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| if anyone wants to start telling you the nitty gritty about labor and delivery, or their horror stories...just walk away or say you don't want to hear it. We've all pulled calves or watched puppies/foals be born. There is no need to freak someone out about labor.
And this is coming from someone with a veterinary tech background, so its not like I'm not used to that stuff...but we want unicorns and rainbows when it's your own pregnancy. To be honest, I didn't even read the part about L&D in the "What to Expect When You're Expecting" book. Which is a good book, btw. | |
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Location: In The Snow, AZ | RodeoCowgirl4u - 2015-10-13 8:43 AM if anyone wants to start telling you the nitty gritty about labor and delivery, or their horror stories...just walk away or say you don't want to hear it. We've all pulled calves or watched puppies/foals be born. There is no need to freak someone out about labor. And this is coming from someone with a veterinary tech background, so its not like I'm not used to that stuff...but we want unicorns and rainbows when it's your own pregnancy. To be honest, I didn't even read the part about L&D in the "What to Expect When You're Expecting" book. Which is a good book, btw.
Lol lol!
I told the nurse, I am so sorry if it happens, but don't tell me if I poop while pushing. Hahaha! .... It's all part of it. | |
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Location: Missouri | rodeomom3 - 2015-10-13 10:40 AM
 Congratulations!!!  Rest and eat healthy!  Sleep when the baby sleeps, chores can wait.  I had 4 in 4 years and good sleep was the key.  If my babies were fussy or hungry I fed them, I followed their schedule - not what a book said. All my babies were sleeping they the night by 4 months and woke up happy. Â
This! They are amazingly resilient little critters. Congrats! My first I read every book I could find. Did everything BY the book. Made myself insane (and everyone around me) trying to do the "right" thing. By the time Spawn #2 arrived it was kinda like "ok, you wanna eat that bug, go ahead. It won't kill ya". The one thing I found was, those babies don't read the darn books too. Enjoy your pregnancy, use common sense, and listen to your body, your heart, and your baby. I am blessed to have two amazingly intelligent, responsible teenagers who have never given me a moment's trouble. Well, a few come to Jesus meetings along the way, but no drama or trauma. You WILL make mistakes. You WILL screw up. Don't sweat it - just enjoy the ride!
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Location: White Mountains of AZ | Thankfully. no horror labor stories yet. And I'm just trying to be cautious, but not overly crazy! | |
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Location: Texas | rodeomom3 - 2015-10-13 10:40 AM Congratulations!!! Rest and eat healthy! Sleep when the baby sleeps, chores can wait. I had 4 in 4 years and good sleep was the key. If my babies were fussy or hungry I fed them, I followed their schedule - not what a book said. All my babies were sleeping they the night by 4 months and woke up happy.
I've had 2, 10 years apart. My first I wanted to do everything perfect so I had a happy healthy baby... .all I did was stress myself and the baby out. I tried listening to everybody so I was doing the right thing. That is impossible. There will always be someone telling you that you are doing it wrong. Find a doctor you trust, find what works for you and your baby and go with it. I'm not saying don't listen to anybody, just that if you try to listen to everybody it isn't going to work.
With my second, she made her schedule. She ate when she wanted to, slept when she wanted to and I had the happiest most easy going baby I have ever seen. She is a year and a half now and if it is past her bed time she tells US she wants to go night night. She has slept all night for a little over a year. She still doesn't have a sleeping schedule that I came up with, when she is tired she goes to sleep... but I can see how with some kids parents would want to control their sleeping habits a little more as they get older. She is easy because she will grab a blanket and go to sleep if she is tired. Now if it is past 5pm I won't let her take a nap. If I do then I will have a problem.
