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Location: Somewhere around here | I met my husband when I was 19, married at 21, had our child at 24 and I have to say we have the best marriage that I could have ever prayed for! It hasn't been a complete walk in the park though; we went to a Family Life "Weekend to Remember" seminar when we married for just a year and it gave us a great foundation to go back to. Recently I have discovered the GOLDEN BOOK (seriously, it's the best ever) called "The 5 Love Languages" and there's a few different kinds; singles, couples, married, kids, and teens. It was very simple to read and understand and I feel like if I read it when I was single or just dating around then I could've definitely weeded out the guys that I didn't want in my life but also how I know I wanted to be loved. I've learned the best ways to love my husband and he has learned the same with me. We couldn't be happier! I'd recommend you maybe reading the singles book and learn more about yourself and what you want in a bf or future spouse. | |
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Location: Somewhere around here | rodeomom3 - 2016-02-08 8:55 AM
GLP - 2016-02-08 6:35 AM To answer your question - yes, there was/ is the feeling of this guy is the one. At least for me there was. We've been married 30 years. When other people talk about marriage being hard work, I don't understand what they mean. We have had to make hard decisions for our future and family but we made them together and moved happily on. I truly feel God blessed me with my husband. Soooo, I will pray for you to eventually find the love of your life, too. Oh, my daughter found her love just 1 1/2 years ago and she is fixin' to be 30.
Ditto, I have never considered my marriage hard work, we have never had a rough patch. We rarely fight. We met and married within 5 months, it will be 29 years in May, we had 4 kids the first 4 years of our marriage. Wait for the right guy, he is out there. Our friends 31 year old daughter is getting married in April and there are so many red flags even the priest who did their pre marriage counseling said they were the most dysfunctional couple he had ever met and refused to marry them. She has called off the wedding twice but as of now it is back on. It makes me sad for her because she is going to have and unhappy marriage but she wants to be married so bad she is determined to go through with it. In my younger years I dated a lot of jerks then made the decision no more jerks in my life-they had one shot and the first sign of inconsiderate behavior they were out the door. Good luck snd do not settle.
Oh dear, this sounds exactly like one of my old friends. She's in a relationship with her 2nd ever boyfriend and I think he is a complete slime ball but she adores him. They just got engaged and all she can think about is how she is finally "catching up" to me and her cousin who's been married for 5ish years now. I don't want her to get married just so she think she can be on the same level as us, I want her to get married because he truly loves her and she truly loves him and they want to spend the rest of their lives together. I'm trying not to be negative about it but I can just see him cheating, lying, and/or stealing from her in the future and she getting heart broken in a dead-end marriage. I just hope it doesn't happen and I'm wrong.  | |
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| Be so thankful that you are single at this time. You get to pick your next step in life without the influence of a significant other. This is an important part of knowing and picking what you want to do with your life. Getting to know yourself in your early 20's will only make your future marriage better.
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Location: MD | I feel like you need to wait at least one month from now to even address anything regarding this man and a relationship with him... The wounds are still REALLY fresh, especially since he was really the one in control of the split - i.e. you weren't emotionally prepared to be apart.
With Steve(been together since 2011), I feel like I'm the luckiest girl in the world. I never really felt this earth moving, fireworks display. But I felt this, "I feel 'right' here." It's like I wouldn't choose to be anywhere else then right at his side. It's really hard to condense our relationship down to a few paragraphs and I don't feel like it would give what he and I have any justice. So I will leave it at, I didn't even know that this kind of bliss existed. If this is what being truly blessed is, it's infinitely better then the Cinderella stories. | |
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Location: Phoenix | NFM - 2016-02-08 9:12 AM Be so thankful that you are single at this time. You get to pick your next step in life without the influence of a significant other. This is an important part of knowing and picking what you want to do with your life. Getting to know yourself in your early 20's will only make your future marriage better.
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Location: KS | Take time for yourself.
