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Location: Bennett, CO | And this is what drives me crazy.... Hubby and I are having our first in 7 weeks.... We have been married almost 16 years, and Im 40.
My Mom and a friend are planning a Baby Shower for me, and Im really self Conscious about it!
Registering was something that we got forced to do, but it was REALLY good for us to go and think about all of the things I needed. When we first got registered, we only had a handful of things in the $25 or less range, but the consultant at Babies R Us told us to put anything we thought we might buy on the list, as we get a discount on those items 2 weeks prior to my due date... so we have a huge registry, so we can take advantage of it.
I sure hope none of those coming to the shower they are planning think we are being greedy. |
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Location: N Texas | gotothewhip - 2015-02-25 12:02 PM
And this is what drives me crazy.... Hubby and I are having our first in 7 weeks.... We have been married almost 16 years, and Im 40.
My Mom and a friend are planning a Baby Shower for me, and Im really self Conscious about it!Â
Registering was something that we got forced to do, but it was REALLY good for us to go and think about all of the things I needed. When we first got registered, we only had a handful of things in the $25 or less range, but the consultant at Babies R Us told us to put anything we thought we might buy on the list, as we get a discount on those items 2 weeks prior to my due date... so we have a huge registry, so we can take advantage of it.
I sure hope none of those coming to the shower they are planning think we are being greedy.
First of all, congrats on your baby!!!! Second of all, no it's not greedy to have a shower and register for big things for your first!!
When I got married, we put "big" items on our registry in case a few people wanted to go in together for one big gift instead of several small ones. We didn't get any "big" gifts, which was totally ok with us, we just registered for them "just in case".
So don't feel bad putting more expensive stuff on there!
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Location: ohio-in my own little world with pretty ponies :) | We are getting ready to throw a "sprinkle" for my SIL. This is her second baby and its a different sex. The idea is "sprinkle" the new baby with love. Not a real baby shower, just want people to bring diapers and a little something blue or boy. I feel like after that...too much. I have a "friend" I went to school with that is getting ready to have her 3rd boy...she purposely gives away things as they grow out of them bc she knows she will have a baby shower each time....talk about rude. |
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Location: PNW | Gunner11 - 2015-02-25 12:10 PM
gotothewhip - 2015-02-25 12:02 PM
And this is what drives me crazy.... Hubby and I are having our first in 7 weeks.... We have been married almost 16 years, and Im 40.
My Mom and a friend are planning a Baby Shower for me, and Im really self Conscious about it!Â
Registering was something that we got forced to do, but it was REALLY good for us to go and think about all of the things I needed. When we first got registered, we only had a handful of things in the $25 or less range, but the consultant at Babies R Us told us to put anything we thought we might buy on the list, as we get a discount on those items 2 weeks prior to my due date... so we have a huge registry, so we can take advantage of it.
I sure hope none of those coming to the shower they are planning think we are being greedy.
First of all, congrats on your baby!!!! Second of all, no it's not greedy to have a shower and register for big things for your first!!
When I got married, we put "big" items on our registry in case a few people wanted to go in together for one big gift instead of several small ones. We didn't get any "big" gifts, which was totally ok with us, we just registered for them "just in case".
So don't feel bad putting more expensive stuff on there!
Congratulations on your baby!!!!!!
Gift registries are awesome because most places give you "completion coupons" to finish buying stuff that hadn't been purchased. Usually they are like 10-15%.
For our second son, we had to buy some big stuff like another carseat (first son is only 18 months older), another high chair, playpen (first got ruined by a bummer lamb) - so we actually created a registry, registered for the stuff we needed to buy for the second little guy, and then bought it all using the completion coupon that you get like a month before your due date. We didn't have a shower for the second little guy, but we sure took advantage of the savings that come from the registry.
It is definitely not greedy to have a registry, people need to know what you like. Even if I don't buy from the registry I still like to look at what people have picked out so that I can get a sense of what they like as far as patterns, colors, etc.
