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Location: Arkansas | classicpotatochip - 2016-11-07 5:42 PM
scwebster - 2016-11-07 2:17 PM
classicpotatochip - 2016-11-07 9:23 AM I would give my permission to my brother to show him pictures of the child, but you don't have to give this man permission to meet her in person until she is an adult and can make the decision for herself. DNA is only DNA, your stepdad chose you, and has stood by you. You don't owe the other guy anything. If you're feeling spooked, it's perfectly okay to be as rude, ungrateful, and unapproachable as you need to be to establish the distance you require to feel all right in the world again. This is your life, not his, and it's okay to make a stand for your own happiness.
Thank you for your kind and honest words, I think I needed that!
A great big hug sent your way. Don't forget to hug your stepparent, sounds like he did a good job of stepping to the plate.
I agree with this: your "father/sperm donor" left the picture and your DADDY stepped up. Many hugs and good wishes for you and your little one. | |
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Location: MS | I, myself, grew up not knowing my biological father. When my mother was married to him she told him she was pregnant and he left. My mother married when I was 2 yrs old to the only man I have known. I have seen my biological father around town and he has never acknowledged me. I was out eating dinner with my aunt one night and he actually came up to our table and spoke to my aunt but turned his head so he wouldn't see me. He has numerous children and has dumped everyone of them. God, blessed me with a father that loves me like his own and loves my kids unconditionally. Follow your heart. I know what is like, but sometimes it's best just to keep that book closed. ?? | |
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| amberturner4 - 2016-11-08 8:24 AM I, myself, grew up not knowing my biological father. When my mother was married to him she told him she was pregnant and he left. My mother married when I was 2 yrs old to the only man I have known. I have seen my biological father around town and he has never acknowledged me. I was out eating dinner with my aunt one night and he actually came up to our table and spoke to my aunt but turned his head so he wouldn't see me. He has numerous children and has dumped everyone of them. God, blessed me with a father that loves me like his own and loves my kids unconditionally. Follow your heart. I know what is like, but sometimes it's best just to keep that book closed. ??
His loss! It sounds like you were blessed with a great "dad" who took up the slack. You came out better in the end :) | |
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| classicpotatochip - 2016-11-07 5:42 PM scwebster - 2016-11-07 2:17 PM classicpotatochip - 2016-11-07 9:23 AM I would give my permission to my brother to show him pictures of the child, but you don't have to give this man permission to meet her in person until she is an adult and can make the decision for herself. DNA is only DNA, your stepdad chose you, and has stood by you. You don't owe the other guy anything. If you're feeling spooked, it's perfectly okay to be as rude, ungrateful, and unapproachable as you need to be to establish the distance you require to feel all right in the world again. This is your life, not his, and it's okay to make a stand for your own happiness. Thank you for your kind and honest words, I think I needed that! A great big hug sent your way. Don't forget to hug your stepparent, sounds like he did a good job of stepping to the plate.
:) My dad is a great man, I make sure to tell him every chance I get how much he means to me and how thankful I am for him. | |
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Location: N Texas | If he didn't give a cr@p about his own children, how on earth does he deserve to be part of a grandchild's life?
Of course he wants to see her, he doesn't have to be financially responsible for her! I'm sorry, I just have a very low tolerance for people who want nothing to do with their kids, but suddenly take an interest when it's convenient for them. You owe him NOTHING. Don't feel bad about it, he made his choice long ago. | |
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