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Location: Oklahoma | Whiteboy - 2014-11-20 7:44 PM Want me to kick his a$$?
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| I went through a bad break up similar, minus the leaving me stranded crap because he knew I would kill him if he did that sh**, he sent me mean texts, called and accused me of stupid untrue crap. Put all the blame on me. I cried all the time, was depressed, ate crappy food (i wish it was the opposite :) ) and I tried like heck to get over it. Blocking a number is hard for some people, for me it was, and i dont know why. It was almost like I had to wait to see what the next thing that he sent was. I dont know if it was because I knew he was thinking about me when he text???? Who knows... but what I do know is it was stupid of me to allow more pain by reading those texts. I then realized he was blaming me and being so hateful and hurtful to me because he was cheating on me.. GO FIGURE. the one who blames usually is the one who needs to be blamed... Finally... FINALLY, I did block his number and I moved on. I started talking to different guys, going on an ocassional date or two, riding my horses more, and I slowly started to heal and one day I woke up and realized I had not thought about him for a week. I was healing day by day and now I have started dating someone who treats me like I am the only woman in the world and wakes up every day thinking about what he can do to make me happy and I do the same. It will happen. I promise. You will be so much stronger after all this. God always has a plan and he likely closed this door so he can open another for you and you wil be much happier.
Keep your chin up. You are always so fun on here and though I may not comment a lot I love your post and humor. |
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Location: Kansas | Well the texts continued until I blocked him from texting me. Pretty much he's ticked that I'm trying to post positive things on facebook, yet he says I'm pulling a "poor me" thing. |
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Hungarian Midget Woman
Location: Midwest | block him on fb, like yesterday! |
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| one word. IMMATURITY.. your better than that. he will grow up one day... in like 45 years! |
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  Shipwrecked and Flat Out Zapped
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | Block it all. Change your number if you have to. Step away and don't look back. |
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 Chasin my Dream
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Location: Alberta | I agree with all mentioned, move on and block him!!!! BUT if he even makes any attempt to threaten you in person or shows up at your house unexpected DO NOT take it lightly!!! Call the police! I hope that doesn't happen! |
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Location: Do I hear Banjos? |
It can be so hard to cut all ability for him to contact you. For whatever reason we have an almost unhealthy need to maintain that connection. Even when all it does is give them a means to get to you, upset you and hurt you. It's like we feel we need to know what is going on in their life still...even though we know what a horrible person they truly are. And how toxic the whole situation has become. But...do it...you blocked him on that phone...now block him on FB and if you have "friends" that are willing to keep him informed and keep stirring that pot...unfriend them for now.
The fact that he is still keeping tabs on your FB and harassing you shows his vindictive immature nature. He has been manipulating you for a while it seems. He must be good at it. Expecting YOU to be fine with his continued contact with an old lover...but flipping out if you said Hi to an ex shows he is manipulative and playing games. And he has been getting away with that crap for far too long. Cut off all means for him to know what you are doing. Don't let him think he is getting to you. Let him stew on this in the dark....and just walk on.
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 I Chore in Chucks
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Location: MD | I will post this meme because I think it is very accurate, and may even put a smile on your face.
Also he may be hiding something and stewing in his own little pot of guilt, hence the sudden anger of you speaking to someone you previously dated. He obviously is not prepared to be in a relationship with you. Even if you're angry with someone you love, you still care about them (especially enough to not leave you stranded at 1 am.)
This dude is a walking poster child of an emotional abuser.
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Location: Indiana | I didn't read all of the comments but here are my thoughts now that I'm older and can look back at my past relationships. The way he has treated you is a peek into who he really is, it may be hard for you to see right now but I want you to know that it has nothing to do with you.
Do not put his low self esteem and issues on yourself. See this as a good thing, a blessing. Think about this, what if it was your daughter in this situation and you saw it happen. I guarantee you would tell her she deserves more, she doesn't need someone in her life who will leave her not knowing if she will make it home safely, and then sending texts telling her it's her fault. You wouldn't want her to be treated that way, and you don't deserve to be treated that way.
Here's the thing, if you don't stand up for yourself and how you are treated, he won't either. You said he is a father figure to your daughter, is this someone that you want in her life or yours.
Look at this break up as a chance to fall in love with yourself and all of the amazing qualties you have. Shake it off, get back to being your awesome self, and when you see him at a concert in town in the future, introduce him to the amazing person you are who has attracted someone who loves you for your amazingness and just smile as you walk away and be thankful that he showed his true colors before you wasted anymore time in your life.
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Location: Kansas | TT's - 2014-11-21 9:39 AM I didn't read all of the comments but here are my thoughts now that I'm older and can look back at my past relationships. The way he has treated you is a peek into who he really is, it may be hard for you to see right now but I want you to know that it has nothing to do with you.