I went through high school never dating anyone, and honestly never had a desire to date anyone seriously anyway. I had lots of guy friends, but wanted to go to college single and make my own choices. I was (still am) an independent person and I think this helped me. I went through my first year of college single, went out on a few dates, nothing serious. This guy (my now husband of 5 years) from my hometown 4 years older than me started coming out where I went to school almost every weekend (2 hr drive), we were friends, but he chased me for a year before I even gave him a chance to be more than my friend or even realized what he was doing. When I did finally give in, I was home for the summer and we just would hang out almost every night (our nights were spent in a tractor, baling hay). Anyway I never gave him the actually yes, we are dating, he finally asked me like 2 months later. When I said yes, I didn't really feel like it was going to last forever, not at the beginning anyway. After a few more months it started to feel more real, like maybe this will be the first and only guy I date, maybe not.....after 2 years of dating and after I graduated college he purposed, we got married a few months later, and I can say we have an amazing relationship. And no it hasn't always been easy but marriage isn't always suppose to be easy, theres going to be disagreements, and agreements to disagree, that's life, and I don't look at it as hard work either but it takes to people, a partnership, a lot of understanding, and love to make a marriage a good one. And there's no doubt in my mind my husband and I wont make it forever.....
The thing is, I wasn't looking for a relationship, a serious one at that. I hadn't really decided if I was planning to come home right away after college, but I know this was Gods plan for me. It was meant to happen the exact way it did, so keep this in mind. Chances are love will find you when you least expect it, and I believe you cant completely control who you fall in love with, I know that kinda sounds strange, but if you knew the guy I fell for and you knew me youd understand. We are two people who grew up 5 miles apart from one another, our families making a living doing the same thing (farming/ranching) but we do nothing alike.....were raised nothing alike, but somehow we have made it work. Love probably playing the biggest part.
Don't give up, just give yourself time, and not going lie get yourself some horses, another focus would be great.
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Location: Arkansas | You have gotten some really really great advice. . . I hope it all works out and you find just that right someone at just the right time. | |
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| Thank you for all of the stories and advice. I really needed that and I always know I can come here for support. I'm trying to stay strong and focus on me since the next few months will be a big transition in my life. I really want to move and start working but I also have the opportunity to get a graduate assistantship where I'm going to school which pays for basically all of your masters as well as a stipend as you work 20 hours a week. It's a great opportunity but I'm not so sure I feel really strongly about any of the masters programs. My twin sister is due the beginning of June so I'm excited to be an aunt and have been planning her baby shower. I have a lot of good things going on right now that I'm trying to embrace, but I'm just feeling down with all of this. We actually had met up this past week and it went well. We're able to be nice to each other and that was the best we've gotten along in a long time. It probably wasn't best though because I still miss him and love him. I don't want to be with anyone who doesn't value me the same so I'm just trying to stay strong and leave him be but it's hard. We've talked via phone call or text on occasion because we're trying to be civil and we don't hate each other but it's probably too soon though. Literally 9 times out of 10 he's contacted me so I'm glad I've been strong in that regard. I've gone out and hung out with my friends and danced/talked to new people but nothing past that as I don't want anything AT ALL right now unless it was him unfortunately. But I don't want him calling all of the shots. I've been praying a lot and just want God to lead me on the right path, it just stinks when you're being hurt in the process, although I know it'll all work out in the end. In a way I am relieved that I'm not "tied down" in regards to making my next life decision. Not saying that I wouldn't mind considering someone else had me and this person still been together because I love him. I don't need a man and am happy doing things on my own but I still just miss him..I do feel like things are different with him but only time will tell. I saw that someone had mentioned I should get a horse and I really wish I could! But I'm in the process of becoming completely financially independent (my mom pays for my cell phone and car insurance but I'm taking that over since we're not getting along) and I wouldn't be able to afford it. Luckily I get lessons/get to barrel race my friend's horses when they have shows sometimes so that helps. I'm glad to hear there's a light at the end of the tunnel. Anyways, I appreciate all of the responses and will take it to heart. I'm doing better than I thought I'd be but still have those days where I completely break down and am a hot mess. Any other advice for getting myself out of this funk? In the mean time I'm gonna curl up with my mutt and go to sleep. He's the little sh** that ran off last year for 8 days.
