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| RodeoCowgirl4u - 2017-09-19 4:41 PM I am so sorry for you. This is tough. Hopefully something comes through for you guys in the meantime. Are there any odd jobs he can do for extra cash in his "off" time? Hauling? Digging posts? McDonald's, even? No one said it would be noble, but it will be some money in the bank (or paying the bills ) and food on the table. Hugs and prayers for you. I've been in your situation before. I hope and pray that your situation turns out better than mine did. 
I think working at McDonalds WOULD be noble if it meant he kept his family afloat and kept his wife from struggling and stressing. There was a criticially aclaimed movie with Will Smith in it, he let his son suffer because he was following his "dream" career. Yes in the end it paid off, but I hated the movie. All the man had to do was get a job at say, McDonalds, and it would have kept his son from having to sleep in a subway station bathroom!!
Any work is noble, esspecially if done for a noble cause. The stigmas attached to certain jobs need to be erased so men like this can see the nobility in WORKING instead of being above certain pay grades. I have never understood why someone would rather be unemployed rather than work at a dept. store or a fast food restaurant. They may not pay that great, but it is something.
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Location: Smack Dab in the Middle | Little bit of news, and a great big thank you for letting me gripe, and for the encouragement.
Hubby has an interview tomorrow morning. I'm not sure on many details, but it's close to home and there are a couple of positions and shifts that he may be able to choose from.
I've been texting him every single time I get a call or bill. I've always taken care of most of them, so I just don't know that he realized how much I dealt with. His mom gifted us a little money, so I can catch up my son's school lunches, pay the electric bill almost on time, and place a paid ad for our trailer on HTW where it may get more attention than the free sites. | |
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| Meep.Meep - 2017-09-20 6:42 AM
RodeoCowgirl4u - 2017-09-19 4:41 PM I am so sorry for you. This is tough. Hopefully something comes through for you guys in the meantime. Are there any odd jobs he can do for extra cash in his "off" time? Hauling? Digging posts? McDonald's, even? No one said it would be noble, but it will be some money in the bank (or paying the bills ) and food on the table. Hugs and prayers for you. I've been in your situation before. I hope and pray that your situation turns out better than mine did.
I think working at McDonalds WOULD be noble if it meant he kept his family afloat and kept his wife from struffling and stressing. There was a criticially aclaimed movie with Will Smith in it, he let his son suffer because he was following his "dream" career. Yes in the end it paid off, but I hated the movie. All the man had to do was get a job at say, McDonalds, and it would have kept his son from having to sleep in a subway station bathroom!! Any work is noble, esspecially if done for a noble cause. The stigmas attached to certain jobs need to be erased so men like this can see the nobility in WORKING instead of being above certain pay grades. I have never understood why someone would rather be unemployed rather than work at a dept. store or a fast food restaurant. They may not pay that great, but it is something.
I agree with this 100000% and I know a few folks who think they are above working at gas stations, fast food, etc. They would rather collect unemployment and live off the government than do that kind of work. Its very very frustrating!! I also know a few barrel racers who have won some nice dough in the " 4D" because they didn't have the perfect run and said they were embarassed  When you go to pay a bill, grocery store or bank, the division is not printed on the cash!!! | |
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| I agree with these replies. As long as a job passes the three-part test - legal, ethical and moral - it's a job and will help pay the bills. | |
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Location: LA Lower Alabama | I can't offer much more than virtual hugs and prayers. That is one sticky situation just do your best to chug along. | |
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| I totally understand how you are feeling although for different reasons. I hate having to tell people I have no money to pay bills, trying to keep hay in front on the horses and unable to get any sold lately it is hard and takes its toll. Hope your husband can find some work soon. My husband got hurt in Jan at work and is still not released to work, then because he was hurt I had to do all the heavy lifting around the place and I tore a shoulder up so I was pretty useless for months. All you can do is just keep at it the best you can and be thankful you have a little help even if you don't like taking it. Prayers | |
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Location: Arkansas | FLITASTIC - 2017-09-20 8:50 AM
Meep.Meep - 2017-09-20 6:42 AM
RodeoCowgirl4u - 2017-09-19 4:41 PM I am so sorry for you. This is tough. Hopefully something comes through for you guys in the meantime. Are there any odd jobs he can do for extra cash in his "off" time? Hauling? Digging posts? McDonald's, even? No one said it would be noble, but it will be some money in the bank (or paying the bills ) and food on the table. Hugs and prayers for you. I've been in your situation before. I hope and pray that your situation turns out better than mine did.
