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Location: Beggs, OK | Three 4 Luck - 2014-03-24 10:02 PM rachellyn80 - 2014-03-24 9:35 PM Alicat0909 - 2014-03-24 9:15 PM CalamityKate - 2014-03-24 9:04 PM OP, do not stress yourself over this! You'll have plenty of that to deal with for the next 18 years. I think, more than anything, what you can take away from this thread is that there is more than one way to skin a cat. And safely at that! :) There are so many available options for expectant mother's now. I know women who have worked with mid-wives AND doctors to have a tailor made experience that offered the best possible outcome for mom and baby. Like someone else said, at the end of the day, that is all that matters. And don't be afraid to 'doctor hunt'. If you get into your first appointment and your physician does not seem receptive to your ideal, move on. There are many out there who are happy to work with you, and happy to educate you about ALL of your options. This!!!
Please doctor hunt! I went with the first gal i saw and she is true and total uncaring dumby. (JMHO )
At 8 weeks i got bucked off. Called and her phone answering lady said go to the ER if your worried and hung up.
I called back and demanded I speak to my doctor. SHe said the same thing. Absolutly NO concern. Yes i understand my dumbass shouldnt have been on the horse but for gods sake you can act a little human.
Last week, I was exactly 14 weeks. I passed out in a store. Full fledged passed out, hubby caught me old style fainting. Hubby rushed me to the near by hospital and that wrench wasnt going to run any tests. Told me to go eat and drink more water.
I have never been so hurt, let down, and ****ed in my life. Absolutly no concern what so ever for me or my baby.
Please please please shop around and dont settle. You dont need any more stress than your already under. And as Ive learned. Listen to your body. My body told me to sit down before I passed out and I didnt listen to it.
One thing that you have to remember in this and every other situation in your life is that you have to present yourself in a way that you are going to be respected. I read these stories on here and cannot relate. I've never in any situation medical or otherwise been treated the way others claim. Sure, I've had Dr.'s that I didn't care for but it wasn't because they called me an idiot, hung up on me, or acted like I was less than human. It was because I just didn't care for their way of doing things. I have vets that I don't like for the same reasons....
I totally agree. I had an ER doc try to send me home with a kidney stone, until I called my Momma who worked in the same hospital, lol. She knew that I wouldn't be balled up on an exam table with tears rolling down my face for nothing.
I blame the pill addicted whiners of the US...and at the same time understand where some of the Dr's are coming from. Too many conversations with women who act like they are the first to ever bear a child would wear a person down. I just tell all of my friends, Wait.......don't get all silly about this now, it will get worse. Lol | |
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| I am 19 weeks with baby #4. I've never had a pushy dr. They always let me call the shots. One completely natural birth, in an ER. One birth with an epidural, in a hospital. One birth induced, in a birthing center. I'd choose the birthing center a billion times!!
Consider this: You breed your favorite mare. Do you take her only to a vet tech or to the best **** repro vet in town? If you can afford it, do you take her to a foaling barn and have a vet, or let her push it out alone in the pasture? | |
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| Running Roan - 2014-03-23 9:53 PM sodapop - 2014-03-22 6:40 PM 22Tango - 2014-03-22 5:27 PM You have to do whatever feels right to you. Both mine were born in a hospital. I toyed with the idea of home birth but decided it was too risky. My first was a drug free water birth. Everything went perfect. Hurt but nothing unbearable. The worst part was how exhausted I was after. I slept the next two days. So tired I barely held my daughter. For my second I had an epidural. I was rested and it was so easy. I got to enjoy him. The drug free delivery was empowering but I know I'm tough and I don't need to prove it to myself again. I would rather be rested to enjoy it. I also roomed in with both. Didn't want someone else messing with my babies more necessary! :) I want to make sure I follow here..... the water birth was at a hospital? I didn't know they did water births at a hospital. I am imagining the movie I saw where the baby was born in a kiddy pool in the living room with a bunch of women in the room..... I can't remember the name of the movie, but maybe Jennifer Lopez was in it...or Jennifer Aniston.
That's all I can contribute to this thread besides a big congrats to the OP!
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Location: Texas | rachellyn80 - 2014-03-24 10:18 PM Three 4 Luck - 2014-03-24 10:02 PM rachellyn80 - 2014-03-24 9:35 PM Alicat0909 - 2014-03-24 9:15 PM CalamityKate - 2014-03-24 9:04 PM OP, do not stress yourself over this! You'll have plenty of that to deal with for the next 18 years. I think, more than anything, what you can take away from this thread is that there is more than one way to skin a cat. And safely at that! :) There are so many available options for expectant mother's now. I know women who have worked with mid-wives AND doctors to have a tailor made experience that offered the best possible outcome for mom and baby. Like someone else said, at the end of the day, that is all that matters. And don't be afraid to 'doctor hunt'. If you get into your first appointment and your physician does not seem receptive to your ideal, move on. There are many out there who are happy to work with you, and happy to educate you about ALL of your options. This!!! Please doctor hunt! I went with the first gal i saw and she is true and total uncaring dumby. (JMHO ) At 8 weeks i got bucked off. Called and her phone answering lady said go to the ER if your worried and hung up. I called back and demanded I speak to my doctor. SHe said the same thing. Absolutly NO concern. Yes i understand my dumbass shouldnt have been on the horse but for gods sake you can act a little human. Last week, I was exactly 14 weeks. I passed out in a store. Full fledged passed out, hubby caught me old style fainting. Hubby rushed me to the near by hospital and that wrench wasnt going to run any tests. Told me to go eat and drink more water. I have never been so hurt, let down, and ****ed in my life. Absolutly no concern what so ever for me or my baby. Please please please shop around and dont settle. You dont need any more stress than your already under. And as Ive learned. Listen to your body. My body told me to sit down before I passed out and I didnt listen to it.
