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| Good morning ladies! ( and the few gentlemen brave enough to infiltrate our numbers =P )
It's been a while since I've posted. Work has me bouncing around shifts like no other! I was baptized earlier this summer. And let me tell you, working in a factory as a female Christian.. THE STRUGGLE IS REAL! I have however, found some pretty interesting people to talk about God with at work that agree with my beliefs. Which is pretty awesome! We compare versus, ideals and talk about the stuff that is really hard for us individually. After finding these people, I thought " WOW having like minded people supporting you in the work place makes this so much easier" So if you're like me, and trying hard to be closer to God, I recommend reaching out and finding those few souls on the same path as you. They always brighten my day. =) It's truly a tough world to be a Christian, ya know? Technically it's against company rules for me to even talk about it with people I work with, isn't that crazy?!
Anywho, there are some things I work through occasionally outside work and church. With no one at those particular times to talk to about it, they can weigh on me. ( especially if I come across a particularly hard verse in the Good Book )Soooo Thats where you've come in. Ya'll always given me super amazing support in everything. I figured we could turn to each other and help each other when we can!
Here's my struggle this week. CURSING... done it all my life. Country as boots in a cowboy lodge. It's even harder because I hear it all day at work. I'm trying to replace them with goofy words like "tacos, crackers" ect..
Anyone battle with this? It's small... but it can really change the way people see you and you see yourself when you use a vocabularly not made of expletives. |
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| I do struggle with this at times. I work for a natural gas company, so being in the "oil field" does not help. I dont use profanity to the extreme, but I def think I can do better. Ill pray about it! Thanks for posting! |
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| Yes I have struggled with this in the past. I had to learn to think before I opened my mouth and it didn't help that I had an Ex that would use all kinds of 4 letter words. I have always worked in an office environment (law office) and had to really learn how to control my temper and my language. Attorneys are not easy to work with. Now I work in an office run by Christians. Now more than any other time I really have to watch what I say. I am getting better but my only advice is to think before you say. Of course it doesn't help that who I am with now uses those 4 letter words also. I used to not say anything when he went off on something...now I do as I find it very offensive. He is doing better but he has a long ways to go. |
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Location: Gainesville, TX | Never cursed until I met my current husband. I do some now. Probably not the best. I'm much more conscious about it in certain environments like around kids. One piece of advice I've heard a lot of people say is to wear a rubberband on your wrist and when you curse to snap it. It makes you more conscious of it. |
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 Total Germophobe
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Location: Montana | Oh yes, I do curse...but for me I try hard (and mostly succeed) in not using the Lord's name in vain, and I mostly don't curse to the extreme...and usually not around mixed company. I have to be pretty mad or hurt to curse to extremes. I'm usually with people I know or by myself when I curse as well.
But I shouldn't curse, and my mom on occasion reminds me of that. I feel like it is a lesser sin than some, but that doesn't make it okay. All you can do is keep trying to not curse...eventually it will be overcome. Me, I don't even try unless I know I shouldn't. So, I'm probably not a very good teacher on this subject! But you are not alone. :) |
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Location: In The Snow, AZ | I am another that struggles with cursing. Four letter words can sometimes come out like water.... And it is something I need to work on. But I will not use the Lords name in vain and do not allow those around me to use that sort of language either.
Another one one I am curious about, is drinking. I know the Bible says we are not to be drunkards. Hubby and I drink a few nights out of the week. But never to the point of drunkenness. However, at times, I wonder what God thinks of that. It in no way affects our lives, jobs or relationships...
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Location: 100 miles from Nowhere, AR | What's wrong with cursing? They're just words used to express ourselves a little more colorfully. And maybe vent when something hurts, like when my mare stepped on my foot while I was on the phone with my mother who had me on speaker with my 8 year old nephew in the background. He learned some new language skills. Oopsy. |
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Location: Kentucky | Three 4 Luck - 2015-08-25 12:02 PM What's wrong with cursing? They're just words used to express ourselves a little more colorfully. And maybe vent when something hurts, like when my mare stepped on my foot while I was on the phone with my mother who had me on speaker with my 8 year old nephew in the background. He learned some new language skills. Oopsy.
There's nothing more expressive than profanity! |
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Location: East Texas | Our language becomes a habit, sometimes without us really even realizing that we have gotten into a bad one! The closer your walk with the Lord, the more sensitive you will become to the prompting of the Holy Spirit who now lives inside you. If you will allow, He will nudge you and you will get an uneasy feeling about doing or saying things that are not pleasing to Him. It isn't an overnight thing, but it does get easier the longer you walk with Him. If you try and depend on Him more and more each day, He will direct your path... and what comes out of your mouth, too!
