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Location: Jersey Girl | My husband and I both work. Ideally it should be both of us doing it. But he pays for someone to come do basic cleaning every 2 weeks. That started when I was sick and just couldn't do it. Hubby also did all the laundry and most of the dishes. Now that I am better I am doing the majority of it. Seems that hubby just needs a break or he decided since it was pretty much all on him for a year and an half that it was my turn now.
I expect everyone to clean up after themselves, including my grown son that still lives at home. Does that happen? Not always.
as for cooking I am the only one that cooks and I hardly ever do anymore. If I get somehting ready ahead of time my hubby will put it in the over but he will not take it upon himself to make something for dinner. | |
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Location: North Central Iowa Land of white frozen grass | My wife will not let me in the kitchen and it's a good thing. If I new how to cook I would weigh 400 lbs. I do everything outside except the flowers around the house. She will not let me touch anything in the laundry room of her clothes as she is afraid i might ruin something. I do all my own clothes except the good stuff she has gotten for me. The only way I can clean the house is if she is gone because I never put stuff back where she wants it put. It's worked great for 36 years this way. If I would have never got married my house would be spotless but with a wife and 2 daughters it is best for my health to just keep my mouth shut a lot of times and go outside. But it's been a lot of fun being a father to 2 barrel daughters. | |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | No rules in our house, both my boys are grown and have their own homes so its just me and hubby and after 37 years of living under the same roof we pretty much do our own thing we know when to pick up and help out one another and get things done when needed.  | |
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| 1DSoon - 2017-12-14 11:49 AM scwebster - 2017-12-14 12:43 PM My hubby takes care of the horses and yard. Most of the inside work is left to me. He leaves stuff out and I come behind him all the time picking up after him. He does like to cook thank gosh cause I am not an avid cook. I clean up after he cooks. If I cook, I still clean up. He doesnt realize that we have a dish washer. He just parks his dishes next to the sink most times with the left over food still on it. He piles his clothes up next to the laundry bin in the bathroom. I gripped about it the first couple of years but I kind of gave up on it. He will do a load of his laundry if he is running short, but if there are clean clothes in the dryer they get thrown in a basket for me to find. I have all but banished him from the landry room. We grocery shop together mostly. He takes out/hauls off the trash. I work full time and have a side gig. We both pay bills but he pays for more than I do. In a perfect world he would pick up after himself without me having to. Hes a dang good man, I just dont have him fully house broke yet. He doesn't respect you.
You should divorce him
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Location: Deep South | I will admit that I'm a pretty terrible housewife. We both work full time jobs. My horses are at my parents until we finish our barn, so I spend another 2 hours over there after I get off work. Hubs is not a horse person, so those chores are 100% my own. I wouldn't even know how to describe our dinner situation. College kids diet? I know we never eat out and we don't starve. Where the food comes from is your guess as good as mine.
We split laundry 50/50. I have enough clothes to last at least a month without doing any laundry, but for some reason he runs out about every 4 days? So he starts a load, puts them in the dryer and if I don't fold them and put them away they just sit in the dryer until he's worn them all again.
I typically do the dishes(my LEAST favorite household chore ever), but he pitches in every now and then. Usually when he hears a big sigh while I'm washing them.
He usually takes out trash.
He cleans my hair out of the drain.
I clean the rest of the bathroom.
We take turns sweeping/mopping.
I do all the general day-to-day picking up, just putting stuff where it belongs.
We pretty much do the outside chores together.
He's super handy, so he also does all of our repairs. Plumbing, electrical, hot water heater, etc. It's not totally uncommon for me to wake him up and beg him to fix something.
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| I'm not working right now, and hubby has his own construction/excavation/paving business. He works 60+ hrs a week. In the winter, he plows 80 houses and businesses. He takes care of the plowing in the winter, all house bills, anything that breaks at home, fixes all of our vehicles if one needs something, shovels roof in winter, he is the repair man, plumber, electrician, etc. I LOVE to cook and bake, so I do that. We have a dishwasher. I do the laundry, because if not, all my clothes will have oil stains on them. I take care of our two dogs and 6 ducks. Mind you, he built the taj-mahal for the ducks! And, we just got done building our house ourselves which we take a lot of pride in. Hubby did everything, installed radiant heat for floors, we sawed all the lumber for our house with our portable sawmill, did all the electrical and plumbing, put the roof on, etc. He's really a keeper! I'm very lucky! | |
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Location: The edge of no where | classicpotatochip - 2017-12-14 9:17 AM I divorced the reason to have rules.
 You and me both............LOL!
