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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | I would not wait any longer go get your horse today with a Sheriff office in toll.. And get your tack tomorrow with a Sheriff Officer.. I would not beable to sleep untill I had my horse.. |
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Location: Southeast Louisiana | She cray-cray!
Looks like she expected you to react in a very specific way. When you didn't meet her expectations, she went off the deep end. Wow. What a nut job! |
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| Southtxponygirl - 2017-05-29 3:13 PM
I would not wait any longer go get your horse today with a Sheriff office in toll.. And get your tack tomorrow with a Sheriff Officer.. I would not beable to sleep untill I had my horse..
To be honest, I was thinking that maybe there really had been a misunderstanding until the comment about him getting hurt. The locking up of belongings is a red flag too. Manipulation for sure, and a possible covert threat to the horse.
Hammertime, If she were really fed up with your behavior, she'd be glad to get rid of you. But, she doesn't actually want you to leave. For whatever reason, she's zeroed in on you as her next victim. I think she just wants someone to control. You're obviously not playing her game, so now your horse and things are being held hostage. She'll continue to move goalposts ("Noooo, it's too early...Noooooo we won't be there....noooooooo fix my gate!") to delay this. She wants to either A) Have you grovelling at her feet for forgiveness or B) Drag you into a nice little fight to "prove" that you're horrible. You've done great at not playing - keep at it.
Again, law enforcement. Again, get your horse ASAP.
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Just Plain Lucky - 2017-05-29 2:34 PM Southtxponygirl - 2017-05-29 3:13 PM I would not wait any longer go get your horse today with a Sheriff office in toll.. And get your tack tomorrow with a Sheriff Officer.. I would not beable to sleep untill I had my horse.. To be honest, I was thinking that maybe there really had been a misunderstanding until the comment about him getting hurt. The locking up of belongings is a red flag too. Manipulation for sure, and a possible covert threat to the horse. Hammertime, If she were really fed up with your behavior, she'd be glad to get rid of you. But, she doesn't actually want you to leave. For whatever reason, she's zeroed in on you as her next victim. I think she just wants someone to control. You're obviously not playing her game, so now your horse and things are being held hostage. She'll continue to move goalposts ("Noooo, it's too early...Noooooo we won't be there....noooooooo fix my gate!" ) to delay this. She wants to either A ) Have you grovelling at her feet for forgiveness or B ) Drag you into a nice little fight to "prove" that you're horrible. You've done great at not playing - keep at it. Again, law enforcement. Again, get your horse ASAP.
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Location: Opelousas, LA | Maybe it's just me, but even her nice texts creeped me out! She is a tried and true bunny boiler from what I have seen, I would get law enforcement and get your horse and stuff yesterday. |
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Location: Phoenix | I was ready to take him yesterday and ride him off the property to the new facility but with my belongings locked up I wasn't sure if I'd get them back. Taking MY horse (that she loves so dearly) would have only ****ed her off and made things worse. I really, REALLY appreciate the advice. I'm trying very hard to be civil and take the high road. Law enforcement crossed my mind at one point but it was more of me thinking an officer wouldn't come out because I'm essentially just being bullied. Not releasing my property definitely warrants an officer. I'll keep you all updated for sure. I'd like to deal with the husband as he seems to have his head screwed in all the way. Do I pay the $100 for the fence? I feel like I should just so I can have a clean break. |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Just wanted to add, she sounds like a big Bully thats use to geting her way, and now your not playing her game so shes going to get you back some way some how and its dont matter how she does it, so be very careful. |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | hammer_time - 2017-05-29 3:02 PM I was ready to take him yesterday and ride him off the property to the new facility but with my belongings locked up I wasn't sure if I'd get them back. Taking MY horse (that she loves so dearly) would have only ****ed her off and made things worse. I really, REALLY appreciate the advice. I'm trying very hard to be civil and take the high road. Law enforcement crossed my mind at one point but it was more of me thinking an officer wouldn't come out because I'm essentially just being bullied. Not releasing my property definitely warrants an officer. I'll keep you all updated for sure. I'd like to deal with the husband as he seems to have his head screwed in all the way. Do I pay the $100 for the fence? I feel like I should just so I can have a clean break.
