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cowgalsissy Reg. Dec 2008	Posted 2017-03-29 10:29 AM Subject: RE: I have no friends
Too Skinny Posts: 8009 Location: LA Lower Alabama	I have found that on average, those who need to be in constant contact have a sort of anxiety issue. They worry they are not loved or someone has moved on from them etc. Maybe try some counseling and see if there is an underlying reason you feel alone or unfriended.
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MS2011 Reg. Mar 2005	Posted 2017-03-29 10:56 AM Subject: RE: I have no friends
Own It and Move On Location: The edge of no where	Southtxponygirl - 2017-03-28 3:12 PM NoFriends - 2017-03-28 12:37 PM Southtxponygirl - 2017-03-28 12:30 PM How old are you, married, have any children, in any horsey club, go to church? Mid 30s, married, no kids, member in several saddle clubs, nbha, other barrel groups, and don't beleive in organized religion, they just want your $. I find helping people is much more rewarding when it's from the heart, not because someone wants volunteer hours met. A good person is good because they choose to be. I dont go to Church, but my huddy does and his parents are pretty heavy into their church and they are the best hearted folks out there, will give you their shirts off their backs types, not all churches are the way you described organized religion, believe it or not theres some really awesome people that go to church and help others in need. I believe in the old Mighty Lord myself and we all help others when needed out of the goodness of our hearts, as you can tell your comment about organized religion rubbed me the wrong way, they all dont want just your money.. Thats good your in other clubs but why hide behind another name, why not be youself Thank you - that comment really bugged me as well. The church I attend sure isn't like that at all, I know some are.....but chunking them all under the bus is really tacky. Tossing rocks at things that are important to other people doesn't come across well.
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rodeomom3 Reg. Dec 2007	Posted 2017-03-29 11:11 AM Subject: RE: I have no friends
Shelter Dog Lover Posts: 10277	MS2011 - 2017-03-29 10:56 AM Southtxponygirl - 2017-03-28 3:12 PM NoFriends - 2017-03-28 12:37 PM Southtxponygirl - 2017-03-28 12:30 PM How old are you, married, have any children, in any horsey club, go to church? Mid 30s, married, no kids, member in several saddle clubs, nbha, other barrel groups, and don't beleive in organized religion, they just want your $. I find helping people is much more rewarding when it's from the heart, not because someone wants volunteer hours met. A good person is good because they choose to be. I dont go to Church, but my huddy does and his parents are pretty heavy into their church and they are the best hearted folks out there, will give you their shirts off their backs types, not all churches are the way you described organized religion, believe it or not theres some really awesome people that go to church and help others in need. I believe in the old Mighty Lord myself and we all help others when needed out of the goodness of our hearts, as you can tell your comment about organized religion rubbed me the wrong way, they all dont want just your money.. Thats good your in other clubs but why hide behind another name, why not be youself Thank you - that comment really bugged me as well. The church I attend sure isn't like that at all, I know some are.....but chunking them all under the bus is really tacky. Tossing rocks at things that are important to other people doesn't come across well. Agree, not all churches are like that. Ours has an offering plate at the back of the church but they don't say a single word about it. Volunteering is rewarding and those on the receiving end probably don't care if it is done to fulfill hours. I have seen those volunteering to fulfill hours (high schoolers) continue to volunteer their time after the hours are met, requiring hours can open a door so to speak.