Do not put his low self esteem and issues on yourself. See this as a good thing, a blessing. Think about this, what if it was your daughter in this situation and you saw it happen. I guarantee you would tell her she deserves more, she doesn't need someone in her life who will leave her not knowing if she will make it home safely, and then sending texts telling her it's her fault. You wouldn't want her to be treated that way, and you don't deserve to be treated that way.
Here's the thing, if you don't stand up for yourself and how you are treated, he won't either. You said he is a father figure to your daughter, is this someone that you want in her life or yours.
Look at this break up as a chance to fall in love with yourself and all of the amazing qualties you have. Shake it off, get back to being your awesome self, and when you see him at a concert in town in the future, introduce him to the amazing person you are who has attracted someone who loves you for your amazingness and just smile as you walk away and be thankful that he showed his true colors before you wasted anymore time in your life.
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Location: The edge of no where | hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-21 8:38 AM Well the texts continued until I blocked him from texting me. Pretty much he's ticked that I'm trying to post positive things on facebook, yet he says I'm pulling a "poor me" thing.
BLOCK that lowlife... it's easy and will keep him from getting in your head.
Block him from your FB and your phone. ASAP!!
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Location: Kansas | MS2011 - 2014-11-21 10:05 AM hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-21 8:38 AM Well the texts continued until I blocked him from texting me. Pretty much he's ticked that I'm trying to post positive things on facebook, yet he says I'm pulling a "poor me" thing. BLOCK that lowlife... it's easy and will keep him from getting in your head.
Block him from your FB and your phone. ASAP!!
I did. My grandmother is going to watch my daughter tomorrow so I can go out for a few hours in the evening with some friends. I'm glad to be able to go out and do something that will take my mind off the situation. |
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Location: Do I hear Banjos? | hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-21 10:06 AM
MS2011 - 2014-11-21 10:05 AM hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-21 8:38 AM Well the texts continued until I blocked him from texting me. Pretty much he's ticked that I'm trying to post positive things on facebook, yet he says I'm pulling a "poor me" thing.  BLOCK that lowlife... it's easy and will keep him from getting in your head.
Block him from your FB and your phone. ASAP!!
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Thats great! But tell the friends there is one important rule for the night...NO discussing the Jerk. Just fun and friends and looking to the future. Don't waste any more time on him. |
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Own It and Move On
Location: The edge of no where | hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-21 10:06 AM MS2011 - 2014-11-21 10:05 AM hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-21 8:38 AM Well the texts continued until I blocked him from texting me. Pretty much he's ticked that I'm trying to post positive things on facebook, yet he says I'm pulling a "poor me" thing. BLOCK that lowlife... it's easy and will keep him from getting in your head.
Block him from your FB and your phone. ASAP!!
Good for you!!! 
Stay strong and no contact. You can get thru this. |
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 Ms. Marine
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Location: Texas | Carbon Copy - 2014-11-20 12:35 PM
Different strokes for different folks. I'm sorry you're hurt, but if he left me somewhere I wouldn't be hurt.....I'd be pissed. I wouldn't put up with someone that childish and didn't respect me any more than that.  Find someone worthy of you and your child. Again sorry you're hurt.
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| Stay off facebook! Quit talking to people about the relationship on facebook. Block him from everything you can.
Thank your lucky stars you dodged that bullet. You were heading down a bad path and you had no idea. Figure out what was blinding you from seeing his true colors. He just showed you who he is, so believe it. He may have been showing his true self for some time now. There may have been signs you overlooked.
Figure out what in the world attracted you to this guy in the first place. Write all of his attributes and characteristics down on a big chart. Then spend the rest of your life trying to stay away from people who are just like him.
Think to yourself..... "I'd rather be lonely every day for the rest of my life alone, than to be lonely and miserable every day for the rest of my life with a horrible man".
Be picky!
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 Got a Keeper
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Location: RAINY FREEZING AnartiFlorida | Honey he ain't worth your tears. If that's all you did to upset him he ain't worth having. Block his number and dont shed another tear over that loser! Leaving you in middle of night ain't much of a man either. He would never be around my kid again. So many other nice guys out there. Think of that was friend of yours. What would you tell her?
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Undercover Amish Mafia Member
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Location: Kansas | I have thought about it, and really thought about the things he has said to me.....and I realize that my daughter and I are better off without him. I went out with friends saturday evening and really enjoyed myself. I was even asked out on a date!!!
I'm going to enjoy taking the time to try and find myself.....and all the things I will be able to do without being tied down to someone who had been so controlling. |
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