Just give them the 100.00 and get your horse.. I would do that right now..When it comes to my horses being in someones else evil hands I dont screw around.. |
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| Southtxponygirl - 2017-05-29 3:06 PM hammer_time - 2017-05-29 3:02 PM I was ready to take him yesterday and ride him off the property to the new facility but with my belongings locked up I wasn't sure if I'd get them back. Taking MY horse (that she loves so dearly) would have only ****ed her off and made things worse. I really, REALLY appreciate the advice. I'm trying very hard to be civil and take the high road. Law enforcement crossed my mind at one point but it was more of me thinking an officer wouldn't come out because I'm essentially just being bullied. Not releasing my property definitely warrants an officer. I'll keep you all updated for sure. I'd like to deal with the husband as he seems to have his head screwed in all the way. Do I pay the $100 for the fence? I feel like I should just so I can have a clean break. Just give them the 100.00 and get your horse.. I would do that right now..When it comes to my horses being in someones else evil hands I dont screw around..
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| rodeomom3 - 2017-05-29 4:19 PM
Southtxponygirl - 2017-05-29 3:06 PM hammer_time - 2017-05-29 3:02 PM I was ready to take him yesterday and ride him off the property to the new facility but with my belongings locked up I wasn't sure if I'd get them back. Taking MY horse (that she loves so dearly) would have only ****ed her off and made things worse. I really, REALLY appreciate the advice. I'm trying very hard to be civil and take the high road. Law enforcement crossed my mind at one point but it was more of me thinking an officer wouldn't come out because I'm essentially just being bullied. Not releasing my property definitely warrants an officer. I'll keep you all updated for sure. I'd like to deal with the husband as he seems to have his head screwed in all the way. Do I pay the $100 for the fence? I feel like I should just so I can have a clean break. Just give them the 100.00 and get your horse.. I would do that right now..When it comes to my horses being in someones else evil hands I dont screw around.. Yes, if you damaged their property, you need to pay for it. Her bad behavior does not excuse bad behavior on your end. I would make amends, leave on a good note as you never know when this could come back and haunt you. Itis not a matter of you being right but handling the situation in a way that does not cause you problems down the road. I don't think she was threatening your horse referring to him maybe getting hurt, Just reacting to you saying you were blocking her. I agree with Jake, play nice , get your stuff and horse then be done with them.
I agree - pay the $100 whether there is proof your horse caused the damage or not.
It's probably too late for saving face, but you wouldn't have won that battle anyway. Paying the $100 will keep your conscience clear but won't stop her from badmouthing you in the future. She seems like the type, anyway. |
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Location: Phoenix | I will pay her as it is the right thing to do. I've got the direct phone line for a civil standby in the event I should need it. I will try and do it without them but I have a number on hand in case I need to call them out and if that happens I will just take my horse and come back for the rest of my stuff at another time. I may have to bill her for the stomach ulcer this is causing me; OMG this is terrible. We'll have to see tomorrow when I unblock her if she continues the harassment. If she does I will block her again and go thru her husband. Please send good vibes that this goes as smooth as possible. |
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Location: Being pushed over the edge, NM | You shouldn't have blocked her. Just ignore her insanity, those text messages will back you up to law enforcement and in court if something happens, they would show she's unhinged. Been there, done that, put a restraining order on the drunk *****, twice. |
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| I board and have never had my stuff locked up. If I get my own tack trunk and lock it that's one thing but we always have access to our belongings. If she really wanted you gone she would have packed your stuff and left it where you could get vs locking it up. This woman sounds crazy confrontational.
Stick with a business and make sure you get a contract and receipt for everything you pay for at the next place. My current barn owner was not prepared for me asking for receipts for paying for board but I think itshe just a good practice. |
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Location: Florida.. | just my 3 cents... sounds like she found out you were leaving and is being immature about it...
the tack room was locked to prevent thieves when they arent there but she should let you go when they were home.. period.... it could be they want to make sure you pay for gate before heading out Id not think to much about it or worry.. the INJURED is because you were going to block her.. how would she get in touch with you if your horse got sick or injured .I assume its a private barn ... I think to much is being read into it but i dont know her.. they just seem a bit upset at you and My guess is you will go get your horse and stuff and that will be that.....the texts were childish but I dont see anything threatening or scarey ..... but leave a check for gate.. |
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Location: Cocoa, Florida | Seems like someone has a hard time separating business from personal feelings. If you're paying for full board it shouldn't matter how many days you come out, you're paying for that convenience.
