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Location: Bastrop, Texas | Three 4 Luck - 2014-01-15 12:16 PM My man has been gone for 2 days. Should I worry yet? 
Heavens no! Consider yourself fortunate in that you have had ample time to prepare yourself and his humble abode for his arrival. |
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| I've always held an outside job - pretty good one too. I'm just turned that way - am not cut out to be a stay at home mom/wife. Good thing since I've been divorced and on my own for quite awhile. I've said before that I need a 'good wife'. It would be nice to have someone take care of the laundry, cooking, shopping, cleaning, etc. while I brought home the paycheck and did the heavy chores in the evenings and on weekends. Guys kind of look at me funny when I say that, but I don't mean it in a sexual way. LOL
I think women were sold a bill of goods when we were told that we "can have it all". It just created more work for us. Very few can work an 8 hour job, do all the household chores, shopping, take care of the kids and do justice to them all. IMO |
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Location: 100 miles from Nowhere, AR | HotbearLVR - 2014-01-15 12:28 PM Three 4 Luck - 2014-01-15 12:16 PM My man has been gone for 2 days. Should I worry yet?
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| My boyfriend gets home before me usually, AND I leave for work before him. Does that make this a role reversal?
Because if this was ALL expected of me the only fire he would come home to is his clothes on fire in the driveway. |
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TXBO - 2014-01-15 10:33 AM
3canstorun - 2014-01-15 10:23 AM My husband prefers a bad wife.................................
We play bad wife on Thursdays. It usually ends in a spanking.
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Location: North Dakota | MO gal - 2014-01-15 12:31 PM I've always held an outside job - pretty good one too. I'm just turned that way - am not cut out to be a stay at home mom/wife. Good thing since I've been divorced and on my own for quite awhile. I've said before that I need a 'good wife'. It would be nice to have someone take care of the laundry, cooking, shopping, cleaning, etc. while I brought home the paycheck and did the heavy chores in the evenings and on weekends. Guys kind of look at me funny when I say that, but I don't mean it in a sexual way. LOL I think women were sold a bill of goods when we were told that we "can have it all". It just created more work for us. Very few can work an 8 hour job, do all the household chores, shopping, take care of the kids and do justice to them all. IMO
Exactly. women kind of shot themselves in the foot. We didn't give up anything but sure added more to our plate. In most households the woman is still thought to be the one to cook, clean, take care of the kids, plus have an outisde job while the man gets to sit, watch TV and put his feet up after he gets home from work.
This isn't the case in my home but I know many homes just like this. I work from home and during the winter months I don't have much of a job at all due the nasty weather conditions so I do a lot of these things for my husband but like others I draw the line at what he has to say is more important, he can stay out all night, and know my place. But otherwise I feel my man works hard for me and has stress at work so I want our home to be his sanctuary where he can get away from it all and feel relaxed and happy. I want him to look forward to coming home to me every day. When he walks in the door I greet him, give him a kiss, ask him how his day was, he sits at the kitchen counter while I finish up dinner and he tells me about his day and I let him vent. After about 20 minutes of venting he is all mine and we just enjoy each other. I will add that many times he will ask if I need him to do anything such as help with supper or dishes but I always tell him that I have it under control and he can just relax. I would expect him to do the same for me if I was working away from home and he didn't.
I also want to add that when I came across this "good wife guide" I also read an article about how chivalry is dead. Well I will say in my relationship it is not. I am not a "prideful" or insecure woman that feels offended when a man gets a door for me. I find it as a compliment. My husband gets my car door for me quite often and I step aside when we get to doors so he can open them for me. My husband will open doors for others, he will help an old lady with bags, he knows when he is in the wrong and will apologize right away, he helps clean the house if I ask him to, he cleans the toilets, he irons his own clothes (we only iron on certain occasions such as church clothes or a dinner party, etc), he pushes the snow around the yard, helps do chores, and the list could go on and on. So you are darn right I have no problem trying to be a "good wife". Why would I not when I have such a GREAT man.  |
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Location: Bastrop, Texas | 3KissHit - 2014-01-15 12:43 PM My boyfriend gets home before me usually, AND I leave for work before him. Does that make this a role reversal? Because if this was ALL expected of me the only fire he would come home to is his clothes on fire in the driveway.
I'm sure if you are nice about it he will understand and allow you enough time to get dinner ready and put on some fresh makeup. |
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Location: Bastrop, Texas | Just Bring It - 2014-01-15 12:56 PM MO gal - 2014-01-15 12:31 PM I've always held an outside job - pretty good one too. I'm just turned that way - am not cut out to be a stay at home mom/wife. Good thing since I've been divorced and on my own for quite awhile. I've said before that I need a 'good wife'. It would be nice to have someone take care of the laundry, cooking, shopping, cleaning, etc. while I brought home the paycheck and did the heavy chores in the evenings and on weekends. Guys kind of look at me funny when I say that, but I don't mean it in a sexual way. LOL I think women were sold a bill of goods when we were told that we "can have it all". It just created more work for us. Very few can work an 8 hour job, do all the household chores, shopping, take care of the kids and do justice to them all. IMO Exactly. women kind of shot themselves in the foot. We didn't give up anything but sure added more to our plate. In most households the woman is still thought to be the one to cook, clean, take care of the kids, plus have an outisde job while the man gets to sit, watch TV and put his feet up after he gets home from work.
This isn't the case in my home but I know many homes just like this. I work from home and during the winter months I don't have much of a job at all due the nasty weather conditions so I do a lot of these things for my husband but like others I draw the line at what he has to say is more important, he can stay out all night, and know my place. But otherwise I feel my man works hard for me and has stress at work so I want our home to be his sanctuary where he can get away from it all and feel relaxed and happy. I want him to look forward to coming home to me every day. When he walks in the door I greet him, give him a kiss, ask him how his day was, he sits at the kitchen counter while I finish up dinner and he tells me about his day and I let him vent. After about 20 minutes of venting he is all mine and we just enjoy each other. I will add that many times he will ask if I need him to do anything such as help with supper or dishes but I always tell him that I have it under control and he can just relax. I would expect him to do the same for me if I was working away from home and he didn't.
