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Location: Looking for someplace cooler | Asking a man to give up his chew is like asking a woman to give up her horses |
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Location: Bastrop, Texas | I must have missed something. Why does he owe you $20? |
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Location: Oakdale, CA | I love second hand copenhagen..... Everyone I ever dated chewed it. so did my hubby but we had a son so he had to quit chewing because my son idolizes him.......So he quit. It was really hard but hey it can be done.........
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Location: Florida.. | Bear - 2015-01-02 4:46 PM I must have missed something. Why does he owe you $20?
maybe to buy chew or toothbrush..? |
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Location: Kansas | Bear - 2015-01-02 3:46 PM I must have missed something. Why does he owe you $20?
I'm curious as well lol |
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Location: Oregon | I only called him once!!! Chill lol I'm not crazy nor clingy gezzz. Left a voicemail saying nicely how he's immature and he proved me right and that I just want my $20 back and you'll never hear from me again.
He owed me $20 because for some reason his paycheck went on hold thru Usaa or whatever it's called and we were gonna go see XMAS lights at a race track. I wanted to go bad still and he said well if you dont mind paying I'll pay you back. Sooo yea I shouldn't have but I wanted to go.... Yea I was dumb I guess.....
I told him I wanted to meet up to talk and if he could bring my $20, he kept pretending he was ''still working'' late on New Year's Eve and sending me texts ''Im still here''..... Lol yea right I thought! Communication stopped and yup that's it. Immature ******* ...
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| Luvmyebstang - 2015-01-03 1:42 PM
I only called him once!!! Chill lol I'm not crazy nor clingy gezzz. Left a voicemail saying nicely how he's immature and he proved me right and that I just want my $20 back and you'll never hear from me again.
He owed me $20 because for some reason his paycheck went on hold thru Usaa or whatever it's called and we were gonna go see XMAS lights at a race track. I wanted to go bad still and he said well if you dont mind paying I'll pay you back. Sooo yea I shouldn't have but I wanted to go.... Yea I was dumb I guess.....
I told him I wanted to meet up to talk and if he could bring my $20, he kept pretending he was ''still working'' late on New Year's Eve and sending me texts ''Im still here''..... Lol yea right I thought! Communication stopped and yup that's it. Immature ******* ...
The first post you said he wouldn't return your CALLS, this means more then once.
Also word of advice, if you actually want belongings/money returned, don't leave a voicemail saying he is immature then you ask him to meet you somewhere to talk, he did what every guy would have deleted it.
Sorry this happened to you, but take the time reflect back and learn from the experience.
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Location: Choctaw, Oklahoma | I found my husband on EHarmony. and I'm not ashamed!!
you can be picky as you want to be. I chose: educated, makes money, owns his own home, no tobacco and no kids. I wouldn't trade him for the world!!
Don't be taken a fool by losers my dear. They are everywhere. |
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Location: Oregon | It was only one call. I asked him to meet before I left that voicemail and he agreed to but soon flaked out and I knew he would..
I didn't leave that voicemail until after he stopped texting and saying he was stilll working and couldn't meet yet.
It was clearly obvious he was ignoring and seeing if I would let it go , so that's when I left the voicemail.
I should've never paid for that but I made a dumb mistake so what can Ya do :/
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Location: Tennessee | Honestly if I paid for a "date" and then things went sour for whatever reason, no way in hel| would I ask for the money back, especially $20. Dignity and pride do have a price....JMO though. |
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Location: Texas | kdb2qq - 2015-01-04 12:21 AM Honestly if I paid for a "date" and then things went sour for whatever reason, no way in hel| would I ask for the money back, especially $20. Dignity and pride do have a price....JMO though.
Wise words. |
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Location: Texas | I smoke... and I hate it by the way. There isn't really any part of it I enjoy. I am just weak, and weird for not being able to stop doing something I hate.
Anyway, that being said I can not stand dipping. My dad dips, and I have mistaken tooooo many spit cups for my Dr.Pepper when I was growing up. He was bad about "Oh I thought you were done with it." No... no I wasn't. You just moved it, and I found it and thought about how nice it would be to drink my coke... Thanks though.  Or taking out the trash and being covered in spit juice because it was leaking out the bottom of the bag and I didn't realize it. He tries to spit in my trash can when he comes over and I make him go outside.