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Location: Montana | Hey there, I'm not much older than you (24), not sure about the "right one" feeling, but I can say I know how you feel and I want to offer you hugs. I'm not really good at romantic relationships, and I think more than anything so far it has been the luck of the draw, things just haven't worked out right. I've had a relationship where I've been with a guy that made all the right sense (right age, right religion, good family values, etc.) and wasn't in love. I had a relationship with a guy that ended in the fall of 2013 that only really began that spring, and it was really hard. I made the decision to end it and it literally broke my heart. It would have been a bad match if I'd have stayed, and at times I still miss him. I never cried so much over a man. Then I've had others where I think it would have been a good match, the guy I liked liked me, but his job sent him elsewhere before a relationship began to blossom or whatever.
And it is okay to grieve the loss of a relationship. It took me almost a year to get over the one that I loved but would have been a bad match. As someone else said, take time for yourself. Don't go looking for love or a relationship...it is actually kind of peaceful without a man, and if you got a horse again you'd have a lot more time for it than if you had a boyfriend. All, right, I'm trying to add humor, but it isn't working too good. Ha-ha. But also don't turn it down, either, if it finds you. Do what your guy says. And while you are grieving, chocolate doesn't hurt. :)
I honestly feel, God has the best thing in mind for you. You don't want to be with a person that is wrong for you. It would be more harmful than good. We all have the desire to love and be loved, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. One time when I was with the man I really loved I realized that loving something is wanting what is best for them, but it is a two way street. So find someone that wants what is best for you, and you for them. Love is also realizing that this person you have this emotion for is someone you want to spend the next 30 or 40 or 50 years with. And love isn't just an emotion, it is an action. Some days you may not "be in love" with that particular person, as that is an emotion and you might be angry with them that day, but you still "love" them. There is a Biblical term for it from the Greek languate, and that is "agape: Agape is selfless, sacrificial, unconditional love, the highest of the four types of love in the Bible."
Personally, I'm not a good one to be talking about this subject as I'm not currently in a relationship, but you aren't alone. Hugs to you, sleep it over, get a molten chocolate latte they just came out with at Starbucks (I kid you not, it is only available thru the 14th of Feb). I also think that this time of year (i.e. Valentine's Day) is kind of hard on singles (of which I am one), especially those who have recently become single. We don't fit into the status quo with the nice dates and flowers and that sort of thing. ETA: I have always felt it was harder with the commercialism geared to couples on Valentine's Day with the chocolates and the cards and the flowers and the dates and dinner out, like the whole commercial world is trying to say "you aren't enough if you are single" when the truth is YOU ARE ENOUGH before you have a relationship. I wasn't suggesting actual people, but more of the commercial aspect of it. It doesn't really matter, have fun and make sure those you love know it...your mom, dad, grandparents if they are still alive, siblings if you have any. I mean think of the people in the St. Valentine's Day Massacre, they were feeling really unloved! LOL.
So, cheer up, things will get better, and you'll find that right guy at the right time and place in your life. :)
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| mtcanchazer - 2016-02-08 10:41 PM
Hey there, I'm not much older than you (24), not sure about the "right one" feeling, but I can say I know how you feel and I want to offer you hugs. I'm not really good at romantic relationships, and I think more than anything so far it has been the luck of the draw, things just haven't worked out right. I've had a relationship where I've been with a guy that made all the right sense (right age, right religion, good family values, etc.) and wasn't in love. I had a relationship with a guy that ended in the fall of 2013 that only really began that spring, and it was really hard. I made the decision to end it and it literally broke my heart. It would have been a bad match if I'd have stayed, and at times I still miss him. I never cried so much over a man. Then I've had others where I think it would have been a good match, the guy I liked liked me, but his job sent him elsewhere before a relationship began to blossom or whatever.