Mine never did anything to help out around the house..... or around the place in general or contribute financially. I really hope I never run across anyone that absolutely worthless again.. He had a great job when I married him and mysteriously was fired 2 wks later and proceeded to be a dead beat the rest of the time we were together.
I've racked my brain, about all he did was smoke pot, sleep and screw around with 20 year olds.....and rope - he did rope a lot. | |
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| Kay-DRacing. - 2017-12-14 11:54 AM star1218 - 2017-12-14 11:14 AM Ashley Lynn - 2017-12-14 10:06 AM star1218 - 2017-12-14 9:47 AM Interesting topic! :)
Married 7 years - no kids, just dogs and horses.
I do 95% of all the house work - he will help (load the dishwasher, throw in a load of clothes once in awhile) and I WILL HEAR about it - like It was the biggest accomplishment ever. LOL. however we do have a monthly cleaning lady because it is afforadable and just keeps things from getting too far gone if we are busy.
I do 98% of the laundry and he wears enough clothes for 3 ppl I swear.
He takes care of mowing, snow removal, mouse traps, gutters, putting bales out for my horses, etc.
Can't complain too much! I've never mowed the lawn at our home. haha. This made me laugh at its accuracy! My husband is the same way!! Lawd he wants a sticker on his chart for swapping the laundry from the washer to the dryer, but when it’s all said and done 90% of the clothes are his!! I don’t understand how he goes through that many sets of clothes in a day?!? LOL!!! Do you live where it's cold? Lord Mercy - the other day he peeled off IN ONE SOLID UNIT no less than under armour, a t shirt, a long sleeve t shirt and a sweat shirt. I was like NEWP. I wont wash that until it's been pulled apart dude. In all seriousness, it's pretty balanced around our place. <3
This thread just has me cracking up.
And WHY are man pants so freakin huge?? Like working man-pants.. I can wash 25 pairs of skinny jeans to one pair of insulated work jeans of my husbands.
LOL. ugh.. laundry for days.
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Location: Northwest | I do all the cleaning, cooking, dishes, laundry, folding of said laundry, and picking up after everyone. We both work full time jobs. I also do the horse chores (minus one or two times a year when I'm out of town). My husband doesn't know how to cook, doesn't know how to start a washer or dryer, and doesn't know how to wash a dish (seriously). On the flip side, he mows the grass and sprays the weeds. He has it pretty easy at home BUT he does attend EVERY SINGLE barrel race, which I kinda like! I don't see many other husbands doing that :) Anyways, when we got married I quickly learned that you have to pick your battles. He is a very supportive husband and takes good care of me, so I'm willing to pick up the slack at home. | |
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| scwebster - 2017-12-14 11:43 AM My hubby takes care of the horses and yard. Most of the inside work is left to me. He leaves stuff out and I come behind him all the time picking up after him. He does like to cook thank gosh cause I am not an avid cook. I clean up after he cooks. If I cook, I still clean up. He doesnt realize that we have a dish washer. He just parks his dishes next to the sink most times with the left over food still on it. He piles his clothes up next to the laundry bin in the bathroom. I gripped about it the first couple of years but I kind of gave up on it. He will do a load of his laundry if he is running short, but if there are clean clothes in the dryer they get thrown in a basket for me to find. I have all but banished him from the landry room. We grocery shop together mostly. He takes out/hauls off the trash. I work full time and have a side gig. We both pay bills but he pays for more than I do. Hes a dang good man, I just dont have him fully house broke yet.
I was shopping and noticed an ederly man quietly sitting in a chair by the entrance. I commented his wife had him well trained, we both laughed. So happens I was behind his wife in line to pay and he told her my comment. She turned to me and said I was too young to have mine trained, that it takes years and years lol.
I am 57 and I notice every time I go to the grocery store how many dads are there by themselves wth kids. When mine were little you never saw a dad alone with his kids or even with his wife, grocery shopping. | |
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We have always tried to split everything right down the middle. Bills/Chores/Animals... you name it.
I always feel like we are a power couple. Stronger together than either of us would be alone. | |
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Location: Missouri | Hubby mows, takes out the trash and fixes anything I can't. He will occasionally empty the dishwasher. I do most everything else. He does cook sometimes but it's always spagetti, deer tenderloin or fish fry. I'm Italian and he makes spagetti so much I'm almost sick of it, lol.
This season I went to alot of 3 day races and was gone from Friday to Sunday and due to me pitching a fit in years past about coming home to a dirty house, he will on those weekends, vaccum, dust and tidy up, do laundry and scoop the litter boxes, lol.