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grinandbareit Reg. Jan 2007	Posted 2017-03-29 11:29 AM Subject: RE: I have no friends
Go For It! Location: Texas	NoFriends - 2017-03-28 12:37 PM Southtxponygirl - 2017-03-28 12:30 PM How old are you, married, have any children, in any horsey club, go to church? Mid 30s, married, no kids, member in several saddle clubs, nbha, other barrel groups, and don't beleive in organized religion, they just want your $. I find helping people is much more rewarding when it's from the heart, not because someone wants volunteer hours met. A good person is good because they choose to be. As I was reading your response it brought back so many memories... I remember feeling the same exact way when I was your age! I use to cry to my husband that we didn't have any friends, and people just don't want to be my friend. BUT... The closer I got to God over the years, the less I worried about what I had or didn't have. Oh what a friend I have in Jesus! Probably not the thing you're looking to hear, lol. But it's so true. Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His Righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you. What sweet Words! Today, I have so many great friends. Friends that I could call on at any time and I know they would do whatever they could to help me. And that's the kind of friend I try to be. I've never been much of a social butterfly, but the older I get the more I realize how important it is to have girlfriends. People who have your back and want to see you succeed. There are plenty of them out there, just be patient and be the type of friend you want to be. It won't always work out for you, but in the long run, you'll work through the thistles and find those true friends who only want the best for you. Keep your chin up, trust God, and keep moving forward sister! You've got plenty of time to find them. Edited by grinandbareit 2017-03-29 11:31 AM
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NoFriends Reg. Mar 2017	Posted 2017-03-29 11:42 AM Subject: RE: I have no friends
Member Posts: 8	rodeomom3 - 2017-03-29 11:11 AM MS2011 - 2017-03-29 10:56 AM Southtxponygirl - 2017-03-28 3:12 PM NoFriends - 2017-03-28 12:37 PM Southtxponygirl - 2017-03-28 12:30 PM How old are you, married, have any children, in any horsey club, go to church? Mid 30s, married, no kids, member in several saddle clubs, nbha, other barrel groups, and don't beleive in organized religion, they just want your $. I find helping people is much more rewarding when it's from the heart, not because someone wants volunteer hours met. A good person is good because they choose to be. I dont go to Church, but my huddy does and his parents are pretty heavy into their church and they are the best hearted folks out there, will give you their shirts off their backs types, not all churches are the way you described organized religion, believe it or not theres some really awesome people that go to church and help others in need. I believe in the old Mighty Lord myself and we all help others when needed out of the goodness of our hearts, as you can tell your comment about organized religion rubbed me the wrong way, they all dont want just your money.. Thats good your in other clubs but why hide behind another name, why not be youself Thank you - that comment really bugged me as well. The church I attend sure isn't like that at all, I know some are.....but chunking them all under the bus is really tacky. Tossing rocks at things that are important to other people doesn't come across well. Agree, not all churches are like that. Ours has an offering plate at the back of the church but they don't say a single word about it. Volunteering is rewarding and those on the receiving end probably don't care if it is done to fulfill hours. I have seen those volunteering to fulfill hours (high schoolers) continue to volunteer their time after the hours are met, requiring hours can open a door so to speak. Around here, that's all you get. Catholic or Mormon or JW. There's one that has a big following, but they resemble a cult-like atmosphere where you have to follow certain rules or if you break them you are out completely. Happy church...not. I would love to find some of the church's I've heard people talk about. Mostly I'll go to a cowboy church service at barrel races, but that's as close to organized as I want to get for my location.