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Location: White Mountains of AZ | pinx05 - 2015-10-13 9:09 AM
rodeomom3 - 2015-10-13 10:40 AM Â Congratulations!!! Â Rest and eat healthy! Â Sleep when the baby sleeps, chores can wait. Â I had 4 in 4 years and good sleep was the key. Â If my babies were fussy or hungry I fed them, I followed their schedule - not what a book said. All my babies were sleeping they the night by 4 months and woke up happy. Â
I've had 2, 10 years apart. My first I wanted to do everything perfect so I had a happy healthy baby... .all I did was stress myself and the baby out. I tried listening to everybody so I was doing the right thing. That is impossible. There will always be someone telling you that you are doing it wrong. Find a doctor you trust, find what works for you and your baby and go with it. I'm not saying don't listen to anybody, just that if you try to listen to everybody it isn't going to work.
With my second, she made her schedule. She ate when she wanted to, slept when she wanted to and I had the happiest most easy going baby I have ever seen. She is a year and a half now and if it is past her bed time she tells US she wants to go night night. She has slept all night for a little over a year. She still doesn't have a sleeping schedule that I came up with, when she is tired she goes to sleep... but I can see how with some kids parents would want to control their sleeping habits a little more as they get older. She is easy because she will grab a blanket and go to sleep if she is tired. Now if it is past 5pm I won't let her take a nap. If I do then I will have a problem.Â
To sum up my novel. It is easy to get so focused on making sure everything is done so perfect that you take the joy out of it.
I'll definetly listen to my body and when baby gets her I'll see what works best. I mean every baby is different so what works for one, may not work for the other. I have a DR. Appt next weeks and I'll see if I like her and how that goes, but options up here aren't alot. So we'll see how it goes! | |
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Location: Okemah,OK | I have a 9 month old little girl, my one and only. Smartest thing i did was to get with a girl I found thru a local Facebook yard sale site and bought a years worth of clothes for a fraction of the price. I also bought a baby tub, some toys, bedding, stroller, etc. That also helped by me being able to tell people that we didn't need clothes at the shower. They were able to help more with diapers, wipes, high chair, pack and play, etc. | |
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Location: White Mountains of AZ | Well I hope it's a girl. And my landlord has daughter who has had grandaughters. So they are all excited for me to have a girl cuz they have a whole bunch of girl things! | |
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Location: White Mountains of AZ | And does anyone have suggestions for helping nausea at work? Certain foods? Drinks? | |
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Location: Gainesville, TX | I had the best luck with sweet stuff. I had a hard time keeping solids down much at all. Ginger ale, tea, sodas, Gatorade, loved Popsicles. Did alright with fresh fruit. Things I could nibble on in small amounts like grapes were good. Bland and soft were good (like potatoes or pasta). Ginger in general is good for nausea so try chewing on a ginger snap or get some hard candy and suck on that. Seemed to help me. I lost 17 lbs early on but have regained most of that and am doing great (once I got past the 16 week point). | |
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Location: ND--it snows, it floods, it snows, it floods | QH<3er - 2015-10-12 11:44 AM scwebster - 2015-10-12 9:39 AM Holy cow I would say that is a suprise lol. I would have passed out I think. No worries everything will be great! Mine is 9months old now and SO much fun! Good luck and congratulations! I just started bawling from shock ha... And the DR. just said it so...bluntly lol. As soon as he came back into the room he was like " Well got some results back, and you are very much pregnant!" I asked if he was serious and he just nodded his head and looked at the ground lol.
At least you didn't ask him how it happened! LOL
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Location: White Mountains of AZ | docschic - 2015-10-13 11:37 AM
QH<3er - 2015-10-12 11:44 AM scwebster - 2015-10-12 9:39 AM Holy cow I would say that is a suprise lol. I would have passed out I think. No worries everything will be great! Mine is 9months old now and SO much fun! Good luck and congratulations! I just started bawling from shock ha... And the DR. just said it so...bluntly lol. As soon as he came back into the room he was like " Well got some results back, and you are very much pregnant!" I asked if he was serious and he just nodded his head and looked at the ground lol.
Congratulations and good luck!Â
LOL Well, I was pretty sure I knew how it happened... | |
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Location: White Mountains of AZ | And thank you all for your sweet comments and confidence in this scared mom-to-be!!! | |
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Location: Missouri | QH<3er - 2015-10-13 5:36 PM
And thank you all for your sweet comments and confidence in this scared mom-to-be!!!
