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| Southtxponygirl - 2017-03-28 12:30 PM How old are you, married, have any children, in any horsey club, go to church?
Mid 30s, married, no kids, member in several saddle clubs, nbha, other barrel groups, and don't beleive in organized religion, they just want your $. I find helping people is much more rewarding when it's from the heart, not because someone wants volunteer hours met. A good person is good because they choose to be. |
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| NoFriends - 2017-03-28 12:16 PM
GLP - 2017-03-28 11:49 AM hannahbug - 2017-03-28 11:24 AM I don't have any friends either. Then my sister died, and so now I have my husband and my mom to talk to. Mom lives 500 miles away and is giving me **** because I'm riding a western horse instead of the jumpers I grew up with. She's not even interested in how fabulous my horse is and how much I'm learning, just wanted to know if I could re-train her. ?? and I live in a rural area and have lots of horsey neighbors, but I'm just so shy and afraid they are going to judge me that I haven't reached out to any of them. So I guess it's my own fault I'm lonely, but. . . . I guess my point is that I understand how you feel. Use your horses to meet your neighbors. Maybe ask them who they use for vet, farrier, teeth floats. Maybe ask where they get tack, feed, Etc. Even though you probably don't really need these things it would be an ice breaker. You know how we love to talk about our horses. Ask where they got their horse, how it's bred, what discipline they ride, stuff like that.
It's more about having people care enough about me to make contact with me, instead of me always initiating. Maybe I'm simply too boring to spark their interest.
I am near Corpus Christi, Texas. Is that anywhere close to where you live? I know what it feels like to feel alone amongst people. I don't want you to feel that way. You can reach out to anyone of us and you can bet we will be there for you. I have an Aunt by marriage that lives a couple hundred miles away and is elderly. We text every morning. You are welcome to join us.  |
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Location: Cap'n Joan Rotgut.....alberta | Quality over quantity. ...m |
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | I have ONE friend and a cousin that I converse with regularly. But I have many friends that I know that I could call at the drop of the hat and they would come running to help me....but I don't have regular contact with them. Some people feel the need to be more connected to friends than I do. I, also, think that, at this time of year, some people have a case of the winter blues and need the interaction of friends at horse events ! |
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 Too Skinny
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Location: LA Lower Alabama | I barely keep in good contact with family. Like others have said I know if I needed help I have a bunch who would come running but I do not feel the need to be bothered or bother others daily. I check in here and there and read through their lives on social media and will slap a comment on there sometimes. I'm not a phone talker much either but I will text all day. To each their own. Lives are full of so much that I think it is hard for people to meet up anymore. I prioritize my husband and child first and with a full time job and animals Im just plain busy. |
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Location: Pacific Northwest | I have 3 friends, one of which is my girlfriend that I live with so does she even count? My very best friend moved to Texas, my other best friend recently had a baby and is just living a different life than I am.
For the most part it doesn't bother me. I have a lot of acquaintances, that I talk to on FB and share funny things with. I could probably hang out with 95% of those people and it wouldn't be weird, but I honestly don't want to. I'm a huge homebody. I like going to work, riding, and then sitting on the couch the rest of the night.
My two best friends and I have a group chat so we text literally all day, that helps a lot. |
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Location: Florida | I have one friend that I talk to every day at least once. We do call each other. Another old friend I talk to every few weeks. Then family I see every weekend, then family I talk to or see now and then and it works down from there. And I am perfectly fine with this. I did have one friend who I would call alot, but she died years ago. And another I talked to all the time who moved and we haven't talked since. But I also still work so I have work friends I see every day or week or month.
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Location: Phoenix | You are not alone!!!!!
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | NoFriends - 2017-03-28 12:37 PM Southtxponygirl - 2017-03-28 12:30 PM How old are you, married, have any children, in any horsey club, go to church? Mid 30s, married, no kids, member in several saddle clubs, nbha, other barrel groups, and don't beleive in organized religion, they just want your $. I find helping people is much more rewarding when it's from the heart, not because someone wants volunteer hours met. A good person is good because they choose to be.
I dont go to Church, but my huddy does and his parents are pretty heavy into their church and they are the best hearted folks out there, will give you their shirts off their backs types, not all churches are the way you described organized religion, believe it or not theres some really awesome people that go to church and help others in need. I believe in the old Mighty Lord myself and we all help others when needed out of the goodness of our hearts, as you can tell your comment about organized religion rubbed me the wrong way, they all dont want just your money..