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NJJ Reg. Jul 2006	Posted 2017-03-29 11:44 AM Subject: RE: I have no friends
Fact Checker Posts: 16575 Location: Displaced Iowegian	rodeomom3 - 2017-03-29 11:11 AM MS2011 - 2017-03-29 10:56 AM Southtxponygirl - 2017-03-28 3:12 PM NoFriends - 2017-03-28 12:37 PM Southtxponygirl - 2017-03-28 12:30 PM How old are you, married, have any children, in any horsey club, go to church? Mid 30s, married, no kids, member in several saddle clubs, nbha, other barrel groups, and don't beleive in organized religion, they just want your $. I find helping people is much more rewarding when it's from the heart, not because someone wants volunteer hours met. A good person is good because they choose to be. I dont go to Church, but my huddy does and his parents are pretty heavy into their church and they are the best hearted folks out there, will give you their shirts off their backs types, not all churches are the way you described organized religion, believe it or not theres some really awesome people that go to church and help others in need. I believe in the old Mighty Lord myself and we all help others when needed out of the goodness of our hearts, as you can tell your comment about organized religion rubbed me the wrong way, they all dont want just your money.. Thats good your in other clubs but why hide behind another name, why not be youself Thank you - that comment really bugged me as well. The church I attend sure isn't like that at all, I know some are.....but chunking them all under the bus is really tacky. Tossing rocks at things that are important to other people doesn't come across well. Agree, not all churches are like that. Ours has an offering plate at the back of the church but they don't say a single word about it. Volunteering is rewarding and those on the receiving end probably don't care if it is done to fulfill hours. I have seen those volunteering to fulfill hours (high schoolers) continue to volunteer their time after the hours are met, requiring hours can open a door so to speak. I'm sorry but that comment is tacky.....she was only expressing HER own views of churches in HER area of which she has had experience. And I know the churches in that area and I agree with her perception! I know this person and she is the sweetest, kindest young lady who would lay down her life for anyone. She only posted under another log-on because she didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings or make them feel bad because they haven't been in contact as much as usual. She just wanted to see if anyone else experienced the same thoughts and feelings. A simple case of the winter blues ! ! !
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rodeomom3 Reg. Dec 2007	Posted 2017-03-29 11:58 AM Subject: RE: I have no friends
Shelter Dog Lover Posts: 10277	NJJ - 2017-03-29 11:44 AM rodeomom3 - 2017-03-29 11:11 AM MS2011 - 2017-03-29 10:56 AM Southtxponygirl - 2017-03-28 3:12 PM NoFriends - 2017-03-28 12:37 PM Southtxponygirl - 2017-03-28 12:30 PM How old are you, married, have any children, in any horsey club, go to church? Mid 30s, married, no kids, member in several saddle clubs, nbha, other barrel groups, and don't beleive in organized religion, they just want your $. I find helping people is much more rewarding when it's from the heart, not because someone wants volunteer hours met. A good person is good because they choose to be. I dont go to Church, but my huddy does and his parents are pretty heavy into their church and they are the best hearted folks out there, will give you their shirts off their backs types, not all churches are the way you described organized religion, believe it or not theres some really awesome people that go to church and help others in need. I believe in the old Mighty Lord myself and we all help others when needed out of the goodness of our hearts, as you can tell your comment about organized religion rubbed me the wrong way, they all dont want just your money.. Thats good your in other clubs but why hide behind another name, why not be youself Thank you - that comment really bugged me as well. The church I attend sure isn't like that at all, I know some are.....but chunking them all under the bus is really tacky. Tossing rocks at things that are important to other people doesn't come across well. Agree, not all churches are like that. Ours has an offering plate at the back of the church but they don't say a single word about it. Volunteering is rewarding and those on the receiving end probably don't care if it is done to fulfill hours. I have seen those volunteering to fulfill hours (high schoolers) continue to volunteer their time after the hours are met, requiring hours can open a door so to speak. I'm sorry but that comment is tacky.....she was only expressing HER own views of churches in HER area of which she has had experience. And I know the churches in that area and I agree with her perception! I know this person and she is the sweetest, kindest young lady who would lay down her life for anyone. She only posted under another log-on because she didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings or make them feel bad because they haven't been in contact as much as usual. She just wanted to see if anyone else experienced the same thoughts and feelings. A simple case of the winter blues ! ! ! I think people would have understood her perspective better if she had expressed she was referring to what is available in her area instead of just saying she doesn't believe in organized religion. I understand her sentiments and others were just expressing that all churches are not like what she has experienced.