I think working at McDonalds WOULD be noble if it meant he kept his family afloat and kept his wife from struffling and stressing. There was a criticially aclaimed movie with Will Smith in it, he let his son suffer because he was following his "dream" career. Yes in the end it paid off, but I hated the movie. All the man had to do was get a job at say, McDonalds, and it would have kept his son from having to sleep in a subway station bathroom!! Any work is noble, esspecially if done for a noble cause. The stigmas attached to certain jobs need to be erased so men like this can see the nobility in WORKING instead of being above certain pay grades. I have never understood why someone would rather be unemployed rather than work at a dept. store or a fast food restaurant. They may not pay that great, but it is something.
I agree with this 100000% and I know a few folks who think they are above working at gas stations, fast food, etc. They would rather collect unemployment and live off the government than do that kind of work. Its very very frustrating!! I also know a few barrel racers who have won some nice dough in the " 4D" because they didn't have the perfect run and said they were embarassed When you go to pay a bill, grocery store or bank, the division is not printed on the cash!!!
You and several others on here are touching on a subject that makes me hot. . . Don't dare think you're above McDonald's or local grocery store position and then expect me (WORKING taxpayers) to fund you while you stand on the street corner with a beer in your hand hanging out with your friends who ALSO think minimum wage jobs are below them 
I'm sorry, not normally tacky on here, but I think you have to help yourself before you turn to the next person and expect a handout (not hand up) from them. To the OP, many prayers for this interview to turn into an amazing opportunity for your husband and that things turn around quickly for y'all. Hugs | |
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Location: Smack Dab in the Middle | LIVE2RUN - 2017-09-22 3:39 PM
Any updates on how the interview went?
It went well as far as what he told me. I don't think he's heard back yet, and he was going to try to call today. I haven't had a chance to talk to him today, so I'll find out when we get home in a little bit.
Also noteworthy...he has had a good week or two at work, and his bosses are trying to help him, so there is positive there. He's not quitting his job, but may drop down to doing it on the side if he can get hired where he interviewed.
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Location: The best kept secret in TX | Glad to hear the update.
Just wanted to add that I've been here as well. What really woke him up was our electric getting shut off. He had expensive salt water aquariums and started coming at me mad because I couldn't keep up with bills and because his fish were going to die.
So I took a picture of my overdrawn account, my $3 I had to eat on, and every bill we had due that month, and a photo of my last two paychecks and told him to pick what bills needed to be paid because all of them couldn't be paid this month. Would we skip diapers, food, phones, electric, car payments, or daycare? I told him I flipped a coin between phones and electric and the phone bill won that month. I told him next month we could have electric.
Needless to say he had a job the next day and worked for cash until he got his good job he has now. That year was hard... He has never once complained about anything after that day.
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Location: Arkansas | RockinGR - 2017-09-22 3:52 PM
LIVE2RUN - 2017-09-22 3:39 PM
Any updates on how the interview went?
It went well as far as what he told me. I don't think he's heard back yet, and he was going to try to call today. I haven't had a chance to talk to him today, so I'll find out when we get home in a little bit.
Also noteworthy...he has had a good week or two at work, and his bosses are trying to help him, so there is positive there. He's not quitting his job, but may drop down to doing it on the side if he can get hired where he interviewed.
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Location: Oklahoma | Aww so sorry! This is off topic but on the McD and other food places you would be surprised what they get paid as managers and from what I understand not hard to be a manager. I worked at 2 different places that had to prove income and I was shocked what they got paid. and QT is pretty good on just reg. employee. Good luck praying that all will work out for you and whoever else is going thru such hard times! | |
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| IRunOnFaith - 2017-09-22 4:13 PM
Glad to hear the update.
