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Location: Kansas | I have residential custody, and he has a battery charge.....if he doesn't return my child to me which has happened...I will contact the police just like I did last time. An officer called him and basically told him to hand her over or else he would personally come to his house and it wouldn't be good |
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  Shipwrecked and Flat Out Zapped
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | Get a different lawyer. Enough is enough from this guy. |
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Location: SE KS | If you have a court ordered thru the State of Kansas child support order, "you should" be able to receive
assistance from the State of Kansas on the back child support. As I said before SRS "could" assist or at least
advise you on a route to take.
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 Googly Goo
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| hoofs_in_motion - 2015-01-12 7:34 PM At this current time, nothing has been filed court wise because of he wants me to pay him for everything and he wants possession of the trailer......he can take me to court for it. unfortunately my family has no money, so my mom couldn't help me even if she tried. Being disabled puts a financial strain on her. Until a suit is filled, quit wasting money on an inempt attorney. Save the money you're giving him for somebody that knows what they are doing in case a civil suit or criminal complaint is filed. Until then just say no. You've got the cart before the horse. Give them no information and do not negotiate a settlement. You have no idea what their foundation is and you may be helping them.
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Undercover Amish Mafia Member
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Location: Kansas | TXBO - 2015-01-13 10:37 AM hoofs_in_motion - 2015-01-12 7:34 PM At this current time, nothing has been filed court wise because of he wants me to pay him for everything and he wants possession of the trailer......he can take me to court for it. unfortunately my family has no money, so my mom couldn't help me even if she tried. Being disabled puts a financial strain on her. Until a suit is filled, quit wasting money on an inempt attorney. Save the money you're giving him for somebody that knows what they are doing in case a civil suit or criminal complaint is filed. Until then just say no. You've got the cart before the horse. Give them no information and do not negotiate a settlement. You have no idea what there foundation is and you may be helping them.
okay, I ended up breaking down last night and left a very histeral message for the attorney asking him to withdraw. Right now my bill with him is over $1,200....he is doing absolutely nothing for me. |
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Googly Goo
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| hoofs_in_motion - 2015-01-13 10:41 AM okay, I ended up breaking down last night and left a very histeral message for the attorney asking him to withdraw. Right now my bill with him is over $1,200....he is doing absolutely nothing for me.
Good. There are a couple attorneys on this board. Maybe you can get one of them to chime in. I believe RedRaider is one.
Informal settlements are reserved for reasonable people with reasonable disputes and have low risk of future legal ramifications. And they are done without attorneys. You are way past that.
Formal disputes require competent attorneys and afford you due process and rule of law. In formal disputes, you have two options. 1) Respond to a formal prayer for relief. 2) File a prayer for relief. Both should have a legal basis. Until that time, you will go in circles.
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Location: relocated to Texas | hoofs_in_motion - 2015-01-13 9:01 AM The thing is, I want him to take me to court....but his attorney keeps dragging it out further and further so we don't have to go to court. They want me to settle and pay half the cost of the trailer....as well as pay off 2 of his credit cards that my name isn't on.
His attorney doesn't want to go to court because it doesn't sound like he will win the case. On the other hand, it they wear you out with threats and get you to settle, they will likely win more than they would going to court. Just don't be intimidated and let them take you to court. Don't discuss things with your ex or his mother. When you meet him to pick up or drop off your child, I would record the conversation. Try your best to keep emotions out of it. People make the wrong decisions when they get emotional. Then they start calling attorneys for every little thing and run up their legal bills. Calmer heads will prevail here, be that voice of calm. |
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| Hoofs - I've got nothing but prayers and support. I'm sorry you are dealing with a true d bag.  |
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| hoofs_in_motion - 2015-01-13 10:41 AM TXBO - 2015-01-13 10:37 AM hoofs_in_motion - 2015-01-12 7:34 PM At this current time, nothing has been filed court wise because of he wants me to pay him for everything and he wants possession of the trailer......he can take me to court for it. unfortunately my family has no money, so my mom couldn't help me even if she tried. Being disabled puts a financial strain on her. Until a suit is filled, quit wasting money on an inempt attorney. Save the money you're giving him for somebody that knows what they are doing in case a civil suit or criminal complaint is filed. Until then just say no. You've got the cart before the horse. Give them no information and do not negotiate a settlement. You have no idea what there foundation is and you may be helping them.
