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| Marriage!!! The one thing that can make you feel:                    
ALL AT ONCE!!!
As others have said:
It takes two!!! There are things I refuse to do-because HE can do them.
I don't clean his horses stall, I don't fold his laundry. I wash it, then shove it into baskets for him to fold...
And if he gets really bad about leaving his crap out I have a basket that I put all his crap in and then I hide the basket in the spare bedroom so I don't have to look at it.
One time...I threw all his laundry in the front yard...
...that made him REALLY mad, but after that he stopped leaving it everywhere.
When I married him I didn't become his momma too...and I tell him that. He will go through phases where he will be extra helpful....or extra not helpful. When he is not helpful I don't pick up after him. If I can pick up after myself-he can pick up after himself...and the rest we meet in the middle and work on together.
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| Newly weds should not be concerned about cooking dinner or cleaning house .... too much newly wed fun to have from 6-10pm ..... somewhere around 10pm figure out what you can nuke from the freezer ... then snuggle up ... wake up next morning and go to work ... lol ..
Edited by BARRELHORSE USA 2013-12-04 11:57 PM
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Location: Texas | Get a job working 7 days a week... leaving for work before he does and get home at around 9. Oh and throw in an 8 year old boy with homework, school events, sports (practices and games) and tell him good luck being Mr. Mom. Oh and don't forget to take care of the chickens, ducks, rabbit, dogs, cats, and horses.
My husband and son begged me to quit my job. After I got pregnant and couldn't do my job anymore I did. They both appreciate what I do around here a little more lol. My son will come home from school and after his chores are done he will do something random like empty the dishwasher, clean under the couches, clean up the spare bedroom, or vacuume... Or something else he thinks needs to be done at the time. Hubby does the same thing. If it looks like I am struggling to keep up one or both of them get up and help me out.
I tried being super mom/wife... I ended up being super tired, super stressed, and super resentful instead. It really isn't worth it. Ask for help, I wish I had asked for help a long time ago. For the women that do manage to get it all done by themselves... kudos to them, I personally can't do it all around here. |
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| Your posts have been really helpful!
He actually offered to cook dinner tonight!
I am so thankfull that there is a light at the end of the tunnel!
His mom tells me that every one says his dad is the "PERFECT HUSBAND"
and she says "THANK YOU, that was 30 years of hard training"! lol
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 Hot Dispatcher
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Location: Utah | Cowgirlreg - 2013-12-05 9:53 AM Your posts have been really helpful! He actually offered to cook dinner tonight! I am so thankfull that there is a light at the end of the tunnel! His mom tells me that every one says his dad is the "PERFECT HUSBAND" and she says "THANK YOU, that was 30 years of hard training"! lol
You have been given some really good advise here. Over time my husband and I have worked out helping each other out. One thing I do to help him that helps me is I make a menu plan and have a list on the fridge door of all the meals we have everything for. Whoever is home first is responsible for dinner. I went on strike for a time like many of the others on this thread. I can eat cold cereal everynight but he got tired of it fast and comprimised to help out. |
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