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| FANTASTIC UPDATE! I took my daughter over today so she could start riding with our trainer. He rode her colt, he's doing AMAZING! He said he's going really well and I was able to watch him ride him... I cannot believe it's the same horse... he said he hadn't tried anymore funny stuff since that day. He told me he's going to be super nice. We decided another 30 days and she's continuing going over there to ride with him and learn the fancy buttons he's putting on her colt... so yay! I'm so glad he's coming around.. very exciting! |
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Location: OH. IO | SO HAPPY FOR THE GREAT UPDATE!!!!! I BET YOUR DAUGHTER IS A HAPPY CAMPER:))) |
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Location: Wonderful Wyoming | want2chase3 - 2017-03-15 2:53 PM FANTASTIC UPDATE! I took my daughter over today so she could start riding with our trainer. He rode her colt, he's doing AMAZING! He said he's going really well and I was able to watch him ride him... I cannot believe it's the same horse... he said he hadn't tried anymore funny stuff since that day. He told me he's going to be super nice. We decided another 30 days and she's continuing going over there to ride with him and learn the fancy buttons he's putting on her colt... so yay! I'm so glad he's coming around.. very exciting!
I told you those babied babies are sour pusses at first, but usually really come around. Love this update |
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Location: Arkansas | Woo hoo that's wonderful!! I just know he and your daughter are gonna make an awesome pair |
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| She went and spent the day with the trainer again today... when I went to pick her up, he pulled me aside, he said her riding is "ok" but he's really worried about her hands and how she handles the horses mouth... he's huge on being soft! He gets the horses super light in the mouth, rides more off leg pressure than anything... I'm concerned too... she comes home and gets on the old guy and I just see her old habits kick in... like she's not taken anything he's taught her in the last few days... I talked to her and she just said she was really disappointed in herself today because of her hands... how can I help her? I use to have heavy hands as well... and I rode with this same trainer and he got me out of it... I'm very aware of my hands now.. I told her if she didn't understand what he's trying to teach her to ASK! He's great with the kids ... it just doesn't seem to be registering with her. Right now she's riding his "lesson horse" who's very forgiving ... |
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| Be with her when she rides and just calmly and quietly tell her hands or something like that to remind her to lighten up. Sometimes it takes a while especially with kids. It can be really intimidating to know you are not as skilled as your trainer but want to do good really bad. |
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| GLP - 2017-03-16 6:46 PM
Be with her when she rides and just calmly and quietly tell her hands or something like that to remind her to lighten up. Sometimes it takes a while especially with kids. It can be really intimidating to know you are not as skilled as your trainer but want to do good really bad.
I have tried countless times to ride with her at home. .. she gets mad at me when I try and tell her something! She thinks I'm picking on her and gets frustrated... I know she watches me, I've caught her mimicking my drills.... without her knowing I'm watching lol! She's too prideful to ask me for help. |
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Location: OH. IO | I've been the mom...It doesn't work.pay the trainer to specifically give her lessons.That way He is in charge and being paid to get his point across to her.one on one when he is not riding another horse. |
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| Lunge line time! Have him put her on the lesson horse and work with no reins for a while.
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| jake16 - 2017-03-16 6:56 PM
I've been the mom...It doesn't work.pay the trainer to specifically give her lessons.That way He is in charge and being paid to get his point across to her.one on one when he is not riding another horse.
I totally agree with you on that... the thought crossed my mind today that her colt might be too much for her to make the commitment to. Her riding and her time out at the barn can be sporadic . |
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Location: OH. IO | want2chase3 - 2017-03-16 8:09 PM
jake16 - 2017-03-16 6:56 PM
I've been the mom...It doesn't work.pay the trainer to specifically give her lessons.That way He is in charge and being paid to get his point across to her.one on one when he is not riding another horse.
I totally agree with you on that... the thought crossed my mind today that her colt might be too much for her to make the commitment to. Her riding and her time out at the barn can be sporadic .