As far as locking your stuff up, absolutely NOT okay! You don't owe money (except what they think you owe from the gate - but as a boarding facility the boarders should not be responsible for fixing fences, maintaining the barn etc, unless previously stated in a contract). But in the case of them slandering your name, I personally would give them the $100. And run as far away as you can!
I agree with calling local law enforcement, they have no rights to locking your personal belongings up! I wouldn't have waited until today, I would have marched my butt right up there and demanded my stuff, but that's me!
Please keep us updated and I hope you find a more relaxed place to keep your horse and enjoy him |
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Location: The best kept secret in TX | RnRJack - 2017-05-30 6:09 AM Seems like someone has a hard time separating business from personal feelings. If you're paying for full board it shouldn't matter how many days you come out, you're paying for that convenience. As far as locking your stuff up, absolutely NOT okay! You don't owe money (except what they think you owe from the gate - but as a boarding facility the boarders should not be responsible for fixing fences, maintaining the barn etc, unless previously stated in a contract). But in the case of them slandering your name, I personally would give them the $100. And run as far away as you can! I agree with calling local law enforcement, they have no rights to locking your personal belongings up! I wouldn't have waited until today, I would have marched my butt right up there and demanded my stuff, but that's me! Please keep us updated and I hope you find a more relaxed place to keep your horse and enjoy him
This. New barn owners don't understand this. Some private barn owners don't understand this.
In order to cover my hind end and avoid further misunderstandings I would take a sheriff with me. What if they say you stole property after you leave? What if they say you vandalized the place after you leave? Who;s workd would an officer most likely believe?
Take an officer or sheriff depending on the location. Seriously. Take a peace officer. It's the smartest thing you will ever do.  |
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Location: Not Where I Want to Be | Bibliafarm - 2017-05-29 11:28 PM just my 3 cents... sounds like she found out you were leaving and is being immature about it...
the tack room was locked to prevent thieves when they arent there but she should let you go when they were home.. period.... it could be they want to make sure you pay for gate before heading out Id not think to much about it or worry.. the INJURED is because you were going to block her.. how would she get in touch with you if your horse got sick or injured .I assume its a private barn ... I think to much is being read into it but i dont know her.. they just seem a bit upset at you and My guess is you will go get your horse and stuff and that will be that.....the texts were childish but I dont see anything threatening or scarey ..... but leave a check for gate..
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Location: In The Snow, AZ | 1DSoon - 2017-05-30 7:40 AM
Bibliafarm - 2017-05-29 11:28 PM just my 3 cents... sounds like she found out you were leaving and is being immature about it...
the tack room was locked to prevent thieves when they arent there but she should let you go when they were home.. period.... it could be they want to make sure you pay for gate before heading out Id not think to much about it or worry.. the INJURED is because you were going to block her.. how would she get in touch with you if your horse got sick or injured .I assume its a private barn ... I think to much is being read into it but i dont know her.. they just seem a bit upset at you and My guess is you will go get your horse and stuff and that will be that.....the texts were childish but I dont see anything threatening or scarey ..... but leave a check for gate..
Bingo
I kind of agree here too... she does seem a little off. But her texts clearly say they love Hammer and want the best for him. Her blows at your character are her having a pity party and trying to upset you. Which is working and I'd be upset to. Just get your stuff and horse today, pay for the gate and wash your hands of it. |
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | Any updates? Do you need bail money ????? LOL |
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Location: North Dakota | Oh my gosh.  Crazy! I would have called the sheriff, drove their immediately and got my stuff, handed them a $100 check (paper trail) for the stupid gate, and got the heck out of there.
I'm like you -- I board my horses privately and I try to keep to myself and pretty much make myself invisible. It is their home and they are allowing me to keep my horse there. I'm friendly and will chat and such, but I want to be as respectful and appreciative as possible. .... I suppose some cray-cray people would take that as being stuck up??
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