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Just Plain Lucky - 2016-11-22 11:05 AM
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Frodo - 2016-11-22 9:43 AM 1DSoon - 2016-11-22 7:23 AM this thread is depressing Why?
It's just that I think that as humans we were genetically predispostioined to cohabitate.
So, for those that haven't found that partner, it sort of seems like it's sad to me.
Just an observation.
It depends on perspective, I think. People find happiness in different things.
Not sure I agree completely about cohabitation, but I DO agree that in general human beings need social interaction (this coming from an introvert ). I have a good family and a few good friends and don't feel like there's anything missing. Sure, if the right person comes along, great. But honestly, I couldn't imagine another person living with me right now. It makes my skin crawl to think of it.
You sound like a lot of fun.
I AM a ton of fun.....at parties. At home by myself I'm delightfully boring....I..I mean enjoying my own company. Yeah, that's what I meant! 
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| mtcanchazer - 2016-11-22 12:17 PM
1DSoon - 2016-11-22 11:15 AM mtcanchazer - 2016-11-22 12:59 PM 1DSoon - 2016-11-22 8:20 AM Frodo - 2016-11-22 9:43 AM 1DSoon - 2016-11-22 7:23 AM this thread is depressing Why?
It's just that I think that as humans we were genetically predispostioined to cohabitate.
So, for those that haven't found that partner, it sort of seems like it's sad to me.
Just an observation.
Plus you have to be happy with yourself first before ever being happy with someone else. Happines comes from within, not without, and while I believe it was fully intended by God from the beginning that each person should have their mate, we shouldn't try to ascribe our happiness from someone else. So, not depressing here...I'm just happy as I am, single, and if someone comes along that shares my ideals and priorities, I can be happy with him too.
Never said that
My brother in law believes similar to you 1D. He said to be once, whats the point in living if you don't have a family... kids a spouse? That bothered me for sometime and he didn't mean it in a mean way.
But I am very social, I have 7 nieces and nephews, wonderful siblings and parents and tons of great friends. Most of them are married with kids or engaged so sometimes I have a hard time finding someone to hangout with LOL.
Co-dependency is a very frustrating thing to me, mainly because I see people so unhappy and it frustrates me that they believe they cant do it without him/her. I want to have things because I earned them and I want to be a partner in a relationship. But with that said, I also expect the same from the man I end up with. I don't care if you make a lot of money but you better have goals and enjoy what you're doing or working on changing it.
I work 2 jobs and just purchased my own little hobby farm. I am terrified but I have my own trailer, car and many other nice things but I work hard!!! and I am PROUD of everything I have. One day, if he's out there... we wont "need" eachother for monetary value, we will need each other because we make a good team and its "right."
Kudos to all you guys and gal's out there who aren't afraid to wait for the right thing. | |
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Location: Montana | mruggles - 2016-11-22 12:06 PM my house was a lot cleaner when i was single and i could have a peaceful nap and not have someone ask me"are you sleeping" "why are you sleeping"...im pretty sure hes 1 step away from prying my eyelids open...
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I find that so funny! My parents fall asleep on their love seat every night watching TV. Dad is always asking mom "Are you asleep?" just about the time she nods off. The funny thing is my dad sleeps in his chair WAAAY more than my mom, LOL. | |
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| 1DSoon - 2016-11-22 9:20 AM
Frodo - 2016-11-22 9:43 AM 1DSoon - 2016-11-22 7:23 AM this thread is depressing Why?
It's just that I think that as humans we were genetically predispostioined to cohabitate.
So, for those that haven't found that partner, it sort of seems like it's sad to me.
Just an observation.
I kind of feel the same way as 1D.