I'm glad you "fired" him, I'm sorry he basically ripped you off. I hope you can get a good lawyer and this ends up in your favor. Many positive thoughts being sent your way. |
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Good Ole Boys just Fine with Me
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Location: SE Missouri | Terrible situation and prayers to you! |
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Location: Bastrop, Texas | And the moral of the story is.....................?
At any rate, all of this crap should be handled by/through your attorney. You should at the very least know what constitutes a common law marriage in your state by now.
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Location: Oklahoma | Bear - 2015-01-14 7:30 AM And the moral of the story is.....................? At any rate, all of this crap should be handled by/through your attorney. You should at the very least know what constitutes a common law marriage in your state by now. Good luck!
I find this post to be very unhelpful. She came on here asking for advice. No need to say "And the moral of this story is...........?" |
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Location: Bastrop, Texas | TwistedK - 2015-01-14 8:45 AM
Bear - 2015-01-14 7:30 AM And the moral of the story is.....................? At any rate, all of this crap should be handled by/through your attorney. You should at the very least know what constitutes a common law marriage in your state by now. Good luck!
I find this post to be very unhelpful. She came on here asking for advice. No need to say "And the moral of this story is...........?"
I put that comment in because I feel we all learn from our own mistakes and that of others. In my opinion, the lesson to be learned is to be mindful of what could transpire in a relationship where there is cohabitation, in the event things go south.
My comment about the attorney was to make the point that a good attorney would have clarified what constitutes a "common law marriage" in her state. It doesn't appear that he accomplished this. It sounds like she has a already concluded that she needs a new attorney. |
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Location: Kansas | Bear - 2015-01-14 9:22 AM TwistedK - 2015-01-14 8:45 AM Bear - 2015-01-14 7:30 AM And the moral of the story is.....................? At any rate, all of this crap should be handled by/through your attorney. You should at the very least know what constitutes a common law marriage in your state by now. Good luck! I find this post to be very unhelpful. She came on here asking for advice. No need to say "And the moral of this story is...........?" I put that comment in because I feel we all learn from our own mistakes and that of others. In my opinion, the lesson to be learned is to be mindful of what could transpire in a relationship where there is cohabitation, in the event things go south. My comment about the attorney was to make the point that a good attorney would have clarified what constitutes a "common law marriage" in her state. It doesn't appear that he accomplished this. It sounds like she has a already concluded that she needs a new attorney.
The moral of the story is.....I was an idiot to have ever met him (but thankful because I have my daughter) but nonetheless, this guy still scares me.
My attorney never said anything about common law marriage, I never ever considered anything with that man since I hated him so much in the relationship and felt trapped because of my child. But his attorney is working it as a "marriage" case when my attorney had said "no this is just a paternity case."
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Location: Bastrop, Texas | I'm sorry that you have to go through this nightmare. The good news is it will soon be history and you can move on with your little girl by your side.
In the end, you really will be stronger and wiser because of this. I'm sure you are tired of hearing those comments! A good attorney will earn his/her money by acting in your best interest and dealing with the crap. |
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Location: Florida.. | Go to courthouse and tell them you want to apply for child support and go from there.. leave the other crap out of it for now. if he and his attorney want to take you for court for that then let them.. if you have done nothing wrong and owe him nothing then DONT waste your time or money on a lawyer
its black and white. if indeed he paid for trailer then give it to him.
but he owes child support, he has to pay it . all other stuff is nonsense . |
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Googly Goo
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| TwistedK - 2015-01-14 8:45 AM Bear - 2015-01-14 7:30 AM And the moral of the story is.....................? At any rate, all of this crap should be handled by/through your attorney. You should at the very least know what constitutes a common law marriage in your state by now. Good luck! I find this post to be very unhelpful. She came on here asking for advice. No need to say "And the moral of this story is...........?"
The only good advice is to seek competent council. Anything else is simply thread conversation.
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Location: Bastrop, Texas | TXBO - 2015-01-14 10:13 AM
TwistedK - 2015-01-14 8:45 AM Bear - 2015-01-14 7:30 AM And the moral of the story is.....................? At any rate, all of this crap should be handled by/through your attorney. You should at the very least know what constitutes a common law marriage in your state by now. Good luck! I find this post to be very unhelpful. She came on here asking for advice. No need to say "And the moral of this story is...........?"
The only good advice is to seek competent council. Anything else is simply thread conversation.
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | I would like to say that I have some "unconventional" advise for you too. It involves a swamp, mosquitos, honey and marshmellows. |
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