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Location: Displaced Iowegian | FlyingJT - 2014-08-06 4:06 PM Whiteboy - 2014-08-06 3:57 PM What is your name so that we might recognize you in the news reports? Lets not think that way.... I'm sure he's just a little self centered, young, and dumb!
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Location: SE Louisiana | NJJ - 2014-08-06 4:19 PM
FlyingJT - 2014-08-06 4:06 PM Whiteboy - 2014-08-06 3:57 PM What is your name so that we might recognize you in the news reports? Lets not think that way.... I'm sure he's just a little self centered, young, and dumb!
Subtle??
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| One thing you shouldn't have done was shake his hand, you gave him physical contact.
From now on, if he comes into you office, call someone else in before you say anything.
Do not shake his hand, don't even smile at him, he is delusional and this just feeds his fantasy. |
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | komet. - 2014-08-06 4:21 PM NJJ - 2014-08-06 4:19 PM FlyingJT - 2014-08-06 4:06 PM Whiteboy - 2014-08-06 3:57 PM What is your name so that we might recognize you in the news reports? Lets not think that way.... I'm sure he's just a little self centered, young, and dumb! Subltle??
OK....more like blatant hints....... |
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | Also, DO NOT FRIEND HIM ON FACEBOOK....no matter how many times he requests. |
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| LRQHS - 2014-08-06 4:24 PM
Also, DO NOT FRIEND HIM ON FACEBOOK....no matter how many times he requests.Â
That is one thing that I have NOT done. I told him I would never friend him on facebook! Plus he doesn't have my phone number so that's good! He also can't access employee files so he should never be able to find out where I live. I live 45 minutes from work so following me home would be obvious. |
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | You know, you could start burping and farting anytime he comes near you....maybe, pick your nose too......eat a big can of pork and beans tonight. |
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Location: North Dakota | STALKER STALKER STALKER!!! I'd be packin some heat and watching my back. I'd also report his sick a$$ to your HR department for harrassment! Definately not normal behavior. I'm pretty sure he knew you were married and have kids, even if you didn't tell him, co-workers just know details like that and for him to profess his love just screams sicko to me! Be careful! |
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Location: where the wind blows | LRQHS - 2014-08-06 3:29 PM You know, you could start burping and farting anytime he comes near you....maybe, pick your nose too......eat a big can of pork and beans tonight.
Your cracking me up with your comments today. OP - I like this advice. |
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| WYOTurn-n-Burn - 2014-08-06 4:31 PM
STALKER STALKER STALKER!!! I'd be packin some heat and watching my back. I'd also report his sick a$$ to your HR department for harrassment! Definately not normal behavior. I'm pretty sure he knew you were married and have kids, even if you didn't tell him, co-workers just know details like that and for him to profess his love just screams sicko to me! Be careful!
I was very taken back and all I could think about is..... dude you know I'm married..and.. how did I get myself into this mess! I'm nice to everyone and I don't have people professing their everlasting love for me daily or nothing! If he says one more thing out of line I'm going to have to take it to my boss, but I'm afraid that since their friends that my boss won't believe me. |
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| FlyingJT - 2014-08-06 2:04 PM
RodeoCowgirl4u - 2014-08-06 3:42 PM
FlyingJT - 2014-08-06 12:24 PM
I just told him, not 5 minutes ago, that I am very sorry that he is attracted to a married women but I am married, happily with two children for over 10 years, and he is going to have to get over it because there is nothing that will, could, maybe happen. That i'm very sorry to sound mean and that I don't care about his feelings but things need to return back to normal. He said sorry and that one day he hopes that I can tell him the truth about how I feel about him..... awkward!!!!! (I don't understand this guy) He then gave me a hand shake and disappeared! Luckily I'll never have to be alone with this person but unfortunately I'm the only female in my office and I have told one other person and like my husband he thought it was funny and nothing to worry about.. Maybe being a female I look differently at things but I feel like this is something to worry about.
It IS something to worry about...and if no one in your office or your husband takes it seriously...I would be on my way to the gun store after work to get a CCW permit and/or a taser for my purse. (I have both, just in case. ) it is NOT funny and you are right...if it makes you feel icky or uncomfortable, it is harassment in the eyes of the law.
