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| fastwrapn3 - 2015-04-14 9:26 AM I drive 5 0 miles to work and I have been thinking about jealousy, a horrible, unnecessary emotion...but is there anyone who doen't have it? I am eaten up with jealousy, courtesy of husband number one. I had decided to ask my peeps on BHW about this, and then magically it is already on here. I want to not be jealous!!!If a man makes me jealous I want to drop him like a hot potato...is this rational, are there men out there that are worth the trust you want to have in them. Mine is out on a trail ride 100 miles away with a bunch of old girl friends, went dancing last night with old girl friends, I am working and raising a 17 year old grandson and a runaway girl friend and working everyday, I have to work! 
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Location: Kansas | rodeomom3 - 2015-04-14 12:38 PM fastwrapn3 - 2015-04-14 9:26 AM I drive 5 0 miles to work and I have been thinking about jealousy, a horrible, unnecessary emotion...but is there anyone who doen't have it? I am eaten up with jealousy, courtesy of husband number one. I had decided to ask my peeps on BHW about this, and then magically it is already on here. I want to not be jealous!!!If a man makes me jealous I want to drop him like a hot potato...is this rational, are there men out there that are worth the trust you want to have in them. Mine is out on a trail ride 100 miles away with a bunch of old girl friends, went dancing last night with old girl friends, I am working and raising a 17 year old grandson and a runaway girl friend and working everyday, I have to work!
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Location: /ARKANSAS | Absolutely sick emotionally when I got home last night, went straight to bed. Slept and awakened so sad that this has to end. But it does not matter really if this is right or wrong, good thing bad thing. Just decided that if I felt left out and lonely, it probably was not gonna be just this once, I really do not want to deal with this ever again... You guys helped a lot yesterday. Thanks alot | |
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| fastwrapn3 - 2015-04-15 1:28 PM Absolutely sick emotionally when I got home last night, went straight to bed. Slept and awakened so sad that this has to end. But it does not matter really if this is right or wrong, good thing bad thing. Just decided that if I felt left out and lonely, it probably was not gonna be just this once, I really do not want to deal with this ever again... You guys helped a lot yesterday. Thanks alot
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Location: NW. Florida | fastwrapn3 - 2015-04-15 1:28 PM Absolutely sick emotionally when I got home last night, went straight to bed. Slept and awakened so sad that this has to end. But it does not matter really if this is right or wrong, good thing bad thing. Just decided that if I felt left out and lonely, it probably was not gonna be just this once, I really do not want to deal with this ever again... You guys helped a lot yesterday. Thanks alot
I think you need to tell him how you feel. I think we expect our partners to know how we're feeling, but we weren't made with the mind reading button. No one deserves to be unhappy do what makes you happy, if that's being around him, or not. | |
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| Ok after reading this instantly I can tell you that you need to leave now before you get in any farther. I can tell you this from the personal experience. Reasoning here:
1) A guy that was on-off-on again with a girl is a huge red flag. That means that he lacks self control and/or commitment issues. IF they broke up clearly there was something that was undesirable about the relationship. Now, why would someone want to go back to that? Yes, you painfully miss the comfort/attention of the person but having a firm control on yourself realizes that neither person is healthy for the other and aren't meant to be together. Its about being an adult with the situation and even though the short term heartache sucks, its for the benefits of the long term. From personal experience, it takes me about 2 months to fully move on(not checking social media included.)
2) You don't have jealousy issues. This is perfectly normal. A man that truly puts you first and cares about you should not even make you question another girl in the SLIGHTEST way. He should never answer her calls/texts either. He clearly knows you have an issue with the ex there, so he should not put himself/you in a position to question anything. Do NOT make excuses for him either and try to think of different possible scenarios that "could" cause him to talk/interact/arrest her. Guys don't think like women. Their motives are cut and blank, either interested in having a side girl, being committed, or not.
3) You will always worry about this ex if you stay with him, always. Being in a relationship where you cannot trust someone is AWFUL. Horrible. It can almost make you "that crazy girl" but in reality he is making you that way. You don't know what is going on underneath the surface such as messaging, calling, texting, etc while you are not around or being deleted.
4) A guy that calls his ex psychotic. Flashing red light right here... IF she was SO psychotic WHY did he keep going back with her for 3 years?!
^The answer to that is he had no self control to leave, and still feels something there.
You are too young for this. It is going to hurt like hell to leave, yes. BUT once you find someone else that treats you right you will wonder how on earth did I put up with the last guy.
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | ^^^^^ AND there you have it...... I so hope the OP reads that post........ | |
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