Just wanted to add that I've been here as well. What really woke him up was our electric getting shut off. He had expensive salt water aquariums and started coming at me mad because I couldn't keep up with bills and because his fish were going to die.
So I took a picture of my overdrawn account, my $3 I had to eat on, and every bill we had due that month, and a photo of my last two paychecks and told him to pick what bills needed to be paid because all of them couldn't be paid this month. Would we skip diapers, food, phones, electric, car payments, or daycare? I told him I flipped a coin between phones and electric and the phone bill won that month. I told him next month we could have electric.
Needless to say he had a job the next day and worked for cash until he got his good job he has now. That year was hard... He has never once complained about anything after that day.
Isn't it amazing how clueless they can be??!!
To the OP - I'm sorry about your situation, I put up with it for 15 years, then finally got a divorce. The MORE I worked, the LESS he worked until I wondered what the heck I had him around for! I hope your situation turns out better. | |
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Location: The best kept secret in TX | Griz - 2017-09-25 6:02 AM IRunOnFaith - 2017-09-22 4:13 PM Glad to hear the update.
Just wanted to add that I've been here as well. What really woke him up was our electric getting shut off. He had expensive salt water aquariums and started coming at me mad because I couldn't keep up with bills and because his fish were going to die.
So I took a picture of my overdrawn account, my $3 I had to eat on, and every bill we had due that month, and a photo of my last two paychecks and told him to pick what bills needed to be paid because all of them couldn't be paid this month. Would we skip diapers, food, phones, electric, car payments, or daycare? I told him I flipped a coin between phones and electric and the phone bill won that month. I told him next month we could have electric.
Needless to say he had a job the next day and worked for cash until he got his good job he has now. That year was hard... He has never once complained about anything after that day. Isn't it amazing how clueless they can be??!! To the OP - I'm sorry about your situation, I put up with it for 15 years, then finally got a divorce. The MORE I worked, the LESS he worked until I wondered what the heck I had him around for! I hope your situation turns out better.
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| Your situation mirrors mine. My husband was a truck driver for 12 years, this March he got the opportunity to become a salesmans for the same company. His new position is commissioned based. We went from a healthy paycheck every week to literally nothing for 3-4 months. We got behind on bills, had to ask the parents for help, sold a few personal items. I gave my husband 6 months to get his new work lined out, I told him if this doesnt pan out then he needs to go back to truck driving. He agreed. He has been busting his butt to make this new job pay the bills and now we are caught back up on everything. He even took a few side jobs to keep the money flowing. I think your husband needs to accept failure with the new job and maybe get back into driving. The demand is there. If you are tapping into your retirement to keep things afloat, its time to ask him to change jobs. You shouldn't have to sacrifice your retirement because he is hard headed. I pray that things work out for you and that he will open his eyes. | |
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Location: South Georgia | This situation very much reminds me of my relationship with my ex-husband. He was very irresponsible and would always find some reason to not stick with a job. He never made great money, but we had enough to get by. Then, one day he just threw in the towel and told his employer that he wasn't coming back. He did not apply for any other jobs, despite telling me that he was doing so. He just sat there at home while I tried to struggle to keep us afloat. I sold all of my horses, trailer, some tack, I picked up a summer school position at school, and then the next year I picked up an after-school teaching position as well. I sold the truck and got a free car my parents no longer needed. I bumped out the mortgage a couple times. Then one day his solution was that he'd go to a truck driving school. It was going to cost about $3,000, but once he started driving, he'd be able to make good money. I was willing to put this $3k on MY credit card (he had horrible credit and could not get any credit cards or the like). Thank goodness the school ended up turning him away due to a technicality in relation to his driving record.
Long story short: he checked out on life and was perfectly fine watching me try to save us. One day I got home from work and walked in to the house and found a letter on the dining table, his keys, his phone, his insurance card, etc. He was gone. Of course I was devastated, but this was the best thing that ever happened to me.
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