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Location: MD | Murphy - 2015-04-01 9:04 AM
I think if you have to ask.... it's too big of a difference.
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Location: Kansas | sodapop - 2015-03-31 8:13 PM
HarlanLivesOn - 2015-03-31 3:59 PM That's what I figured. I'm 26 and it seems like the only available (nice) guys out there are younger than me, or are mid 30s coming out of a divorce. Snag the good young one before someone else does and has a baby with him... then he is gone...........now as long as it is all legal. LOL
I'm thinking maybe I should just snag one young when they're still easily trainable!!! ;) lol I'm not sure if I could handle a 20 year olds maturity level though! |
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Location: Missouri | I am 13yrs older than my husband and we'll be married 6yrs. I'm really immature so it works, lol. |
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| My husband and I are 15 years apart (I am 39 and he turns 55 in a few days). We dated two years and just got married in December. Now.. This is his fourth marriage and my third. My first two husbands were just two and four years older than me and I never had an interest in anyone younger than me.
I absolutely adore my husband. He has given me more love and respect in the last tow years than I have ever had with anyone EVER. I don't think age matters if you truly are in love with one another. |
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Location: The best kept secret in TX | I dated a guy who was 34 when I was 19/20. We got along really great. Hardly fought. We eventually called it quits because he traveled so much. We still keep in touch and his current girlfriend and I are really good friends. She is also my age.
My current SO and I are 4 years apart. I hardly think about it. It's not that big of a deal honestly. The only time I think about it is when one of us has a birthday. He calls me a baby and I call him a cradle robber. 
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Location: Kansas | Tbred - 2015-04-01 9:02 AM
I am 13yrs older than my husband and we'll be married 6yrs. I'm really immature so it works, lol.
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Location: Missouri | HarlanLivesOn - 2015-04-02 7:52 AM Tbred - 2015-04-01 9:02 AM I am 13yrs older than my husband and we'll be married 6yrs. I'm really immature so it works, lol. How old were you both when you started dating?
45 & 32, so we already had some maturity on our side. |
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Location: Texas | My husband and I are 7 yrs apart and I am the cougar. Lol. He can be a real handful sometimes as he can e immature about things..... But he is not and never has been a party animal and like to drink or go to bars etc. I am 45 and he is 38 and we act like old married people and are in bed by 9 most nights. He truley is the hardest working man I know and I don't want for anything. The only downside is that he would have like to tried to have kids but have both agreed at my age it's not an option for us. We have our fur babies and that is enough. We have been together about 6 yrs and married for 2. I really think it is about the individual and not neccessarily age in most cases. We do get a good giggle at some generational things like music etc. but it works for us. |
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Location: MD | I have dated much older and much younger. Currently, there is an 11 years age difference. While I am older, he is probably the more mature. I tend to be very "in the moment" and don't always think, or plan for what is to come. While still very youthful and exuberant about many things, he is definitely the "planner". It also helps that he tends to be a very kind, thoughtful person, who was raised right and has not a selfish bone in his body. Anyone who knows me knows what a mess I can be and it's such a rare thing that I find someone who "centers" me that I can't be picky about how old they are! |
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| I had an ex that was 8 years older than me and was WAY immature, combined with that "eternal bachelor" attitude. My fiance and I are 5 years apart and he is amazing, supportive and the most caring man I know. IMO, it's less about age and more about having common goals, ideas, and maturity levels.
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | To me if you fit one another and have respect for each other then age should not matter. |
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Location: SE Louisiana | It depends on your age.... Let's say a 13 year old young man wants to drop down 8 years and date a 5 year old girl... As long as both are "of age" I don't see the problem...
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| My husband and I are 32 years difference. We have been together 12 years, married for 6 of them. We now have a lilttle boy together that just turned 1 year old on March 26th. I was married to a guy that was 6 years older than me. He was immature, an a**hole, and a compulsive sneaky Lier. I know thats a big difference but I don't notice at all because my husband can out work 5 men half his age. He loves me & I love him & we love our little boy more than anything in the entire universe. I have always been alot more mature than my age. My husband says I am an old soul in a young womans body. I tell him he's a young soul in an older mans body, lol!! I have never been more happier than when I am with him. We just work. So if you like the person, who cares what anybody else thinks, cause at the end of the day it's your happiness that matters most. And if your Happy & that person makes you feel good about yourself & builds you up.... Go for it. Follow your Heart!!
