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| I'll be the odd man out and say don't buy him. From what you've said, he's not your dream horse and it sounds like you want him back more for emotional reasons. You are going to be extremely busy even with your husband being deployed, even moreso once he is back. And as someone who is trying to pay off debt and get in a better financial place myself, I wouldn't be willing to put myself in a financial crunch now to get him plus putting future goals in a hard to reach place.
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Location: At the race track with Ah Dee Ohs | Nateracer - 2018-01-24 8:47 AM ronaldmill - 2018-01-24 1:26 AM i also want to use gelding so please share your experience about gelding. Thanks :-) Um...Troll??
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Location: the end of the rainbow | write down your pro & con list. Ask your husband to write down his own pro & con list without seeing yours. Then the 2 of you can sit down, go over each other's lists and come to a decision. Honestly it sounds to me like you don't really want to buy the horse but feel like you should because you love him. Talk to hubby and make sure it's actually something that you both want to do before you pull out the check book. | |
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Location: Arkansas | Bought yet????? | |
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Location: Idaho | I would like to thank you all for your insight and advice! We have not purchased him because even though I am emotionally invested in him and I want him back, I sat down with my husband and our finances aren't in the place to go spend a large chunk of a change on a horse. Not to mention how much it will cost to ship him, find a boarding facility, pay board, feed, and all that comes with it. Could we crunch it and risk it? Yes, but it's just not the smart thing to do..especially with the recent possibility of a government shut down! Also I don't want to risk having to sell him again, it would defeat the purpose of buying him back. Having a family is more on the priority list as well, as I am not getting any younger and I'm creeping up on my mid thirties with no children.
Perhaps in the future when I am more financially stable I will seek him out and bring him home. But unfortunately, it's just not going to happen right now. He is a good boy and I sure hope he finds his way to a new, good and permanent home. Thank you all again for your input, it really put things into perspective.
Edited by DashNDustem 2018-01-27 4:40 PM
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| DashNDustem - 2018-01-27 2:37 PM
I would like to thank you all for your insight and advice! We have not purchased him because even though I am emotionally invested in him and I want him back, I sat down with my husband and our finances aren't in the place to go spend a large chunk of a change on a horse. Not to mention how much it will cost to ship him, find a boarding facility, pay board, feed, and all that comes with it. Could we crunch it and risk it? Yes, but it's just not the smart thing to do..especially with the recent possibility of a government shut down! Also I don't want to risk having to sell him again, it would defeat the purpose of buying him back. Having a family is more on the priority list as well, as I am not getting any younger and I'm creeping up on my mid thirties with no children.
Perhaps in the future when I am more financially stable I will seek him out and bring him home. But unfortunately, it's just not going to happen right now. He is a good boy and I sure hope he finds his way to a new, good and permanent home. Thank you all again for your input, it really put things into perspective.
I want to commend you for sitting down and having that conversation with your husband, it takes a lot to put your emotional attachment to the side and think about what is best for you and your family in the long run. The perfect horse will come along with the timing is right for you and your family. | |
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