I already carry, and no I didn't go get my ccw, I don't think I need a little piece of paper stating that I can protect myself. The unfortunate thing is that I have to leave it in my car and if they ever find out that it's in my car I would be terminated immediately. It's a weapon free campus.
well here in hippy dippy CA...you do need a CCW. And here, even on a weapons free campus, if you show the permit (and the reason) yo can carry on that weapons free campus. I would say that you have a PERFECTLY valid reason. That is truly scary...and some weirdos will even think you are playing "hard to get" if you are just mean to them. You need to tell HR. If they do nothing, carry the weapon and if they fire you for havin it...sue them. Your concerns are well documented here on this forum if the company tries to hide that there was anything wrong other than you carrying to work. |
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| jkrm - 2014-08-06 4:36 PM
LRQHS - 2014-08-06 3:29 PM You know, you could start burping and farting anytime he comes near you....maybe, pick your nose too......eat a big can of pork and beans tonight.Â
 Your cracking me up with  your comments today.  OP - I like this advice. Â
Don't encourage her......i'm not burping, farting, or picking my nose! |
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | FlyingJT - 2014-08-06 4:44 PM jkrm - 2014-08-06 4:36 PM LRQHS - 2014-08-06 3:29 PM You know, you could start burping and farting anytime he comes near you....maybe, pick your nose too......eat a big can of pork and beans tonight. Your cracking me up with your comments today. OP - I like this advice. Don't encourage her......i'm not burping, farting, or picking my nose!
It's good advise and could work  Let's practice....
Wooooo weeeeeee, lordy!!! I shouldn't have eaten all them beans last night! |
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Location: The end of the Earth, SE AR | You'd better file a sexual harrassment report with your supervisor. He could go crazy the other direction, get mad at you and tell your boss you are sexually harrassing him. Can't trust those wackos. |
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | WOOOOOOO WEEEEEEEE! I'm so sorry! They don't know which end they want to come out today!!!
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| RodeoCowgirl4u - 2014-08-06 4:43 PM
FlyingJT - 2014-08-06 2:04 PM
RodeoCowgirl4u - 2014-08-06 3:42 PM
FlyingJT - 2014-08-06 12:24 PM
I just told him, not 5 minutes ago, that I am very sorry that he is attracted to a married women but I am married, happily with two children for over 10 years, and he is going to have to get over it because there is nothing that will, could, maybe happen. That i'm very sorry to sound mean and that I don't care about his feelings but things need to return back to normal. He said sorry and that one day he hopes that I can tell him the truth about how I feel about him..... awkward!!!!! (I don't understand this guy) He then gave me a hand shake and disappeared! Luckily I'll never have to be alone with this person but unfortunately I'm the only female in my office and I have told one other person and like my husband he thought it was funny and nothing to worry about.. Maybe being a female I look differently at things but I feel like this is something to worry about.
It IS something to worry about...and if no one in your office or your husband takes it seriously...I would be on my way to the gun store after work to get a CCW permit and/or a taser for my purse. (I have both, just in case. ) it is NOT funny and you are right...if it makes you feel icky or uncomfortable, it is harassment in the eyes of the law.
I already carry, and no I didn't go get my ccw, I don't think I need a little piece of paper stating that I can protect myself. The unfortunate thing is that I have to leave it in my car and if they ever find out that it's in my car I would be terminated immediately. It's a weapon free campus.
well here in hippy dippy CA...you do need a CCW. And here, even on a weapons free campus, if you show the permit (and the reason ) yo can carry on that weapons free campus. I would say that you have a PERFECTLY valid reason. That is truly scary...and some weirdos will even think you are playing "hard to get" if you are just mean to them. You need to tell HR. If they do nothing, carry the weapon and if they fire you for havin it...sue them. Your concerns are well documented here on this forum if the company tries to hide that there was anything wrong other than you carrying to work.
We don't really have an HR department. It goes, Athletic Director, Assistant Athletic Director, my boss, and then me, however me and my boss share the HR responsibilities. I don't know... I've got such bad anxiety today that I haven't eaten, my head hurts, and I've only processed half the AR. He hasn't bugged me since I talked to him earlier so I'm hoping that I said enough and he's not as creepy as everyone is telling me he is.... |
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| LRQHS - 2014-08-06 4:47 PM
WOOOOOOO WEEEEEEEE! I'm so sorry! They are don't know which end they want to come out today!!!Â
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | FlyingJT - 2014-08-06 4:49 PM LRQHS - 2014-08-06 4:47 PM WOOOOOOO WEEEEEEEE! I'm so sorry! They are don't know which end they want to come out today!!!
Ain't no body stalking me......just sayin..... |
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| LRQHS - 2014-08-06 4:50 PM
FlyingJT - 2014-08-06 4:49 PM LRQHS - 2014-08-06 4:47 PM WOOOOOOO WEEEEEEEE! I'm so sorry! They are don't know which end they want to come out today!!!Â
Can't argue with that...Pork & Beans it is!!! |
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | FlyingJT - 2014-08-06 4:56 PM LRQHS - 2014-08-06 4:50 PM FlyingJT - 2014-08-06 4:49 PM LRQHS - 2014-08-06 4:47 PM WOOOOOOO WEEEEEEEE! I'm so sorry! They are don't know which end they want to come out today!!! Can't argue with that...Pork & Beans it is!!!
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