And it is okay to grieve the loss of a relationship. It took me almost a year to get over the one that I loved but would have been a bad match. As someone else said, take time for yourself. Don't go looking for love or a relationship...it is actually kind of peaceful without a man, and if you got a horse again you'd have a lot more time for it than if you had a boyfriend. All, right, I'm trying to add humor, but it isn't working too good. Ha-ha. But also don't turn it down, either, if it finds you. Do what your guy says. And while you are grieving, chocolate doesn't hurt. :)
I honestly feel, God has the best thing in mind for you. You don't want to be with a person that is wrong for you. It would be more harmful than good. We all have the desire to love and be loved, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. One time when I was with the man I really loved I realized that loving something is wanting what is best for them, but it is a two way street. So find someone that wants what is best for you, and you for them. Love is also realizing that this person you have this emotion for is someone you want to spend the next 30 or 40 or 50 years with. And love isn't just an emotion, it is an action. Some days you may not "be in love" with that particular person, as that is an emotion and you might be angry with them that day, but you still "love" them. There is a Biblical term for it from the Greek languate, and that is "agape: Agape is selfless, sacrificial, unconditional love, the highest of the four types of love in the Bible." Personally, I'm not a good one to be talking about this subject as I'm not currently in a relationship, but you aren't alone. Hugs to you, sleep it over, get a molten chocolate latte they just came out with at Starbucks (I kid you not, it is only available thru the 14th of Feb). I also think that this time of year (i.e. Valentine's Day) is kind of hard on singles (of which I am one), especially those who have recently become single. We don't fit into the status quo with the nice dates and flowers and that sort of thing. It doesn't really matter, have fun and make sure those you love know it...your mom, dad, grandparents if they are still alive, siblings if you have any. I mean think of the people in the St. Valentine's Day Massacre, they were feeling really unloved! LOL.
So, cheer up, things will get better, and you'll find that right guy at the right time and place in your life. :)
Just going to comment on the Valentine's Day comment.
Not all couples celebrate Valentine's Day, it is just a way for businesses to make money.
If your husband, wife or significant other only makes you feel special on V day, you may want to rethink your relationship, you should feel special all days.
To me the best Valentine's Day present is a barrel race, this is what I will be doing.
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Location: Florida.. | LOL Im single and I dont feel left out at all !!! lol.. I chose to be single at this time and love it..I like to see the others enjoy the Valentines day but it doesnt make me sad at all. I enjoy my independance and doing what I please.. without answering to anyone or stressing over someone..women put to muhc of theirself into a man and lose theirself .. get over it move on and be happy.. you only have one life .... live it.......
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| I am married and Valentine's day this year will be a movie and a stop at the pizza joint with some girlfriends. My husband doesn't do movies and said he would feed my special needs horse- so we are having a girls night out. I will put something in the crockpot for my husband and I made him some special strawberries and a card. That is the extent of our Valentines Day.
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Location: In The Snow, AZ | Lol, after reading a few comments about Valentine's Day, I wanted to chime in... Hubby and I don't really CELEBRATE it, but it's a good excuse to have a nice dinner and some snuggle time. Granted, I think every night is a good night for that. We shouldn't need a "holiday" to recognize our love for each other, but sure, it's a good excuse.
Other than that, I don't see why being single on Valentine's Day matters. Valentine's Day is a commercialized holiday to get more business. So don't let one stinkin day make you feel bad. Shoot, get yourself a box of chocolates.
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| We don't make big deals out of any of the holidays. We both buy what we want all year. He is so good to me every single day that I am very low maintence as far as expecting surprises etc. He works long hard hours to provide, I have not had a job since having kids 27 years ago. He asked me last night what I wanted for valentines day -I told him I had it covered that I was looking for another horse since my favorite was just retired due to injury.  | |
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| Yes. I knew from the moment we met... I even called my mom and told her I had found my future husband after our first date.