Blessings to you!
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Miracle in the Making
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| what a wonderful post
i am in the same boat but i was told by a pastor that as we try harder to be more in faith with GOD the devil and demons target us.
to challange us
i wonder to myself is my faith so small that i use my lord name in vain is my trust so little that i fail..
but i agree its very hard struggle love this thread
i am a agent for bennett out of ga and its president ms marcie is not bashville about her belief bring in to work place
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Location: Fort Worth / Springtown | So happy for you - that you got saved and Baptized 
Yes, it is a tough world to be Christian! I work in a criminal defense law firm -- there are so many people that need prayers and forgiveness -- thinking about how Jesus would handle things really helps me. To use righteous words -- to speak "life" - not "death".
Often on Mondays, if I walk into the office and the attorney/s are already there, it is because they are meeting with a family of someone who got in BIG trouble over the weekend. After a few Mondays of this situation happening, and never hearing any more about whatever case it was, to my surprise, they weren't client meetings at all -- it was a Men's Bible study - how awesome is that?!
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| Three 4 Luck - 2015-08-25 11:02 AM What's wrong with cursing? They're just words used to express ourselves a little more colorfully. And maybe vent when something hurts, like when my mare stepped on my foot while I was on the phone with my mother who had me on speaker with my 8 year old nephew in the background. He learned some new language skills. Oopsy.
These are just a few verses that indicate what is wrong. Yes, OP, I struggle too in the oil field environment. It's hard.
In Ephesians 5:4 the Bible says, “Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking nor jesting, which are not convenient, but rather giving of thanks.” In II Timothy 2:16, we are told to shun profane and vain babblings; for they will increase into more ungodliness. In James 1:26, it says , “If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man’s religion is vain. "
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Location: North Dakota | I never have and never will take the Lord's name in vain, but I do have a tendency towards a potty mouth, mainly when I'm stressed. I'm very good at keeping a lid on it at work or with my family, but by myself it just flies out. I never thought too much about it. |
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Location: North Dakota | Murphy - 2015-08-25 11:08 AM Three 4 Luck - 2015-08-25 12:02 PM What's wrong with cursing? They're just words used to express ourselves a little more colorfully. And maybe vent when something hurts, like when my mare stepped on my foot while I was on the phone with my mother who had me on speaker with my 8 year old nephew in the background. He learned some new language skills. Oopsy. There's nothing more expressive than profanity!
We call them "sentence enhancers". |
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Location: Probably On the Road to the Next Barrel Race! | I grew up in a strong Christian environment, but profanity as a teenager was just a way of life. When I met my husband-to-be, he did not curse. At all. I had prayed for years for a Godly husband...I was so overjoyed to have found a man truly sold out to Christ. I wanted a walk as close as his was with the Lord. Suddenly, cursing didn't look nearly as attractive. We even talked about it, and i realized that while petty cursing is not all that bad (imho), it sure looked bad to other people when I said I was a Christian, yet didn't control my own mouth. So I decided to stop. It didn't take very long, because, yes, the Holy Spirit would convict me, and i would feel sad that I had disappointed Him. Then we had a child, and I certainly didn't want my child hearing that kind of talk. Yeah, when I get startled or a horse steps on me, I may say sh**! But the cursing days are over, and I feel better about being able to bridle my own tongue. I feel I mastered a bad habit! |
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Location: Somewhere between S@%&# stirrer and Saint | This how I did it. I had a very foul mouth, when I was away from my parents. I had decided I wanted to be a missionary for my church but I needed to repent of my bad habit of swearing.1. I realized I needed to stop swearing.2. I knew I needed the Lord to help me.3. In the scriptures it talks about "fasting". It is a process of going without food or drink. I chose a 24 hour time period. Fasting is a way for us to be humbled physically while relying on the Lord to strengthen us spiritually or while asking God for special blessings. In my case to stop swearing. However, fasting needs to be combined with much prayer and scripture study to be in tune with God to be receptive to the spirit.4. Pray to God that the spirit of the Holy Ghost with sustain you and protect you and communicate with God with what he wants. God gives us the spirit of the Holy Ghost to be receptive to truth, warn you of evil, and protect you with inspiration. Humble yourself. Thank God for all your blessing and his love and grace, Thank him for giving us the Lord to take away our sins when we repent. Thank him for the Savior to help Justify us to God that your sins my be reconciled with God. Then you start asking God for help to bless you from swearing. Ask him the the spirit of Christ will testify you of the truth to protect you from the evils of swearing. Ask God that the Holy Ghost will inspire your mind to interfere with the prom tings of bad space and that you will catch yourself before it happens.5. Continue daily studio the scriptures and praying multiple times throughout the day asking for protection. God will bless! Continue to endure. If you mess up keep trying. God will bless you and you will. God tells us in the NT that we must be perfect even as the Lord. (Not exact words). With God's help you can become a person that perfectly does not swear. |
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What Name?
