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rodeomom3 Reg. Dec 2007	Posted 2016-12-01 8:43 AM Subject: RE: Stay at home wife?
Shelter Dog Lover Posts: 10277	I definitely agree about getting an education then you have choices. Staying at home may not be for everybody just like working outside the home might not be for everybody.
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Southtxponygirl Reg. Nov 2006	Posted 2016-12-01 9:25 AM Subject: RE: Stay at home wife?
A Somebody to Everybody Posts: 41354 Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas	rodeomom3 - 2016-12-01 6:18 AM Chandler's Mom - 2016-11-30 11:30 PM rodeomom3 - 2016-11-30 6:54 PM ksjackofalltrades - 2016-11-30 6:49 PM Nevertooold - 2016-11-30 4:05 PM ksjackofalltrades - 2016-11-30 12:24 PM Having a job of your own gives you so many more options. I stayed at home and did all of that but I figured out that working was so much more rewarding. The pride in bringing home your own money is really a great thing. I totally agree. I was a stay at home mom for 5 years and I hated asking for money for anything and one day I asked for something and a remark was made about how I needed to get a job for all the crap I wanted. I had one within 3 days. It gave me self worth and I never looked back or yearned to be that stay at home wife/mother. When Momma's not happy....No body is happy..LOL ?It is just better all around. You never know how your relationship with your husband might go downhill. Having your own job and a way to make a living is good for everything. I had a friend thats husband didn't want her work. His main reason was he didn't want her to not be dependant on him. My husband really preaches that the women need to get their own job because he is a lawyer and sees so many women that have no way to support themselves and end up staying in a bad marriage because of they have no way of making a living. I am just the opposite, I loved being at home with my kids and was ok bring dependent on my husband. I am lucky to have one of the happiest strongest marriages I know and a hubby who says if it makes you happy buy it :). And where can we find one of those to put under the tree with a bow on his booty for Christmas?!!!! I definitively hit the husband jackpot. We met and married within 5 months and almost 30 years later still crazy about each other :). What a great feeling that is to meet and 5 months later get married. Same with my husband, we met hung out and dated and 5 months later we had a small country wedding in my Aunt and Uncle's front yard, raised two wonderful boys now have 4 wonderful grandchildren, we will be married 37 years this coming April..I did work once to help out a friend at a fruit packing shed during the Christmas season to get Gift fruit shipped out all over the country, it was a fun job.
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Wsuhn Reg. Jan 2015	Posted 2016-12-01 8:38 PM Subject: RE: Stay at home wife?
boon Posts: 3	I have been married to a rodeo cowboy for 16 years and have been a stay at home wife since we got married. Staying at home is definitely a full time job as well. Taking care of all the animals and trying to ride and train your own barrel horses AND take care of kids and home. HUGE kudos who have a "real" job and take care of everything at home! I recently needed to start adding financially to our family and going back to a 9-5 real job just wasn't what I wanted to do. This summer I was introduced to an amazing company who's products have helped my husbands arthritic pain and my energy and digestive issues. It's been a blessing for our health and our finances. There ARE opportunities out there that enable you to work from home!! :-)
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cavyrunsbarrels Reg. Dec 2010	Posted 2016-12-01 9:35 PM Subject: RE: Stay at home wife?
Red Bull Agressive Posts: 5981 Location: North Dakota	rodeochick123 - 2016-11-27 3:12 PM Are any of you stay at home wife's? My husband and I don't have kids yet but I quit my old job a few months ago and have been looking for a new position however my husband wants me to stay home and continue to cook and clean and do laundry and barrel race and take care of all the animals. Do any of you have experience doing this? Wow, no but I wish! We couldn't get by on one salary, at least at this point.
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Kry5ta1 Reg. Jul 2008	Posted 2016-12-01 10:06 PM Subject: RE: Stay at home wife?
Three in a Bikini Posts: 2035	Oi... I have a thought or two about this topic. Whatever you decide, be sure to consider the future. For example: What happens if your marriage disintegrates? Do you have a prenup? Do you have an education? Do you have skills that would be favorable in a hiring situation for whatever career you choose? Just think about it. I hope to one day be able to stay at home when we have children, but I have made very sure that I will be able to take care of myself whatever situation I wind up in.
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pinx05 Reg. Nov 2009	Posted 2016-12-02 12:04 AM Subject: RE: Stay at home wife?
