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| hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-20 3:03 PM
TwistedK - 2014-11-20 3:02 PM hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-20 3:00 PM What sucks even worse....is I posted that I was "feeling heartbroken" on facebook......I never said anything else, people automatically assumed he had done this and that.
I just commented under the post saying that I couldnt eat/sleep, and was upset. I then deleted the post because everyone was jumping to conclusions about what happened. I never shared what happened to anyone, and because of that post....he thinks I'm telling people what an a-hole he is, and this and that...when in fact I haven't said anything to anyone about it! I'm ashamed. I'm not perfect, I understand that....nobody is perfect. It hurts me when I get called a piece of crap (other word though) because I apparently told people he was the one that "wronged" me. I never should of said Hi to that guy at the concert, I know I was in the wrong for that. I honestly didn't believe he would have an issue with it...since it wasn't even a conversation with the guy! It was hi and that was basically it.  Oh no.... this is 2014... you can da*n well say hello to whoever you want. If he were secure it wouldn't have been an issue.... you didn't do anything wrong.... he's a little p**is.........
One day you will look back and be so thankful that the relationship ended. I was in a relationship for two years with a man I dearly cared about and he treated me so poorly. It was incredibly heart breaking to let that relationship end, but I am so happy what followed that relationship. I met the man I married and was blown away by him. There is a bigger plan for your life-and if he is going to treat you this way now, what would he be like in the future. Remember who you are. Remember your value. I know it is hard, I can feel your pain as real as the day I felt similar to you and it has been years. Focus on your daughter and your passions. Praying for you and sending my thoughts.
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Location: Texas | The last ex I ran into was at a pretty big function. Ex came up and hugged me and left. Hubby asked who it was afterward and that was the extent of the issue.
Your future self is praising God that the immature @-hole exited your life now. For someone to leave a "loved one" stranded by themself in this day and age is beyond comprehension. Something horrible could have happened and he would have enabled that to occur. You don't want this man in your life or your daughter's life.
This hasn't been mentioned, but I think you need some counseling given your previous abusive relationship and this last one. I wouldn't want for your "defective picker" to continue you down this path. There is a good guy out there for you and your daughter but you need to arm yourself with the tools to see the truth behind a guy's bullsh#@. (Believe me, we've all been there.)
Hugs to you. Block his number. Unfriend him, his family, and friends on FB. You don't need him knowing what you are doing. Nothing eats at someone more than not knowing. And I would bet dollars to doughnuts that his snapchat friend was also doing some snapchatting in the sheets with him. |
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| barrelracr131 - 2014-11-20 4:18 PM
 Many a wonderful woman has fallen for a dbag.Â
Ive been there. Break ups are tough. Every day WILL get easier.Â
As as hard as it sounds, get up and take your daughter out to dinner. Go for a ride through a field.Â
You are strong and beautiful. Not only will you find someone else, he will be deserving of your time and affection.Â
Ask yourself if this is a man you'd like to see your daughter marry. I'd say no, and him stepping away is a good thing.Â
It feels like the hurt will never end, but it will.Â
Now go eat something and watch a funny movie.Â
You are strong. This won't lick you!
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | Blueridgedreaming - 2014-11-20 4:21 PM
barrelracr131 - 2014-11-20 4:18 PM
 Many a wonderful woman has fallen for a dbag.Â
Ive been there. Break ups are tough. Every day WILL get easier.Â
As as hard as it sounds, get up and take your daughter out to dinner. Go for a ride through a field.Â
You are strong and beautiful. Not only will you find someone else, he will be deserving of your time and affection.Â
Ask yourself if this is a man you'd like to see your daughter marry. I'd say no, and him stepping away is a good thing.Â
It feels like the hurt will never end, but it will.Â
Now go eat something and watch a funny movie.Â
You are strong. This won't lick you!
Great advice too!
Sure it is, but can she sing??? |
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Location: Cottonwood, Ca | sorry, consider yourself lucky it was only 2 years..... better than 10 with kids or something....its hard, but everyday will get alittle bit easier.... prayers for peace
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Location: Montana | Hugs to you! I'm so sorry this happened to you. You definitely deserve better than him. You just have to cry and let it all out. I wish I was there to give you a hug. Break ups are hard, even when it is for the better. Just think, something or someone out there will be better for you, I promise. Pm me if you want someone to talk or text to.
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Location: Texas | Look up "narcissistic personality disorder". You might see this guy's picture in the description.
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Location: California | Fun2Run - 2014-11-20 2:55 PM Look up "narcissistic personality disorder". You might see this guy's picture in the description.
I was thinking this also . I had an ex who fit it to the T , including the leaving me stranded.
I shot you a PM Hoofs. Hang in there |
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Location: Midwest | LRQHS - 2014-11-20 4:28 PM
Blueridgedreaming - 2014-11-20 4:21 PM
barrelracr131 - 2014-11-20 4:18 PM
 Many a wonderful woman has fallen for a dbag.Â
Ive been there. Break ups are tough. Every day WILL get easier.Â
As as hard as it sounds, get up and take your daughter out to dinner. Go for a ride through a field.Â
You are strong and beautiful. Not only will you find someone else, he will be deserving of your time and affection.Â
Ask yourself if this is a man you'd like to see your daughter marry. I'd say no, and him stepping away is a good thing.Â
It feels like the hurt will never end, but it will.Â
Now go eat something and watch a funny movie.Â
You are strong. This won't lick you!