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Chandler's Mom Reg. Jan 2015	Posted 2017-03-29 11:08 PM Subject: RE: I have no friends
My Heart Be Happy Posts: 9159 Location: Arkansas	NoFriends - 2017-03-28 3:25 PM Thank you everyone. I do think maybe I have a case of the winter blues. I've had a few frustrating incidents where I feel like I'm the only one who tries to uphold the friendship. I don't like having to post as anonymous, but I don't want to make those who know me feel bad either. Don't like making people feel bad. Just tend to take it and bottle it up. So this is where I'm at! Definitely feel the need to spend time with my horses! I DO talk to some of you online, so that helps. I feel like some of my BHW friends that I've never met talk to me more than people who live 10 miles away. So thank you for that too! Hugs to you, and know that you have us on here and also can pm any of us if you want or need to
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Whiteboy Reg. Jul 2012	Posted 2017-03-30 9:04 AM Subject: RE: I have no friends
That's White "Man" to You Posts: 5515	NoFriends - 2017-03-29 11:42 AM rodeomom3 - 2017-03-29 11:11 AM MS2011 - 2017-03-29 10:56 AM Southtxponygirl - 2017-03-28 3:12 PM NoFriends - 2017-03-28 12:37 PM Southtxponygirl - 2017-03-28 12:30 PM How old are you, married, have any children, in any horsey club, go to church? Mid 30s, married, no kids, member in several saddle clubs, nbha, other barrel groups, and don't beleive in organized religion, they just want your $. I find helping people is much more rewarding when it's from the heart, not because someone wants volunteer hours met. A good person is good because they choose to be. I dont go to Church, but my huddy does and his parents are pretty heavy into their church and they are the best hearted folks out there, will give you their shirts off their backs types, not all churches are the way you described organized religion, believe it or not theres some really awesome people that go to church and help others in need. I believe in the old Mighty Lord myself and we all help others when needed out of the goodness of our hearts, as you can tell your comment about organized religion rubbed me the wrong way, they all dont want just your money.. Thats good your in other clubs but why hide behind another name, why not be youself Thank you - that comment really bugged me as well. The church I attend sure isn't like that at all, I know some are.....but chunking them all under the bus is really tacky. Tossing rocks at things that are important to other people doesn't come across well. Agree, not all churches are like that. Ours has an offering plate at the back of the church but they don't say a single word about it. Volunteering is rewarding and those on the receiving end probably don't care if it is done to fulfill hours. I have seen those volunteering to fulfill hours (high schoolers) continue to volunteer their time after the hours are met, requiring hours can open a door so to speak. Around here, that's all you get. Catholic or Mormon or JW. There's one that has a big following, but they resemble a cult-like atmosphere where you have to follow certain rules or if you break them you are out completely. Happy church...not. I would love to find some of the church's I've heard people talk about. Mostly I'll go to a cowboy church service at barrel races, but that's as close to organized as I want to get for my location. I'm Mormon, I am far from a perfect person, but I do know that because of my religion I am happy. (By the way we are not a cult and we dont have plural wives.) None of the other stuff really matters that much to me. My relationship with God is what grounds me in everything I do. I pay money to the church but only because I want to, it is asked but not required. I give service because I want to, not because it is required. There are some things the church asks us not to participate in, and all those things are a base for happy families (such as gambling, drinking and drugs). I would guess that based on your interpretation of religion you are not allowing friendships to form because you are passing judgement on the religious people, under the guise that they are passing judgement on you.
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goldmine Reg. Oct 2005	Posted 2017-03-30 11:54 AM Subject: RE: I have no friends
Veteran Posts: 254 Location: Kaufman, Texas	I just said this very thing this morning! No one calls me. Two friends moved away out of state. One just dropped me. I have one friend around here but only talks about her life, if I have a problem she has to get off the phone. Guess I'll just have my husband as my friend.
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jake16 Reg. Apr 2006	Posted 2017-03-30 6:34 PM Subject: RE: I have no friends
Go Get Em! Posts: 13503 Location: OH. IO	I can just offer you to pm me and we can at least text:) I have another young lady on here that has become like my second daughter:)sometimes we don't text but if either one of us need someone no matter the time of day or nite we are there for each other.We live very far away from each other but it truly feels like we have been in each other's lives forever:))). I can at least be your text friend!