I'll probably get a slam (not from you) but she's 12 correct? You are the mom,this is a young colt that is going to need CONSISTANT CARE AND RIDING.If she doesn't want to commit to that,you will have to come to terms with a different possibility.You are paying the trainer and paying to care for the horses needs.She needs responsibility and that's that;) you've got the upper hand so take it and hammer down! :) |
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| jake16 - 2017-03-16 7:37 PM
want2chase3 - 2017-03-16 8:09 PM
jake16 - 2017-03-16 6:56 PM
I've been the mom...It doesn't work.pay the trainer to specifically give her lessons.That way He is in charge and being paid to get his point across to her.one on one when he is not riding another horse.
I totally agree with you on that... the thought crossed my mind today that her colt might be too much for her to make the commitment to. Her riding and her time out at the barn can be sporadic .
I'll probably get a slam (not from you ) but she's 12 correct? You are the mom,this is a young colt that is going to need CONSISTANT CARE AND RIDING.If she doesn't want to commit to that,you will have to come to terms with a different possibility.You are paying the trainer and paying to care for the horses needs.She needs responsibility and that's that; ) you've got the upper hand so take it and hammer down! : )
No slam from me on this! I agree! I got on her butt today when she was riding the old guy and yanking away when he wasn't doing exactly what she wanted ... made her pout and walk away and hand the reins over to her older step sister. I followed her inside and she did chores ... putting clothes away and I made her vacuum the living room. That's when she opened up to me and said she was disappointed in herself as her riding lesson today. |
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Location: Arkansas | want2chase3 - 2017-03-16 8:16 PM
jake16 - 2017-03-16 7:37 PM
want2chase3 - 2017-03-16 8:09 PM
jake16 - 2017-03-16 6:56 PM
I've been the mom...It doesn't work.pay the trainer to specifically give her lessons.That way He is in charge and being paid to get his point across to her.one on one when he is not riding another horse.
I totally agree with you on that... the thought crossed my mind today that her colt might be too much for her to make the commitment to. Her riding and her time out at the barn can be sporadic .
I'll probably get a slam (not from you ) but she's 12 correct? You are the mom,this is a young colt that is going to need CONSISTANT CARE AND RIDING.If she doesn't want to commit to that,you will have to come to terms with a different possibility.You are paying the trainer and paying to care for the horses needs.She needs responsibility and that's that; ) you've got the upper hand so take it and hammer down! : )
No slam from me on this! I agree! I got on her butt today when she was riding the old guy and yanking away when he wasn't doing exactly what she wanted ... made her pout and walk away and hand the reins over to her older step sister. I followed her inside and she did chores ... putting clothes away and I made her vacuum the living room. That's when she opened up to me and said she was disappointed in herself as her riding lesson today.
I think it's at least a good sign that she talked to you and realizes she can do better. Maybe after a little more time thinking about it she'll make a bigger commitment to try harder? |
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| Chandler's Mom - 2017-03-16 9:18 PM
want2chase3 - 2017-03-16 8:16 PM
jake16 - 2017-03-16 7:37 PM
want2chase3 - 2017-03-16 8:09 PM
jake16 - 2017-03-16 6:56 PM
I've been the mom...It doesn't work.pay the trainer to specifically give her lessons.That way He is in charge and being paid to get his point across to her.one on one when he is not riding another horse.
I totally agree with you on that... the thought crossed my mind today that her colt might be too much for her to make the commitment to. Her riding and her time out at the barn can be sporadic .
I'll probably get a slam (not from you ) but she's 12 correct? You are the mom,this is a young colt that is going to need CONSISTANT CARE AND RIDING.If she doesn't want to commit to that,you will have to come to terms with a different possibility.You are paying the trainer and paying to care for the horses needs.She needs responsibility and that's that; ) you've got the upper hand so take it and hammer down! : )
No slam from me on this! I agree! I got on her butt today when she was riding the old guy and yanking away when he wasn't doing exactly what she wanted ... made her pout and walk away and hand the reins over to her older step sister. I followed her inside and she did chores ... putting clothes away and I made her vacuum the living room. That's when she opened up to me and said she was disappointed in herself as her riding lesson today.