He has adult ADD and it's a miracle if he completes a task most of the time. He will start to empty the dishwasher, get distracted and 2 hours later the door is still open and it's half unloaded. Kinda like being married to a toddler. | |
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Location: on the fine line between insanity and geniusness | star1218 - 2017-12-14 2:46 PM
Kay-DRacing. - 2017-12-14 11:54 AM star1218 - 2017-12-14 11:14 AM Ashley Lynn - 2017-12-14 10:06 AM star1218 - 2017-12-14 9:47 AM Interesting topic! :)
Married 7Â years - no kids, just dogs and horses.
I do 95% of all the house work - he will help (load the dishwasher, throw in a load of clothes once in awhile) and I WILL HEAR about it - like It was the biggest accomplishment ever. LOL. however we do have a monthly cleaning lady because it is afforadable and just keeps things from getting too far gone if we are busy.
I do 98% of the laundry and he wears enough clothes for 3 ppl I swear.Â
He takes care of mowing, snow removal, mouse traps, gutters, putting bales out for my horses, etc.Â
Can't complain too much! I've never mowed the lawn at our home. haha.  This made me laugh at its accuracy! My husband is the same way!! Lawd he wants a sticker on his chart for swapping the laundry from the washer to the dryer, but when it’s all said and done 90% of the clothes are his!! I don’t understand how he goes through that many sets of clothes in a day?!? LOL!!! Do you live where it's cold? Lord Mercy - the other day he peeled off IN ONE SOLID UNIT no less than under armour, a t shirt, a long sleeve t shirt and a sweat shirt. I was like NEWP. I wont wash that until it's been pulled apart dude. In all seriousness, it's pretty balanced around our place. <3
And WHY are man pants so freakin huge?? Like working man-pants.. I can wash 25 pairs of skinny jeans to one pair of insulated work jeans of my husbands.
LOL. ugh.. laundry for days. Â
Mine is a cowboy for a living.... it’s scary the things he drags in on his clothes! There have seriously been days that I took his clothes outside and hosed them off before I let them near my washer!!! I agree with comments above- pick your battles. My husband would live like a 16 year old if it wasn’t for me, BUT he goes to every barrel race, rides my horses to work during the week to keep them fine tuned and sacrifices everything for me and Brody. He’s an amazing, talented man that’s a great husband and an unbelievable father, who cares that he can’t turn his socks right side out to be washed?! | |
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| I do all of the house chores, except the dishes. With a newborn (who is now 17 months) I was stressed to the extreme. I felt like I would come home from work, and do more work until bedtime. My husband did step up and offer to handle loading/unloading the dish washer. He pays 90% of our household bills, so I don't freak out about him not helping with cleaning/cooking/laundry. Although if I am completely overwhelmed, he will usually feel the tension and grab the vacuum or something haha :) He has a habit of leaving dirty dishes behind in the living room and bedroom and I do get after him about it, but usually I just end up picking those items up myself.
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| rodeomom3 - 2017-12-14 2:52 PM scwebster - 2017-12-14 11:43 AM My hubby takes care of the horses and yard. Most of the inside work is left to me. He leaves stuff out and I come behind him all the time picking up after him. He does like to cook thank gosh cause I am not an avid cook. I clean up after he cooks. If I cook, I still clean up. He doesnt realize that we have a dish washer. He just parks his dishes next to the sink most times with the left over food still on it. He piles his clothes up next to the laundry bin in the bathroom. I gripped about it the first couple of years but I kind of gave up on it. He will do a load of his laundry if he is running short, but if there are clean clothes in the dryer they get thrown in a basket for me to find. I have all but banished him from the landry room. We grocery shop together mostly. He takes out/hauls off the trash. I work full time and have a side gig. We both pay bills but he pays for more than I do. Hes a dang good man, I just dont have him fully house broke yet. I was shopping and noticed an ederly man quietly sitting in a chair by the entrance. I commented his wife had him well trained, we both laughed. So happens I was behind his wife in line to pay and he told her my comment. She turned to me and said I was too young to have mine trained, that it takes years and years lol.
I am 57 and I notice every time I go to the grocery store how many dads are there by themselves wth kids. When mine were little you never saw a dad alone with his kids or even with his wife, grocery shopping.
Aww! Older couples are adorable.
I do agree that these days dads are usually more involved. | |
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| My mothers word's of wisdom when I got married was, "never start doing something for him you don't plan on doing the rest of your life". Oh boy was she right!