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Ctrygirl14 Reg. Jun 2012	Posted 2017-03-30 6:56 PM Subject: RE: I have no friends
Underestimated Underdog Posts: 3971 Location: Minnesota	jake16 - 2017-03-30 6:34 PM I can just offer you to pm me and we can at least text:) I have another young lady on here that has become like my second daughter:)sometimes we don't text but if either one of us need someone no matter the time of day or nite we are there for each other.We live very far away from each other but it truly feels like we have been in each other's lives forever:))). I can at least be your text friend! Jake16 is like my mother. A mother I have never met. Mary has been in my life for the last 5 years and has been there for me in my darkest times and just there for me whenever. She's in my phone as "Mom". I don't have a lot of friends but I know the few I have are true.
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cavyrunsbarrels Reg. Dec 2010	Posted 2017-03-30 7:03 PM Subject: RE: I have no friends
Red Bull Agressive Posts: 5981 Location: North Dakota	I hear ya. Outside my family, I have one best friend who has been my bff since 3rd grade. She lives in Tennessee though and we see each other once every year or two if we're lucky. We catch up on the phone every few months. I'm close with my coworkers but don't really hang out with them outside of work. Really my fiance, my sister, and my parents are the four people I'm with the most. If we go out in a group it's with my fiance's friends. Who I get along with well. I'm "one of the guys" with them lol.
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streakysox Reg. Jul 2008	Posted 2017-03-31 9:37 AM Subject: RE: I have no friends
Take a Picture Posts: 12841	MS2011 - 2017-03-29 10:56 AM Southtxponygirl - 2017-03-28 3:12 PM NoFriends - 2017-03-28 12:37 PM Southtxponygirl - 2017-03-28 12:30 PM How old are you, married, have any children, in any horsey club, go to church? Mid 30s, married, no kids, member in several saddle clubs, nbha, other barrel groups, and don't beleive in organized religion, they just want your $. I find helping people is much more rewarding when it's from the heart, not because someone wants volunteer hours met. A good person is good because they choose to be. I dont go to Church, but my huddy does and his parents are pretty heavy into their church and they are the best hearted folks out there, will give you their shirts off their backs types, not all churches are the way you described organized religion, believe it or not theres some really awesome people that go to church and help others in need. I believe in the old Mighty Lord myself and we all help others when needed out of the goodness of our hearts, as you can tell your comment about organized religion rubbed me the wrong way, they all dont want just your money.. Thats good your in other clubs but why hide behind another name, why not be youself Thank you - that comment really bugged me as well. The church I attend sure isn't like that at all, I know some are.....but chunking them all under the bus is really tacky. Tossing rocks at things that are important to other people doesn't come across well. I have to agree with MS. Down here in the Bible belt, most of us put church pretty high on the list. I really do not remember ANY church that I have ever attended telling me I HAD to give money. I usually go for the uplift that I get and if I feel like contributing, I do, if not, I don't. Strange reason for not attending church.
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NJJ Reg. Jul 2006	Posted 2017-03-31 1:06 PM Subject: RE: I have no friends
Fact Checker Posts: 16575 Location: Displaced Iowegian	Gotta love the "true" Christians making JUDGEMENTS about a person and her own "personal" opinion relating to churches in HER area....how CHRISTIAN of you ....keep throwing rocks......I am sure that every one of your posts makes her feel so much better!
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fulltiltfilly Reg. Dec 2008	Posted 2017-03-31 5:58 PM Subject: RE: I have no friends
I hate cooking and cleaning Posts: 3314 Location: Jersey Girl	I don't really? have any close friends anymore. At one time I was very close to a couple of different people. One moved away and stopped communicating with me. The other one had a life style change and she was only interested in our friendship at her convenience.