One thing that you have to remember in this and every other situation in your life is that you have to present yourself in a way that you are going to be respected. I read these stories on here and cannot relate. I've never in any situation medical or otherwise been treated the way others claim. Sure, I've had Dr.'s that I didn't care for but it wasn't because they called me an idiot, hung up on me, or acted like I was less than human. It was because I just didn't care for their way of doing things. I have vets that I don't like for the same reasons....
I blame the pill addicted whiners of the US...and at the same time understand where some of the Dr's are coming from. Too many conversations with women who act like they are the first to ever bear a child would wear a person down. I just tell all of my friends, Wait.......don't get all silly about this now, it will get worse. Lol
To the OP, good luck in your decision. You have a ways and I can tell you from experience, stressing out about it won't help -- no matter what you decide, it will be FINE :). You'll end up with a perfect baby (remember, it's been done BILLIONS of times).
As for my own experience, I had both in a hospital and it was fine -- not saying it's the absolute best option (b/c I've not experienced anything else) but I left with a healthy body and two healthy babies. I've NEVER experienced anything out of my control. They would never take your baby if you said not to (assuming everything is healthy). Trust me, they would have no problem at all not taking the baby to the nursery. They would never force you to take a drug, epidural, enduce labor, etc.
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Location: ND | the vast majority of women could give birth out in the pasture with the mares by themselves.......but on occassion, having technology and intelligence available means the difference between a healthy mom and baby or a not so healthy or dead mom and baby...... | |
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Location: Prosser, WA | I would go to a hospital on the first one. Yeah things can be a lot different on the subsequent ones but at least you would have an idea about how your body handles childbirth. Just think of it like this, in case something bad happened during childbirth or to you or the baby after, would you regret not going to the hospital? Personally I wouldn't handle it very well if my child died during a home birth from something that could have been easily prevented in a hospital. I had a great midwife with my first but still needed to have a c-section. | |
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Location: In the land of peanuts and cotton | cowpony45 - 2014-03-22 1:09 AM
Ok I would really like some thoughts or experiences on this subject. I am 8 weeks pregnant with our first and I'm excited, scared, overwhelmed, happy, nervous, and on top of all this I have a head cold that is going to keep me up all night so I can worry about thing like this. Anyways I'm all set for my first check up next week with my OBGYN. I've had a few thoughts on looking into a midwife, but I'm having trouble finding first hand information. All I read is how bad hospitals are and this or that. I do realize this isn't for everyone, but I like to have as much control and information as I can. Thank you!
Your lucky. You have the option. Here in Alabama it's illegal to have your baby at home. Midwives are illegal too.
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| I used to work OB and i dont understand why you would want to have your baby at home just because what IF something goes wrong?? Why not be at a place where they can immediately do things to prevent any life altering situation....no it doesnt happen very often but nevertheless it does. I would rather have my baby in a hospital or birthing center and have the assurance that if something does go wrong, my choice of where to have the baby will not make the situation worse and potentially alter/affect my life or my babies life. Having a child suffer from lack of oxygen for instance will potentially affect him/her the rest of their life with some sort of disability.... I know there are many babies that this happens to that are born in hospitals but you are at even greater risk with little to no medical equipment/intervention at home. Ive seen it personally, we had some really bad cases come in because we have alot of amish in our area having babies with mid-wives at home....its not pretty. | |
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Location: Oregon | I urge you to have your baby in a hospital. About 2 yrs ago my neighbor decided on a homebirth for her 7th child. She had birthed all previous babies with no complications. Her 7th baby was not the same. There were severe complications, the midwife could not handle it, although lifeflight landed in my field and transported her to the hospital, little Enzo died during childbirth. He was a 10lb baby. Had she been in the hospital he could have been saved with an emergency C section. | |
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Location: Oklahoma | Would never "foal out" at home.
My husbands brother did that... oxygen was lost at some point and his son is 5 years old and can not use either of his legs and only one arm. It is so devestating and sad and they have to live with that for the rest of their lives. not trying to scare you.. just too many things can go wrong. | |
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Location: Dubach, LA | cheryl makofka - 2014-03-22 10:30 AM
CanCan - 2014-03-22 1:14 AM
You get your butt to the hospital and don't let them talk you into any of that rooming in crap. Make 'em keep the baby in the nursery. You'll need your rest. Also, avail yourself of all the luxuries of modern medicine.
Love,
Mother of 3
I disagree, the research shows better milk let down, less incidence of post partum depression with rooming in.
This is your child, you choose to have said child, the child becomes your responsibility when you choose to carry child to term, it is not the nurses responsibility to care for your child for the first few days.
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REALLY??
Pretty sure those nurses get paid to take care of babies in a hospital nursery. ALSO. I nursed my three until they were old enough to make their own PB & J sandwiches. AND my first child had heart problems and didn't come home until she was 14 days old. BE AMAZED - my milk was still there!
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Location: Dubach, LA | dhdqhllc - 2014-03-25 3:14 PM the vast majority of women could give birth out in the pasture with the mares by themselves.......but on occassion, having technology and intelligence available means the difference between a healthy mom and baby or a not so healthy or dead mom and baby......
This is amazingly accurate. I look like I was built for birthing babies, but of my three, only one would have survived a home delivery. | |
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| Free choice is a great thing so we can all do what we feel is best for us. However I would not have either of my children if I would have had a home birth. You just never know what can go wrong and having advanced medical technology at your fingertips was comforting to me. | |
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Location: Kansas | CanCan - 2014-03-22 1:14 AM You get your butt to the hospital and don't let them talk you into any of that rooming in crap. Make 'em keep the baby in the nursery. You'll need your rest. Also, avail yourself of all the luxuries of modern medicine.
Love,
Mother of 3
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