But then I realized I am married to the love of my life. I can't imagine my life without him. But I sure wouldn't like being with some one that doesn't love and value me as much as he does. I know I will never find anyone like him again. So I got to thinking if I hadn't been blessed to have him in my life, I would rather be single, too. | |
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| The other thing I forgot to add earlier is that I guess I have never had an issue with people commenting on me being single and asking why. I get more comments from all of my friends who are married saying "I can't even imagine being sinlge". That makes a person feel good or they will talk about all of the guys out there that are losers or have baby mama drama..... Not like I don't know this. Lol This wasn't how I envisioned by life to be at this age, this was the hand I was dealt so sometimes you just have to roll with it. I have my own home and most evenings I can't imagine sharing my living space with anyone other than my dog! Her and I are pretty happy together!! Lol I have so many things going on in my life, I'm not sure how I could have a spouse or SO that I saw regularly. Right now the way things are in my life is my priority. The person I'm dating, is the same way and lives quite a ways away so we don't see wach other very often. Just what you get used to I think after years of being a single person. | |
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Location: Where you need a paddle... Oregon! | I'd love to have someone who lived close'ish, but not too close, that I could do fun things with, but not have to share my home with. Ha. The only issue I've found with that is most men are okay with that arrangement, but want to "date" other women, too. I can't do that. Also, I get random facebook messages from much younger guys (like, the age of my daughter, 20-something's) who "like older women". I shut those down real fast. I'm not sure where all the cute, nice, normal guys are.... Not in Lebanon, Oregon that's for sure. | |
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Location: Arkansas | Lady - 2016-11-22 4:07 PM
I'd love to have someone who lived close'ish, but not too close, that I could do fun things with, but not have to share my home with. Ha. The only issue I've found with that is most men are okay with that arrangement, but want to "date" other women, too. I can't do that. Also, I get random facebook messages from much younger guys (like, the age of my daughter, 20-something's) who "like older women". I shut those down real fast. I'm not sure where all the cute, nice, normal guys are.... Not in Lebanon, Oregon that's for sure.
I'm going to apologize before I say it cause of how corny it is-----FARMERSONLY.COM  | |
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Location: Where you need a paddle... Oregon! | Chandler's Mom - 2016-11-22 11:12 PM
Lady - 2016-11-22 4:07 PM
I'd love to have someone who lived close'ish, but not too close, that I could do fun things with, but not have to share my home with. Ha. The only issue I've found with that is most men are okay with that arrangement, but want to "date" other women, too. I can't do that. Also, I get random facebook messages from much younger guys (like, the age of my daughter, 20-something's) who "like older women". I shut those down real fast. I'm not sure where all the cute, nice, normal guys are.... Not in Lebanon, Oregon that's for sure.
I'm going to apologize before I say it cause of how corny it is-----FARMERSONLY.COM
Ugh! I am SO stubborn that I refuse to use online dating. AND my ex-husband was on every one of those sites within months of our separation and found his first girlfriend and the woman he's married to now on there. My pride won't allow me to go that route. Haha! | |
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| I will just stick with Harley, my paint horse. He doesn't have very high expectations of a relationship and he expects me to pay for everything like most of the men I have met lately. | |
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Location: Texas | Fun2Run - 2016-11-21 6:12 PM Divorced twice, too old to start over. I really enjoy doing my own things, I don't have to visit people I don't like, or go places I'd rather not go.
Edited to add: If I were to remarry again, he'd have to move next door.  | |
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| I was married for 13 years. I thought we had it all...we were a well respected couple in our home town, we had a great boarding and training business, a construction company, a young daughter. Little did I know until 4 years ago he was gay. I had come across the knowledge of a 6 year affair he had with another man at a BBQ one day. I got in touch with said gentleman and he told me all about it. I confronted my husband and he acknowledged the affair. Obviously nothing I "have" will ever make him happy so I had to walk away. Ive been single since. I find it hard to trust many people. I feel as if he stole so much from me. I honestly enjoyed being married and having a family. Ive become very independent in the past 4 years and have my standards set high for the next man I have come into my life...so high Ive been told by many that I might as well be looking for that unicorn sitting on a pot of gold. It is what it is... Yes I enjoy being single as Ive now become my own person. I don't have to answer to anyone or have anyone question my way of thinking or where I am going...but I miss that too. | |
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| mtcanchazer - 2016-11-22 11:59 AM
1DSoon - 2016-11-22 8:20 AM Frodo - 2016-11-22 9:43 AM 1DSoon - 2016-11-22 7:23 AM this thread is depressing Why?