I think it's at least a good sign that she talked to you and realizes she can do better. Maybe after a little more time thinking about it she'll make a bigger commitment to try harder?
I've been thinking about this all night... I didn't want to sound like I have a total lack of faith in her ability with the horse, but I do lack faith in her commitment and drive. It's pretty obvious this horse is going to be a high caliber "performance horse" and not going to be one you can just hop on a few times a week and fart around on in the pasture. She does that with her other horse, the old guy, she will get a wild hair and go out and work him on the pattern for a day, then she will lose interest or get frustrated and won't ride for several days. Honestly, if she can't show me more commitment, I'd like to sell the colt and get something older, been there, already going type horse. It's not fair to the colt or her at this rate. |
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| One way to get softer hands is connect the reins to the bit with a light string that will break if pulled too hard. Only do this with a trust worthy horse and in a controlled area. One that's not going to take advantage and run off should the string break! This is just an arena exercise to work on lighter hands.
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Location: OH. IO | want2chase3 - 2017-03-17 7:25 AM Chandler's Mom - 2017-03-16 9:18 PM want2chase3 - 2017-03-16 8:16 PM jake16 - 2017-03-16 7:37 PM want2chase3 - 2017-03-16 8:09 PM jake16 - 2017-03-16 6:56 PMI've been the mom...It doesn't work.pay the trainer to specifically give her lessons.That way He is in charge and being paid to get his point across to her.one on one when he is not riding another horse. I totally agree with you on that... the thought crossed my mind today that her colt might be too much for her to make the commitment to. Her riding and her time out at the barn can be sporadic . I'll probably get a slam (not from you ) but she's 12 correct? You are the mom,this is a young colt that is going to need CONSISTANT CARE AND RIDING.If she doesn't want to commit to that,you will have to come to terms with a different possibility.You are paying the trainer and paying to care for the horses needs.She needs responsibility and that's that; ) you've got the upper hand so take it and hammer down! : ) No slam from me on this! I agree! I got on her butt today when she was riding the old guy and yanking away when he wasn't doing exactly what she wanted ... made her pout and walk away and hand the reins over to her older step sister. I followed her inside and she did chores ... putting clothes away and I made her vacuum the living room. That's when she opened up to me and said she was disappointed in herself as her riding lesson today. I think it's at least a good sign that she talked to you and realizes she can do better. Maybe after a little more time thinking about it she'll make a bigger commitment to try harder? I've been thinking about this all night... I didn't want to sound like I have a total lack of faith in her ability with the horse, but I do lack faith in her commitment and drive. It's pretty obvious this horse is going to be a high caliber "performance horse" and not going to be one you can just hop on a few times a week and fart around on in the pasture. She does that with her other horse, the old guy, she will get a wild hair and go out and work him on the pattern for a day, then she will lose interest or get frustrated and won't ride for several days. Honestly, if she can't show me more commitment, I'd like to sell the colt and get something older, been there, already going type horse. It's not fair to the colt or her at this rate.
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| Yes, I'm planning on sitting her down and having a talk... she's going again today and tomorrow to ride with him. He's doing these lessons out of the kindness of his heart and she helps out around the barn, feeding, watering, mucking stalls etc etc.. the horse is staying with him for another month and I'm hoping she can go over on the weekends and continue to work with him. I need to get the commitment from her though if we are going to continue |
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Location: OH. IO | want2chase3 - 2017-03-17 8:08 AM
Yes, I'm planning on sitting her down and having a talk... she's going again today and tomorrow to ride with him. He's doing these lessons out of the kindness of his heart and she helps out around the barn, feeding, watering, mucking stalls etc etc.. the horse is staying with him for another month and I'm hoping she can go over on the weekends and continue to work with him. I need to get the commitment from her though if we are going to continue
Good idea:)you are on top of it :) I would love to see a video of the colt if you get one:))) |
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