You will be FINE. I will never forget bringing the first home. I was in the hospital not quite 24 hours but thought hey this is easy. Got him home. Set him down in his carrier carseat, and had a moment of pure terror. I literally stood there, looked around, and said well he!! now what do I do? LOL they don't come with an instruction manual. You've got this...there are as many ways do every single thing as there are moms. Do what works and try not to worry. Save that for the teenage years..you'll need it! JK...kinda | |
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Location: Okemah,OK | I know everyone has a different experience but I agree with the above poster in not listening to anyone's horror stories. I was TERRIFIED of the whole process..... Being pregnant, needles, epidural, not getting to hospital in time, labor, delivery, all that. I had a VERY easy pregnancy, rode until 5 months, did chores until 3 days before I had her, went thru all the blood tests (including the 4 sticks in 3 hours because I failed glucose test) and needle sticks super easily, pricked my finger everyday for months, water broke slowly, no trouble getting to hospital, fabulous epidural, 10 hours from first sign of labor until she arrived. Absolutely textbook everything! As soon as she was out and okay, I thought "yep, I'd do that again in a heartbeat!" All the fears are unfounded and I've never been more proud of what my body and mind were able to do! And I'm almost 42 with a perfect 9 month old little girl. It is a journey unlike anything else, enjoy the ride! | |
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Location: White Mountains of AZ | Crazy as it seems, I'm not to scared about delivery. Guess I've never really thought about it. I'll be 20 in 14 days, so having a baby young is a little taunting. But hopefully I'll have a quick recovery. I plan on riding as far as I can until I don't feel comfortable/safe anymore. My mom wanted me to quit riding asap and I laughed. Not only would I get sad, I KNOW if I was to just quit riding, my back would cause me He**. Can't have that!! | |
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Location: Montana | Congratulations. Haven't been pregnant or had kids (yet), but I do sincerely wish you and your baby the best of luck, health, and happiness. | |
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| Congrats
A few other things to look at to prepare.
Look at your health plan, and make sure your hospital costs will be covered
Finances, babies are expensive, so figure out your plan. Disposable diapers versus cloth diapers, if you can start getting cloth diapers gently used, you will be money ahead. I know it has become a big deal where I live for baby showers to be diaper parties where the only gift requested is diapers.
Figure out if you are going to breast feed or bottle feed, this also depends on how much time you have off for maternity leave. Formula companies have promotions where you can sign up for free items including formula, take advantage, do it anyway even if you intend on breast feeding as sometimes things don't go as planned.
Support, who do you have for support for the prenatal visits, and for the labor and delivery? If you have limited support, or even if you have great support, look into a doula. Instead of a doctor, you can always go for a midwife. Never had a child, but have been in on many labor and deliveries, my experience is women who had the midwife had a much more positive experience then women who had a doctor. | |
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Location: White Mountains of AZ | cheryl makofka - 2015-10-14 6:59 AM
Congrats
A few other things to look at to prepare.
Look at your health plan, and make sure your hospital costs will be covered
Finances, babies are expensive, so figure out your plan. Disposable diapers versus cloth diapers, if you can start getting cloth diapers gently used, you will be money ahead. I know it has become a big deal where I live for baby showers to be diaper parties where the only gift requested is diapers.
Figure out if you are going to breast feed or bottle feed, this also depends on how much time you have off for maternity leave. Formula companies have promotions where you can sign up for free items including formula, take advantage, do it anyway even if you intend on breast feeding as sometimes things don't go as planned.
Support, who do you have for support for the prenatal visits, and for the labor and delivery? If you have limited support, or even if you have great support, look into a doula. Instead of a doctor, you can always go for a midwife. Never had a child, but have been in on many labor and deliveries, my experience is women who had the midwife had a much more positive experience then women who had a doctor.
Yea, one of these days I'll sit down and write it all out. I know the daddy is gonna be here and my landlords. Parents not to sure, they just may need time to digest it all I guess. I'm still in overwhelm and sure I'll continue to be for a very, very long time. | |
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