It's just that I think that as humans we were genetically predispostioined to cohabitate.
So, for those that haven't found that partner, it sort of seems like it's sad to me.
Just an observation.
Plus you have to be happy with yourself first before ever being happy with someone else. Happines comes from within, not without, and while I believe it was fully intended by God from the beginning that each person should have their mate, we shouldn't try to ascribe our happiness from someone else. So, not depressing here...I'm just happy as I am, single, and if someone comes along that shares my ideals and priorities, I can be happy with him too.
Beautifully said! You can't rush fate. And everybody's fate/destiny is different. Just be happy :) You never know if there will be a tomorrow. . . | |
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Location: Illinois | I'm single and LOVE IT!!!!!!!!!!
I grew up in a very broken home. To this day I don't know how I handled it if I didn't start riding at age 11. Wouldn't be the person I am today. I think of my childhood past as a positive, never let anyone let alone a man treat me how my mother was treated. It took me a very long time to realize my self worth. I am financially secure, independent, and very happy with my life. To be honest I feel like a man would just complicate things! If one comes into my life someday that will be fine. Wouldn't mind having someone to share some fun times with but I'm in NOOOOO hurry!
I bartend on the side... And let me tell you the more I'm around men the more horses I want  | |
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Location: Arkansas | Lady - 2016-11-22 11:32 PM
Chandler's Mom - 2016-11-22 11:12 PM
Lady - 2016-11-22 4:07 PM
I'd love to have someone who lived close'ish, but not too close, that I could do fun things with, but not have to share my home with. Ha. The only issue I've found with that is most men are okay with that arrangement, but want to "date" other women, too. I can't do that. Also, I get random facebook messages from much younger guys (like, the age of my daughter, 20-something's) who "like older women". I shut those down real fast. I'm not sure where all the cute, nice, normal guys are.... Not in Lebanon, Oregon that's for sure.
I'm going to apologize before I say it cause of how corny it is-----FARMERSONLY.COM
Ugh! I am SO stubborn that I refuse to use online dating. AND my ex-husband was on every one of those sites within months of our separation and found his first girlfriend and the woman he's married to now on there. My pride won't allow me to go that route. Haha!
I promise I said that tongue in cheek because that's just not my thing either!! For grins and giggles when my bf and I broke up about 3 year ago I thought I'd look and see what it was about----never been on a website like that in my life. When it pulled up men it did it by area----the first guy was way older and a brother to a man in our riding club and the second one was someone that we had travelled/trail rode with, gone to church with, and he and his wife and my bf and I were quite close at one time. I said, Lord help me if that's not a sign then I don't know what is!!! I got off and never looked back. (Within one month Sean and I were back together, and he's never let me live it down that A) I went on the site, and B) that both of the first choices they gave me were people I knew. I didn't see nearly as much mirth in it as he did!) | |
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Location: Where you need a paddle... Oregon! | Chandler's Mom - 2016-11-23 9:06 PM
Lady - 2016-11-22 11:32 PM
Chandler's Mom - 2016-11-22 11:12 PM
Lady - 2016-11-22 4:07 PM
I'd love to have someone who lived close'ish, but not too close, that I could do fun things with, but not have to share my home with. Ha. The only issue I've found with that is most men are okay with that arrangement, but want to "date" other women, too. I can't do that. Also, I get random facebook messages from much younger guys (like, the age of my daughter, 20-something's) who "like older women". I shut those down real fast. I'm not sure where all the cute, nice, normal guys are.... Not in Lebanon, Oregon that's for sure.
I'm going to apologize before I say it cause of how corny it is-----FARMERSONLY.COM
Ugh! I am SO stubborn that I refuse to use online dating. AND my ex-husband was on every one of those sites within months of our separation and found his first girlfriend and the woman he's married to now on there. My pride won't allow me to go that route. Haha!