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magic gunsmoke Reg. Dec 2010	Posted 2017-03-31 10:38 PM Subject: RE: I have no friends
IMA No Hair Style Gal Posts: 2594	I believe you only have one or two true friends in a lifetime. I don't really go out much. I am fine with that. I have my horses, my husband, my career. As you go through life people will come and go. Chin up!
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myhre Reg. Aug 2009	Posted 2017-04-01 9:23 PM Subject: RE: I have no friends
Expert Posts: 1255	I moved away from my hometown ten years ago and never made friends I'm very shy and also live pretty secluded but It don't bother me
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BARRELHORSE USA Reg. Sep 2011	Posted 2017-04-01 10:43 PM Subject: RE: I have no friends
	Get used to having no friends ... As you get older and realize your friends are passing away before you do .. The longer you live you will decide to enjoy your life because your days are also numbered .. with or without friends ...... lol
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streakysox Reg. Jul 2008	Posted 2017-04-01 11:46 PM Subject: RE: I have no friends
Take a Picture Posts: 12841	Whiteboy - 2017-03-30 9:04 AM NoFriends - 2017-03-29 11:42 AM rodeomom3 - 2017-03-29 11:11 AM MS2011 - 2017-03-29 10:56 AM Southtxponygirl - 2017-03-28 3:12 PM NoFriends - 2017-03-28 12:37 PM Southtxponygirl - 2017-03-28 12:30 PM How old are you, married, have any children, in any horsey club, go to church? Mid 30s, married, no kids, member in several saddle clubs, nbha, other barrel groups, and don't beleive in organized religion, they just want your $. I find helping people is much more rewarding when it's from the heart, not because someone wants volunteer hours met. A good person is good because they choose to be. I dont go to Church, but my huddy does and his parents are pretty heavy into their church and they are the best hearted folks out there, will give you their shirts off their backs types, not all churches are the way you described organized religion, believe it or not theres some really awesome people that go to church and help others in need. I believe in the old Mighty Lord myself and we all help others when needed out of the goodness of our hearts, as you can tell your comment about organized religion rubbed me the wrong way, they all dont want just your money.. Thats good your in other clubs but why hide behind another name, why not be youself Thank you - that comment really bugged me as well. The church I attend sure isn't like that at all, I know some are.....but chunking them all under the bus is really tacky. Tossing rocks at things that are important to other people doesn't come across well. Agree, not all churches are like that. Ours has an offering plate at the back of the church but they don't say a single word about it. Volunteering is rewarding and those on the receiving end probably don't care if it is done to fulfill hours. I have seen those volunteering to fulfill hours (high schoolers) continue to volunteer their time after the hours are met, requiring hours can open a door so to speak. Around here, that's all you get. Catholic or Mormon or JW. There's one that has a big following, but they resemble a cult-like atmosphere where you have to follow certain rules or if you break them you are out completely. Happy church...not. I would love to find some of the church's I've heard people talk about. Mostly I'll go to a cowboy church service at barrel races, but that's as close to organized as I want to get for my location. I'm Mormon, I am far from a perfect person, but I do know that because of my religion I am happy. (By the way we are not a cult and we dont have plural wives.) None of the other stuff really matters that much to me. My relationship with God is what grounds me in everything I do. I pay money to the church but only because I want to, it is asked but not required. I give service because I want to, not because it is required. There are some things the church asks us not to participate in, and all those things are a base for happy families (such as gambling, drinking and drugs). I would guess that based on your interpretation of religion you are not allowing friendships to form because you are passing judgement on the religious people, under the guise that they are passing judgement on you. I do not know about Morman churches everywhere but when I was growing up, we had Mormon missionaries at our house all the time. They ate with us at least once a week. We loved them. I never got the impression that they were a cult. I was taught to appreciate their devotion to their religion, but I was from a religion based family, just not Mormon. My religious beliefs make me very happy also and I feel a sense of comfort from going to church. I am very sorry that others do not feel that way. The cowboy churches have really become very popular around here and perhaps one of these would be helpful. Almost everyone there has the same interests as you.
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