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| Thanks everyone! I really apreciate the encouragments and the understanding. It's alittle thing, but it eats at me. I'm trying so hard to change the direction of my life. There are a ton of bad habits of mine I'm trying to break.
Seeing as this is mostly women on here I feel comfortable talking about certain things. I know I will get a lot of flack for this topic from certain people. But for the majority, I know a lot of woman my age in todays world struggle with this.--- Sex before marriage.
I have been married before, so I'm unfortunately a little odd about relationships. My standards may seem a bit unrealistic to some. I have been single for 3 years. But I wont pretend I've gone three years without some hanky. Cause lieing just isnt my thing, I however dont just sleep with people. I had dated these men, and had every intention of continueing our relationship, but for one reason or another it hit the fan. Now that I'm baptized. I KNOW this is going to be very hard for me if I ever find someone I truly like, to remain abstinent. Right now, when I'm not dating or interested it's easy. I could probably even date someone for 6 months and it wouldn't become an issue. But the long-haul the wait until marriage thing. I'm terrified it's gonna trip me up. -sigh Anyone struggle with THIS?
It's personal, so I'd apreciate it if the women who dont agree would just refrain from posting. I started this post to be supportive to other women while finding some myself. It helps to talk out things that bother us =) |
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Location: The edge of no where | txbredbr - 2015-08-25 12:49 PM So happy for you - that you got saved and Baptized
Yes, it is a tough world to be Christian! I work in a criminal defense law firm -- there are so many people that need prayers and forgiveness -- thinking about how Jesus would handle things really helps me. To use righteous words -- to speak "life" - not "death".
Often on Mondays, if I walk into the office and the attorney/s are already there, it is because they are meeting with a family of someone who got in BIG trouble over the weekend. After a few Mondays of this situation happening, and never hearing any more about whatever case it was, to my surprise, they weren't client meetings at all -- it was a Men's Bible study - how awesome is that?!
This is one of my favorites......we are controlled by the words of our mouth, so it's important to always 'speak life'! |
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Total Germophobe
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Location: Montana | americanpride08 - 2015-08-27 7:02 AM Thanks everyone! I really apreciate the encouragments and the understanding. It's alittle thing, but it eats at me. I'm trying so hard to change the direction of my life. There are a ton of bad habits of mine I'm trying to break.
Seeing as this is mostly women on here I feel comfortable talking about certain things. I know I will get a lot of flack for this topic from certain people. But for the majority, I know a lot of woman my age in todays world struggle with this.--- Sex before marriage.
I have been married before, so I'm unfortunately a little odd about relationships. My standards may seem a bit unrealistic to some. I have been single for 3 years. But I wont pretend I've gone three years without some hanky. Cause lieing just isnt my thing, I however dont just sleep with people. I had dated these men, and had every intention of continueing our relationship, but for one reason or another it hit the fan. Now that I'm baptized. I KNOW this is going to be very hard for me if I ever find someone I truly like, to remain abstinent. Right now, when I'm not dating or interested it's easy. I could probably even date someone for 6 months and it wouldn't become an issue. But the long-haul the wait until marriage thing. I'm terrified it's gonna trip me up. -sigh Anyone struggle with THIS?
It's personal, so I'd apreciate it if the women who dont agree would just refrain from posting. I started this post to be supportive to other women while finding some myself. It helps to talk out things that bother us =)
All righty, I'm answering this only because I have an opinion on everything...also because I *think* you and I are close to the same age. :)
I've not been in a relationship long enough yet to have to worry about that. If you want a Biblical stand point, it says to keep the marriage bed pure, to keep yourself from sexual immorality. I understand you've been married before, but should you choose to be re-married at some point, just keep that idea in mind. I am for no sex before marriage, I've been brought up that way.
Will it be easy? Probably not, but set yourself limits of what is acceptable and what is not, then make it a point to stay within those limits. Best of luck! |
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