I also want to add that when I came across this "good wife guide" I also read an article about how chivalry is dead. Well I will say in my relationship it is not. I am not a "prideful" or insecure woman that feels offended when a man gets a door for me. I find it as a compliment. My husband gets my car door for me quite often and I step aside when we get to doors so he can open them for me. My husband will open doors for others, he will help an old lady with bags, he knows when he is in the wrong and will apologize right away, he helps clean the house if I ask him to, he cleans the toilets, he irons his own clothes (we only iron on certain occasions such as church clothes or a dinner party, etc), he pushes the snow around the yard, helps do chores, and the list could go on and on. So you are darn right I have no problem trying to be a "good wife". Why would I not when I have such a GREAT man.
He's a good man, I know. I can see you have all the key ingredients of a dutiful, obedient wife. |
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | Hollywood's Fan - 2014-01-15 10:07 AM Where do you find this crap? LOL
And all this stirred up by a man who doesn't have a wife....interesting????  |
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Location: Midwest | HotbearLVR - 2014-01-15 1:32 PM .
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Location: North Dakota | HotbearLVR - 2014-01-15 1:28 PM Just Bring It - 2014-01-15 12:56 PM MO gal - 2014-01-15 12:31 PM I've always held an outside job - pretty good one too. I'm just turned that way - am not cut out to be a stay at home mom/wife. Good thing since I've been divorced and on my own for quite awhile. I've said before that I need a 'good wife'. It would be nice to have someone take care of the laundry, cooking, shopping, cleaning, etc. while I brought home the paycheck and did the heavy chores in the evenings and on weekends. Guys kind of look at me funny when I say that, but I don't mean it in a sexual way. LOL I think women were sold a bill of goods when we were told that we "can have it all". It just created more work for us. Very few can work an 8 hour job, do all the household chores, shopping, take care of the kids and do justice to them all. IMO Exactly. women kind of shot themselves in the foot. We didn't give up anything but sure added more to our plate. In most households the woman is still thought to be the one to cook, clean, take care of the kids, plus have an outisde job while the man gets to sit, watch TV and put his feet up after he gets home from work.
This isn't the case in my home but I know many homes just like this. I work from home and during the winter months I don't have much of a job at all due the nasty weather conditions so I do a lot of these things for my husband but like others I draw the line at what he has to say is more important, he can stay out all night, and know my place. But otherwise I feel my man works hard for me and has stress at work so I want our home to be his sanctuary where he can get away from it all and feel relaxed and happy. I want him to look forward to coming home to me every day. When he walks in the door I greet him, give him a kiss, ask him how his day was, he sits at the kitchen counter while I finish up dinner and he tells me about his day and I let him vent. After about 20 minutes of venting he is all mine and we just enjoy each other. I will add that many times he will ask if I need him to do anything such as help with supper or dishes but I always tell him that I have it under control and he can just relax. I would expect him to do the same for me if I was working away from home and he didn't.
I also want to add that when I came across this "good wife guide" I also read an article about how chivalry is dead. Well I will say in my relationship it is not. I am not a "prideful" or insecure woman that feels offended when a man gets a door for me. I find it as a compliment. My husband gets my car door for me quite often and I step aside when we get to doors so he can open them for me. My husband will open doors for others, he will help an old lady with bags, he knows when he is in the wrong and will apologize right away, he helps clean the house if I ask him to, he cleans the toilets, he irons his own clothes (we only iron on certain occasions such as church clothes or a dinner party, etc), he pushes the snow around the yard, helps do chores, and the list could go on and on. So you are darn right I have no problem trying to be a "good wife". Why would I not when I have such a GREAT man.
Thanks. I do what I can. It has been a work in progress. I was once a pretty wild filly that was never going to be obediant and submissive to any man but he broke me. He broke me good.  |
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Rumor is, he is working on that. Do you think this thread has helped his cause?   |
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Location: Bastrop, Texas | Hollywood's Fan - 2014-01-15 1:50 PM Rumor is, he is working on that. Do you think this thread has helped his cause?
I'm not so sure I can dig my way out of this one.....I'm already in the dog house.
At least Neva still loves me!
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| Hollywood's Fan - 2014-01-15 1:50 PM Rumor is, he is working on that. Do you think this thread has helped his cause?
Oh no! Bear, don't do it again. Just buy her a house, give her half your records and remain friends. |
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | HotbearLVR - 2014-01-15 2:09 PM Hollywood's Fan - 2014-01-15 1:50 PM Rumor is, he is working on that. Do you think this thread has helped his cause?
At least Neva still loves me!
I am thinking that if you have a prospective "wifey".......you had best not show her THIS thread.....or move over Neva....daddy's going to spend a lot of time in the "dog house" with you! |
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Location: Bastrop, Texas | NJJ - 2014-01-15 2:22 PM HotbearLVR - 2014-01-15 2:09 PM Hollywood's Fan - 2014-01-15 1:50 PM Rumor is, he is working on that. Do you think this thread has helped his cause?
At least Neva still loves me!
It's too late, Norma. The cat's out of the bag.
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Location: relocated to Texas | Yep, that would be the face, LOL |
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| o man if I were a 1955 wife I would be horrid. paha I agree with some...I actually loved this post and read it out loud to my husband... he laughed and said I don't see anything wrong with all of it lol!!!! especially the part of not mentioning if he went missing all night lol!!!! |
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