Chicken Chick Posts: 3562 Location: Texas	My husband doesn't want me to go back to work so he doesn't have to pick up the slack and play Mr. Mom lol. When I do work, I work.. it is all or nothing with me lol. Everywhere I have worked I end up working a crazy amount of hours and it usually turns into 7 days a week. My husband's mon-fri 8-5 means he is at home first trying to get my son to do his homework, keeping the toddler contained, cooking, cleaning, laundry, school functions, dealing with my weird animals that make everything crazy if you don't do it exactly the way I do it lol. He prefers I stay home with the kids lol. The worst part for me is I get bored. Right now for extra money I am cleaning apartments for an apartment complex. It is super easy, after they do the make ready I go in and clean, depending on the size it might take 2 hours. The apartments I get aren't bad, some of them look like the tenant cleaned before they left. I am my own boss, I just need to get the apartment cleaned before the next tenant moves in. Sometimes I have a couple of days to fit it in, sometimes I know about it a couple of weeks in advance.
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dream_chaser Reg. Jun 2006	Posted 2016-12-02 12:03 PM Subject: RE: Stay at home wife?
Chasin my Dream Posts: 13651 Location: Alberta	I am and we don't have kids....I do have a homebased business and work 1 day a week at a cattle sale barn. We run cattle with my folks operation so allows me to help there as well. I'm not sure how I kept up with everything when I did work fulltime. Hubby is currently unemployed which wasn't planned but we still make it all work.
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Chandler's Mom Reg. Jan 2015	Posted 2016-12-02 11:55 PM Subject: RE: Stay at home wife?
My Heart Be Happy Posts: 9159 Location: Arkansas	rodeomom3 - 2016-12-01 6:18 AM Chandler's Mom - 2016-11-30 11:30 PM rodeomom3 - 2016-11-30 6:54 PM ksjackofalltrades - 2016-11-30 6:49 PM Nevertooold - 2016-11-30 4:05 PM ksjackofalltrades - 2016-11-30 12:24 PM Having a job of your own gives you so many more options. I stayed at home and did all of that but I figured out that working was so much more rewarding. The pride in bringing home your own money is really a great thing. I totally agree. I was a stay at home mom for 5 years and I hated asking for money for anything and one day I asked for something and a remark was made about how I needed to get a job for all the crap I wanted. I had one within 3 days. It gave me self worth and I never looked back or yearned to be that stay at home wife/mother. When Momma's not happy....No body is happy..LOL ?It is just better all around. You never know how your relationship with your husband might go downhill. Having your own job and a way to make a living is good for everything. I had a friend thats husband didn't want her work. His main reason was he didn't want her to not be dependant on him. My husband really preaches that the women need to get their own job because he is a lawyer and sees so many women that have no way to support themselves and end up staying in a bad marriage because of they have no way of making a living. I am just the opposite, I loved being at home with my kids and was ok bring dependent on my husband. I am lucky to have one of the happiest strongest marriages I know and a hubby who says if it makes you happy buy it :). And where can we find one of those to put under the tree with a bow on his booty for Christmas?!!!! I definitively hit the husband jackpot. We met and married within 5 months and almost 30 years later still crazy about each other :). Everytime I read about you and your husband it makes me smile to know there are those kind of marriages out there still.
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rodeomom3 Reg. Dec 2007	Posted 2016-12-03 7:21 AM Subject: RE: Stay at home wife?
Shelter Dog Lover Posts: 10277	Southtxponygirl - 2016-12-01 9:25 AM rodeomom3 - 2016-12-01 6:18 AM Chandler's Mom - 2016-11-30 11:30 PM rodeomom3 - 2016-11-30 6:54 PM ksjackofalltrades - 2016-11-30 6:49 PM Nevertooold - 2016-11-30 4:05 PM ksjackofalltrades - 2016-11-30 12:24 PM Having a job of your own gives you so many more options. I stayed at home and did all of that but I figured out that working was so much more rewarding. The pride in bringing home your own money is really a great thing. I totally agree. I was a stay at home mom for 5 years and I hated asking for money for anything and one day I asked for something and a remark was made about how I needed to get a job for all the crap I wanted. I had one within 3 days. It gave me self worth and I never looked back or yearned to be that stay at home wife/mother. When Momma's not happy....No body is happy..LOL ?It is just better all around. You never know how your relationship with your husband might go downhill. Having your own job and a way to make a living is good for everything. I had a friend thats husband didn't want her work. His main reason was he didn't want her to not be dependant on him. My husband really preaches that the women need to get their own job because he is a lawyer and sees so many women that have no way to support themselves and end up staying in a bad marriage because of they have no way of making a living. I am just the opposite, I loved being at home with my kids and was ok bring dependent on my husband. I am lucky to have one of the happiest strongest marriages I know and a hubby who says if it makes you happy buy it :). And where can we find one of those to put under the tree with a bow on his booty for Christmas?!!!! I definitively hit the husband jackpot. We met and married within 5 months and almost 30 years later still crazy about each other :). What a great feeling that is to meet and 5 months later get married. Same with my husband, we met hung out and dated and 5 months later we had a small country wedding in my Aunt and Uncle's front yard, raised two wonderful boys now have 4 wonderful grandchildren, we will be married 37 years this coming April..I did work once to help out a friend at a fruit packing shed during the Christmas season to get Gift fruit shipped out all over the country, it was a fun job. Yes it is, we have so much fun together. Our first grandchild is 20 months and like you, we are so enjoying thus next part of our life together.