Thats good your in other clubs but why hide behind another name, why not be youself  |
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| Thank you everyone. I do think maybe I have a case of the winter blues. I've had a few frustrating incidents where I feel like I'm the only one who tries to uphold the friendship.
I don't like having to post as anonymous, but I don't want to make those who know me feel bad either. Don't like making people feel bad. Just tend to take it and bottle it up. So this is where I'm at!
Definitely feel the need to spend time with my horses! I DO talk to some of you online, so that helps. I feel like some of my BHW friends that I've never met talk to me more than people who live 10 miles away. So thank you for that too!  |
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Location: Not Where I Want to Be | I'll be your friend. |
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To the Left
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Location: Florida | We are here any time you need to talk. You can find friends and family in the strangest of places. |
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Location: Texas | My best friend lives 12 hours away. I don't have any friends here, besides the few I work with, they are work friends. I don't really have friends either. |
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Location: "Si Fi" Ville | I would be grateful to have some new friends! I would consider it an honor. If anyone wants my number just pm me! You and Hannabug sound like fabulous folks to be lucky to know. |
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Location: CTX | I have only a handfull of real friends (they are family eventhough we are not related), and some I don't talk to for months at a time besides keeping tabs on them through social media. This might have to do that 2 of them are on a different continent, but when I go over to visit it is like old times.
The couple I have closer by, I talk to on the phone, by email and will meet up for lunch or something. Although there are weeks I might not speak to them. But we all know if we are needed (goes both ways), we drop everything to go help each other.
Everybody else I consider acquaintances. People I talk to at races, or work or whenever I bump into them, and if I am there and they need help and I will, but won't go out of my way for them. Nor do I expect that from them.
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Location: Oklahoma | hoofs_in_motion - 2017-03-28 12:24 PM
NoFriends - 2017-03-28 10:37 AM Does anyone else feel like they really have no true friends? This is a new login. I know lots of people. Have hundreds of folks on FB. But I'm not real sure I'd consider anyone close. I have not received a phone call from any person other than my parents for IDK how long. I've had people call me back, but no one takes the first step.
Sort of beginning to wonder why.
same here, I talk to pretty much one person on a daily basis and of course my grandparents. Kind of sucks at times
Hmmmm... one person huh??? |
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Bulls Eye
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Location: Oklahoma | I have a few people I would consider my close friends. I've learned over the years to not care what others think. I am married, and have 2 kids. We don't have any couples friends and that is hard. |
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Location: MD | Side note I do think whenever I feel like that I look at my own self and think. Am I negative to be around? Do I talk bad about people? Do I only talk about myself? Am I nice? Am I fun and upbeat to be around? If I see anything in my own self like ugh yea gosh I wouldn't want to hang around me either if I'm mean or only want to talk about myself etc I try to turn my attitude around and tell myself. I AM nice I am funny I am cool (lol) I am kind and then try to change my attitude to fit happy thoughts. I always try to be nice to everyone compliment everyone at horse shows that kind of stuff really attracts people I think. |
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Location: North Dakota | CE's wrapn3 - 2017-03-29 7:31 AM
Side note I do think whenever I feel like that I look at my own self and think. Am I negative to be around? Do I talk bad about people? Do I only talk about myself? Am I nice? Am I fun and upbeat to be around? If I see anything in my own self like ugh yea gosh I wouldn't want to hang around me either if I'm mean or only want to talk about myself etc I try to turn my attitude around and tell myself. I AM nice I am funny I am cool (lol) I am kind and then try to change my attitude to fit happy thoughts. I always try to be nice to everyone compliment everyone at horse shows that kind of stuff really attracts people I think.
This is a good post! Be the kind of friend you are looking for! With that said-I'm the type of friend that looks for reciprocation (is that a word??) of actions-if I invite you to my house-I look forward to an invite in return-if I send you a birthday wish-I look forward to the same. That is very hard for some people and I end up getting my feelings hurt. Which sucks but I get over it and move on. (most of the time there is some self deprecation involved: why am I not fun enough to want to hang out with...etc) I also have a hard time forgetting how BADLY a person/situation made me feel and won't put myself back into that spot again-which with the few friends I do have-my list is dwindling quickly. Sorry you're feeling blah hope you find a way to make things better. |
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Location: Texas | I have four people who I consider to be my true friends. They are my parents, my husband, and one other person whom I've been inseparable with since middle school. I don't feel the need to have a lot of "friends". I enjoy my close knit circle of people. People change and grow apart, it's just a fact of life. |
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