Great advice too!
Sure it is, but can she sing???
I can, but it ain't pretty |
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Location: Never in one place long | A good man would #1 trust you #2 never leave you stranded like that #3 not send you awful texts like that. I'm sorry but you don't need him that is not a man I'd want to be a rolemodel for my child. He may be good to your kiddo now but his true colors would show eventually. Hang out with a friend, go for coffee, focus on you and your kid. While it's almost thanksigiving, think of all the things you have to be thankful for. Prayers and hugs! |
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Location: Never in one place long | LRQHS - 2014-11-20 4:28 PM
Blueridgedreaming - 2014-11-20 4:21 PM
barrelracr131 - 2014-11-20 4:18 PM
 Many a wonderful woman has fallen for a dbag.Â
Ive been there. Break ups are tough. Every day WILL get easier.Â
As as hard as it sounds, get up and take your daughter out to dinner. Go for a ride through a field.Â
You are strong and beautiful. Not only will you find someone else, he will be deserving of your time and affection.Â
Ask yourself if this is a man you'd like to see your daughter marry. I'd say no, and him stepping away is a good thing.Â
It feels like the hurt will never end, but it will.Â
Now go eat something and watch a funny movie.Â
You are strong. This won't lick you!
Great advice too!
Sure it is, but can she sing???
Some GREAT advice here! |
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Location: North Dakota | I'm sure it's hard, but you should be HAPPY such a douche bag is out of your life! Wipe your tears and let God bring you someone worth your time, in his own time. |
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Location: Southeast Louisiana | I haven't read all of the replies, so I don't know if it's been posted yet or not, but your daughter is learning from you. Don't let her see you with someone like that. Let her learn to have self esteem and not allow people who are disrespectful to stay in her life! He could have handled the whole situation differently, and should have. He should never have left you stranded and should never have been upset because you had a respectful conversation with your ex. That is NOT a man. |
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Location: 100 miles from Nowhere, AR | Fun2Run - 2014-11-20 4:55 PM Look up "narcissistic personality disorder". You might see this guy's picture in the description.
Yeah. The getting mad and leaving you stranded was bad enough. But the making it all your fault he behaved the way he did and the thing how your FB post only mattered because of how it reflected on HIM? He is another abuser.
And he probably eats his boogers. |
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| Three 4 Luck - 2014-11-20 7:17 PM Fun2Run - 2014-11-20 4:55 PM Look up "narcissistic personality disorder". You might see this guy's picture in the description.
Yeah. The getting mad and leaving you stranded was bad enough. But the making it all your fault he behaved the way he did and the thing how your FB post only mattered because of how it reflected on HIM? He is another abuser.
And he probably eats his boogers.
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Location: Monticello, AR | I havent read all the responses, but here is my two cents worth.....Facebook is the devil!! Don't put your life on there....don't put your feelings on there.....if your daughter does something, fine....brag on her. But, too many people LIVE their lives on that dang place and it is the devil!!! And, if this pos left you in another town because you said hello to an ex.....he is such a child. He actually did you a HUGE favor....dump him, kick him to the curb, and get to know yourself before you find a new man. Women, contrary to popular belief, do not NEED men. They do serve a purpose if they are raised right....but women can do ANYTHING they can do...except write their name in the snow!!! So.....take time to believe in yourself.....don't waste time on menchildren....and love your daughter enough to give her a shining example of how a man should treat a woman. Good luck dear!! |
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| lindseylou2290 - 2014-11-20 7:48 PM Three 4 Luck - 2014-11-20 7:17 PM Fun2Run - 2014-11-20 4:55 PM Look up "narcissistic personality disorder". You might see this guy's picture in the description.
Yeah. The getting mad and leaving you stranded was bad enough. But the making it all your fault he behaved the way he did and the thing how your FB post only mattered because of how it reflected on HIM? He is another abuser.
And he probably eats his boogers. YUP!!!!
You guys are too funny! Hoofs - sorry he IS a jerk, you deserve MUCH better - forget about men for awhile and enjoy life! |
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Location: CTX | Hoofs,
like so many already said, good riddance! He first gets all pissy about you talking to your ex, then he left you stranded.... He is texting other girls and sending you those texts?? Uhm, sounds like he is lashing out at you because he is feeling guilty.... my guess is, he was not just texting with those girls...
So, pick up your life, focus on you and your little girl, and forget about that piece of trash! Block his number, unfriend him and his friends/family.
It won't be easy, some days you are great, some days you will hurt... allow yourself to have those bad days, and then get on. Like someone else mentioned, your little girl learns from you. Teach her to be strong, and not dependent on anybody but herself.
You really don't need a guy to be happy. Eventually you will meet a guy that deserves you and your daughter.
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