He has also ruined me from anything that smells like peaches, somehow peaches smell like Copenhagen to me and I gag. |
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | Fun2Run - 2015-01-04 12:25 AM kdb2qq - 2015-01-04 12:21 AM Honestly if I paid for a "date" and then things went sour for whatever reason, no way in hel| would I ask for the money back, especially $20. Dignity and pride do have a price....JMO though. Wise words.
^^^^ THIS...........Gees, it's ONLY $20.....forget it and MOVE ON but hopefully, you learned a lesson or two! |
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Location: Oregon | I have moved on!
I have learned from him. Don't pay for a date if a dumbass can't lol.
He's an idiot ass.
On a another side not....what do you all think about a guy a few years younger interested in you?? Anyone have a bf or husband few years younger?
I've always gone older because of maturity and time in life we are at in 20's. Last a hole was 22 and I tried younger and that went bad...
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Location: Texarkana | Luvmyebstang - 2015-01-05 6:57 PM I have moved on! I have learned from him. Don't pay for a date if a dumbass can't lol. He's an idiot ass. On a another side not....what do you all think about a guy a few years younger interested in you?? Anyone have a bf or husband few years younger? I've always gone older because of maturity and time in life we are at in 20's. Last a hole was 22 and I tried younger and that went bad...
I think you need to quit acting so desperate. Just because someone looks at you, or says hello, or opens a door for you does NOT automatically mean they are your next "one and only". By reading some of your prior posts, and even this one, I think you lack self confidence, and are very clingy. Guys pick up on that very quickly, and RUN as fast as they can. It seems like its hard for you to take the hint when they arent interested. |
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Location: Jacksonville, FL | My husband is younger. 20 years younger. |
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Location: That part of Texas | Luvmyebstang - 2015-01-05 6:57 PM I have moved on! I have learned from him. Don't pay for a date if a dumbass can't lol. He's an idiot ass.
Actually the lesson was that (1) he's just not into you and (2) he doesn't know how to say it other than avoid you. He's not the best in the communication department but many guys aren't. If he's into you, $20 is nothing that he can't and won't beg, borrow or sell something to get if it means spending time with you. That's what I hope you learn to see. Lord knows it took me long enough myself when I was younger. |
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OP aren't you the same lady that wanted to ask the workout dude out last year but was afraid to get his number? |
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Location: Oregon | I'm not desperate by any means. I've just run into some bad guys and trying to find the good ones. I'm ready to settle down and have a family...doesn't make me desperate. I have a lot of confidence ....I'm a redhead lol so it's in my blood, so please don't act like you know me by saying I lack it or am clingy. I'm very independent, own a business I started, and know what I want. I don't give attention to every guy interested in me. I'm picky and always have been. What's wrong with an independent woman ready to settle down and knows what she wants and goes for it?!
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | Luvmyebstang - 2015-01-06 4:51 AM I'm not desperate by any means. I've just run into some bad guys and trying to find the good ones. I'm ready to settle down and have a family...doesn't make me desperate. I have a lot of confidence ....I'm a redhead lol so it's in my blood, so please don't act like you know me by saying I lack it or am clingy. I'm very independent, own a business I started, and know what I want. I don't give attention to every guy interested in me. I'm picky and always have been. What's wrong with an independent woman ready to settle down and knows what she wants and goes for it?!
Your posts say differently and we are trying to help you.
From what I read, the problem is you and you need to address you before you look for another boyfriend. You act needy and clingy in your posts here. You obsess over little things like chew, $20, etc. Being independent in other areas of your life does not make you independent when it comes to dating. Kudos for having a business and working. What I see from all of your previous posts and this one is that you blame every man for it not working. At some point, you need to realize that it may not be the guys fault, it may be yours.
I would suggest for you to stop "looking for a guy." Go to a book store and find you some self help relationship books. Fix your neediness for a "husband, boyfriend, family." Don't see stars everytime a man looks at you. Learn to love yourself. Be happy and work on yourself. Until you work on yourself, I don't see you finding anyone. You're looking for a fairy tale and this isn't Fantasy Land.
None of this is meant to sound harsh. I'm trying to help you from what I have read on all of your posts. If I'm wrong, I apologize and good luck....because you're going to need it.
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