For the most part I do more but anytime I ask he'll help with no argument. There's always going to be something that the other half can't stand, we learn to look past, deal with it, and move on because in the grand scheme of things, they don't really matter! | |
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Location: Somewhere around here | My husband and I have two little girls, 2 ½ and our youngest is almost 1, and I do everything in the house, everything. Laundry, cooking, dishes, vacuum, mopping, dusting, organizing, and probably other stuff I can't think of right now. My oldest daughter knows to pick up her messes when I ask, put her dirty clothes in her hamper, feed the dog, and to clean up any spills she makes, which is nice. My husband works outside our home on our property, doing farm and ranching work. He's our sole money maker in the house so I don't really mind doing all the work because I just get to stay home with my girls and go outside when it's nice, and ride when it's nice out. We make it work. | |
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Location: Wonderful Wyoming | I'm pretty OCD and actually REALLY like to clean house. Occasionally I get my 9yr old to vacuum. I need to get him to help do more, I don't want his future wife to have a dead beat, but it's hard to let him when I am so picky. My husband does cook some-grill mostly. Little guy cleans his room. Both kids help with dog chores and chickens, but again I am so picky that I usually go with to make sure it is done my way. Poor kiddos lolÂ
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| Ashley Lynn - 2017-12-14 1:37 PM
star1218 - 2017-12-14 2:46 PM
Kay-DRacing. - 2017-12-14 11:54 AM star1218 - 2017-12-14 11:14 AM Ashley Lynn - 2017-12-14 10:06 AM star1218 - 2017-12-14 9:47 AM Interesting topic! :)
Married 7Â years - no kids, just dogs and horses.
I do 95% of all the house work - he will help (load the dishwasher, throw in a load of clothes once in awhile) and I WILL HEAR about it - like It was the biggest accomplishment ever. LOL. however we do have a monthly cleaning lady because it is afforadable and just keeps things from getting too far gone if we are busy.
I do 98% of the laundry and he wears enough clothes for 3 ppl I swear.Â
He takes care of mowing, snow removal, mouse traps, gutters, putting bales out for my horses, etc.Â
Can't complain too much! I've never mowed the lawn at our home. haha.  This made me laugh at its accuracy! My husband is the same way!! Lawd he wants a sticker on his chart for swapping the laundry from the washer to the dryer, but when it’s all said and done 90% of the clothes are his!! I don’t understand how he goes through that many sets of clothes in a day?!? LOL!!! Do you live where it's cold? Lord Mercy - the other day he peeled off IN ONE SOLID UNIT no less than under armour, a t shirt, a long sleeve t shirt and a sweat shirt. I was like NEWP. I wont wash that until it's been pulled apart dude. In all seriousness, it's pretty balanced around our place. <3
And WHY are man pants so freakin huge?? Like working man-pants.. I can wash 25 pairs of skinny jeans to one pair of insulated work jeans of my husbands.
LOL. ugh.. laundry for days. Â
Mine is a cowboy for a living.... it’s scary the things he drags in on his clothes! There have seriously been days that I took his clothes outside and hosed them off before I let them near my washer!!! I agree with comments above- pick your battles. My husband would live like a 16 year old if it wasn’t for me, BUT he goes to every barrel race, rides my horses to work during the week to keep them fine tuned and sacrifices everything for me and Brody. He’s an amazing, talented man that’s a great husband and an unbelievable father, who cares that he can’t turn his socks right side out to be washed?!
My husband is an equine vet for a living; talk about scary things on his clothes and boots! We have a rule that he is supposed to tale his boots off before he comes in the house, but that doesn’t always happen. And so much laundry!! One of his wedding vows was to turn his nasty socks right side out, but I don’t get too picky- yes, pick your battles!
There was a time where he was making more money than me, so he covered more of the bills where I did most of the housework and grocery shopping. He just started his own practice, so his income went to basically zilch, whereas I am making quite a bit more, so I picked up the bill load. We both love to cook, and he just dotes on our horses (I am SO thankful he loves seeing our gals after a long day of work), and he never complains about treating them if they’re injured- even if he jokingly gives me a hard time. We both do housework now, and are pretty equally yoked. I also like to think we are a power couple- better together than we would be apart 
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Location: north dakota | Our chores are all split. I work 3 nights a week so the hubby cooks on those nights. My 3 oldest kids living in my house each take a week of kitchen duty and will have to split some other house hold chores. The 3 oldest and my hubby and I do are own laundry. Both my husband and I help out with the 3 youngest kids laundry. My 5 year old and 2 year old will help with picking up their toys and help me when I wash the floors.
I feed the horses in the am and my oldest daughter feeds them at night. All the kids from 5 up can make their own sandwiches. The 13 and 14 year old will mow the lawn and they all have to help pick up stuff outside.
My husband and oldest son (19) take care of the cows and farm.
The only one that doesn’t help out is the 9 month old. My 19 year old lives in his own place on our farm and I think his girlfriend helps him with his house.
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