisions on your behalf. My MIL passed two weeks ago and was in really bad shape for several months prior to her death. The sister in law was her power of attorney over her health and was not able to refuse testing. MIL has CHF, COPD, diabetes, and renal failure. When she went to the hospital about a month prior to death they wanted to do MIR, CT, USG on heart and kidneys, EEG, GGT, and a long list of other tear. Not one single test was going to tell us anything new. I did step in and suggest we not put her through all the trauma of being moved for test multiple times a day. The brothers also felt like what the Drs said was the law having someone who was thinking clear helped her comfort during her last few days.
This is probably one of the only things in this thread I can whole-heartedly say someone has got it right (sorry guys y'all had me shaking my head on some of this -- love ya but omg *smh* *cringe*) but this statement is 100% true and something I strongly counsel when I'm drafting an estate plan for someone.
I have many people/couples who think too much with their hearts -- they don't want to make someone mad versus putting the best person in the role to do what they want. Some people are better with making medical decisions than others, no matter what their degree of relation to you. Others can handle financial stuff like a wiz while your child may not.
The best thing you can ever do is really look at the person and fit them to the job that you need done. Many people are shocked at who I say is on my medical power of attorney and the financial one but understand when I say why I have that person. It's about who is best to get what job done and who you can count on to really carry out your wishes.
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