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| pinx05 - 2014-11-24 3:37 PM
I had a friend... I saw her boyfriend naked in his truck with another girl (also naked). I told my friend... and somehow I ended up being the bad guy. Not sure how that happened but I have learned my lesson. My friends are getting annonymous tips from now on lol.
I have been in this situation too and either way you get in trouble. Since you don't have a relationship with the supposide gf back home, leave it alone.
I remember being in college and people jokingly in relationships all the time on facebook. Some were best friends and some were opposite sex/same sex. I wouldn't get too concerned unless you know the facts. |
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Location: SE Louisiana | pinx05 - 2014-11-24 3:37 PM
I had a friend... I saw her boyfriend naked in his truck with another girl (also naked). I told my friend... and somehow I ended up being the bad guy. Not sure how that happened but I have learned my lesson. My friends are getting annonymous tips from now on lol.
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | None ya! |
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| hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-24 1:36 PM wow....stay out of it.....karma will hit them both if she does know he has a girlfriend
sorry but your roommate is a flipping homewrecker.
WHOA - so SHE's the homewrecker?
If he's actually cheating, HE is the homewrecker, not her. And WHO knows what he told her about the girl back home. I'm also the odd man out - I'd send a message to the GF, it's not cool to be the ONLY one who does not know. |
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | Go beat the crap out of him.
Was it you that had the travel partner that had a dude in bed with you in the morning that your friend had brought in the trailer? |
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Location: Ky | Depends on whether you are friends with your roommate. If my wife was cheating on me and my friends knew it and didn't tell me then once I found out she would no longer be my wife and they would no longer be my friends. |
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| The op is jumping to conclusions with no concrete evidence.
As people have said there is a chance he has not updated his Facebook status, and knowing from a friend of mine, if it was the other girl who tagged him in the relationship, he cannot get out of it on Facebook. This happened to a guy friend of mine.
I personally would leave it alone, but I would have never snooped on his Facebook status to see what it said. I don't need drama.
If the op is concerned and wants to say something, then with both the roommate and the guy present, I would suggest bringing it up something along the lines, hey I seen your Facebook relationship status is with insert name here, what's the deal?
If both are present, everything is out in the open |
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| You know that Bob Seger song, Night Moves? Maybe they have a mutually satisfying relationship and nobody cares.......I may or may not have had a few of those in college myself.
I sure would not make it my business. |
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Location: SE Louisiana | kmcsunshine - 2014-11-27 3:29 PM
You know that Bob Seger song, Night Moves? Maybe they have a mutually satisfying relationship and nobody cares.......I may or may not have had a few of those in college myself.
I sure would not make it my business.
HAPPY to know someone that knows Bob!!!!!  
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bgOA24hAe60
Edited by komet. 2014-11-27 3:36 PM
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| I think I have personally been on both sides of this. It sucks.
You're not good friends with the "girlfriend" so I guess you don't really owe her anything.
However, having been on the horrible end of cheating and other people knowing and not saying anything-that sucks too.
The difficult thing would be if your friend actually did not know (not likely) if that's the case, you probably owe her at least a heads up. Just say he popped up on the "friends you might know" bar and clicked on it. At least let her know you know what's going on. Also--If she does know about the girlfriend and doesn't care-for heaven's sake don't introduce her to any of your boyfriends!! |
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Location: North MS | I say pull a pretty little liars show type stunt. Catch her sloppy drunk (I theorize this happens on occassion), get her phone and update the relationship status on her end. If she is totally passed out she won't even remember if she did it. Sneaky sneaky.
Seems kind of obvious they are in a relationship. It would be even better to catch them both in the same state of mind and neither knew what they did. |
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Location: The best kept secret in TX | pinx05 - 2014-11-24 3:37 PM I had a friend... I saw her boyfriend naked in his truck with another girl (also naked). I told my friend... and somehow I ended up being the bad guy. Not sure how that happened but I have learned my lesson. My friends are getting annonymous tips from now on lol.
Baha I love the anonymous tips. Like: Here's a note someone left on our doorstep for you. I don't know who left it but here ya go. LOL
Edited by IRunOnFaith 2014-11-28 12:20 PM
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| farmer's tan - 2014-11-27 11:42 PM
I think I have personally been on both sides of this. It sucks.
You're not good friends with the "girlfriend" so I guess you don't really owe her anything.
However, having been on the horrible end of cheating and other people knowing and not saying anything-that sucks too.
The difficult thing would be if your friend actually did not know (not likely) if that's the case, you probably owe her at least a heads up. Just say he popped up on the "friends you might know" bar and clicked on it. At least let her know you know what's going on. Also--If she does know about the girlfriend and doesn't care-for heaven's sake don't introduce her to any of your boyfriends!!
Send a letter to her in the mail using cut out letters from a magazine to spell out, "STAY AWAY FROM MY BOYFRIEND!"I would just stay out of it though. If it's on Facebook, it's not like he's hiding it from your roommate. If you talk to anyone, it should be the actual gf but I see that ending very badly for you. |
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Location: Texas | Always tell! Even if you send a note in the mail anotomously. Don't explain don't say who it is just say I know your bf is cheating you might want to do some snooping. |
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Location: Oklahoma | It's a hard place to be in. I watched a good friend cheat on her boyfriend (who I really liked and had somewhat of a friendship with) numerous times and wanted so badly to tell him, but my husband suggested that I just stay out of it. I did. They wound up breaking up (which needed to happen long before the cheating ever went on) and both are in a happy place today.
It sounds really hypocritical (and I guess it is), but if my husband was cheating on me I'd want to know, regardless of who told me.... But if the girl being cheated on isn't someone you're extremely close to I don't think you'll be portrayed in a good light. I would also be afraid of the guy getting upset and having some anger issues with you and still coming over to your apartment... but I'm kinda paranoid like that! |
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