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Location: North Dakota | You are at an age where you need to focus on building a future for yourself!! Get a masters degree or a teaching certificate or go to nursing school, nobody can EVER take an education from you!! Youg ladies always make the mistake of getting caught up in a relationship at such a young age and really loose themselves and never build a careeer or future. Then half of them end up divorced with no education or career to help themselves. NEVER depend on a man, only depend on you!! Forget relationships until you are 30, own your own home and have seen the world a time or two. Nurses make good money in some states, imagine how good it would feel to take care of YOU and not have to baby a man, because that is what a boyfriend or husband needs, to be babied!! Dust yourself off and really think about where you want to be in 5 years! Put all your effot into school, an exercise routine, and girlfriends and you will see that you are a better person for it!! No man is ready to get married in their early twenties, they all want to mess around! build a future for yourself girl!! | |
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Location: Montana | cheryl makofka - 2016-02-08 10:09 PM mtcanchazer - 2016-02-08 10:41 PM Hey there, I'm not much older than you (24), not sure about the "right one" feeling, but I can say I know how you feel and I want to offer you hugs. I'm not really good at romantic relationships, and I think more than anything so far it has been the luck of the draw, things just haven't worked out right. I've had a relationship where I've been with a guy that made all the right sense (right age, right religion, good family values, etc.) and wasn't in love. I had a relationship with a guy that ended in the fall of 2013 that only really began that spring, and it was really hard. I made the decision to end it and it literally broke my heart. It would have been a bad match if I'd have stayed, and at times I still miss him. I never cried so much over a man. Then I've had others where I think it would have been a good match, the guy I liked liked me, but his job sent him elsewhere before a relationship began to blossom or whatever.
And it is okay to grieve the loss of a relationship. It took me almost a year to get over the one that I loved but would have been a bad match. As someone else said, take time for yourself. Don't go looking for love or a relationship...it is actually kind of peaceful without a man, and if you got a horse again you'd have a lot more time for it than if you had a boyfriend. All, right, I'm trying to add humor, but it isn't working too good. Ha-ha. But also don't turn it down, either, if it finds you. Do what your guy says. And while you are grieving, chocolate doesn't hurt. :)
I honestly feel, God has the best thing in mind for you. You don't want to be with a person that is wrong for you. It would be more harmful than good. We all have the desire to love and be loved, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. One time when I was with the man I really loved I realized that loving something is wanting what is best for them, but it is a two way street. So find someone that wants what is best for you, and you for them. Love is also realizing that this person you have this emotion for is someone you want to spend the next 30 or 40 or 50 years with. And love isn't just an emotion, it is an action. Some days you may not "be in love" with that particular person, as that is an emotion and you might be angry with them that day, but you still "love" them. There is a Biblical term for it from the Greek languate, and that is "agape: Agape is selfless, sacrificial, unconditional love, the highest of the four types of love in the Bible." Personally, I'm not a good one to be talking about this subject as I'm not currently in a relationship, but you aren't alone. Hugs to you, sleep it over, get a molten chocolate latte they just came out with at Starbucks (I kid you not, it is only available thru the 14th of Feb). I also think that this time of year (i.e. Valentine's Day) is kind of hard on singles (of which I am one), especially those who have recently become single. We don't fit into the status quo with the nice dates and flowers and that sort of thing. It doesn't really matter, have fun and make sure those you love know it...your mom, dad, grandparents if they are still alive, siblings if you have any. I mean think of the people in the St. Valentine's Day Massacre, they were feeling really unloved! LOL.
So, cheer up, things will get better, and you'll find that right guy at the right time and place in your life. :) Just going to comment on the Valentine's Day comment. Not all couples celebrate Valentine's Day, it is just a way for businesses to make money. If your husband, wife or significant other only makes you feel special on V day, you may want to rethink your relationship, you should feel special all days. To me the best Valentine's Day present is a barrel race, this is what I will be doing.
I didn't say the thing about Valentine's Day to make anyone mad, I was just going off of what I feel and have felt in the past. I have always felt it was harder with the commercialism geared to couples on Valentine's Day with the chocolates and the cards and the flowers and the dates and dinner out, like the whole commercial world is trying to say "you aren't enough if you are single" when the truth is YOU ARE ENOUGH before you have a relationship. I wasn't suggesting actual people, but more of the commercial aspect of it. I'll edit to clarify. :)
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Location: North Dakota | I'm no expert, and I'm young too, but here's my 2 cents. There's a difference between loving someone and finding "the one". It sounds like you still have strong feelings for this guy, which is totally understandable! It'll probably suck for a while. But in my experience, nothing happens by accident. I'm not sure what your religious beliefs are, but I'm a Christian. And I belive wholeheartedly that God has a plan for us. Even if it's painful now, everything will work out in the end. If your recent bf truly is your soulmate, and you guys are meant to be, then somewhere down the road it'll work out. If not, then you go do you for a while. Don't worry about it and let your heart heal. When the time is right, the right one will come along.