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Nevertooold Reg. Oct 2003	Posted 2016-12-03 12:43 PM Subject: RE: Stay at home wife?
I Prefer to Live in Fantasy Land Posts: 64864 Location: In the Hills of Texas	For all of you that stay at home and have ranches, train horses etc....You have a job that allows you to stay at home instead of getting in a vehicle and driving to it. What you guys do is hard work and hats off to you. You are also taking take of kids, if any, and all the household chores. A stay at home wife is one that stays at home and takes care of the kids, if any, and takes care of all of the household chores.
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Chandler's Mom Reg. Jan 2015	Posted 2016-12-03 8:22 PM Subject: RE: Stay at home wife?
My Heart Be Happy Posts: 9159 Location: Arkansas	rodeomom3 - 2016-12-03 7:21 AM Southtxponygirl - 2016-12-01 9:25 AM rodeomom3 - 2016-12-01 6:18 AM Chandler's Mom - 2016-11-30 11:30 PM rodeomom3 - 2016-11-30 6:54 PM ksjackofalltrades - 2016-11-30 6:49 PM Nevertooold - 2016-11-30 4:05 PM ksjackofalltrades - 2016-11-30 12:24 PM Having a job of your own gives you so many more options. I stayed at home and did all of that but I figured out that working was so much more rewarding. The pride in bringing home your own money is really a great thing. I totally agree. I was a stay at home mom for 5 years and I hated asking for money for anything and one day I asked for something and a remark was made about how I needed to get a job for all the crap I wanted. I had one within 3 days. It gave me self worth and I never looked back or yearned to be that stay at home wife/mother. When Momma's not happy....No body is happy..LOL ?It is just better all around. You never know how your relationship with your husband might go downhill. Having your own job and a way to make a living is good for everything. I had a friend thats husband didn't want her work. His main reason was he didn't want her to not be dependant on him. My husband really preaches that the women need to get their own job because he is a lawyer and sees so many women that have no way to support themselves and end up staying in a bad marriage because of they have no way of making a living. I am just the opposite, I loved being at home with my kids and was ok bring dependent on my husband. I am lucky to have one of the happiest strongest marriages I know and a hubby who says if it makes you happy buy it :). And where can we find one of those to put under the tree with a bow on his booty for Christmas?!!!! I definitively hit the husband jackpot. We met and married within 5 months and almost 30 years later still crazy about each other :). What a great feeling that is to meet and 5 months later get married. Same with my husband, we met hung out and dated and 5 months later we had a small country wedding in my Aunt and Uncle's front yard, raised two wonderful boys now have 4 wonderful grandchildren, we will be married 37 years this coming April..I did work once to help out a friend at a fruit packing shed during the Christmas season to get Gift fruit shipped out all over the country, it was a fun job. Yes it is, we have so much fun together. Our first grandchild is 20 months and like you, we are so enjoying thus next part of our life together. My parents will have been married 52 years Feb 14, 2017. Both sets of grandparents were married til death separated them which was around 50 years for one and 55 for the other. So when Chris and I divorced I felt like such a failure, like I let not only Chandler down but my whole family. (Chan turned 9 14 days after Chris left.) And I worry about the repercussions to Chandler from what he saw during the last few (bad) years because Chris was mean and hateful when he drank. I worry I stayed too long and that will hurt Chandler in the future. . . I just have so much anxiety over if I did things right or not. So that's why I love your story; I want to be reassured that's still out there for my baby in the future.
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