Congrats again!!! |
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| My suggestion is to go and give her a copy of Emily Post's Book of Etiquette. It is in very poor taste for a person to give themselves a baby shower. I have one that I use all the time. It comes in handy when you have to contact people as to why you did not get a thank you note. I have to be involved in social events on occasion and use it as a reference. When in doubt, whip it out!! |
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Location: So. California | I'd send a nice congratulations card and be done with it. |
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Location: In my own world | sodapop - 2015-02-25 7:20 AM
Griz - 2015-02-25 5:32 AM
I think after the first kid, they are being greedy unless the second is a different sex, then maybe I can see it. I'm kind of the same way with birthday parties, I can see one for the first, maybe 5th and 10th but EVERY year?? - Or is that just me being rude?
 I've never understood celebrating in such a big way for the first birthday of a child since the child has absolutely no idea what is happening or why, but people have gone all out crazy over the first birthday. I'm not saying don't have some kind of gathering, but the first birthday has become as spectacle for the adults. LOL
We have had parties for our kids every year. Now they are not over the top parties. Close family and maybe friends if they are particularly involved in our kids life. It's a BBQ and cake and ice cream. To me my children's birthdays are a celebration that I survived parenting for another year!!! It makes me feel good as a mom to make a not so great decorated but always tasty cake with lots of move from me. They may not remember but they do look at pictures and I still love the look on my daughters face when she says "you made my cake mom, it's pretty"
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Location: In my own world | As far as showers go, my mom had one for my second child. He was a boy when we already had a daughter. But they were 5 yrs apart. Which meant all new car seat as they expire. I did not have a high chair with my first because our house was too small. I did not register for as much as my first just replaced some things that needed replaced. Lots of it we just bought ourselves and family got is set in the clothes department
If you want to go buy something that she neess like diapers or wipes. But yes it is tacky to throw yourself one |
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Location: In the Hills of Texas | When I was young...The only way I would have ever made it to a shower is if they were having the shower at the rodeo or barrel race I was at. |
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| gotothewhip - 2015-02-25 12:02 PM And this is what drives me crazy.... Hubby and I are having our first in 7 weeks.... We have been married almost 16 years, and Im 40.
My Mom and a friend are planning a Baby Shower for me, and Im really self Conscious about it!
Registering was something that we got forced to do, but it was REALLY good for us to go and think about all of the things I needed. When we first got registered, we only had a handful of things in the $25 or less range, but the consultant at Babies R Us told us to put anything we thought we might buy on the list, as we get a discount on those items 2 weeks prior to my due date... so we have a huge registry, so we can take advantage of it.
I sure hope none of those coming to the shower they are planning think we are being greedy.
I didn't know stores gave discounts like that if you put it on your registry. I was one of those people who thought the people were asking guests to buy big ticket items. A few years back a big tv was on the list. I thought if these people think I'm going to buy them a tv they've got another thing coming. LOL Not too long ago I went to a baby shower that had a really expensive stroller. I thought I sure hope they get it, but it darn sure won't be from me.haha
It's nice to have this info. Now I know why those big ticket items are on a registry.
Congratulations on your baby! |
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| hoofs_in_motion - 2015-02-25 7:52 AM I never had a baby shower for my daughter....my coworkers threw one for me the day after I was born. And thank goodness for that because I had diapers for like a year hahaha.
I'm not big into baby showers, I don't like the games
Why do people have all the games at a shower? That's something I haven't understood. One game is fine, but let's say for example 3 is too many. LOL I am all about eating and oohing and awwing over he gifts. That takes a good while just to eat and open gift. |
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Location: PNW | I think they work as ice breakers if you have a large group who may not all know each other. |
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Location: Arkansas | mruggles - 2015-02-25 9:36 AM
id buy her a condom tree.......lol
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| svincent - 2015-02-25 8:29 PM
I think they work as ice breakers if you have a large group who may not all know each other.
Maybe so, but not everyone wants to get to know others. LOL
The games sometimes put people on the spot and make them uncomfortable especially in front of people they don't know. |
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