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | sjoyner - 2015-04-02 11:03 PM My husband and I are 32 years difference. We have been together 12 years, married for 6 of them. We now have a lilttle boy together that just turned 1 year old on March 26th. I was married to a guy that was 6 years older than me. He was immature, an a**hole, and a compulsive sneaky Lier. I know thats a big difference but I don't notice at all because me husband can out work 5 men half his age. He loves me & I love him & we love our little boy more than anything in the entire universe. I have always been alot more mature than my age. My husband says I am an old soul in a young womans body. I tell him he's a young soul in an older mans body, lol!! I have never been more happier than when I am with him. We just work.
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Lol!! I am. For so long I wasn't with my Ex. I know now what true love is. Forgot to mention also I don't have Daddy issues, lol!! I have a great dad & mom that love me very much, although they did think I was a lil crazy at first when I told them about my now husband & how much older he was than me. Now my dad & mom would probably dis-own me if I ever left him, lol. Mom says I will never ever find a better one than him. Wish I could get some pics to upload but keeps saying file is to large. |
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| Itsme - 2015-03-31 8:17 PM
Guys age ÷ 2 + 7=minimum age he can date...
Its science.
Ummmmm, the math works now but not when we were dating. I was 19 when I met him and he was 33. By this math I should have been 23 or 24. But then again I was born old! As much as he "talked" old, I was the elder one. From then til now I have been attracted to men in their 30's but these days it's plain creepy as I am old enough to be their...errrr, never mind!
To whomever said that they wanted common ground in terms of life experience and 7 or 8 years was too much, didn't apply in our case. Our parents were the same age and we were raise similarly, with similar values. I have sisters his age, older and younger, so I was vicariously experiencing his youth through them I guess. I always had more in common with him than folks my own age.
I think values, goals and wanting the same thing from life are much more important than age.
And like someone said, there is a difference in between a boy and a man and it is not necessarily age related.......but then again, they are ALL boys sometimes.....sigh.
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Location: Down the Gravel Road near the Missouri River, SD | OhMax - 2015-04-01 7:24 PM Itsme - 2015-03-31 8:17 PM Guys age ÷ 2 + 7=minimum age he can date... Its science. Not going to lie I started madly punching numbers on my calculator and I don't know that I disagree with that statement...seems to be reasonably legit
LOL! I did this and thats exactly what my husbands age and my age was when we dated. My son is now 28 and he's still single- I should show him this..hehe |
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Location: Opelousas, LA | classicpotatochip - 2015-03-31 4:40 PM Just hang in there. I'm not ever going to lie to you and blow smoke and say you'll meet "the one". Maybe you won't. But I'm betting that eventually you're going to bump into one that you don't have to chase down, that opens doors, that is nice to you, that you really like, that doesn't let you down, and that makes you commit despite yourself. The ones that show up with all their baggage shining for the world to see, that admit to being a human and making ridiculous mistakes. Go with the guy that admits to, and owns his mess. I promise you probably will be spooked, because it's real. If you're not terrified the whole time, you're a) probably not mature enough for a relationship anyway, or b) not really in it with the real deal. The real deal is somebody that really really is firing on all 12 for you, and you just can't seem to figure out how to send him packing, because he won't go, and he's doing everything right. I think women get caught in this trap of figuring out how to make them stay. Why don't you figure out how to get rid of them? You hold that door open wide enough into "get lost loser" space, the good ones are going to be holding on for dear life and be the last ones standing. I really don't care how old my guy is, I would have kept a younger guy if he'd gone out of his way to be a man like my husband does at 10 years older than me. Boys are a blast, and they can be a boy their whole life. Learn to decipher what a man is, and date those. A guy can be a man when he's 20, it all just depends on who he really is.
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Location: /ARKANSAS | My relationship worked well, I married my highschool sweetheart, stayed Married had a baby, I graduated from college and he had several affairs, divorce after 6 years. Had a short fling with a doctor I idolized, one of those relationships that you are friends forever. he died from a pulmonary embolus. Then a divorced man, older than me by twenty years and 6 days, I never meant for it to turn into a thing. But I really liked him, he gave me stability that I needed, like a rock, I adored him. 18 years with him, he was killed in an accident in 2002. I know apart of me died with him. It is sad, I wish I could find another relationship, but being single is so much easier.. I have not dated in 3 years. Some guys were threatened by the age, told jokes, and loud whispers (looks like he robbed the cradle) we just ignored them, he flew an airplane and I rode horses, I lived in the country and he had a condo. Sure we planned on marriage 3 times but were so frightened of the implied chains that came with it, I still get nauseous thinking about it. We played tennis, skied together, and I did neither one of those before my relationship. Go for it but make sure he is a good person, you can get caught in the older man maturity trap lol |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | My goodness this thread is almost 8 years old, crazy how these old threads are getting bumped up..  |
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