barlracr429 - 2015-11-21 11:49 PM

 Nothing in life is guanteed.  You are never ready.  The problem with humans is they always think they will have time.  If you know you are going to have children with your husband, don't wait.  You will never regret it.
That is my advice.  My husband and I are parents to an angel baby.  She was a surprise pregnancy.  We were terrified and not ready at first, but more and more excited, then the world stopped when she was still born 3 weeks before her due date.  They have no idea why she was still born.  That was 15 months ago.  We've been trying to get pregnant again for a year now and we've found out that fertility is not always as simple as it seems. 
I have a friend that had a 36 week still born, then had a daughter who was a month premature and then had two miscarriages.  Another friend had a miscarriage and it took them 7 years to get pregnant again.  In the meantime, this couple had adopted.  Another couple we know lost 5 babies before adopting.  And I have a co-worker that him and his wife have been tring for about 7 years and haven't had one single prenancy.
I'm not telling you this for a pity party or to make you feel sad, but the reality is that 1 in 4 woman experience fertility issues and/or mis-carriage or stillbirth.  So my advice is to stop waiting. 

barlracr429 - 2015-11-21 10:49 PM  Nothing in life is guanteed.  You are never ready.  The problem with humans is they always think they will have time.  If you know you are going to have children with your husband, don't wait.  You will never regret it.

That is my advice.  My husband and I are parents to an angel baby.  She was a surprise pregnancy.  We were terrified and not ready at first, but more and more excited, then the world stopped when she was still born 3 weeks before her due date.  They have no idea why she was still born.  That was 15 months ago.  We've been trying to get pregnant again for a year now and we've found out that fertility is not always as simple as it seems. 

I have a friend that had a 36 week still born, then had a daughter who was a month premature and then had two miscarriages.  Another friend had a miscarriage and it took them 7 years to get pregnant again.  In the meantime, this couple had adopted.  Another couple we know lost 5 babies before adopting.  And I have a co-worker that him and his wife have been tring for about 7 years and haven't had one single prenancy.

I'm not telling you this for a pity party or to make you feel sad, but the reality is that 1 in 4 woman experience fertility issues and/or mis-carriage or stillbirth.  So my advice is to stop waiting. 

Peewee212 - 2015-11-20 9:32 AM

Thanks for all those giving advice. I realize Im not alone. :)
I have always wanted kids, and I know I want more than just one....two, three, four. I don't really want to plan, if it happens it happens, but if we're no longer doing anything to prevent it I want to be mentally prepared. If it takes months that's ok, I just want to be prepared it may only take one month.

My biggest fear is I feel like Im going to have to give up so much of me when it happens, Im not sure, this sounds selfish, but I work full time, my husband farms/ranches and when Im not at work Im usually messing with horses, checking cows, etc. When we work cows Im always there, nothing keeps me from not being there, and I don't have to worry about keeping and eye on the kids or having someone else watch them. Im not against the help, but I live a mile away from my inlaws and have a very poor/difficult relationship with my MIL, and its not on my end, I have tried everything and all the woman does is degrade me, disrespect me, and after talking about it to enough people (Im a part of a young women of faith group in our small town) I think its a jealousy thing, which I never thought this until it was suggested to me. You wouldn't believe the things that have been said to me. I have always been strong willed, and not afraid to stick up for myself, my family when someone else wants to disrespect me/us and I think this has put even more of a strain on our relationship (Im not afraid to call her out when shes wrong). I have a sister inlaw that has a 2 year old, our MIL has done the same thing to her but she lets it go, lets her take her son and go do things (she doesn't come around all that often) but I think Im going to have a really hard time with letting people who have treated me so poorly be a huge part of my childrens lives, yes I want them to know their grandparents, I don't want to keep that from them, but my father in law refused to come to our wedding because it was not in his preferred church. I have worked hard the last 5 years to forgive, I have a somewhat good relationship with him, but its not good enough that I want my kids to sleepover or spend all day with them. I have watched my MIL disrespect the mothers of all her grandchildren in front of them. My parents on the otherhand our amazing, complete opposite, respectful, positive people, who have treated my husband like a son and do the same with all my sister inlaws. I live 5 miles away from my parents. And would never have a problem with them spending so much time with my children.
My husband and I are in good place as far as our relationship, we are financially ok, and he's more than aware of my relationship with his parents, he knows they are wrong. But they our his parents, and he has no control over what they think or say, he just has to know he has to stick up for me and our kids.
The age I am now, and the things that we've been handed I feel Im strong enough to handle it, like I said just want to be all in and I really would like to fit in my favorite jeans again. :)

Again thanks for the input, didn't mean for this post to get so long.

mollibtexan - 2015-11-23 7:59 PM It's funny how the older you get the more you think kids are a big decision! I don't have kids and I don't regret it.

Barnmom - 2015-11-19 8:20 PM So very true, I am not a kid person but my boys are awesome.  I will be so sad when my little one doesn't want to cuddle in mommys bed anymore.