I promise I said that tongue in cheek because that's just not my thing either!! For grins and giggles when my bf and I broke up about 3 year ago I thought I'd look and see what it was about----never been on a website like that in my life. When it pulled up men it did it by area----the first guy was way older and a brother to a man in our riding club and the second one was someone that we had travelled/trail rode with, gone to church with, and he and his wife and my bf and I were quite close at one time. I said, Lord help me if that's not a sign then I don't know what is!!! I got off and never looked back. (Within one month Sean and I were back together, and he's never let me live it down that A ) I went on the site, and B ) that both of the first choices they gave me were people I knew. I didn't see nearly as much mirth in it as he did! )
I was getting heat from a friend at work. She kept pressuring me to look into online stuff. I had the same experience you did.... I don't recall which one it was, but it brought up a guy my daughter works with and another guy that I don't recall right now. I got off there and never went back! I really am surprised that of all the people that I know - through work, my high school aged son, my grown daughter, horses, etc. that there has not been a single person who I have met. And to make it worse, nobody even asks me if I'm single or why I'm single. I think I'm a real catch! Haha. | |
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Location: Arkansas | Lady - 2016-11-23 10:32 PM
Chandler's Mom - 2016-11-23 9:06 PM
Lady - 2016-11-22 11:32 PM
Chandler's Mom - 2016-11-22 11:12 PM
Lady - 2016-11-22 4:07 PM
I'd love to have someone who lived close'ish, but not too close, that I could do fun things with, but not have to share my home with. Ha. The only issue I've found with that is most men are okay with that arrangement, but want to "date" other women, too. I can't do that. Also, I get random facebook messages from much younger guys (like, the age of my daughter, 20-something's) who "like older women". I shut those down real fast. I'm not sure where all the cute, nice, normal guys are.... Not in Lebanon, Oregon that's for sure.
I'm going to apologize before I say it cause of how corny it is-----FARMERSONLY.COM
Ugh! I am SO stubborn that I refuse to use online dating. AND my ex-husband was on every one of those sites within months of our separation and found his first girlfriend and the woman he's married to now on there. My pride won't allow me to go that route. Haha!
I promise I said that tongue in cheek because that's just not my thing either!! For grins and giggles when my bf and I broke up about 3 year ago I thought I'd look and see what it was about----never been on a website like that in my life. When it pulled up men it did it by area----the first guy was way older and a brother to a man in our riding club and the second one was someone that we had travelled/trail rode with, gone to church with, and he and his wife and my bf and I were quite close at one time. I said, Lord help me if that's not a sign then I don't know what is!!! I got off and never looked back. (Within one month Sean and I were back together, and he's never let me live it down that A ) I went on the site, and B ) that both of the first choices they gave me were people I knew. I didn't see nearly as much mirth in it as he did! )
I was getting heat from a friend at work. She kept pressuring me to look into online stuff. I had the same experience you did.... I don't recall which one it was, but it brought up a guy my daughter works with and another guy that I don't recall right now. I got off there and never went back! I really am surprised that of all the people that I know - through work, my high school aged son, my grown daughter, horses, etc. that there has not been a single person who I have met. And to make it worse, nobody even asks me if I'm single or why I'm single. I think I'm a real catch! Haha.
I see some very attractive ladies in our area with plenty to offer that have a time of it even getting asked on one date. And I wonder why. But then again, with some of the guys in our area----it might be a good thing!!! (I live in a very small town where a lot of the folks grew up together, so maybe that's part of it also; might be like dating your sibling or something!) | |
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| hoofs_in_motion - 2016-11-21 1:11 PM I have multiple personalities......
but are they all single and happy about it? | |
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Location: Texas | I'm 31 and single. Some days I wish I wasn't but most days I'm very content with it. I don't have to answer to anyone get to go and do whatever I want. If something needs done, I usually call dad. I can't say I've ever had a real boyfriend. I get to go on vacations to great places. What scares me the most about being single, being by myself when my parents are gone. I'm the only child, so it worries me some days. | |
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Location: Kansas | sodapop - 2016-11-25 2:27 PM hoofs_in_motion - 2016-11-21 1:11 PM I have multiple personalities...... but are they all single and happy about it?
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Location: Prosser, WA | I like reading this. I've always wondered why people settle for someone that treats them like crap. I've always thought it would be much more pleasant to be alone than to be with someone that doesn't treat you well. Good for you ladies! | |
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