I think for it to work out, the timing first has to be right. Also the person has to fit together with you. It's easy to get swept up, even for a few years in someone even though if you look at your core values, goals, etc. you don't really fit. Eventually that honeymoon phase is going to fizzle out some. That doesn't mean the passion has to be gone, but in the end you want a lover AND a best friend that truly is on your side. That will take care of you and has your back no matter what.
In my case, I found myself quite infatuated with many guys over the years (and had a few follow me around like lovesick puppies, but I didn't return the feelings they had). It wasn't until I met my current boyfriend that something felt....different. We worked together and the first time we had a real conversation I wouldn't say I had a crush on him but I felt sorta connected to him in a way. Over the year and a half we worked together I found myself thinking at random times "omg I have to tell Bret this", "man I wish Bret was here", etc. We were inseperable at work. I'm a very introverted, socially anxious person but I never ever ran out of things to talk with him about. He made me feel comfortable. I did not really feel the butterflies in the stomach, sweaty palms, heart palpitations though. After I left that job maybe 3 months later he contacted me on Facebook and we started talking. After like a month of that I finally asked him to meet up for dinner, just to catch up. Well gosh dang we didn't miss a beat. We sat and talked non stop for over 3 hours--until the restaurant closed for the night! He gave me a hug and we said goodnight and I felt the strangest feeling in the pit of my stomach. We continued hanging out for a solid month at least after that. Going to movies, he even met my whole family. I went from thinking maybe we were just meant to be friends to really thinking that was not the case. I wasn't sure if he liked me though. Then FINALLY one night he started acting really weird and had me thinking I was boring him to death or something. When finally he worked up the courage to ask me out. He's 24 and a tough guy but he was so gosh darn nervous it was just adorable. I said yes (of course) thinking we'd just see where this went. I fell in love more and more every day. I knew he made me laugh and was a true old fashioned gentleman before we dated, but I truly saw just how caring, sweet, and respectful he is once we were together. We share the same political and religious beliefs. We have the same goals for life, thoughts about children, all that. We have some similar interests and some very different ones. We're both respectful of the other person's interests and have been open to experiencing their "world" so to speak. The longer we are together, the more I find out about him, the more I want to spend the rest of my life with him, and he certainly has made it clear he feels similarly. So yeah, I think it's possible to know you've found the one, but I think it takes a while to get to that point.
Keep your chin up, enjoy the single life for a little while, and keep the faith that when it's meant to be, it's meant to be. You're not alone. We've all had troubles in love. Don't be too hard on yourself. 
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Location: Wonderful Wyoming | Three 4 Luck - 2016-02-08 6:15 AM I had just turned 29 when I met mine. And yes, we both knew pretty early that we were very compatible and wanted each other for a life partner. Yes, there were butterflies, but it wasn't any lightning strike, angels singing, great passionate love affair. It was more like coming home--someone who saw who I really was (rather than what he wanted me to be) and loved and treasured me anyway. After that, it's a choice of making things work through the hard stuff. You make the choice every day to stay and love this person even when you're not feeling in love with them.
Before that, I had a broken engagement from my on again/off again 3 times since high school should have known better than to try boyfriend, and a failed marriage to a verbally abusive alcoholic/gambling addict to my credit. I learned a lot from making mistakes in my 20s. LOL
compatible. I like that word. I am maybe jaded, but I don't believe in love at first sight. Not sure if I believe in "the one". I dated 1 guy seriously in HS and it ended badly. No relationship for some time and went to college. Met someone and we dated over a year and got married. Just seemed like the next step. I was 19, he was 20. Very very young. Too young. We will have been married 16 yrs in May. We have 2 kids, oldest is almost 8 so it's not like kids are what rushed us to get married.
I still want to throat punch him on a regular basis and I imagine I wear on him too. We are both very strong willed people and know what we want and will work to get it. It makes us butt heads often, but we both know had we married someone that was a yes person, we would take over them. So it works for us. We are compatible. You are still young, will probably get tired of hearing that. It sounds like your life is on track and it will get busy with a career. Before you know it a good guy will come along, maybe this same one that just left. Maturity changes everything. | |
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